301 thoughts on “Lies about Love”

1. Thank God for Serge Benhayon consistently living and moving in true love, such a powerful reflection that confirms to us that we are equally this too.

2. A very beautiful blog. Thank you Johanna Fredericks.

3. I love reading this blog as it helps me let go of snippets of ideals of what love is even though it is not.

4. “Love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt” – I get that in truth there’s no hurt but our conditions on God is such we use hurt as an alibi for us not to be who we are in full and when I play that game I feel dented.

5. Purity cannot be touched by human beings. It also defies images.

6. “I also got to feel very deeply that Love is universal, it is equal for all, it is a quality and an energy that we naturally are and can hold others in.” – Great to express this as so often love is presented as being something reserved for a special few, but like you say I can see now how love is truly something that we can hold everyone equally in. That doesn’t mean we sleep around or have to do things the same with everyone, there will be those whom we spend more time with and are closer with naturally, but energetically speaking we can love everyone equally…

7. It is clear that we have conditioned love to be such a minimalistic version of its true grand that what it is commonly considered now is actually a form of self abuse.

8. We have changed love to fit what we think it should be and when it doesn’t work, we blame love for what has ‘gone wrong’ or even a broken heart, so called. The heart does not break, what breaks are our misconceptions and fanciful notions.

9. “…because one person’s expectation rarely fits in with another’s. No wonder there is often a mismatch! – This sure explains a lot about difficulties that arise in relationships when each person comes into it needing the other to match a certain picture of what they deem is the ‘perfect’ partner in a needy way instead of allowing the qualities that Johanna has mentioned are true love into their lives. I know that whenever I have approached my partner from the standpoint of wanting her to be a certain way in a controlling manner, it has been because I am doing it in a way that protects me from feeling something or out of a lack of acceptance of myself on some level that comes out by not accepting her completely as well.

10. Yes indeed it is Linda – beautifully said. There is no greater marker of truth than that of our body, as such highlighting the great value and wisdom in developing a loving relationship with our body.

11. The thing about love is that in developing a relationship with the love we are within, we are building a relationship with a quality the not only confirms who we are but also honors who we all are in essence. As such we are able to meet each other in equalness and with an openness to learn and inspire one another, giving rise to evolutionary relationships.

12. Just taking this to another level, it was shared yesterday in a workshop that if we have ideals and beliefs in one relationship we can not but help infiltrate all other relationships with same brush. With everything being one life, every relationship effects the all.

13. The other day I found one of those beliefs about love in myself. I had the belief that the other person should pander to me when I am feeling not so good, and when this did not happen I felt very let down, even though I felt the other person was actually allowing me to be grand even when I feeling not so good physically. Yet because it was in contrast with the picture I had about ‘love’, I felt angry because I felt exposed for having an untrue version of love in my life which felt not so nice. Because there are many more of these moments to come in my life, it is about learning to understand why I took on such a belief and letting it go from there.

14. Johanna this stood out for me today
    “I sometimes feel hurt when others don’t meet my idea of Love. When I come from my mind’s perception of what Love is or from what I was ‘told’ Love should be, I get tricked into thinking that I get hurt.”
    Then when we feel hurt we do not trust love and so I feel it’s a huge game being played by our spirit to keep us in the separation and away from that which we actually want the most – love.

15. ‘I also now know there are no limits or boundaries to Love in its true form’. This is gold Johanna, and reminds us of what’s possible when all our movements become loving – love has no end, it is continually expanding and unfolding.

16. Thank you Johanna for sharing what you learned at the workshop. I feel like I have had the opportunity to attend via your blog! I appreciated both lists you made of what you thought love was and what you now know and feel it to be. I could relate to believing love was about enjoining in emotional messes, letting people get away with treating me poorly because it’s a close relationship, and also not speaking the truth. – Once love is looked at in its true and false versions, there is much to uncover, discard, and begin living in the true sense of what love is.

17. Yeh I totally agree – discovering that love is inside you and not just something you receive is a game changer. And there’s little greater than feeling love in your heart and knowing that i’ts there no matter what.

    1. That’s true Meg, love never walks away from us, it’s we who walk away from it.

18. I had all these pictures on how I wanted love to be and in that I was rejecting everything that was before me, now I am learning to deeply treasure all I have been given and to know that this is everything I need at this current time and it is amazing and I deserve it- that’s a big one to accept.

19. We all do deserve love because we are from it.

    1. Well said Andrew, a simple truth that changes all.

20. What you have shared here Johanna is amazing, “Love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt”. This means to me that to be afraid of being hurt by love is impossible! We can only be hurt by emotion!

21. I have been pondering recently on when I have got hurt and what actually happens. I feel the hurt, it is ‘real’ but it is not who I am although in that moment I have thought it was me because it was what I was actually feeling at that time. To read ‘…the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt’ is I know obvious and makes absolute sense but it does bring up some resistance in me! Beautiful to feel the resistance and nominate. Thank you Johanna for sharing.

22. I am still discovering and unravelling lies about love that I have fallen for and believed – there are many layers to this process and some lies are more obvious than others.

23. Why when something doesn’t or isn’t working do we try over and over again to have it work in the same way. Love is a great example as the meaning we have in it’s current form just isn’t working for us and yet we put our head down and go back in hoping to have a different result without making a change to the quality we are doing it in. This article breaks things open and allows us to choose another quality in love and from this trust that how we are with ourselves in love will then translate out into all else.

24. True Love is a being not a doing, so if we find ourselves doing something to prove our love, or in the name of love, we can be sure we’ve gone off track.

25. ‘Feeling the quality of the movement in my body and the care in the voice,’ the quality of my movements and my voice are a great indicator of way I have been living to that point. When I am connected to myself and the love that I am it feels horrible to speak with a harsh voice. The quality of my voice is changing the more aware I am of it and there is so much less strain on my body when I speak this way.

