Grow Your Own Love

by Jane Torvaney, Scotland

Last night when I came home from work I took a cup of tea out and sat in the garden. As I looked around me, taking in the vibrant colours of the flowers and their different shapes and sizes, I witnessed the ease with which they interacted with nature. The wind was blowing ever so gently, causing ripples of movement across their delicate leaves and petals. An abundance of insects were busy in the soil beneath and flies, bees and beautiful butterflies were flying around, sometimes choosing to land and explore the surface of the leaves or, in the case of bees, venturing deeper into the heart of the bloom in search of pollen.  

I remembered how back in early springtime I planted some tiny seeds wondering what would emerge later in the year. At the time I could feel the potential in the seeds, everything was there ready, the beautiful flower was already within the seed, its amazing colour and shape patiently waiting to get out and express itself and interact with all around it.

All that was needed for it to grow and blossom was the nurturing sun, the soil and water.

As I sat in the garden last night I thought about how it is for us as human beings. How, just like the seed we too are born complete with everything already inside us. We are simply bundles of love expressing who we are within the world.

This love never ever leaves us, but whether we grow up holding it tight in a bud or whether, like our flowers, we allow it to blossom, depends on our choices – our choice to nurture ourselves truly and deeply, our choice to say yes to life and our choice to commit to it fully with all the love we know we are and always have been….. a choice to grow our own Love!


394 thoughts on “Grow Your Own Love

  1. Life is full of choices, what are we choosing in each second, ‘This love never ever leaves us, but whether we grow up holding it tight in a bud or whether, like our flowers, we allow it to blossom, depends on our choices’.

  2. What a gorgeous reminder for the day! Flowers are everywhere and therefore a constant reminder of the power of shining and expressing unreservedly.

  3. This reminds me of the parable offered by Jesus of the sowing of the tiny seeds; some falling among rocks, some choked by weeds and others falling on fertile ground where there is space to grow and be nurtured by the Sun and rain to offer nourishment to many.

  4. When we know that everyone is that same equal love and whether we can live that or not depends on our choices then there is no need for judgement. We are all learning and live in an environment that doesn’t support that love to be known or nurtured, so what a beautiful purpose it is to live our love, not just for ourselves but to remind everyone we meet that they too are that love.

  5. I can just imagine some seeds never sprouting and having a self-worth issue, and going ‘I would rather be eaten by birds…’

  6. Thank you Jane, our preciousness and delicacy are open when we are living the Truth of who we are, and like the flower holding none of our glorious Splendor back as we are open to all. As the flower does not discriminate nor should we.

  7. There is nobody out there who can grow our love, it is us – we are the only people who can build love in our own lives because even if others love us, even if others adore us, if we don’t adore ourselves we will not accept their love.

      1. Absolutely, when I was in high school I used to wonder why I would never like the “good” guys, the ones that I could see genuinely liked me. But I preferred the trouble-makers, the popular ones. The answer came to me recently when I realised that I wasn’t actually looking for love, what I was looking for was attention.

      1. It doesn’t challenge, nor present a different way – it confirms us in our trofs and keeps us in our comfortable bubbles.

    1. Thank you Viktoria, we can spend our whole lives waiting for love from outside of ourselves when it’s waiting within us, its like living a goldmine and standing at the door looking out to find gold. It’s always there within ready to be reconnected to, lived from, and expressed.

      1. So many of us preach that, so many of us are aware of it, but how many of us have actually felt & lived it? It is very easy to talk about it and share our understandings, but how many of us are brave enough to open up their hearts and love themselves and others unconditionally?

      2. Yes, because we all actually sense before we hear. There is a level which our 5 senses are blind to, we all know everything & can feel everything but we may choose to not be aware of it. So to speak empty words is pointless, because deep down, underneath the surface we all know the truth.

    2. We as human beings can choose to grow and express our love, ‘We are simply bundles of love expressing who we are within the world.’

  8. The world around us shows us clearly that we can plant seeds and grow the love in our own lives, and with that, the many that benefit magnifies.

  9. Jane, these words are GOLD: “just like the seed we too are born complete with everything already inside us”.

  10. Reading your blog Jane brought a stop moment for me, to just stop and feel the beauty of your understanding that the seeds you had planted had so much potential, that the beautiful flowers were already there within the tiny seeds. And that is a beautiful reflection back to us, as you say, we are all born with the same potential. It is how we react to life and the choices we make from those reactions, that determine whether we flower into our full potential.

  11. We grow our own love, as the plant needs sun, water and soil, we need our own selfcare, relationships and inspiration.

