Living a Religious Life & The Way of The Livingness

As a child I was brought up in the Anglican religion. My mother was quite ‘religious’ – she prayed a lot and went to church whenever she could. We lived in the country and it was not easy for her to get to church. I was sent to an Anglican Girls Grammar School but the religion taught there was so ‘dead’: it was simply a set of rules of things one should not do, some moral values which were worth living by, but that was all.

Although I believed that Jesus had told his disciples to be loving there did not seem to be love anywhere, just fear that one would not be ‘good’ enough. Church services were something we had to attend and I cannot remember one ‘sermon’ inspiring me in any way. I do remember the gossip after the service, which was all about what ‘Mrs So-and-So’ was wearing, or some scandal or other; I could feel this was all very unloving.

I continued to attend church irregularly once I left school and also got married in one. In Montreal, Canada in 1955 there were no civil marriages and one could only be married in a church! I had my children baptised but left their confirmation up to them and did not send them to schools that taught religion. As you can see I did not have any bad experiences but I didn’t have any inspiring ones either.

I lived my life as best I could with integrity and truth, but there was always a feeling of lack there. I believed that I did not truly know what love was and how to be truly loving towards others; I looked for answers in many places along the way – the ‘New Age’ seemed to hold some interesting ones – but when explored further seemed as empty as religion had been.

It was not until I was in my sixties when I began to listen to Serge Benhayon and go to the presentations he gave through Universal Medicine that I began to realise there was another way to live one’s life. This was called The Way of The Livingness, and I realised it had the answers to so many of the questions I had been asking myself for many years. Here was a way to live that was truly loving, a way to learn to love oneself, to nurture oneself and from there to love and nurture others.

If religion is a way of life then my religion is The Way of The Livingness. This is not a set of rules one should live by or a list of things one should not do – it is a way of evolving back to where we came from. It is a way of living that is full of love – towards ourselves, our bodies and towards others. It is a way of returning to the love and joy we felt as children before we became overwhelmed by life.

This does require us to be absolutely honest with ourselves and at first this can be confronting. However, once we look at our perceived ‘faults’ or ‘failings’ we see them as being nothing other than our own creations from which we can choose to rid ourselves very easily, or not… it is always our choice. Our lives are made up of our choices along the way as are the lives of others, and thus we can never judge or feel different from another as we are all travelling along the same road, making our choices every day.

I simply choose to have joy and love as my way of being which for me is now living a truly religious life, The Way of The Livingness.

By Rowena Parkes, Age 84

Further Reading:
The Outlier – Thanks to The Way of The Livingness
Organised Religion versus True Religion
Living Religion: A Relationship With Self-love, And God

359 thoughts on “Living a Religious Life & The Way of The Livingness

  1. Thank you Rowena, a gorgeous and simple message of what religion is and what the false interperations and basterdisations we have introduced instead. Great to hear people step it up and stand for what is religion – so nessesarily.

  2. There is a whole infrastructure of social institutions that prepares us to cruise in life which guarantees will will keep rowing, not falling into the water but going nowhere.

  3. “However, once we look at our perceived ‘faults’ or ‘failings’ we see them as being nothing other than our own creations from which we can choose to rid ourselves very easily, or not…” – So true Rowena, and when it comes right down to it, all those issues and ‘faults’ that we may have are but a super thin layer that is hiding the immensity of love, wisdom, joy, harmony, and stillness that resides inside of us, in the same way that the crust of the Earth is but a thin layer over its mantle and core.

  4. ‘Our lives are made up of our choices along the way as are the lives of others, and thus we can never judge or feel different from another as we are all travelling along the same road, making our choices every day.’
    To me an absolute confirmation of the love God holds us in: he never tells us what to do, never judges us, but always welcomes us back when we choose so.

  5. How is it that that childhood experience of religion can so often be described as ‘dead’? That was equally my experience and then once I was a teenager I realised I would have to start my own journey to find something that felt alive, current, lived. That is what you get with the Way of the Livingness…

  6. When we live from the simplicity of life, and feel the natural joy and harmony from within, we are in ‘The Way of The Livingness’ a religion that simply allows us to return to our natural way of being, where humanity is equal no matter what race colour or creed we come from.

  7. There is not one rule in true religion, nothing we should do or have to do; The Way of The Livingness is connection to our inner heart and living from that loving place in every aspect of our lives, this we can choose in any moment.

  8. ‘ It is a way of living that is full of love – towards ourselves, our bodies and towards others.’ Why on earth do we choose another way to live? The mind boggles when we really feel into the choices we make to make our lives miserable through the judgment, the comparison, the completion etc we have with people. None of that has any purpose, We’re all here together to work together, and it is absolutely possible to do it another way.

  9. Choosing to have Joy and Love as your way of being makes for some very good sense to me! And the crazy part is, it’s available to every single one of us. Why on earth would we choose differently – once we’ve cottoned on to this way of life of course??!!

  10. I think it’s great how you say that as a child you just knew/ could feel that gossiping was unloving – it reminds me how we innately do know what love is (to be able to say what it is not) and so it’s something we know from inside of us and can re-connect back with rather than it being abstract or something we need to attain from outside of us.

  11. “If religion is a way of life then my religion is The Way of The Livingness. This is not a set of rules one should live by or a list of things one should not do – it is a way of evolving back to where we came from.” Beautiful. Connecting with my innermost and moving with love from there – a true religion – reconnecting back to who I truly am.

  12. I am really appreciating, thanks to Serge Benhayon and his presentations and through our own everyday way of living, we have come to understand and are now expressing what being religious truly means instead of going to churches and being ‘good’. This is so powerful. We are coming home.

  13. Our lives are the result of the choices we make every day, and our choices play out what we are aligning to. So, bringing honesty to what we are choosing and why is how we bring awareness to what we are aligning to. As you have beautifully shared Rowena, The Way of The Livingness offers a way of living that is simply a return to living in connection to our Soul, to the love we already innately are and the oneness we are all a part of, through our every day.

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