26. We hold misinterpretations about love as well as demands as to how we want it when we have walked away from loving ourselves. It is only through loving ourselves first that we can then offer the real deal of love to another. A love that does not pander, feed on emotional needs and woes (none of that is love), but that simply offers the inspiration and understanding for another to feel the unending depths of their own love as well.

27. It’s wonderful to finally be reminded all that we have always innately known, but didn’t realise we knew because we’ve been so clouded by the ideals and pictures of love that have surrounded us and had us believing in. It makes sense that the movies and the stories aren’t real, because nothing ever quite added up. It’s like according to those stories, we are nothing without a partner or someone to love us. How insane is that? What about the very fact that we are all equally enough just as we are?! Feels truer to me.

28. We have been fooled and being sold lies about what love is, making it into something emotional which is far from the truth, as true love is encompassing of the all and in it’s purity is a reflection of God within ourselves.

29. I wonder why do we sometimes accept less than the true love that we know within us. Accepting less can be reducing ourselves to become something to be accepted by others. But its very harming actually if we consider that this is not our natural way of being. How amazing would it be just to emanate with no worries about if it’s going to be liked or not. And such a great service we offer by simply moving and expresing ourselves from the love that we are. Regardless of the acceptance or not from others. Its very powerful to remain steady in the truth that needs to be expressed by simply connecting with the stillness of our body.

30. If you step back it’s kind of crazy all the stories we have that love can break your heart and devastate you, how could something so magnificent destroy you? Surely it is the absence of love that is what causes destruction, but if you hold steady in your love there’s nothing another person can do to change that.

31. We hold onto so many pictures of what love is, and because we subscribe to that which comes from a need or emptiness, when that is not fulfilled we get hurt. We just cannot be disturbed by any emotion when we are love, as it dispels anything that is not true or from the light.

32. I was reflecting on how valued “Doing something ‘nice’ for someone” is in our society. And how much the Catholic Church has to do with that as it has contributed hugely to make people believe that to be a “good” person you have to do things for others even when you don’t really feel it. Sacrificing ourselves is applauded and never questioned. Even the word “sacrifice” has been manipulated as the origin of the word in latin means just the opposite. “sacro” + “facere” which means “making sacred everything”, honour and deliver it. So if the origin of the word means honour the sacred – the divine, is honour my body, my truth. It never could be to do something to gain favour from others or my little piece of Heaven. The Catholic Church has bastardized the original meaning of this word to keep us away from our sacredness. Sacrify ourselves is stay true because the sacred, God, is in us.

33. I was pretty mixed up about what love was when I was growing up. I didn’t feel or saw it around me when I was at home so thought it was what Hollywood and Bollywood made out to be! Love had pain, emotions, attachments, drama, outcome etc…

    Its how you described it be in your blog Johanna and following workshops I have attended with Universal Medicine that I realised Love is more, it has no rules, no boundaries or discriminate – it is limitless, freely available, plentiful and within us all – if you so decide to chose it.

34. I often wonder when people “fall out of love” whether it is that they have always known what love truly is but have agreed to live a lesser version of it and until one party or both cannot live this lie anymore, then there is the honesty to be revealed.

35. A great laundry-list of the lies about love we have fallen for, hook, line and sinker! True love is a state of being, untouched and untainted by anything, it is simply an energy that is our very make-up.

36. In disconnection to ourselves, we live a lie that has been sold to us unambiguous of the fact that the love of God lives within us, and it is simply through our connection that we can reclaim the essence of whom we are.

37. We have lived lies about love and everything in the world reflect that, for if we were to live truly form the heart- life would be so different and a reflection of heaven on earth.

38. “I am deeply inspired to support myself every day to live the Love that I am,” developing a truly loving relationship with yourself is the way to be aware of the love in all others.

39. The moment we play a condition on love it is not love anymore but all that we call on to not live it.

40. The lies we have on earth is the lack of love that is not claimed. The more that claim the meaning of love through Johanna simple examples the more the emotional love will be seen as false.

41. Love has certainly been reinterpreted by us and misrepresented to us time and again, from the pop culture that surrounds us to the ideals and beliefs we take on. How beautiful to find it is actually something else altogether, something unimposing and modest, yet magnificent and grand – and that it lives within us all.

42. We have been sold a lesser form of love even though deep within we knew it wasn’t true – what a powerful reflection we offer others when we live true love on a daily basis.

43. Love is feeling in my body that only expands when I express.

44. We want to be confirmed and we want this to happen in our way. When this happens, we are ‘in love’ with the other person. Yet, if this does not happen we feel we are not loved enough.
    It is fascinating how beliefs around love are a real hurdle to be love and surrender to it.

45. That is still sometimes a difficult one: When I say something and I want the other to get what I am saying, is that loving as I want to interfere in their free will?

46. When Truth is presented to us we know it is the Truth because we recognise it as our natural, innate way of being. However, at times it is challenging to accept and can even resist it because of the lies we have held as ideals and beliefs are so ingrained and our investment in them is so great. What is shared here about Love is a prime example, and foundational one, of this and there are many others such as, family, intelligence, education, religion and the list goes on.

47. We all do have a natural sense of what love is, as it is our innate way of being. Yet through our disconnection to our love, we instead allow ourselves to be guided by pictures and images that always suggest that we are not enough, we need to attain, achieve, or get something else to be complete. Whereas in connection to the vibration of love we know what love is, we know who we are, and as such the equalness we are held in, which is always calling us to be more of who we are as we connect and share our love with others.

    1. To share and then to let the other choose. I completely agree Carola.

48. I bought into love being all about self sacrifice for the good of others and all that goes along with that belief much of which you outlined, I was shocked to realise that what I thought was love and loving, were just a whole heap of lies about love. I am still learning more about true love, feeling it in my body when I connect to that inner part of me. “one that I felt deeply to be true in my body – was that Love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt”

49. “I got to feel the two versions of Love and they are polar opposites.” It is interesting what you say Johanna, as this to me also means that in the way our mind is in control of our lives, the life we are currently living could be the polar opposite to what our true way of living life would be. While hard to imagine it feels true to me as the way our current societies are far from successful and my body knows there is another way to be.

