by Tim Bowyer, Age 50, London, UK
In 2005, my wife – Bina Pattel was introduced to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
Up until this point she had done over 15 years in spiritual new age modalities and she always felt there was something missing from these groups. She tried to get me into it but I was very resistant. I eventually went along to one of the workshops but never felt it was for me.
When my wife started doing the Universal Medicine workshops and courses, I thought it was just another modality. Initially when she started doing the workshops she was faced with looking at a lot of her past choices and this was very challenging for her, but she stayed committed to herself and after 2 years I felt so inspired by the changes she had made in her life which had a direct effect on our relationship – I attended my first course.
Much different to my wife’s other spiritual pursuits, Serge Benhayon’s presentation felt very simple and it resonated with me. Since 2007 I have been attending the courses and workshops on a regular basis.
Living the teachings of Universal Medicine has changed my life so much that
I have lost over 6 stone (90lbs) in weight,
I no longer drink alcohol,
I no longer have caffeine,
I no longer eat dairy/wheat/gluten/sugar,
My sleep pattern has changed,
I am deeply loving and nurturing towards myself,
I have more vitality than ever before.
All of the above has come about from what Serge Benhayon and UniMed have presented. Serge has given me an understanding and with this understanding I can make better informed choices.
In all the time I have been a student of Universal Medicine, at no time ever has Serge Benhayon told me to do anything i.e. go to bed early, do not drink alcohol, dairy… etc.
It has only EVER been presented and then I discern if what has been presented feels true for me or not.
In 2009, I was diagnosed with severe osteoarthritis in my right knee. When I first saw my hospital consultant, he seemed very surprised that I did not require any medication for it, as I had no pain or discomfort doing daily activities like walking and getting in and out of my truck.
Granted, I will not be ever running a marathon or even a 100 yardathon, but that’s ok.
I know the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have helped my knee considerably – from the weight loss, the understanding why I have this disease and the regular treatments I have from the Universal Medicine practitioners and in particular a UniMed physiotherapist – Kate Greenaway. She has given me some exercises that are really beneficial which I do everyday.
For me, the biggest thing I have learnt from UniMed and the teachings of SB is about Responsibility.
Understanding that I am responsible/accountable for EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING that happens in my life means that when an issue arises, I know I am the one who has created this issue and therefore I know I can deal / resolve the issue.
It takes away the culture of blame that we / most are so content on fostering.
The presentations, courses and workshops of UniMed have improved my life so much that to go back to my old ways would be unthinkable.
This way of Living is how I choose to live the rest of my life because it brings true meaning and joy to my life everyday.
Thank You Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
Read my wife’s blog: From Spiritual Addiction to Simple Truth by Bina Pattel
The Truth about Universal Medicine 
Serge has given me an understanding and with this understanding I can make better informed choices.” This is greatest healing there can be, because we are empowered to become able to take responsibility for ourselves.
For the Spirit is the new age, for the Soul is the new era.
Once one has felt the truth that Serge Benhayon offers, it does bring up the fact of how true, or untrue one has lived life. It exposed a lot of untruth for me and it took several years to accept this and begin the process of building the foundation of truth that I now live from. One I will never waver from again.
In blaming something/someone, I am basically saying ‘You are wrong, you need to change’ and in that judgment I am burying my hurt. I can feel how that takes away the power from what might have been true observation, and its potential for healing.
How beautiful for you to respond to the reflection given to you by your wife Tim, and to come to realise the responsibility we have for all the decisions we make, bringing many loving changes to your life without blame being a part of it.
This is such a great testament to Serge Benhayon, showing how the responsibility and choices are all ours as to what we do and live with what he presents.
The fact that we hold the key to addressing the issues we ourselves have created is an absolute gem. A great reason to forget about blame and get on with it.
What you say about ‘the culture of blame that we / most are so content on fostering.’ is right. It is so easy to go in blaming and talk about it, not feeling how we each time when we talk about what has happend and how awful such and so has behaved him or herself etc. and we don’t want to look at our part of the story, we add to this culture and keep stirring in the same soup while nothing changes or better say everything gets worse.
Thank you Tim, Serge Benhayon’s work is definitely based on simplicity and self empowerment. No one can change our lives for us, yes we can have support but each daily choice or move is up to us. We can make our lives about love or self neglect and self abuse, either way it confirms the power we have to align to soul/love or not.
That’s some serious changes there TIm. I join you in now having a very clear understanding that I am responsible for myself and all my choices and (without punishment), always need to accept the consequences and not look to point the finger.
The pull to Truth is strong.
As I commit to my unfolding it is inevitable issues and hurts arise but as I deepen the relationship to self I am most of the time able to stay steady. I know and feel in my body that no issue or hurt is greater than I and with patience and a knowing that I can overcome what is in front of me supports me to accept, surrender and allow the unfolding to take place.
“Serge has given me an understanding and with this understanding I can make better informed choices.” The understanding that my life is how and what it is because of every choice I have made brings a true understanding of responsibility as how I am and the choices I make affect everyone else.
