Grow Your Own Love

by Jane Torvaney, Scotland

Last night when I came home from work I took a cup of tea out and sat in the garden. As I looked around me, taking in the vibrant colours of the flowers and their different shapes and sizes, I witnessed the ease with which they interacted with nature. The wind was blowing ever so gently, causing ripples of movement across their delicate leaves and petals. An abundance of insects were busy in the soil beneath and flies, bees and beautiful butterflies were flying around, sometimes choosing to land and explore the surface of the leaves or, in the case of bees, venturing deeper into the heart of the bloom in search of pollen.  

I remembered how back in early springtime I planted some tiny seeds wondering what would emerge later in the year. At the time I could feel the potential in the seeds, everything was there ready, the beautiful flower was already within the seed, its amazing colour and shape patiently waiting to get out and express itself and interact with all around it.

All that was needed for it to grow and blossom was the nurturing sun, the soil and water.

As I sat in the garden last night I thought about how it is for us as human beings. How, just like the seed we too are born complete with everything already inside us. We are simply bundles of love expressing who we are within the world.

This love never ever leaves us, but whether we grow up holding it tight in a bud or whether, like our flowers, we allow it to blossom, depends on our choices – our choice to nurture ourselves truly and deeply, our choice to say yes to life and our choice to commit to it fully with all the love we know we are and always have been….. a choice to grow our own Love!


318 thoughts on “Grow Your Own Love

  1. Such a simple analogy Jane, it shows how powerful the choices we make are that either sets us up to bloom or shrivel… and knowing what does support and what doesn’t then innately is what builds a foundation that we can keep expanding and growing from.

  2. What a joy it is to express our own love especially with another and, to feel it expand. It has always been inside me. The challenge is when we observe what disturbs us most and still be able to bring and deepen our love in this moment.

  3. Every part and process of a flower is beautiful. No matter whether it is a bud, a fully blossomed flower, a wilting flower or dried one,eventually everything is beautiful. Can we also say that without a doubt about ourselves and our life?

  4. How our world would be if this truth was what founded our parenting and education in our schools: “…just like the seed we too are born complete with everything already inside us.”
    It is this truth, the essence of God within, that deserves to be fostered within us all – and continuously so.
    Thank-you Jane.

  5. I love it Jane… ‘grow your own love’! Learning that love is within us and not from another might sound basic but our entire society is based on love being something we give and receive. Hence why we can spend our entire lives surrounded by family and friends who supposedly ‘love us’ and whom we profess to love equally, yet feel there is ‘something missing’ at the same time. Love is inside us, and when we take care of ourselves truly, we get to live with love and ‘in love’ 24/7.

  6. So simple – a choice to say yes and surrender to what’s already within. What a beautiful garden it would be when every single seed chooses to be in full bloom. That may sound impossible, yet the potential has always been there.

  7. If we use nature for its true purpose then it is a great tool of reflection in times of disconnection, it is never grander than what we are and if we hold that to be a known, we can be truly blessed by its magic.

  8. This is lovely, we always have all we need within, whether we choose to nurture that is our choice which is always there for us.

  9. If we don’t take responsibility for growing our own love, then we will seek all sorts of ‘life’s pleasures’ to fill the gap left within. None of that works in the long run, even though it can appear to in the short term. Eventually we end up feeling the same feelings of lack, not enough, emptiness or dissatisfaction. When it is our own love we grow, there is the opportunity to forever deepen a sense of being nurtured, cared for, loved and held as a valuable and equal member of society.

  10. There is a natural order or harmony that we are intrinsically part of; it is the vibration of love, of truth and oneness that this represents. It is a quality this is lived from within out, from simply being in surrender to ourselves, in connection to the love we are in essence, where we discover that this love is always calling and guiding us to be more, express more and live more of who we naturally are.

  11. A simply beautiful sharing Jane on the reflection nature is giving to us. We have this tiny seed with in us with all the potential of the universe held there, just waiting to be warmed by the sunshine of our love and watered by our gentle nurturing ways.

  12. I love analogies for what they bring the simple truth of life. The observations of how we can be. I love the reflections from nature it is the ease and flow and acceptance of life that I love, a full green leaf doesn’t resist become autumnal and dying it goes into it in full colour and let’s go. Effortlessly. We have so much to learn from nature and the cycles of life.

  13. A beautiful analogy Jane. The potential to blossom in full from within is forever there waiting for us to unfold to when we choose to take responsibility and commit to truly caring and nurturing ourselves.

  14. A gorgeous blog to read Jane. I love how you have expressed that the responsibility and choice is always ours;
    “our choice to nurture ourselves truly and deeply, our choice to say yes to life and our choice to commit to it fully with all the love we know we are and always have been….. a choice to grow our own Love!”.

  15. It is interesting that if you stop and consider the word grow, it always associated with an outward movement away from a point but not very often as a movement of return to a point.

  16. It’s interesting how as we grow older we forget that we have everything we need inside us, and are taught to not confirm who we are by knowing our own qualities, but to constantly seek affirmation of who we are, by what we do and everything outside of us. Knowing that nothing outside of us can ever fulfil us unless we know who we truly are, first, changes the quality and focus of life from seeking outside to a deep settlement within.