50. Being understanding and considerate of others is a way of living that is readily accessible to us all, but the way the world is heading we are instead living with abuse, dismissiveness, demands and ridicule of one another. We as a society are heading the wrong way, but it only takes one to choose the true path, and from that point on all can change.

51. The fact that hurt is manufactured and not truly occurring is what fascinates me. We have all been sold this idea or lie that our hearts can be broken but in truth it is just the false expectations and beliefs that we layer on top of our hearts that get shattered when people don’t live up to our perceived needs. It takes a long time to fully embrace this understanding but I have experienced a simple exercise at Universal Medicine workshops that prove this to be true; we were asked to connect back to our breath and our bodies and after I did this, I did not feel all the damage and hurt that I thought I might. When I looked around the room, I realized neither did anyone else. When you connect to your hearts, no matter what your back ground or past experiences are, you realise we are all the same heart, all the same amount of love, the heart is untarnished.

52. There is a blog – or hundreds… in this alone Elizabeth. Without having the reflection of another who lives the real deal of love, and buys into (nor needs) none of the falsity we have been fed and promulgated for centuries, if not aeons… we are left bereft, flailing about with perhaps a knowing that ‘there is more’, but not able to access it.
    This was most definitely my own experience. Upon meeting Serge Benhayon in 2001, my life changed and I began to steer my own course back to the truth of Love once again. The changes? Well, they’ve been fundamentally beyond measure. The Love I now live today? Deeply inspiring, awesome, and extending its capacity every single day…

53. To touch once again upon the truth of ones’ own Love, and the Love that we all, indelibly, are, offers a turning point in our lives – a point that if truly acknowledged and honoured, can transform every relationship that we have, inclusive and fundamentally of that with ourselves…
    For in restoring our relationship with Love and the Truth (rather than falsity) of it, our purpose in life irrevocably turns towards the all – quite the contrast to the seeking of roses, chocolates and attention that merely gratifies the self for but a moment…

54. You’re spot on when you write there is a great injustice in the way in which we have been sold a false and very diminished form of love when the truth of it is that Love is magnificent, eternal and absolutely accessible because it is within every one of us equally.

55. The way you describe true love fills my chest with warmth. True love is equal for all and nothing can change it.

56. The false or emotional love is conditional and teaches us to hold back, not express or express in a way that is harmful to ourselves and others. Knowing we are already love and that this is something that we grow within us by self nurturing, honouring what comes up and allowing others to make their own choices changes everything especially the level of health and wellbeing we live everyday.

57. There is an almost automatic switch inside my body that likes to criticise myself when I have made unloving choices, and yet what is there really to criticise when the way back to love is a process? From so many lifetimes of not living the truth of love, every single choice back to love matters and is a surrender. Any critical thoughts come in to delay this process. And yet with more and more choices to be gentle, it is so much more easier to love now. And being aware that I have this automatic switch is a reminder to deepen the love first with myself. Love does not differ whether I accept this love or not, so holding onto not accepting it is a form of recognition to delay in being love, focusing then on what is a lesser state than love when it is self-created to stay less, is a self-fulfilling prophecy of not wanting to evolve. All of this is amazing to expose, as it exposes the resistance to naturally evolve, when evolution is actually simply natural.

58. We can lace a word and what it means to us with a lot of things that are damaging, hindering and crushing of who we truly are, without really seeing what we are choosing but when we have true love in it’s entirety reflected to us is gives us the opportunity to remember or re-connect with that same love that lives within our innermost all the time and to re-imprint what our experience and livingness of love truly is.

59. Johanna thankyou, this is very powerful. One of the big lies about love that still catches me out is doing things for others at the expense of self. The truth is always though felt in my body because what is not truly love places it into a stress.

60. I can relate to thinking that love is ‘nice’ too but this is far from love and often capping of people. There can be an arrogance in this of not seeing that everyone is capable of working through whatever their situation may be and have within them all that is needed to do this, sometimes we think love is rescuing others when in truth it is about holding them in love and all that we know them to be.

61. I definitely subscribed to the ‘love is nice’ expectation and ideal in the past, whereas l’ve come to understand and know that it has nothing to do with it. Love is love, and has many and varied expressions, all of which hold the same vibration of energy, but none of which is a ‘nice’ vibration. Love is so much more than that, it leaves ‘nice’ feeling superficial and false.

62. One of the lies about love you’ve mentioned; ‘Always giving up time, even if it was at expense to self’ is something I am getting more aware of, how I try to not see it but when I am honest to myself I do actually put the other before me and yes it is about treating myself and if I support myself by being tender and loving with myself, this quality is what I reflect and others get to feel true love.

63. Exposing the lies about love, is so important to do and feel in full for ourselves all the false ways we have chosen to see love to be.

64. Relationship with self is what I did not have and so was looking for love outside me, but with the support of Universal Medicine, that love is within us, I started to work on my relationship to self allowing the love from within to come out. I know I am love and it is that love I know connect too.

65. I too have fallen for the lies about love in the past. Sometimes I still trip over and get hurt by the false version of love. From attending many relationship workshops I am able to recognise when I am not being loving and when I receive a false version of love to now being able to not react as often to emotional love but to stay connected to my inner heart and truth. I now understand that love is always forever expansive, all-encompassing and it is for us to reflect and to not hold on to, but for us to share with people, the world and beyond and because love is who we all are.

66. I love how relationships cover all relationships we have, with a partner, friend, work colleagues or even someone we exchange looks or words with in the supermarket they are all relationships. True love is like being a child, who is able to give another a look, a hug, a smile without taking anything on from the other person, but free to be a reflection of their own essence.

