Words from the Male Minority

by Steve Matson, England

I shall briefly digress six years – a bit about myself and my life. I am in my third marriage and third set of children and work in a maintenance department in a prison. I had quit smoking about 5 years before this period (50 a day) and replaced it with eating and added a few pounds (sounds less than kilos) and got a bit fat. I also liked my drinking, that also helped me get fatter. During this period I never really got ill, I figured with all the toxins in my body even the bad stuff would not grow.

On caffeine from the time I got up till about six at night, I would then wind down the day as a couch potato, and at about 10pm I would have one or two or more night caps to sleep or pass out (I did like ice cold vodka). Sprinkle a little on-line roll playing gaming and that was my life. I thought I was doing alright for being in my early 50s. I was coasting in life just fine.

During the above period I had started looking for something else in life, not too hard of a look, but just bored and looking for something else.

I had gone through a few modalities on my search. Some were really out there and others were close to something but they just did not feel like the whole truth.

About five years ago a friend of mine told me about this new guy and that what he was presenting was amazing, to the point that my friend could not really tell what it was about. It took six months before the guy would be back in the UK before I could go and hear what he was offering.

My wife, her friend and myself signed up for a Universal Medicine workshop. The Saturday in June came and we went to a rented room at some college in London. We were hanging around the back of the room because we knew no one in the room, my friend had not yet arrived. While we were waiting for whatever this was to start, there was some guy setting up more chairs in the back row. The guy could have been the caretaker but he had a kind of non-imposing presence. The handyman was Serge Benhayon. At the end of that day I knew that I was home. I do not now remember what he presented, but knew it for the truth that it was. In a world of un-truths, the truth is like a snowflake in a coal pile.

I have not been ill or sick off work in the last five years. This is not from some kind of magic stuff, unless you call making choices that come from feeling your body, and not your head, magic. We all go through life doing and eating what we are told by others, things that they say are good for us. This would include, “what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger”, “men have to be hard”, and on and on.

In regards to me giving up anything on the list of stuff that I did or ate – this was not until I could feel what it was actually doing to my body. I was willing to try anything, but give up bread? What would I put my ham and cheese with lots of butter on? I slowly reduced the amount of sugar, gluten, caffeine, alcohol and dairy in my diet to see if I could feel the difference. I was either not trying, or so numb that it took a few years before I could feel the difference in my body. The real truth will always be there when you come back to your body. Nicotine by itself is a Class A Poison, you would not drink it… but it’s ok to smoke it? For anyone who has ever smoked or tried to smoke… on your first inhale… what did your body try to tell you?

If I were never to see or associate with anyone associated with Universal Medicine again, I would not change anything in my life I currently do, because everything has been my choice. I do continue to associate with Universal Medicine and to grow more in myself, allowing me to be amazing in a world that is not. Now, that is a choice!

All good stories have a bit of sex in them. I have had my share in this life, but the first time I made love was two years ago, this was a choice.

What kind of brotherhood would have doctors to dirt farmers (l like people who grow things) and everything in between? One that doesn’t care what you do, but only who you truly are – and that is just love.

I am still, and will always be the student, someone I know says that all the time.

151 thoughts on “Words from the Male Minority

  1. I attended my first presentation with Universal Medicine with a great deal of resistance but my body felt the truth and the truth is forever deepening.

  2. Its been seven years since I wrote the article and I have continued to evolve. I now look at the world as a whole, not as just one of 8 billion others I share the air with. What do the people in space station see when they look at the planet below, they see everything as a whole? When we fly on a plane, do we preferer an aisle seat that offers space and separation from others or the window seat?

  3. This is key, ‘unless you call making choices that come from feeling your body, and not your head, magic’. It isn’t magic and if you really spend time with your body and see and feel how you are, after eating and drinking something, that is living from the body.

    I’ve always fought my body and despite thinking I was healthy, I was often hit with an illnesses. The tell tale signs are always there, it’s a matter of whether you want to know or not. And what you do with that afterwards, is the question?

  4. Thanks Steve, it’s been great hearing from the male side about the practicalities of self care, making different choices, and self love, Life doesn’t have to feel bland and OK, it can actually feel pretty amazing, and we need male role models out there for boys and men showing a different way to be in life, one that we can truly thrive in.

  5. It’s very precious to read the example of Serge Benhayon setting up the chairs. This speaks about an infinite humbleness. It’s what I felt since the day 1 I met him and I was blessed by seeing the reflection of someone who doesn’t feel superior but equal to all.

    1. Serge Benhayon knows we are all truly equal, and he is the most amazing man I have ever met, with as you say Inma such a beautiful humbleness.

  6. What Serge Benhayon is presenting made so much sense to me the very first time I attended a presentation held by him. How and why I didn’t found such principles before in anywhere? Why the huge importance of making loving choices is not promoted in this society? Were some of the questions that came up to me at that moment. Love having Universal Medicine in my life for the new standards that we are stablishing, making normal having a loving and healthy relationship with our body. This leaves a new brand for all to see and feel that having way of living full of beauty and vitality is more than possible.

    1. The first time I attended a presentation by Serge Benhayon he made such sense to me, it felt like finally being presented with what was true.

  7. “In a world of un-truths, the truth is like a snowflake in a coal pile.” I love this Steve. So clear, simple and unmistakable, and this is what Serge Benhayon presents every time he speaks. The clear and simple truth that is accesible and understandable for all.

  8. I love also that if you never went to anything by Universal Medicine again, you would not go back to the way you lived. Me neither, the gift I have been given is to be able to listen to my body again, and that is the most trusted relationship I have in my life. It connects me to who I am, what I am made of and therefore the All we are all made of. Stunning.