  12. Reading the title brings a feeling of warmth and connection within my body. Thank you Jane.
    “Grow your own love”

  13. The essence of nature is captured beautifully here Jane. I love how this reflects the same abundance of delicateness and grace that is held within ourselves.

  14. Jane, I love the simplicity of this blog. I too often marvel at the beauty that is contained in something so minute, but when given the right conditions in which to flourish, we are all touched by the grace, beauty and delicacy that then blooms forth.

    1. I find it quite wonderful that the tallest of flowers can come from the tiniest of seeds… take Hollyhocks with seeds like fine sand.

    2. Nature is a great reflection, I like the example of the seed that given the optimum conditions can flourish to become something magnificent.

  15. “This love never ever leaves us, but whether we grow up holding it tight in a bud or whether, like our flowers, we allow it to blossom, depends on our choices…” Thank you Jane, always an inspiring read. I find your references to seeds, flowers and nature simplifies the understanding of the potential we all equally have to be love and to nurture and support that to grow.

  16. How we build our own soil (foundations in life) care for, tend and nurture ourselves allows us to come into full bloom.

    1. Beautifully said Jennifer – we are the ones that can choose to do this and in so doing potentially inspire another to do likewise.

  17. I hadn’t actually thought of seeds in this light Doug but I love what you have shared here as it brings a whole new angle to the potential of each seed we sow ourselves or are given by another.

  18. To be raised in such a way, that from early childhood we understand we are already complete, that everything we ever need is within us from day one, would change the way we live in this world. Instead of coming to believe that we need to build our lives from the outside in, we would naturally allow the everything we are to blossom forth from within us, in all our gloriously unique shapes, textures, colours, and perfumes.

  19. I love the analogy of the seed and how everything is there within us ready to be reclaimed and grown back to the fullness of the love we are. On reading this I know this to be true and have felt it at times, but I could also feel the strength of the education consciousness that teaches the opposite. We are born empty and need filling. A great setup to keep us blind to the magnificence we are.

  20. That’s just it, we have love in us, and do we nurture and grow it and allow it to be seen and felt by the world or do we keep it close to us … for love is there to blossom and share.

  21. I also love how the title says ‘Grow your own love’, so it makes it very clear it is never someone else who can make us change, even though we can be inspired, it is only our own choices in the end to make the change and grow our own love.

  22. The message of a flower growing out of a tiny seed is beautiful. It shows the potential that is there whatever the size, the only thing that is defining the potential to be able to come out in full is the nurturing and basics it receives. So too it is for us that we first need our foundational things like water and nutrition but then there is a whole way of living that defines if we ‘blossom’ or come out more disfigured as in less confident, lacking self-worth, being angry and so on.

  23. A beautiful observation where everything grows together, as the garden is nurtured you see it in its reflection back, the same as when we nurture ourselves that love and joy can be felt by all.

  24. Growing love? What is that? I would have questioned myself 7 years ago, before I met Universal Medicine. I had found that the way I was living was not enough, it was just not it! I missed joy, purpose, love, truth and harmony in my life. Hence, I came to see Universal Medicine courses in 2012. Finding out that there was another way to live life, that was deeply satisfying and forever nourishing and deepening in your love for yourself, the world (people). This has been the key connection, that now serves me to the bone and I am able to now give back, the love that I had missed, I am now capable of living.

  25. Beautiful blog Jane, and a beautiful reminder that we all hold the seed of love within us. All we have to do is nurture it, expose it to the sun/world and it will blossom, but if we choose to ignore the seed of love it will lay dormant until such time we choose to let it blossom.

    1. That’s the beautiful thing Chan, the seed may ‘lay dormant’ for quite some time, but we can in any moment choose to begin to nurture it once again. And once we make that choice and bring it into the light it won’t be long before it begins to blossom in all its innate and unique beauty.

  26. It’s amazing that a little seed can grow into a flower just by the presence of soil, water and then the sun. But I guess it’s the same with us humans. Only we have the added feature of wanting to grow into that flower or not that needs to be nurtured as well.

  27. I totally love knowing that “We are simply bundles of love expressing who we are within the world.”. It simply makes me smile when I feel myself as a bundle of love living amongst all the other bundles of love with all of us blessing the world, and each other, with our unique flavour, colour, shape and style. One humanity sized packet of glorious seeds!

    1. Your gorgeous comment Ingrid makes me smile! You are certainly a blossoming bundle of love, blessing humanity with the love you reflect, along with so many more seeds of love blossoming around the world.

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