67. ‘Lies About Love’, that should be a movie title – but a movie that actually presents all that you’ve shared here and not one that creates even more dramatic twists and turns.

68. Reading your blog Johanna is supporting me to let go of expectations and images of how to be in relationships. I realise if I feel hurt by someone, it is often related to an old hurt that I have not healed. This leads me to not see the situation with clarity or love but through hurts.

69. I grew up with this belief that love would come to me and only through the form of a relationship. God, how my eyes have opened up now. This belief led me to constantly search for love and think it was outside of me. This set up meant that I was prepared to accept anything in a relationship just to get the attention and affection of another. However, when I recognise that I am love and it is about letting this out and sharing it with others I then do not need to be filled from the outside.

    1. I think this is the greatest evil of all the lies we’ve been sold about love – that it is something we can only get from another. In our very core, our essence, we are love, so we need no other to give it to us – we are love.

70. If we honestly delve into our version of love and then if we connect to what love truly is, often it is a shock to feel how far apart the 2 versions are.

71. Our perception of how we think things should be can really interfere with how we receive or interpret events! Love is a word that has been so heavily weighted with images of what it should look like that are actually false and not love at all. Re-connecting with our innermost gives us a marker from which we can begin to discern again what really feels true to us.

    1. So true Fiona. When we are connected to our innermost we can easily discern everything with clarity and truth, therefore almost impossible to feel hurt because we view the world through loving eyes, leaving us free of expectations and images. We are also able to be more understanding and not take things personally.

72. I love re-reading this blog and feeling the truth of how we cannot ever be hurt when we are in connection with our innermost divine essence of Love in its true form and feeling the difference when caught up in the lesser emotional love that tends to rule most of our lives, until exposed for what it is.

73. “Love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt” – this sentence really stood out for me. This makes me realise how holding onto hurt is a choice, and in that choice we are saying no to love while we say we so crave.

    1. The sentence you highlighted Fumiyo is very inspiring. We are either choosing to be love or not. When we are being love we are able to see everything with truth, clarity, openness and understanding without reaction but simply able to hold ourselves and others in love no matter what we receive. It is when we are choosing to not be love that hurts seep into our body and potentially drives us to hurt others too.

74. It is great to expose the lies about love because they do have a hold over us if we don’t. It is very healthy to do so because to live with a idea of what love is when that actually is not love can be making us tired or even ill. I mean that if we think always saying yes is love than we can be running ourselves down so much after a while that we get exhausted or even ill.

75. The beauty about Love is the more you love yourself the more it is irresistible to love others.

76. The love we are sold by the media just keeps us away from the true love we can connect to inside, the love that we are, the love that is always there, albeit covered and obscured by ideals or beliefs. How awesome to come back to true love that holds no hurt, that is pure and absolute truth.

77. What you have shared Johanna is huge, not only has love lost its true meaning but also many other words have been re-interpreted to shake the foundations that we come from, which is love. I feel how understanding what is truth in words is such an important aspect as we evolve together.

78. Thank you Johanna for exposing the lies we have bought into about what love is. So many people live with a version of love that is miles away from the true meaning of love, it is beautiful that many are beginning to live what true love is as this reflects to others what is possible when we live the grandness of love we all naturally are.

79. Thank you Johanna, a very worthy topic given it’s supposed to ‘make the world go round’! Recently it was said to me that ‘Love is an observation’… it does not impose, judge, need or have expectations. This makes sense and again changes the pictures I have held about what love is, and is not.

80. It’s funny how when someone says the word “RELATIONSHIP” we immediately think of one person, a partner, girlfriend, husband, wife, when we are in relationships with everyone, and all our relationships need equal attention to detail, and an equal commitment put into evolving and deepening… Not to mention our relationship with ourselves too, which is of course vitally important.

81. Such an important blog Johanna, we all have ideals and belief around what love is. My greatest learning in loving another is not to go into sympathy, learning and feeling that this is not love but is actually a very unloving way to be with another and myself. By going into sympathy I don’t accept where another is at and stop reflecting all that they need to feel. I don’t offer evolution if I move in this way.

82. It’s amazing how two people can be using the same word love but talking about completely different things or concepts! There are so many different ideals we can buy into and call ‘love’ and it’s great to expose some of those here. With all the mind-trips we can go on about what love is or isn’t to have Serge Benhayon present simple ways that we can reconnect with the universal true love that lives inside us all is something very precious indeed.

83. The ideas we have on what love is don’t allow for true love.

    1. So true Nikki, and if you’d said that to me 15 years ago I would have thought you were a bit kooky. Understanding that the ideas we have about what love is are largely untrue, even though some of the actions we might make in the name of love can look similar, changed everything for me. I now appreciate love as an energetic state of being, and not the act of anything specific other than whatever is expressed in that state.

84. Love is a being not a doing.

85. Thank goodness emotional love is not it! Knowing that there is so much more to love than emotion and what we think we need from others is an amazing step to realising the overflowing richness of true love in our inner hearts. To sell out to an image only disables our innate wisdom in knowing that we are all we need already.

86. I can so relate to your list of past beliefs (lies) about love as I held every single one of them at some time in my life, so no wonder my life was very challenging, to say the least, at times. It has taken a while to really understand what love truly is but finally my past list, is just that, a thing of the past, whereas true love is my present.

87. Thank you Johanna for this very gorgeous presentation about love. It is so true and I also have discovered that love is universal and in that universality love is complete, eternal and all-embracing. This truth is empowering to accept as we realise that love is not only within us all, but in essence it is who we all are. Our only complication is that we choose to resist embracing that love we already are and surrender to oneness of love that we all equally are and are held in. Love is not a doing or an attainment but rather love is a quality of being, one that is our intrinsic and natural way. And so the choice is ours as to the degree of true love we live for ourselves and share in our lives through all our relationships.