‘Serge has given me an understanding and with this understanding I can make better informed choices’. This is a great way to explain what Serge Benhayon offers. He presents possibilities that we can feel for ourselves if true or not, deepening our understanding of how life works and from there we are free to move and make choices at our own free will.
Thank you Tim, Universal Medicine offers true change. I also did the New Age / Spirituality circuit for decades but came out of it feeling as miserable, if not worse, than when I started. I also cannot believe the changes I now have made in my life compared to before I began attending. Universal Medicine courses never tell people what to do, they are simply an offering, and because all true change comes from our own ability to take responsibility for ourselves it’s up to us to make our own choices. Everything Serge Benhayon presents is very common sense, but it also challenges the status quo of what we have accepted as normal – that’s what truth does. The proof though is in the whole student body – vital, loving, healing our past trauma and current unhealthy behaviours, and committed to life and our communities. This is hugely different to how many of us were prior to Universal Medicine.
I love this story, because at no point were you coerced to go along to a Universal Medicine presentation, you chose on your own accord to experience something that intrigued you via the changes you experienced first hand from your wife! What a testimonial!
It is beautiful to read how your wife Bina’s transformation inspired you to discover for yourself the truth and wisdom that the Ageless Wisdom offers – and the fact that leading a more responsible life brings more love and joy to yourself and your relationship.
You and Bina are an amazing couple and I have seen the changes you’ve made and truly inspiring. These stories how people have changed because of becoming aware of the responsibility they have in their lives are inspirational and never are boring. It is always a joy reading them!
Inspiration is the way. We tend to use persuasion, dictation, etc. to try to get another person in doing something that is ‘good for them’. These attempts, however, do not work since they trigger something unhealed in the other person. Inspiration of feeling the extraordinary changes a person is undergoing changes everything.
I agree Eduardo, people need to be free to choose the life they want for themselves, living our own love and joy provides a reflection and inspiration to others to realise what they too can choose.
Thank you Tim for a beautiful blog, sharing with us the power of your wife reflecting the love you are back to you. and the loving changes that you have made in your life, through being responsible for all your choices, certainly a power couple you and your wife are.
You are spot on Tim in highlighting that we foster a culture of blame. It is crazy when you break it down as we are actually denying our power, through avoiding embracing our responsibility. When we are willing to be honest with ourselves and how we feel in our bodies, we bring awareness to the choices we are making. It’s then clear to see how our every choice is a result of an energy we have chosen, and how our every choice is reflected though our body. In being open to healing why we are making loveless choices, we begin to embrace responsibility as the empowerment that it is, knowing that we, and we alone, are the ones that can adjust the way we are living, to make choices that support us to live in connection to the quality of love, which is who we are in essence.
Hearing a mans voice, a husband, a partner, talking about what he saw his wife go through before and after Unimed is very cool but whats even more awesome is the amazing benefits that you have also received through your involvement with Universal Medicine.
Simple, clear and straight from the horse’s mouth: open up to a few universal truths and common sense understandings and, hey presto!, life will change. A modern miracle indeed – thank you for sharing your story Tim!
The teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine are universal. To actually go into what Serge has been the custodian of and given to the world, and with now many living his words, has changed the world of many in such a remarkable way words cannot describe it.
When in the presence of true love we are given the opportunity to open up and start living that which is already within us, releasing this is super healing and evolutionary for the all- resisting it is saying yes to the comforts and indulgences of the self.
Yes Francisco – beautiful. In the presence of true love, we are met with the quality of who we already are, as it is only true love that confirms our divinity.
I loved reading your blog Tim, and particularly how through making a few simple changes, your life has changed too. It is very true that we are the creators of our own issues, and through understanding that we have a choice to change our choices we are able to take responsibility for the choices that we make, and the consequences of those choices too.
You and Bina are an absolute power couple. You express in a way that is accessable, clear and true. It is one thing to listen to what Serge Benhayon presents and another to live the truth of what he shares. The dintinction is clearly felt in this article.
Powerfully and astutely said Tim: “It takes away the culture of blame that we / most are so content on fostering.”
How readily we point the finger outside of ourselves, and/or seek the pill or remedy that we deem SOMEONE ELSE SHOULD PROVIDE, in order to address our ills… Responsibility for the part we each play in the way our lives are, our wellbeing is, and indeed that of all deserves to be the subject at every table at which we sit. It is so vehemently avoided.
Gosh… If Serge Benhayon’s work inspires not only such honesty, but the taking of full responsibility for oneself in all aspects of one’s life – inclusive of our health – then sign me up! This is so deeply needed by all.
Haha… ok, my turn to be honest… I actually ‘signed up’ years ago myself, and have also never looked back in terms of the changes, deepening and enrichment of love and joy lived every single day now in my life.
How direct, simple and straightforward, you gained greater understandings to the choices you made and this allowed you to consider these choices and change them – this is so powerful and I love how you bring it back around to saying anything which happens to us it out of our own making and so we can change it – love it.
Very inspiring- I love your openess in this blog and how you chose to be open to change. That you were able to observe and not close down to what you were seeing.
“Understanding that I am responsible/accountable for EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING that happens in my life means that when an issue arises, I know I am the one who has created this issue and therefore I know I can deal / resolve the issue” Just imagine if we all lived in a way that knocked blame out of the game by knowing that life is about our choices and the consequences of those choices. This would be living the future now.