  9. I just LOVE this expression “In a world of un-truths, the truth is like a snowflake in a coal pile.” and just had to re-write it here so I can leave it to be read again and again and again! The truth is not hard to find, it stands out, but how often do we actually go looking for it?

  10. I just love your honesty Steve, and in a world that people are putting up facades that everything is great when it is actually not it is really refreshing.

  11. What struck me is that we are students, we are such big time students in life, more than we want to realize. We think we are it as human species, but in fact we are energetic first, and this energetic beingness that we live in this human body is what we imprint the earth with. This presence, or the lack of presence of who we are, makes us have a deep enriched love-filled life, or the opposite. Only this is already a big learning back to truth.

  12. But why wouldn’t a person want to associate with a company which promotes true vitality – an organisation that supports you to look underneath the surface and heal the root of your woes? Whatever the reason for that person, that’s okay. But to me this organisation is pure gold and I have not found anything yet that could top this approach to life.

  13. There is a claiming of what you share in this blog that I want to thank you for. Everything has been your choice – I feel the same, I wouldn’t go back to how I used to live, I wouldn’t change what I know now, it is like the door back to who I am has been opened and it would be rude, wrong and, well illegal in my world, to try to shut that door again. I just would not do it. Thank you for the reminder for all of us that anything we do must always be in line with where we are at, forever deepening back to who we are, where we come from and what we are made of.

  14. This is a breath of fresh air this morning. “In a world of un-truths, the truth is like a snowflake in a coal pile.” I wonder if we move in a way that blocks us from seeing these untruths, the illusion we have fallen for, for so long that it is now our normal and the snowflake appears to be the illusion.

  15. ‘ In a world of un-truths, the truth is like a snowflake in a coal pile.’ How beautiful is this analogy and how true it is indeed.

    1. Truth is evident and crystal clear, and it’s seen when we want to see it. The free delicacy of its movements can’t ever be tainted… the strength of its presence can’t ever be denied.

  16. Thank you for sharing your experience Steve, I too can say that I have changed many of my choices through listening to the presentations by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, and every day I am thankful for having come across Serge because my life is so much fuller and meaningful, and there is still so much more to discover.

  17. “In a world of un-truths, the truth is like a snowflake in a coal pile.”
    I so understand this statement. The truth is so refreshing and it brings light to all those parts of life in which we have lived in the darkness.

  18. “If I were never to see or associate with anyone associated with Universal Medicine again, I would not change anything in my life I currently do, because everything has been my choice” – me too. Nobody is telling/asking me to live this way. “I do continue to associate with Universal Medicine and to grow more in myself, allowing me to be amazing in a world that is not” – yes, me too. I actually live very far from where they do presentations, but travelling many hours by plane to be there is a choice that I make, knowing how that supports me to commit to living the way that feels true to me.

  19. We sure do live in a world of un-truths, and if we live guided by the un-truths that surround us, we end up losing sense of who we truly are. What is so inspiring and empowering about what Serge Benhayon presents, and lives, is that the truth of who we are resides within, and when we connect to our body and being, we are guided to live in a way that represents the realness of who we are, with a far greater lightness of being.

  20. Excellent blog Steve. I absolutely loved your honesty and its clear to me from this blog the male minority have a lot of practical wisdom to share.

  21. I love the delightful simplicity, openness and honesty of this blog. Thank you Steve.
    I too recall the first day of attending a Universal Medicine event. After years of attending one workshop or another I expected someone to look like they are above and more important than everyone else to walk on stage. After a while of waiting in a very full room, I noticed a member of the crowd who a lot of people were saying hello to as he walked around and many people warmly hugged as if he was a close friend. And then this person stepped on stage and started talking. From that day to this day I have never been lectured to, but have always been treated as an equal.

  22. I just found this blog and had forgotten I had written this one. What a difference five years make! The life I have left behind is the total opposite of how I live today. Joy, harmony, self-care and love were words that were not in my vocabulary let alone living them! And, I have never in my life expressed anything, be it written or spoken! I was the poster child for the silent majority. Serge Benhayon has shown me and many others over the years the door we all can walk through back to our true selves, it is a simple choice that many have accepted and never looked back!

      1. Hello Adele, I am amazed every day at the world we live in. I welcome mistakes as they allow us to learn and grow. We all live in a magical world when we feel and read everything around us. So the answer to your question, how I am today, I am returning to be one of the stars in the sky at night, shining brightly for all to see. It is better than the old; Fine, how are you!

    1. I love that you are returning to be a star in the night – shining for other to see. There are so many analogies for the light in amongst the dark and how vital it is for us to each take responsibility for walking self love and self care and coming back to remember we are that snowflake/star/light so that others can reignite that in themselves as well.

    2. Amazing Steve, we need more light in this world, ‘I am returning to be one of the stars in the sky at night, shining brightly for all to see.’

  23. “At the end of that day I knew that I was home”. I got goosebumps when I read this Steve as this is what I too experienced at my first ever workshop with Serge Benhayon. In fact I probably knew I was on my way home the minute I decided to attend the workshop but at that time I wasn’t really connected to who I am so the message would have got lost in translation. And I know that you and I are not the only ones who have had this knowing as it is one that has been shared by many others over the last 17 years.

    1. It is the moment we recognise the snowflake to be the truth and actually notice it!!! Then we need to acknowledge we noticed it, then we need to take responsibility that the snowflake needs nurturing, then it dawns on us that we are the ones who are responsible for nurturing the snowflake. In time we realise we are the snowflake and we start noticing other snowflakes in amongst the coal pile.

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