88. Throughout our lives we are constantly being fed lies about most things but ‘love’ would have to be at the top of the list. It is quite incredible that despite the fact that each and everyone of us come into the world breathed forth from pure love, within a few short years the polluted and very ‘sticky’ version of love starts to creep in.

89. ‘Love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt.’ How simple and yet we currently have made it very complicated in this world which is filled with emotional love, hurts and needs. To know and feel what love in truth is is asking us to connect to the love that lives within us all equally and to let go of any picture and or expectation we carry.

90. Love is who we are and never ‘who we are not’. Love is never the problem. The problem with ‘love’ is the one we created by greatly distorting the meaning of this word. In this false version we are left to live a lie, forever at the whim of the attachments and needs that come from the love starved human spirit that has separated from the body of love that is our Soul. In this separated state, we can be seduced by the world of images that enter through our thoughts.

    Our Soul is our true self that is connected to deep within our inner-heart in a realm untouched by such pictures. When we understand this, we understand how the misinterpretation of this one word has led to all the unease found in the world today. The true meaning of evil is simply that which is not love and therefore opposes it. Therefore more than any brutal atrocity that humankind has ever witnessed, the misinterpretation of the word ‘love’ is the greatest act of evil for it is what lies behind every wanton act and thus led to all wars between each other and within ourselves. Many wars are started in the ‘name of God’ when in-truth God is love, no matter what religion is followed. By virtue of the equalising and one-unifying nature of the energy of love, we can never fight in its name. However, if we believe in a false version of it then we will continue to live in separation to the true love that we are, and will continue to fight for it and seek it everywhere and anywhere but where it is truly found deep within us all, the Kingdom of God that lives in our inner-heart.

    Love never lies, but we can lie about love.

91. “Allowing fragility, true intimacy and surrendering”- this has been a significant but beautiful learning for me as I have always been quite controlling in my relationships. I am unfolding to the fragility, intimacy and surrendering in my body and allowing the flow of love in and out. This is so healing for me.

92. Pictures are disastrous and crippling to relationships. The relationship workshops presented by Serge Benhayon have supported me tremendously to see and feel what I have put in the way and blocked my relationship with myself and others. All of my reactions with others are because of a picture or expectation I have of what they should be like.

93. It has been a real revelation to me that love is not something that we should seek to obtain – or even attain – in life, but rather something that we are. Living life from this awareness transforms every relationship from one of need to one of sharing and reflecting the truth of who we are. The true impact of this shift in awareness in monumental and to me has the potential to transform humanity.

94. Beautiful Johanna, I particularly like your line… “Love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt” – I recall beginning to learn this too, and freeing myself from the ‘hurts’ of the past, believing myself to have been hurt by another in particular. Discovering that the only person who can hurt me, is me, by the perceptions I choose to hold about what another has ‘done to me’, has been liberating beyond belief.

95. Thank you Johanna for a great sharing, one that I can relate to very well, the lies that we have taken on about love have lead to so much heartache and suffering. When the truth of the matter is we are innately love, we carry the love we are looking for within our inner heart unrecognised and unclaimed, Until Universal Medicine lifts the cover of lies around love and shows us the depth of love residing in our own very being.

96. This is a massive subject for me and one that I still get caught between. The more I feel what true love is, the more I feel how ideals and beliefs around love are so crippling. It’s the battle of the head and the heart/body. The more trust in what our bodies knows, the more truth of what true love is, is felt.

97. Beautiful to re-read your article today Johanna. “Today, I am more able to live in this amazing Love and know that it is there for us all, should we choose it!” It is all a choice – so true.

98. Beautiful to re-read your article today Johanna. “Today, I am more able to live in this amazing Love and know that it is there for us all, should we choose it!” It is all a choice – so true.

99. The Lies about love can be deeply ingrained, but I read the truths you present my whole body says yes, that’s who I am. That is true love in form and action.

100. Johanna you have mentioned here about how in connection to true love within us we can never get hurt. It is so true. When we make love about ourselves and others equally, we hold no investment over others living a certain way or treating us differently. We just accept, appreciate and enjoy life.

101. I had an experience today where I could have choosen to go with a version of love I have believed to be true my whole life, or to go with the warmth and steadiness I felt in my body that totally obliterated the long held version. In the moment I chose the warmth of me and the truth of this love, and to say my day was amazing doesn’t even touch the sides say to how beautiful it was and I was in it.

102. A true relationship with love definitely started with myself and it then moved to others and now I am in relationships with everyone in the most loving way and I am working on bringing true love to all my relationships on every level.

103. I’ve been learning how love has not an ounce of expectation in it. Expectation can only lead to being hurt, to being let down, which in turn leads to judgement, frustration, anger, resentment…..hmmmmm….. no love there. Makes sense to knock out those expectations we have of others and ourselves then doesn’t it!

104. “When I come from my mind’s perception of what Love is or from what I was ‘told’ Love should be, I get tricked into thinking that I get hurt.” I reread this line many times as I feel it is truly wise. I get the sense that I have allowed self created hurts to rule me and in doing so I have chosen to be fooled about the true nature of love. I can see that this has been something I attempted to use to protect me from hurts without realising that I was only setting myself up for more hurts. Knowing that I am love has been a true revelation. How beautiful it is to appreciate the fact that love is my true nature.

105. ‘ Love never leaves us, it is we who chose to leave home’ is a line from one of my blogs. The point is when we ourselves abandon love, the lies about love so easily creep in and stick…..

106. When I live in disregard this actually affects everyone and when I live in love this too affects all those around me, so my responsibility is not just for myself and the loving relationships I develop, it is also to be love in the world. The quality and nature of this love is paramount, for this is what makes the lasting difference in our lives. Thank you Johanna for spelling this out so clearly.

107. There is so much to expose about the misuse of the word Love. So great that we are starting the conversation here! Love is not about need!!! Love just is.