I’ve hidden behind blame for such a long time, it’s never my fault, I am always the good girl who tries so hard and it is always somebody else’s fault because they’ve not done their job properly. Realising that I have a part to play in everything that happens to me has actually been one of the most difficult things to accept because now that the tables have turned there are no more excuses and a part of me HATES that.
In so many ways a culture of blame can equal a culture of irresponsibility – thus ensuring the status quo.
The media constantly feeds us a culture of blame, inciting us either to outrage or sympathy, but rarely does it call us to look at our own part in the whole. Enter Universal Medicine, which asks us to consider deeply just how much the way we live affects not only ourselves but the world.
Blaming others or the world for the misery in our life is not only us not taking our own responsibility for life but also keeps us away from how beautiful life actually is in its continuous support to make us grow and return to live to the natural divine origin we come from.
I just love hearing about men who are being “deeply loving and nurturing” of themselves. This may surprise a lot of people, men and women. But what I have observed is that a man can be deeply loving and nurturing in how they are with themselves and it changes nothing about them being a man. It doesn’t make men weaker or lesser than in any way. In fact it is the opposite. Men and women are asking for men to be more, although we may get that confused with doing more, but men are being asked to be more of their natural selves. We will all be more as a result.
Yes well said Tim, there is a very big difference between what Serge Benhayon presents as the Ancient Wisdom of the ages, and what is out there in the name of ‘spritual growth’. Once I experienced the difference between the spirit and my Soul, my world completely changed, and I was able to see the falsity and limiting nature of the entire spiritual new age.
Well said Tim. Responsibility is power and you have chosen to use your power wisely and to be more self-loving. Life-changing stuff.
We have made life so very complicated that It is the simplicity that strikes deeply when we reawaken to the bigger picture of what life is about and how it can be lived. And you bring this simplicity most delicately to the fore. There is no shining armour nor grand deeds that need to be recognised but an everyday dedication and commitment to live a life that honours and holds deep care for ourselves and everybody else.
This is a brilliant blog to come back to because I can feel how insidious that culture of blame is for me – blaming others, blaming myself, trying to find a ‘guilty’ party – it’s very subtle, but I can feel it is there, and I can feel how that way of perceiving the world blinds me from seeing the truth.
Wow, I love what you have shared here. I too find the level of responsibility I now have is thanks to the understanding of what a gift responsibility is. Big thanks to Universal Medicine what joy and freedom it brings!
Responsibility, something Universal Medicine has given me a very different understanding of compared to what I grew up believing.
Wow Tim the changes you have made with the support of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon are amazing to read. Learning to take responsibility in all areas of our lives is a game changer and allows us an opportunity to truly heal instead of taking the easy way out and blaming others.
To get to a place where you know without a shadow of doubt that we are all responsible for everything that happens in our lives, and that blaming others for our perceived misfortunes is simply an illusion, is in my experience the most amazing place ever to arrive at. When we allow ourselves to stop the very irresponsible blame game, and then turn and face ourselves, we finally realise that we are the ones that make every choice and therefore we are the ones who are responsible for every consequence.
Thank you, Tim. Your sharing simply tells me that responsibility equals power. Beautiful.
Blaming others for the wrongs of this world or any situation is basically shirking responsibility, saying I don’t want to look at the part I play in the whole and how I might contribute to the dilemma in direct or indirect ways.
Brilliant blog Tim . ‘Understanding that I am responsible/accountable for EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING that happens in my life means that when an issue arises, I know I am the one who has created this issue and therefore I know I can deal / resolve the issue.’ certainly does cut out blame completely and being victim to what’s happened, but also how empowering it is knowing we can bring change with this awareness and as you so inspiringly are … Living It. Thank you.
Another life changed from living the principles and teachings presented by Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon. Thank you Tim. It is gorgeous to hear men like yourself, express from their tenderness, vulnerability and awareness. Having your open expression in the world is allowing other men to open up, communicate and nurture themselves with the same tenderness offered to others.
Thank you Tim for a great blog, this paragraph stood out for me today “Understanding that I am responsible/accountable for EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING that happens in my life means that when an issue arises, I know I am the one who has created this issue and therefore I know I can deal / resolve the issue.” I realise by me not speaking up I have become irresponsible and put the blame onto someone else.
‘Understanding that I am responsible/accountable for EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING that happens in my life means that when an issue arises, I know I am the one who has created this issue and therefore I know I can deal / resolve the issue.’ This is so crucial to our healing process. Thank you for spelling it out so simply.
I agree Tim living with true meaning and joy every day … why should we leave this. And I read your incredible list of what has changed in your life and that is such a proof of the power of reflection, you just embodied more and more the love you felt was in you too and started living this for yourself, awesome!
I know now that if I start blaming this or that or others than there is something I don’t want to take responsibility for or see my reflection in what has happened. This is huge, like you Tim, to have the veil of blame and victim lifted and seeing the ripple affects of our choices.
