Breaking up with Organised Religion 

Weekly church, regular confession, fasting at lent, praying for forgiveness and generally trying to be a good person dominated my religious life from when I was old enough to understand it until organised religion and I broke up when I was 35. The break-up wasn’t long and drawn out; in fact it was short, fast and relatively painless for me.

If you had asked me when I was in the thick of my regular organised religious practices if I would let it go, I wouldn’t have believed you, as I have always known there was God and I was taught throughout my childhood that God equated to religion and church. 

GOD = RELIGION AND CHURCH

It just seemed normal to me that, if I understood there was a God, this automatically meant I needed to belong to a religion as it gave me a sense of a belonging to something where everyone was on the same page; and without attending church, I could not consider myself religious. Interestingly during this period, I often felt not good enough, seeking God’s forgiveness or praying to him to make life better. My sense of God and religion was always approached as something outside of myself that I needed to have in order to be considered a good person, and to confirm to others that I cared about people and life, so although I didn’t agree with every aspect of it, religion was something I felt I needed.

As it turned out, it was my care for people that was at the root of my sudden and unexpected break-up with religion as I’d known it to be. In the early nineties, the media was reporting on the religious clergy who had been involved with the church’s long history of paedophilia and how chosen and trusted religious leaders had covered it up. This shocked me to the core but at the same time, I was willing to be open to hearing what the head of my church had to say about it, hoping they would admit their error or show that the media was engaging in the usual sensationalism.

The final straw came while attending my usual weekly church service. I heard a sermon from my clergy, who was also a solicitor, stating the importance of people who may have experienced paedophilia, to not go to the police, but to keep it in the confines of the church for the church to manage. This was the very position that the media were reporting had resulted in such wide scale, epidemic abuse of children across generations and classes.

From that moment, I knew I could no longer be part of something that was willing to be so dishonest as to continue to hide the truth of the systematic abuse of children, fostered through a stance of silent neglect that left many, many lives broken. So after 35 years I left the church with no regret. It did take me some time to recover from all the teachings I had so blindly aligned to, so much so I used to say I was recovering from organised religion, but I am delighted to report I have recovered and I have actually found my true religion.

From my deep, inner knowing that there was God and from what I was reminded of via the Ageless Wisdom presented by Universal Medicine, I discovered that the love of God was already within me and all I needed to do to live my true religion was to:

  • Know this deep, inner knowing as truth
  • Choose to re-connect to this truth
  • Live in a way that confirmed it – by making self-loving choices
  • Share the love I now felt from within, with everyone I connected to – not by preaching or knocking on doors, but by being myself.

GOD = THE ALL

Living in this way – that is, re-connected to the love within me – has completely changed my life.  And like many break-ups that happen in life, my break-up with organised religion had the best silver lining in that it allowed me space to find True Religion, – The Way of The Livingness, – that mirrors how I feel inside, with no promises or dodgy aspects, but an invitation to unfold myself from within via ritual, rhythm and people, without a church, clergy or rule book in sight.

By Sharon Gavioli, Brisbane, Registered Nurse, Adult Educator, Counsellor, Age 56

Further Reading:
What hurts – Religion Itself, or the Bastardisation of Religion? 
What is true religion?
Organised Religion versus True Religion

502 thoughts on “Breaking up with Organised Religion 

  1. What a liberating feeling it must have been to have finally “discovered that the love of God was already within me”; I know that it was for me. In fact, it made so much sense of how I used to feel but couldn’t put into words. No big fancy church needed, no clergy serving to be the middle man between you and God and no need to listen to words that in the main serve to distract us from the truth. Breaking up with all this is definitely has the power to change the way you live.

  2. “like many break-ups that happen in life, my break-up with organised religion had the best silver lining in that it allowed me space to find True Religion, – The Way of The Livingness,” Reconnecting to religion with The Way of The Livingness is pure gold.

  3. We need not go anywhere to know God for His ever-presence is in us, in who we are, and the house of God is none other than our bodies, the greatest temple that is accessible to us every moment of every day through our every breath. And so, the way we live can be a living prayer that is guided by our Soulful light. This is true religion lived.