108. Crazy the lies we’ve bought into. How did this happen? How did we remove ourselves so far from all that we know, only to create a life of drama, sadness, unrest, emotional baggage that goes for eons. It’s really quite funny how dramatic we are. All we need is to connect to ourselves and then those around us, and we are instantly in harmony and equality without any need for all the stuff that ultimately drives us crazy.

109. Human life has got love really backwards, well actually, it feels like we have reduced it too and tried to contain its glorious magnitude into a gift or a kiss or an ‘I love you’. All those things are great, but said or delivered without the knowing of what true love is leaves us feeling empty and starving for the truth of what it is, like you say Johanna – ‘Love is universal, it is equal for all, it is a quality and an energy that we naturally are and can hold others in.’

110. Johanna, thank you for sharing the big revelation from the workshop, it sure does melt away the tension of what we think are past hurts. ‘Love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt’.
     Hurts can’t remain as such if we bring understanding and responsibility to them.

111. “Love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt.” This to me means that hurts comes from not living in connection with our inner heart and that this disconnection in itself is already a hurt that is felt throughout our bodies. That to me is why we crave for certain foods or lifestyle behaviours, all in order to not feel the initial and build upon hurts and to numb ourselves from this hurts that in truth all can be simply dissolved if we choose to live from our inner heart again, a way of living that we have lived before but have consciously forgotten about.

112. I suppose the biggest lie about love is that we need to find it from another and that we don’t have it until then. We always have love, within us, eternally. When we have this deep love for ourselves there is no way we would fall for less or allow abuse. We are learning about love all the time and this changes as we grow. Allowing our lives to evolve with love is beautiful.

113. The expectations and ideals we have about what love can give us and what love is are extremely prevalent in our modern society. If we studied the word love in depth through school and found out what it truly means, we would have very different lives. As this is not how our education system is currently set up, all we can do is simply continue to expose the lies and begin to live love in all we do, naturally inspiring others along the way.

114. It is deeply freeing and equally beautiful to get to a place where you can expose the ideals and beliefs you hold around love and hurt, and return to what you know and feel to be true… connecting to and expressing love without fear of consequence… to reignite and then embrace this quality in another.

115. Johanna, that is a huge revelation that our inner-heart is pure love and it can never get hurt. This allowed me to look at my hurts from a totally knew perspective. The hurt felt very deep, but was was not me or the essence of me and it always took some reaction or idealisation to hold on to the hurt. This is a great step up in responsibility and empowerment if truly understood.

116. I can see I have been attached to a false version of love for a long time, believing that love from another would be my saviour.

     Serge Benhayon allowed me to feel that my own love is what sets me free and it is my own love for myself that allows me to truly love others.

     1. Beautiful Leonne! Love does indeed set us free….

     2. So true Leonne, I was totally caught up in a false love but since attending the presentations by Serge Benhayon I am slowly embodying true love!

117. Love is in every cell of our being when we allow it to be, we are love naturally so. Claiming this love and expressing it in full all the time is an art and a science. This is what Serge Benhayon presents and offers us in his presentations – the what and how of love and of true love. Thank you for reminding us of the nature of true love.

118. I know that too Johanna, to fall for the lies of love, and now after re-discovering true love through the courses and workshops presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I can see the falseness of this. The lies of love are conditional and imposing on one another while true love is about equality and freedom of choice, understanding and allowing and always about evolution, to grow in life and in that to return to who we truly are and belong to, to the grander whole that is held by the love we are all part of and are coming from.

119. Love is a constant with us all but we may choose to not express this in full. When not expressed in full we go into reactions because we are needing another person or thing to fill the gap which we are choosing to not fill and when they don’t we react in a certain way. This makes so much sense.

120. Thank you Johanna for reminding me of the detail of what love is and what it is not. It came across as much more than words, but rather expression of care, integrity and discernment. Of course we all want love in our lives but without this discernment we lead ourselves down some pretty strange paths in the name of love. So the detail you go into it was very worth revisiting for me.

121. Beautiful to feel the difference in your definitions of love. The feeling of how we are in these ways of being are poles apart. There is an infinite love that we all can live in and from and it is the expression of this that literally expands our Universe.

     1. I agree Elaine, infinite love is available to us all and all we need to do is be open to this truth.

122. “Love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt.” Understanding the difference between emotional love and true love changes everything. I am learning to live the love that I am.

123. I’ve had heaps of ideas about love in the past which are all slowly being exposed – for me particularly, a couple of these were…. Love meant being a ‘good’ mother, wife, business partner, friend etc and love meant putting up with behaviours and relationships that were often less than loving (ie to show that I was commited to love). I’ve realised that all of these notions of love rely on a need or expectation and so it’s very much about doing something to please or get something from someone else. I’m now re-learning that true love has no need or expectation at all & is definitely not imposing or controlling… True love holds everyone equal in essence and is all about the responsibility of being ourselves and who we really are.

124. Thank you Johanna. Reading your list of lies of what love is made me realise the lies about love I held still. Especially the being nice, I often see being nice as being loving but it is definitely not the same. If I am doing something just to please another even if it doesn’t support me as well, this cannot be love! Such a freedom to know this.

125. This is so great to read Johanna, it frees all the believes taken on about love, and shows us the true way it is. It is in everything we do with everyone, love in truth is not about what we do for others, but how we are with ourselves and with others.

126. It is always amazing to expose the lies. The lies about love have been going on for far too long and like you shared the more people become aware of these lies the more we are able to rest them and start living with true love and harmony.

127. Great comment Emily, it reminded me of my years of trying to find someone to love me and for me to love back. You are so right in expressing where love truly resides, all around us and inside all of us. This is who we are. Hence the idea of finding love elsewhere I realise was such a huge distraction.