Alas, we live in a world full of people who pretend they understand the meaning of responsibility but when the truth of it is presented only a small percentage of them are prepared to embrace it. Bravo to you Tim and your wife Bina – you are both equally living and very inspiring testimonies.
Blame and responsibility cannot co-exist.
It took a bit for me to walk away from the culture of blame. I still carried this ideal that if you are a doctor or health care professional you should care more about me, than I do. Silly hey! Now I realise the more I care and love myself, the more this reflects in the care I get when I attend the doctors. On a purely human level, it is more rewarding treating someone who is working with you and not blaming, than it is when you meet the opposite. Taking responsibility is so freeing. I am no longer at the mercy of anyone but me.
There have been a lot of negative things said about Serge Benhayon, both on the internet and in the papers, but that is so often the case when someone presents something so groundbreaking and yet so simple. Tim, you are a testament to how we can change when we take responsibility and don’t ask what the world can do for us, but reverse that to be in service to others. Losing so much weight and feeling so much healthier, all from the inspiration of hearing truth that came your way, it sounds like the type of presentations that millions could benefit from, as I know only too well having attended so many of these presentations myself and also having made so many life changing alterations.
It’s very liberating to recognise and accept that we are responsible for everything. No more blaming another for how we feel – even if we might still try – for once the awareness is there, we cannot return to unawareness, only try to numb it if we don’t want to accept the truth. But if we do, we find ourselves free from our self-imposed prison.
Beautifully and powerfully said Lucy – thank you. I want this as a quote on my fridge!
People can often assume that Universal Medicine is just another New Age Spiritual pursuit, when it really is the dead opposite, there is no escape, no bliss, no comfort, no convince and no airy fairy ideals when it comes to what Serge Benhayon presents. What is it then? Well what I got from your article is that it is a way of life, a practical possibility to consider that the way we live, move and breathe can be medicine in itself, that we don’t have to become another statistic in the heath care epidemic.
I also love the way you describe how your wife inspired you, it reminds me that through the consistent and loving way we live we all have the possibility to inspire someone, not just by what we say but simply by the way we live and the choices we make.
Life is really simple when we consider that if we have an issue then we were the ones who created it, so we are the only ones who can sort it out. It allows you to live with ultimate empowerment.
“….after 2 years I felt so inspired by the changes she had made in her life which had a direct effect on our relationship ” Bina’s consistency is inspiring. If we choose it – we can all be that inspiring – it is our choice to be consistent – and responsible – or not.
In reading your blog Tim I realise that I have been holding some blame toward someone which is getting in the way of my true.expression. I know I am responsible for everything that happens in my life but if I still allow feelings of blame I can’t be living that responsibility for real, that is in full. I have been feeling this for sometime but not taken it on board 100%. I can feel the responsibility that is being called for here and the freedom that it brings.
Tim you are living proof of the power of inspiration and of taking responsibility for the choices we make. Extraordinary stuff.
Thank you Tim for sharing this, it is as you clearly state a matter of taking responsibility for absolutely everything that is going on in our lives. There is no room or place for blame and this starts to undo all the familiar patterns of life held by blaming others for the way that you feel. I have lived this way too and am clearer now on the fact that I make choices which result in A, B or C – all my own doing therefore no blame can be attributed. This is responsibility.
Tim I can feel the simplicity you speak of in the words written by you.
The changes that have occurred in your life are so inspiring, you express with such simplicity, no bells or whistles, just the living proof, the love that you are is in every word you typed. Sometimes I choose to slip into the blame game, even though I know it is not the answer and this blog reminds me of how free you feel when you take responsibility for your choices.
The lovely thing about taking responsibility for all my choices, and wanting to see clearly how I am where I am, is that I can see clearly how my choices have affected me. In the past it was like a door was closed on this and I didn’t have a clue where the key was. Since listening to Serge Benhayon it is as if a light has been turned on and the door opened. Self responsibility is a joy in so many ways.
“Understanding that I am responsible/accountable for EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING that happens in my life means that when an issue arises, I know I am the one who has created this issue and therefore I know I can deal / resolve the issue.” And this responsibility for everything can be very revealing as well as fun as we start to look underneath everything that happens with us and in the world and understand the cause and effect of every choice we make. Universal Medicine offers true healing to the world.
Awesome blog. Love the fact that Love is all encompassing in every way, embodying true responsibility, care, absoluteness, understanding, commitment, joy, presence and stillness. Anything less is not true love
It is all about responsibility, choices and love. We have been led to believe that responsibility carries a heavy burden and this is not true. It has been my experience that taking true responsibility for things, all things in my life, takes the burden away and brings me joy. I did not imagine this would be true but it is. There is so much power in this and we are so supported when we change the resistance to responsibility in our lives.
An awesome blog Tim and your choices to take responsibility for your health and well-being are inspiring to read. The true love and support offered by Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon invites us all to make different lifestyle choices that are powerful and truly work.
Tim I love this line “This way of Living is how I choose to live the rest of my life because it brings true meaning and joy to my life everyday.” I agree, and being fully responsible for ourselves and life is joyful!
Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon’s presentations are indeed very different to any “spiritual” groups/presentations I have been too. They are practical and relate to every part of life, they don’t take us away from ourselves and the problems of life but actually closer to ourselves (exactly as we are) and closer to the challenges of life. In this, we actually get closer to God!
