by Zofia Sharman, London, UK
Upon seeing and first listening to Universal Medicine in 2006 deliver a presentation about the heart through their Heart Chakra 1 workshop, I have at that time unknowingly been introduced to real love.
Always interested to learn about people, the world around us, the universe and its laws etc, I had over the years attended many one day workshops/presentations/healing courses and none of them presented the topic of love as the base-point for everything happening today like Universal Medicine did (and does); and that love’s absence creates imbalance and inequality such as excess, greed, great wealth alongside poverty, famine and war. But what Serge Benhayon presents is a real meaning or true definition of ‘love’ or, real love – which has been forgotten and substituted for an ideal type of love based on emotion that becomes the love we know (which applied to me). I approached love as an ideal, as if I had to ‘go out, do, look for and find, get, or earn it’. This, my definition of love, was formed from childhood like most through family and friends, education and society shaping it into adulthood. So it is easy to see that when the definition of love is up for question or consideration as Universal Medicine presents, that some feel especially challenged (as I was) by discovering that the type of love regarded/treasured/accepted by us has been in fact something that is not of real love, but rather is a love that is run or based upon an emotional need, drive or drama.
My own version of love was like this, a bartering system: spending time always giving, always doing for others in the hope of what might be received in return. The whole process would cause a depletion of my energy creating stress and a way of living that was always in reaction or expectation which was unhealthy and unbalanced. Such disharmony makes no sense to a body that naturally is meant to run in rhythm or balance, and so it makes sense that this unbalanced way can neither be of real love, nor that the way is truly a loving way to be or operate with self or others.
What I have now learnt and what attendees receive with Universal Medicine is – a chance to learn the art of the love of self, Self-Love. Everyone who attends the courses (including surgeons, doctors, lawyers, dentists, corporate bankers, business people, builders, cleaners, housewives, college students and the unemployed), are all independently and in their own time learning to love which includes looking at choices in regards consumption of one’s intake of food, drink, sleep, activities that either work or do not work for the body – such as alcohol, drugs, coffee or anything really that makes the body go out of and away from its natural harmonious rhythm. Through being responsible and having an awareness of what is going into the body leading to a behaviour, attitude or way of being that also directly impacts upon another, raises the importance of taking personal responsibility to manage oneself and this in relation to all others. This spherical way of living (and working) is central to the teachings of Universal Medicine.
As the courses have progressed and over the past six years, what is absolutely clear is that Serge Benhayon is someone who has a deep love for humanity – because he has that same deep love for himself which he lives every day and is full of joy, and moreover that all the courses, materials, audios and workshops inspire a way to live that is natural, simple and balanced.
Today I live and continue to work as I did before Universal Medicine – in the fast-paced world of Sales and Recruitment, but this time my approach to work and life has considerably changed following the choice to love truly, and no longer do I have severe debilitating neck pain, feel stressed, anxious, pressured (and irritated) towards ticking ‘life’s boxes’ personally and professionally, but instead I enjoy waking up feeling well rested, clear headed, going to work every day feeling balanced and nourished and have great and meaningful relationships with people. And in having such regard of myself in how I make choices, I have a (continuing) great relationship with myself and also with others – and that is amazing to feel and experience and so to treasure.
129 thoughts on “An Introduction to Real Love”
Learning and choosing to love ourselves is an important foundation to build.
Through Universal Medicine I have reconnected to the depth of love that is vibrating through my body from God and with love in every cell of my body I am love.
I now understand what real love is since attending Universal Medicine workshops too. Real love, is the love for everyone and everything, no matter how they are. Real love is saying that something is unacceptable, real love is saying, I am here for you, but you are also responsible for what is going on too.
If you are busy loving everyone around you, then its a no wonder we have exhaustion and burnout. Real love starts with us first and foremost, before it can be reflected to others.
Just this morning, I was thinking to myself – how much of “I am love” I am actually accepting, truly embodying – not as a version of ideal, but as a living truth, my absolute normal, and how that is about undoing and re-turning.
Real love is not the love we have been sold and told to be, it’s even not what we may have imagined or wanted, but a constant honouring of our inner qualities in our expression and encounters. It naturally expands when we confirm ourselves in it.
Thank heavens literally for Serge Benhayon who constantly reminds us all what true love is. We have as a human race been bludgeoned to near death to accept something that is not real love. We call it emotional love which is the total opposite to true love. So that when someone comes along and provides the true meaning of love, of course it’s going to be challenged as we have been saturated in emotional love that comes with a neediness that drives us to seek outside of ourselves, this is all we know for some it’s too much to know that they have been lied to on such a grand scale that they react hence the reaction to the truth exposing the lies.
True love and emotional love are complete opposites, worlds apart.
Only someone who lives true love and therefore knows it can ignite others to also reconnect to the one love that we all come from and long to return to; it is one flame igniting another flame until we all are the one flame.
A beautiful analogy of true love, ‘it is one flame igniting another flame until we all are the one flame.’
We have sold out to a loveless way of living where we have separated from the love we come from. Now we struggle to get back to that love we miss more than anything else and our bodies and psyche need to make space and open up to being imbued with love again, to soak it in and release the loveless contraction we got used to and identified ourselves by to a point where we feel we are not worth any more to receive, embrace and be that love again. Hence no love without self-love first; self-love is the tin opener so to speak.
The vast majority of the one-day workshops are run by people who try to sell the idea that they are different but this fact is not true as their movements reveal. Theirs and yours are not that different. That is why, they do not do seed anything.
When we put conditions on love or use it as a bartering system there is no truth or depth to it hence it is just an empty word.
It should be of interest of scientists to explore this, that there is a fuel the body is optimized for and that is love and stillness and without this the body will have to work harder to function. This is something I’m slowly learning myself, to let out the love that is within me and not trying to fight it.
Through the presentations and support of Universal Medicine and the living inspiration of Serge Benhayon I have discovered for myself the meaning of true love and that it is who I am within, and who we all are within. Also, I have realised just how empowering it is to develop a loving and honouring relationship with my body and how this is what guides me to move and live in connection to love more and more, for myself and with all others. With this life and relationships shared are now lived enriched with greater love, inspiration and purpose to be more love, with greater awareness of what is of love and what is not, what is true and what is not, all of which is felt and reflected though the body.
Discovering who we are within is the greatest gift of all, building a connection to our innermost is a path we all seek on one level or another. In a world where we are constantly bombarded with nudges to not be ourselves it is so inspiring to live in the presence of people like Serge Benhayon and The Way of The Livingness student body who are consciously making choices to change their disharmonious ways of life.
Reflecting on true love and having a clear experience of it (as you did in that workshop) is something very needed to discern and discard what is not. Thanks for your testimonial Zofia. It inspires and invites me to do the same in my life.