128. Reading your blog again reminded me of the illusions of love I lived with in the past. I held all the same expectations on your list and since realising what true love really means I have also started to let go of so many expectations and false beliefs I held around expressing love and what it means. Love is so simple yet I was complicating it without realising. Now, I feel like I am learning to have a new relationship with love, having lost its true meaning for so long, I am taking steps towards living it in full.

129. Johanna the joy in your blog is infectious I am deeply inspired.

130. Your 2 lists totally hit the nail on the head. When I was reading the first list again I realised that with the exception of sex, it is exactly what we were taught that love was all about at school. This was taught over and over and the greatest friend was someone who would give you the shirt off his back. These lies set us up to never be happy or joyful in relationships and to always be exhausting ourselves while thinking we are truly being loving. It is also a path to illness and disease to so disregard yourself in favour of everyone else. This was trumpeted as great in the religion I was in and then illness was a way to suffer so that you and loved ones went to heaven. They had it all covered yet to truly love it has to be in strong regard for your precious self first and that radiates out to strong, unjudgemental love for others.

131. I have, in the past, been with women who were unhappy with their partners because they were not living up to the women’s notion of romance and love. They were deeply unhappy with this, but when questioned further, had never told the men what there was to live up to. We have all been set up to think that there is a way to be romanced that will show true love. What a path to unhappiness this is. Most of these women just gave up and made a life within their married life of going out with the girls and drinking, to fill that space that love should have filled.
     It is revolutionary to realise that this power to fill this space does not lie with a romantic partner. We are made of love, love is where we come from. If we are missing love it is because we are missing ourselves. It is a absolute freedom to realise that the power lies with ourselves. We can bring this amazing love into our lives and inspire others.

132. I used to think loving myself was about rewarding myself with treats, comforting myself, numbing and protecting myself from what I didn’t want to see/feel. So not only did I fall for the lie about love, but there was a massive misunderstanding about self as well.

     1. I know exactly what you mean Fumiyo about loving yourself being associated with rewarding yourself with treats, when I feel awesome or really pleased with how life is going I still have a slight tendency to go to food as a reward to myself rather then knowing there is no better way to reward myself then appreciating all I am and all I bring.

133. After reading this awesome blog I am reminded of how I used to live my life with this lesser and untrue version of love. Imagine how many people go through life believing these lies about love and always feeling miserable and empty. Having these lies exposed has been the most empowering and beautiful experience thanks to the true love and support offered by Universal Medicine and all of its practitioners.

134. It is huge to let go of the minds hold on love and surrender to the heart and inner heart. ‘This love is so grand, I am forever unfolding, developing and deepening… allowing the Love that lives within me to be ‘ How simple in truth and a reminder to keep it that way whatever the mind wants us to think.

135. “When I come from my mind’s perception of what Love is or from what I was ‘told’ Love should be, I get tricked into thinking that I get hurt” – this really stood out for me. This explains so well how ‘love’ for me ended up very little and kept closing down on me, putting me on an endless search for love outside. What is amazing is even though we come to realise the lies about love and see what we previously thought was love was not it and let them go, it does not make love exclusive with a very narrow definition – it somehow holds and carries all.

136. A great sharing Johanna – thank you. It’s amazing what we’ve accepted under the guise of it being love/ing.

137. Beautifully expressed Emily… I’ve found when we stop the quest of trying to look for love outside of ourselves and simply connect to the fact that true love can only be found within, – that we begin to feel the true expansiveness, joy and universality of love, both in our relationship with ourselves and with others.

     1. Well said Angela – it has to start with the love found first and foremost within ourselves and can never come from the outside in.

138. Coming to understand that we have always been pure love at our core has been a big revelation for me. There is a lot of freedom in knowing that Love is naturally present in us all and not something that only a few deserve or have earned. Bringing love into our daily relationships, not just with ourselves but through an openness with others, is a world changer.

139. Well said Marion ‘how could I let love in if I did not self love first’ – Self love is just the first step to then loving others. The value we hold for ourselves will be felt by others and expanded to them. It is like other areas in life; if a boss has a product that is truly serving and believes this is so, then everyone who works for him and sells this will see this and feel the same. If a mother feels her cooking is nourishing, she will serve it to her family with this knowing, and the nutrition will be felt by all who eat it.
     So we have many examples of trusting in something ourselves first and then expanding it out to the world, and yet we struggle with the simple concept of self worth. Very interesting indeed.

140. That is inspirational in what it shares for all of us to be able to move forward in our lives.

141. I love what you shared here. We do indeed know love, we knew it from young and there was nothing hard or pushy about it. It enveloped us and we were it all at the same time.

142. ‘This love is so grand,’ I so totally agree, the version of ‘love’ we are sold though movies and books and grow up believing is true, is so far away from the amazing love inside us.

143. Thank you Johanna, for so beautifully sharing what love truly is, and the qualities that are expressed from living the love we are.

144. Beautiful blog Johanna. We have all lived and told ourselves many lies about love which has undoubtedly resulted in the fact that we have thought about love in a back to front way and that it is something we have to search for and reach for outside of ourselves. In truth love is something that comes from within and as we develop and deepen our relationship with ourselves the natural consequence is that we proportionally open ourselves to developing and deepening our relationships with all others.

145. Johanna, your first list could easily be titled, Great ways to get hurt and disappointed. What a set up we have allowed. The second list feels so true and solid. I know which one I will be working from from now on.

146. This is beautiful, all that love is is just a quality of being, from which we are super caring, tender and delicate. There is no need in true love, there is only equalness with everyone.

147. I love what you have expressed here Johanna, you have succinctly and simply set out what love truly is, and what it is not.
     A great guide and inspiration for us all, thank you.

148. I can relate to having attended a relationship workshop thinking that it would be about how I interact with others, but in actually fact is was about the relationship we have with ourselves first and then others. This makes perfect sense to me, especially as for years I tried to make relationships work by being nice, good, accommodating, holding back, but it’s clear now that none of that works and will never work, and just as your list has shown Johanna there is a huge difference with regards to the idea of love and True Love.