You’re so right Tim, when we take responsibility for every choice we make – there can be no blame towards anyone else, because how can we blame someone else for something we have chosen? It’s definitely one of the most valuable lessons I have learnt from Universal Medicine.
The biggest thing I have learnt from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine is responsibility too. I used to truly believe I was a victim of life and that life happened to me; now I realise I happen to life, and just how powerful every single one of my choices are. It’s truly empowering.
What I am reminded of here in reading your blog Tim, is the simplicity of the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. It’s not rocket science and it’s not complicated, but boy oh boy is the wisdom felt as a result of connecting to this, super expansive!
So very much healing, to stop blaming others for the circumstances of my situation, as the act of blaming is like a constant poison to the body and every relationship included the one to oneself. I like what you shared here so unagitated about the power and beauty of responsibility in contrary to the attitude of blaming.
A very simple and profound sharing Tim. Knowing that I am responsible for what happens in my life through my choices, has been the major lesson I have learned and made the biggest difference to my way of being in the World since I became a student of The Way of The Livingness as Presented by Serge Benhayon.
The freedom of choice with all its beauty and responsibility is what pulls me towards Universal Medicine. As you write, Tim, we are responsible for EVERYTHING. Some like to hear it, some not.
Thank you Tim for sharing your experience, I am really struck about responsibility and the enormous changes that can come, accepting that everything that has happened to us in life we are responsible for. There is no one to blame.
It is amazing how responsibility can make such a monumental change in a persons life however it is never taught to us as children.
Tim I had mastered the art of blame from a very young age and carried it well into middle age. It took a while after attending a few workshops with Universal Medicine to really uproot the victim mentality that I had cultivated to avoid taking responsibility for my life, which ironically stunted my growth and ability to step and make confidence building changes. I was a victim of my own victim. Now I know that I am equipped to face anything, and whilst support is there whenever I need it, the truth and the answer is within me, just waiting for me to ask the question.
Tim accepting that I am responsible for everything that happens to me has been the most empowering decision of my life. It has changed everything and given me a firm foundation on which to build a self-loving and nurturing way of being.
Being responsible in life for your choices and actions is more empowering than blaming events and others for your life’s woes – to me that feels imprisoning and will never lead to truth or love. What you share Tim is very inspiring and your loving choices have certainly turned your life around in a true way.
I love the clarity and lived wisdom of your blog Tim. Responsibility is something I now understand and am willing to embrace – I still feel areas where responsibility needs to be addressed.
Tim, I love your writing it is such a clear and lived Wisdom that supports the reader to feel how to live it. True responsibility and discerning what is presented to me has been crucial for me to become part of my everyday way of living. True accountability is a very joyful way to live as there is no duty, guilt or discipline in it, just pure love and joy.
Tim I can tell this way of life means a great deal to you as self responsibility is so simple but so life changing.
Re reading this blog I just want to thank you again! Your sentence…“Understanding that I am responsible/accountable for EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING that happens in my life means that when an issue arises, I know I am the one who has created this issue and therefore I know I can deal / resolve the issue”. It gives us so much strength to know we are not at the mercy of someone else’s agenda and that there is always much support available to ensure reimprinting is done with love and tenderness. The big question is do we see the support that is always there waiting for us to ask from a space of wanting true change not just relief.
Tim I too found that understanding how life works made it easy for me to explore putting what Serge Benhayon presented into action. For example he never said don’t drink alcohol, but he did not hold back on explaining what it does to us and others energetically, as well as the physical effects. It empowers us to make a discerning choice.
Tim, as you say ‘Understanding that I am responsible/accountable for EVERYTHING’ is a huge step that empowers us to deal with issues and let go of blame. Yet this is often the stumbling block for people who first come to Universal Medicine as it is so comfortable to just coast along blaming others for what happens to us. This creates an enormous delay but eventually we see that there is no other way that does not create suffering for oneself and others. Once we are honest with ourselves about where we are at and can understand and accept that without blaming ourselves, we are more likely to be able to take responsibility and can then make the needed changes without so much resistance.
It is a heavenly gift, that Universal Medicine provides humanity with all the tools to end the culture of blame.
That’s so true, Felix, as the attitude and the action of blaming is such a poison for the body and for all relationships.
I love how you put responsibility into context and call very simply but straight forward for this: responsibility for all our choices. Your story is an amazing testimony of how simple it is to change and the great benefits that come with this. Your story should be written in medical and health care magazines as an example of the Way forward and the culture of blaming would be for once and all expose as an absolute ridiculous lie.
This is such a great sharing Tim… the understanding that is offered through Serge Benhayon’s presentations allows us to make more informed choices and take responsibility for how we are living. It is very empowering to know that we are accountable for everything that happens and we are not the victim of our lives or circumstances but in full control of the way we want to live and the quality we live it.
I love how simple the changes you have made are Tim. There is no rocket science in what we learn through Universal Medicine just simple self care, incredible self love and the most amazing responsibility. I cannot imagine living any other way. It would be abusive to myself and all those who share my life.