  4. Having the clergyman tell his congregation to keep paedophilia to themselves is an eye-opener indeed, but I wonder how many that day said to themselves this is so wrong and did nothing about it. This was clearly one of those moments when the eyes had been opened wide, and a choice was made.

  5. What an amazing sharing Sharon, it clearly demonstrates that the moment we are willing see something or anything for that matter as not being true we make a space for Truth to present.

  6. its quiet interesting to see that we have lost the meaning of true religion. And that it has been institutionalized has been more so our global acceptance of religion being not actually what it truly is. Interestingly we are now fighting our own creations with each other, whilst there should be now more clarity and honesty – looking in truth where we have come to and how, and being open and honest to admit that we all play our parts. And that we should come back to our brotherhood. No selective few. No one has been wrong – we just have not been honest about our own love, that simple it is.

  7. When we join or do anything from a need it is never going to be true for us as we are looking outside of ourselves to fill a gap ‘religion was always approached as something outside of myself that I needed to have in order to be considered a good person’. Driving home from work today it was said that the pope has said there is no longer a hell and that condemned souls will just disappear! Oh I have so much to say with regards to this!. How much longer will we give our power away to people who say what is true and not true. The truth is The Ageless Wisdom I know this with every cell of my being and may we all know the true truth soon even if we think its true or not at least it will be known.

    1. What you shared about the pope’s ridiculous comment about there no longer being a hell, but condemned souls disappearing is an example of how true evil works. It is obviously appealing and seemingly ‘progressive’ to say that hell doesn’t exist (because everyone knows it in their hearts anyways, but then what is offered as a replacement is usually much worse. It’s like a distraction while they then are providing an even worse ideal or belief that brings people in further away from their souls (that are actually eternal).

  8. It sounds like the break up with organised religion, which came very strongly from your knowing of a true way for a religion to conduct itself and what was not true, allowed you to gradually free yourself from all the false ideals you grew up with. When this fog lifted, you can return to a true relationship with God, one where we are all equal in essence to everything he is.

  9. No dodgy way is bringing us to the truth of things. It takes our willingness to see and feel beyond what was once believed, and break up with anything that does not belong to our heart. It only takes our honesty and will to make a change, a true one, that truly sets free. Not by any mind.

  10. I recognize your assumption: ‘I understood there was a God, this automatically meant I needed to belong to a religion’. God and religion are then always associated with a church, organized religion, dogma, rules book, and so much more outside of ourselves. The Way of The Livingness offers the uniting truth of religion.

  11. ” Living in this way – that is, re-connected to the love within me – has completely changed my life.”
    Yes this is so wonderful living the re-connection to what was/is already there , there is no church needed.

  12. Organised religion separates people, true religion unites, not only to ourselves but to each other as well.

  13. It is quite a problem for kids who naturally know God but are told that to have a relationship with God you have to swallow all that comes with organised religion. Perhaps we need to drop all we have created around God and religion and start with the fresh eyes of a child.

  14. ‘I heard a sermon from my clergy, who was also a solicitor, stating the importance of people who may have experienced paedophilia, to not go to the police, but to keep it in the confines of the church for the church to manage.’ For me this sums up how out of touch religion is as we know it.

  15. To me God was a simple fact as a child, however, I did come to a point in my life where I was looking to connect with God and momentarily turned to organized religion, but there I did not find the God I knew. It is only since coming across the Ageless Wisdom teachings that Serge Benhayon presents that I can again say that the God I knew as a child is the God I again know now.

  16. I had a conversation with an elderly gentleman today who lives in a Jewish only complex, and when I asked him about his Jewish faith he told me that he did not believe in religion because it separated everyone – he is not wrong, but he did surprise me. It just goes to show that we can have perceptions about people without knowing what’s in their heart.

  17. Finding True Religion, which brings a lived understanding of the meaning of so many words has been paramount in changing the lives of those who relate to the Truth that is felt by the body.

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