  17. Yes, it’s true that we are born already everything, and then somehow we have re-designed life to strip this knowing away from us bit by bit as we emerge further into the world. Do we even realise just how far away we have come from ourselves? Is it possible that this separation is what has landed us in the mess we’re in? If so, then it means we just as easily re imprint the new default system and set it straight.

  18. How lovely Jane, a choice to grow our own love! Yes, we are like the seeds, our future is within us, we are born fully complete with everything we are already there waiting to blossom forth.

  19. “a choice to grow our own love!” I love this Jane, as we have so many opportunities to do this in our daily lives. The knack for me is to be present within myself so that I can see what is before me and within me to offer a reflection of the love that I truly am.

  20. It really is that simple to grow our own love Jane! But we also seem to make hard work of it at times. Thank you for reminding us of this.

    1. Beautiful Simon – to live with this acknowledgement is knowing how supported we are by nature and everything it brings – and in turn this brings a deeper surrender and joy to how we can live.

  21. Thank you Jane for such a simple and beautiful reminder ‘to grow your own love’, when we are responsible for building and deepening the love for ourselves we are rewarded back in many different ways.

  22. You have painted such a beautiful and serene picture Jane; I could feel myself there with you. Nature never ceases to amaze me; just when you think you have seen it all it still is able to surprise you. And the most amazing thing is that it knows what to do, repeating itself from one cycle to the next. It is the best classroom ever if we stop and take the time, like you did, to sit and observe.

  23. “How, just like the seed we too are born complete with everything already inside us.”
    This is such a truth, yet so many are not offered it in their growing, learning and the general process of life. The more we talk about our essence and the divinity held within, the more our world will begin to adjust and remember the beauty held in every person.

  24. Each and every person born has within them a core of love. Our lives and our alignment to (or not to) that love determine our daily experience.

  25. Making space in the body for love comes through self-care, it fosters a daily foundation through which love can be present.

  26. It is actually irresponsible to not love ourselves. Sounds crazy and one may think that whether they love themselves or not does not impact on anyone else but the truth is it definitely does as how we are with ourselves is how we are with all else.

  27. “just like the seed we too are born complete with everything already inside us.” And as we grow we are our own gardeners responsible for keeping us cared for, watered and free of weeds so that we can feel the light and warmth of the Sun to bloom in our full glory.

  28. Ah I love this little piece of insight and analogy. It is all there, inside of us all, waiting to ‘blossom’ and the quality of care we take with this consistently will either support the fullness to shine or not.

  29. As I felt a glimpse of the love that was there inside me, which had always been there but I chose to not see, when I was introduced to Serge Benhayon many years ago I desperately wanted to hold onto it when I got home. I had been offered a reflection that I had not come across before in this life and an opportunity to change my ways that did not support me. Ever since it made me realise that to grow my own love and become aware and discard what was getting in the way so I could live love was the greatest gift I could offer myself and others.

  30. Reading you blog Jane I get a sense of how important it is for us to share with children about how the choices that they will make as they grow up, will either allow them to blossom in life or will keep them in a tight bud and isolated from the love that is all around them.

  31. The blossoming of a flower is dependent on the soil in which it grows. An attentive gardener will know exactly what to do to ensure such beauty is made visible to the world.

  32. Everything in life is a reflection and we can take a very beautiful message from seeds knowing that everything is indeed inside us all and that we cannot underestimate the power of our body. Even though we are very small, in comparison to the stars, planets and universe – we still house all of that wisdom and access to that multidimensional intelligence in and through the body.

  33. This is a sweet lullaby to read and let it wash all over you, confirming you in the warmth and love that is within, inviting it to be what comes out and is shared. Thank you Jane.

  34. A beautiful analogy for us all, thank you for sharing Jane. Brings the importance of self-responsibility to the fore understanding that the quality of life we live stems from our choices and not by accident.

  35. What a beautiful blog – observing nature and really seeing it for what it is. In the past when I used to live in the UK, I use to take nature for granted, loving the spring and summer and disliking the winter. But I now have stop moments and truly observe what is being offered. It might be a leaf that falls in my path or a shadow of the leafless tree – its beautiful what God offers to us. And everything that is outside is within us and more if we choose to.

  36. I’ve always loved the analogy of how a plant grows from a tiny seed, I agree we have the same abundance of potential that is inside us always, we simply need to nurture it, love it, commit to it and say yes to it.

  37. Choosing to commit to truly loving and nurturing ourselves from within forms the basis of a strong and steady foundation and quality of being that reflects the natural beauty and harmony we hold within our essence.

  38. Love and simplicity come hand in hand – our love is so simple for it is just there – within us, all around us – it is us. We create all sorts complications to avoid and forget what we ever so simply are.

  39. Our choice to nurture ourselves and say yes to love, why would we choose anything different? But we have, in the past, because we have the free will to choose whatever we want. I love the flow of your blog Jane, and it feels very gorgeous to choose Love this time around.

  40. What a beautiful and gentle reminder that as human beings we are “born complete with everything already inside us.” All we need to do is to deeply nurture this ‘everything’ just as we would a seed that we have planted as it slowly grows into the plant it is to be. And from this nurturing and loving of our ‘seed’ we will inexorably grow into the glorious being that we naturally are.

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