That is quite a transformation Anonymous– listening to our bodies is the greatest Universal Medicine there is, I am with you.
I can totally agree with what you’ve shared here Tim, bringing understanding and responsibility into life makes life make sense and far less emotional or drama-full. A perfect example this morning I experienced: Putting on a tight fitting shirt that in the past has felt uncomfortable, I felt to put it on this morning and in the past I would of given myself a hard time for choosing to wear it and/or keep it in my wardrobe. But I was standing differently today and it didn’t hurt where it normally does. It sounds crazy but that’s how not choosing to understand or be responsible in my life has felt, and feels more so now I am choosing to feel more and be aware of my choices. The way I choose to move and be with my body and what I put onto or into it brings the discomfort or the freedom and not anything outside of this. All that over a T-shirt!
I agree Tim, Universal Medicine and the workshops and presentations put on by Serge Benhayon are life changing. Bringing back into our conscious awareness what we already knew, if we are willing to be honest with ourself and in so doing, claim responsibility for our choices and not blame others, which leave us powerless, is a great way to start letting go of those old patterns of self abuse and to start making loving choices that benefit not only ourselves but also equally everyone.
Thank you for sharing your inspiring story Tim and I am struck by how empowering taking true responsibility for ourselves can be as demonstrated in the way you have let go of blame and turned your life around. As someone who has always been overly responsible for others but often neglected to take responsibility for my own health and wellbeing it has been a revelation to look at my choices and recognise the ways I have harmed myself and how with the support of Universal Medicine practitioners I can challenge the ideals and beliefs that have kept me trapped in a cycle of self abuse and start to make more loving choices.
What an amazing testimony Tim, to the incredible changes you have made in your life. You’re a walking wonder, by taking responsibility you have turned you life around, that’s very inspiring.
Thank you Tim, for speaking here. It touches me deeply to feel your unimposing humility and the love in your words. Feels that you remain true to yourself and to your living way. Reading your blog makes me feel love. Makes me think of you, how you open up the door to everyone to get to the courses of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, as a beautiful expression for the power of your humbleness and love, in service for humanity.
Beautifully expressed Stefanie and I too appreciate Tim ‘s humility and love.
Thank you for what you have shared Tim, I too am beginning to see we all have responsibility when it comes to the choices we make. This new level of accountability can sometimes feel like a bitter pill to swallow but it feels more truthful than have I have chosen to live in the past. While I do not live this way in perfection, what I am beginning to see is that the more I bring self-love and responsibility to my life the less I feel the need to blame and the more I bring true accountability to the choices that I have made. It takes away the feeling of being a victim of life and brings in it’s place a sense of feeling empowered and purposeful. That to me has to be the most beautiful shift one could choose to make.
Well said Jade, I also take from what you have said, the importance of being loving with ourselves when we take, what may be, our first foray into self responsibility. What we have blamed others for, we can then bring the same force back on ourselves when we take responsibility. To bring understanding rather than critical blame will help with cutting the victim angle taking up residence behind the self imposed barricade! I speak from experience!!!!
This is a beautiful testimony to the way living love is inspirational.
Tim I too have found a great understanding of myself and others through the presentations of Universal Medicine- not from just believing what’s presented but, like you, discerning for myself the truth and my own honest observations.
Understanding has recently been the key to my being more loving and less critical of myself and others. I’ve been presented with an understanding of the world I already knew but had denied.
With the absense of criticism and presence of love I’m able to be honest about my actions and the quality in which I live and make loving changes. Prior to Universal Medicine I too was wanting to blame the world for my woes and took zero responsibility for creating what I know is not loving. This is changing which is amazing. And I know the more I take responsibility for myself the more I inspire others.
What a great blog that is much needed in a blame culture – one that I’ve certainly helped create!
Great blog Tim, what you share about just being given an understanding, and choose your own way with that, is very beautiful. That is exactly what Serge Benhayon does, presenting what he knows to be true for him, giving us the opportunity to feel and choose what is right for us.
Thank you Tim, I love your blog, the simplicity of it. How grand is it that we as student of the Livingness are changing the culture of blame and make ourselves responsible for everything in our lives.
Thank you Tim and Katinka, I agree, I also relate to “EVERYTHING MEANS EVERYTHING”, so ‘WE’ have too take “responsibility”!
‘Being responsible’ used to feel heavy, and it was something I always wanted to avoid. I now have a different understanding that being responsible means I am in charge of my life and I am able to make changes for the better, and I have a choice to do so.
This is super simple and great Tim, and love the way your assertion of self-responsibility equates to us then knowing how to resolve whatever it is that is causing us a particular dilemma, i.e. that if we chose it, then we can (choose to) get ourselves out of it. Your words: “Understanding that I am responsible/accountable for EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING that happens in my life means that when an issue arises, I know I am the one who has created this issue and therefore I know I can deal / resolve the issue”.
Thats right Stephen, what Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon presents is simply common sense stuff which makes it all the more accessible for anyone.
Thank you Tim, for what you have written about responsibility – that we are responsible for everything that happens to us in our life. As you say Bina, we are no longer powerless when we make loving choices, and all the blame and criticism falls away.
This blog was written over 2 years ago and for the record Tim has now lost over 12 stone and written a new blog about his gigantic weight loss and more.
What is interesting is the teachings of Universal Medicine are not a short term solution, quick fix or one minute wonder. If it was I doubt Tim could have continued losing the excess weight without any sagging skin, which to me is a miracle in itself.
How incredible that we have another way to live and so we are no longer powerless or at the mercy of anything or anyone. This to me is true Power and one that I will always be deeply Appreciative of. BIG Thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for showing us that there is another way to Live, which is real, simple and makes sense.
I agree Samantha, responsibility is a big deal for many people, I know it was for me, but taking responsibility is so empowering. Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon has shown us that taking responsibility is not hard and that all it takes is to make that choice.
Understanding is the key word here and what a great blog.
When we can understand why we do something, and why things are happening to us, it releases tension held in our body which comes from a lack of understanding.
Until I came across ‘Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I found myself going around and around in circles and blaming’ was my middle name. I had no idea that my choices were the reason my life was as it was, and now my life is what it is because of my new choices. Simple really, very profound and truly effective.
Awesomely said Bina, understanding is huge. It is something I am allowing myself to have more and more of. What it does for me is bring a deeper level of observation and detachment to what is going on around me. I also see more clearly now why I have made certain choices, and why others have and so do not get as frustrated!
Great, James, understanding does ‘bring a deeper level of observation and detachment’ and leaves less room for feeling guilty or blaming ourselves – sure ways to hold ourselves back.Understanding brings with it a willingness to see why we made the choices we did and we can then more easily take responsibility for them and for every choice ahead.
Spot on Sandra – understanding gives the whole clear picture, it allows us to detach from the situation and see the events that led up to what is now happening, it brings with it the opportunity to make a different choice and by doing so, as you say, ‘take responsibility for them and for every choice ahead’.
It is so simple Bina, what you have shared here is medicine 1-0-1 I would love this to be part of a treatment plan and one of the founding principles in school.
Wow Tim I love your blog especial this following sentences:”Understanding that I am responsible/accountable for EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING that happens in my life means that when an issue arises, I know I am the one who has created this issue and therefore I know I can deal / resolve the issue.” That is great because it means that nothing is in our way and that we can all choose to deal with our issues without indulging – instead simply moving forward until nothing inside of us hold us back of being all the love and joy we are – wunderbar!!!
Truly wunderbar esteralmiks. Nobody is responsible for my life but me – and the freedom I get from that is limitless. I may ask for help and advice when needed, but it’s always my choice, I don’t have to ‘please’ anyone by doing what they suggest. This has helped me to truly know myself, and turn weaknesses into strengths.
You are right Michael, it does show how powerful we are and also how empowering it can be to take that responsibility. Knowing that we can change any issue because we are the ones that have created that issue is awesome.
I agree Nicola, having that understanding is very empowering. With understanding comes more choices and those extra choices can literally save our lives or at the very least go from existing in this world to actually living and being a part of this world.
Yep Tim, the blame game is not one that is ever presented at a Universal Medicine presentation or workshop. The basis of it all is responsibility for oneself. Passing the buck only ever leads to further discomfort and separation from ourselves and those around us. Taking responsibility for our own lives is enormously empowering and freeing. Life can be simple!
Very true Elodie. You would think it would be so much easier to be carefree and have no responsibility in our lives, but the fact is, the reverse is opposite. The more responsibility I take in my life, the more stronger and confident I feel. Like you say, life can be, and is simple, we just have this knack of making it very complicated.
Indeed Tim, I feel exactly the same. I used to think that the ideal life was the beach bum, relaxing, lots of free time, surfing, finding a part time high paying job, etc.. But the more and more responsibility I take in my life the more I see there is to be done and the more purpose I feel with what I am doing. Thus the more content I feel within my body, the more strength and confidence I feel.
Powerful stuff Tim, amazing changes and a testament to you coming back to the amazingness of the fullness of you. I can feel you have developed such a loving commitment and as you said no longer blame others for the choices you make, instead taking full responsibility. This is really inspiring – thank you for sharing your story.
I completely agree that Universal Medicine is changing the culture of blame. Since attending the presentations of Universal Medicine I have developed an understanding of what true responsibility is. When I understood that my life is governed by the choices I make I began to question why I was making the choices that I had been making. I realised that my connection to my Soul, my essence was missing and as I began to re-connect, I began to make loving choices that support this divine connection to me. And I continue to choose this soulful way of living the quality of my life had transformed into one that is filled with joy and vitality. I loved feeling how your wife inspired you by simply living her soulful way, as you now are an inspiration by the way you soulfully live – Thank you Tim.
Tim I love your comment that Universal Medicine gave you the understanding which enabled you to make such significant changes to your way of living. For me understanding what is at play makes it much easier to make choices that hitherto may have felt difficult. For example I had known and been told by naturopaths that my body was not digesting dairy products, but was so attached to cheese that I could not entertain removing it from my diet. However, once I understood my attachment to a particular food choice despite my bodily symptoms I was able to gradually eliminate all dairy from my diet. This has amazed my family because I am not once for making disciplined choices – all change must come from understanding first, then I can activate my will.
Exactly hartanne60, understanding is a very power-full tool. With that understanding we then have the choice to make decisions that that will truly nourish and nurture our bodies or we can say, yes I understand what you are saying but I am not willing to let go of my comfort. We cannot blame anyone else for our choices.
I agree hartanne60. Being told to do something has never worked for me. I can do it for a period of time but due to the lack of understanding of why I’m doing it eventually I stop even if it’s supposed to be doing me some good. I love this “all change must come from understanding first, then I can activate my will.” Understanding is absolutely key for the impetus to change.
Thank you for sharing your remarkable story Tim. I agree entirely – in fostering blame do we not realise this keeps us unable to go anywhere? but round and around our own particular mouse wheel. Taking responsibility for my choices, each and every one, more and more, has been not always the easiest thing to face, but without a doubt the most self loving.
I agree Giselle, it can be quite confronting when we take full responsibility for our choices but the empowerment it gives us has much more value.
Beautifully said Tim, I know there are times I look at my choices and I feel overwhelmed at what I’ve chosen and the consequences of it, but as you say, the empowerment of taking responsibility has a huge value and impact on our lives.
Tim I really love how you have called out the ‘culture of blame’ we have created. I see this clearly mirrored in the litigious society we now live in where if something happens to me then there must be someone else I can blame and then sue. How are our children going to learn to take responsibility for their choices when we now even take away the choice of play equipment (as an example) in case they hurt themselves. As adults when we are unwell or hurt ourselves we tend to turn wholly to a doctor to fix us without considering the role we may have played in our illness or injury. A culture of self-responsibility is definitely needed.
Your story Tim is a beautiful example of what unfolds for someone who takes responsibility for their life and choices.
Yes the truth in what Serge presents is life changing and simple. He speaks the truth and you can feel it.
Thanks fro sharing your story Tim, meeting Serge Benhayon has had a huge effect on my life too.
Tim, this is awesome. Your commitment is awesome. And thank you for the gold about understanding: ‘Serge has given me an understanding and with this understanding I can make better informed choices’ – this is so true for me too.
This is so true what you are saying Tim – responsibility is the key to unlocking the bind that we have been gripped with as a culture addicted to blame. I have a similar background to your wife and the reason I found the spiritual modalities on offer via the New Age so appealing was that they offered a ‘relief’ to the way I was living and never did they ask me to take responsibility for the choices I had made that had led me to the mess I was standing in. By not taking responsibility, I was conveniently able to blame anything, anyone and everything else for the way that I was; parents, peers, the world…you name it, I blamed it! What is beautiful, but confronting about the teachings on offer through Universal Medicine, is that when asked to take full responsibility of why you stand where you stand, there is simply nowhere to hide. But when the choice is made to see in full the repercussions of your choices and to take responsibility for these; the joy, the love, the truth, the harmony and the stillness that is able to be connected to and felt, far surpasses any discomfort the initial sting of responsibility brings.
Liane, so true that many modalities offer a relief, but no truth. It doesn’t last long, this relief because the emptiness is still there. So the addiction starts….
Yep, I agree, a lot of the time responsibility has gone missing in everyone’s life and everyone seems to find it easier to blame everything else for the mess they are in.
Tim, it is truly inspiring to read of the changes you have made to your life, through living the teachings of Universal Medicine.
This is very inspiring Tim, thank you for sharing your experience with being a student of the way of the Livingness, and the true benefits of taking full responsibility for every choice that we make in our lives.
Tim your words come with a gentleness and a feeling of solid conviction, a very informative blog. How lovely that you and your wife Bina share a deep connection together with The Way of The Livingness, and the self responsibility that brings with it.
Thank you Tim for sharing your experience with Serge Benhayon and Universal medicine. I can totally relate as I too have made the most miraculous turnaround with the way I had been living and it all occurred because I accepted that I was responsible for the all choices that I had made and for the ones that I am going to make.
Beautiful Tim, ‘when an issue arises, I know I am the one who has created this issue and therefore I know I can deal / resolve the issue.’ So simple and true.
It’s true Tim, as a society we are deeply and completely involved in the ‘Blame Game’, and most are not even aware of it. The level of responsibility that you have found so liberating can also be way too confronting for a lot of people and they thereby can miss the gem on offer inside. Reading your experience, I can feel the sparkle of this that you are now living and it is a true inspiration for all. Thank you.
How interesting is to have a parallel blog to Bina’s where you state with total humbleness that what you did before did not sit with you and what Serge said, did not only sit with her but with you. So, you knew and you know. We all know equally.
It is with that understanding that Universal Medicine presents is what helps us to choose to change, like you say it is never a ‘must do’ or ‘need to do to be this and that’. When I choose to understand why I make a choice I can’t blame anyone or anything because I am at that moment aware that it was all of my own making. Equally it opens up the fact that if I made it I can unmake it. Being willing to keep choosing to understand more is confronting but as I have experienced in my own life and can clearly see in this in yours and your wives blog/s that it is certainly worth making those choices.
Thank you for your simple and truthful account of the life changes Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon have inspired you to make.