149. Johanna I could feel the difference just by reading your two lists. The first, it has conditions and is imposing on oneself and another, compared to the true expression of the later one, which feels to have no expectations or boundaries on how much we give and when.

150. “And if we are all holding misinterpretations and expectations of what Love is, then our relationships are being affected greatly, because one person’s expectation rarely fits in with another’s. No wonder there is often a mismatch!” This is true, Joanna, and this mismatch which we allow because of our ideals and beliefs causes hurts, conflicts and not-met-expectations.
     On the other hand when we know what Love is-as you show in your blog- there is only acceptance, adoration, understanding and support.

151. It’s true Johanna. Universal Medicine’s couples relationship workshops are all about our relationship with ourselves, for it is actually the quality of that relationship that is the foundation to what we can build in all our relationships with everything and everyone around us.

152. What love is and what it is not – it’s all so obvious when I am connected because I know it to be true with every cell in my body.

153. It is the most amazing, beautiful thing ever to be inspired by another (Serge Benhayon and the many workshops/modalities offered to us all) which allows us (if we choose) to gently unfold and continue on our path of developing that deep forever expanding ‘true love’ – just waiting to be tapped into and expressed. As with your sharing Johanna truly inspiring thank you.

154. Yes, very sobering realisation isnt it hvmorden, “I had no one to blame anymore”, so the responsibility comes directly back to me. Amazing changes happen when this truth is known.

     1. Absolutely Jeanette – and what a support to know so many people who are also taking responsibility around me. Our reflections can be so powerful and it is just amazing the difference in our lives when we start taking responsibility.

155. The two lists you’ve set out really expose the stark differences in quality between so-called love and pure, true love. What is a surprise is that the heart can never actually get hurt. This fact is so contrary to our widely held beliefs and expectations, reinforced down the centuries as one of the possible by-products or outcomes of romantic or emotional love. Really liked your explanation of true love – universal, equal for all, a quality and an energy that we naturally are and can hold others in. I’ll choose this over the prevailing view any day.

156. So beautifully expressed Johanna, the 2 loves you describe are polar opposites, why we get sold a lie and choose emotional love when true love is grand and absolute in every way. I know which love I want to connect to and live everyday.

157. Beautiful Johanna – knowing that our hearts can never actually get hurt, that just blows the lid off so much of what we’ve been fed about broken hearts and if we lose ‘the one’ there won’t be ‘another one’ so many lies around love. Choosing to connect to our own innate love spreads it far and wide as it inspires others to connect to their love just as you are inspiring me.

158. A beautiful sharing Johanna, I bought into the lies that self sacrifice was all about love, and gave my self away the majority of my life, not knowing that I am love and that I hold this love deep within. I am to be loved by me first and only then, can I truly love all others equally.

159. Thank you for your gorgeous sharing Johanna. We really can’t hold back anymore when we know and live from the love inside us. Without perfection letting go of the old layers that had us held in fear of getting hurt is one of our biggest responsibilities.

     1. What you share is so true Shelly and is a realisation we all have to make.

160. I would add to this hvmorden “I was deeply hurt by the illusion I thought love to be” that I was deeply hurt that my expectations about how I needed love to be were tart met, but most of all, I was deeply hurt by the illusion that another would bring, or was responsible for bringing, me love when all along the only person that could bring me love…. was ME! What a life changer when I finally exposed ‘that’ illusion!

     1. I have fallen for this illusion of love too, hook line and sinker. Now that I have stepped away from this illusion it feels empowering, inspiring and so freeing. My relationships have blossomed since choosing to no longer play this game of seeking love outside of myself but by connecting to it from within and appreciating that love is definitely all around me when I connect to it with an open heart.

161. A very powerful comment sjmatsonuk – Loving ourselves is something we should not be ashamed of but rather claim in full. What do we have to loose, what are we waiting for? Isn’t it time this was the new normal instead of being a victim of life? Yes it is time to declare what is truly us.

     1. I so agree, we cannot love another more that we love ourselves, we therefore cannot give another what we don’t give ourselves mainly because we don’t know what we don’t know! I found this when I started introducing this tenderness to myself I found I wanted to share that with my children. To my horror I found that what I called tenderness before was not very tender at all! Simple things like how I brushed their hair, how I lay a blanket on them or tucked them in and how I made dinner changed completely. I would say I was rough and less thoughtful about how that felt for the other person but I had no idea of any different. We must love ourselves so we know how to love others and also what love feels like to receive from another, otherwise we will accept a version of love that is physically and emotionally closer to abuse than love without knowing that it isn’t normal.

162. Serge Benhayon’s ability to unravel, untangle and simplify all the complexities we make life about is amazing. His Relationships workshops are a never-ending source of ‘aha’ moments, and wisdom so practical, real and true.

     1. Life today is so intense, overwhelming and complex it is an absolute breath of fresh air to attend a presentation by Universal Medicine to just bring you back to basics and re-mind you to value what is true.

163. So well said Hvmorden. When we realise that we cannot blame anyone, we lose the victim, and our lives can truly change

164. Love in its true expression is the only way forward as the bastardised definitions of love only cause harm

165. This is beautiful Johanna, true love is in everything we do.

166. “Love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt.” A beautiful revelation and an invitation to open up to true love.

     1. I connected with this as well Mary. Such a learning.

     2. I agree Mary and by opening up our heart to receiving true love is amazing, this can start when we are willing to let go of the illusions of love first. As these illusions cloud and even poison our clarity and ability to embody true love.

167. An enormous revelation Johanna ‘that the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt’. It brings the whole notion of love back to an even footing, one where we can all experience the very real connection to it if this is what we choose for ourselves.

168. This is exquisite Johanna. I love your blog. I too have come to realise what I thought was love matches your list of past beliefs about love. I was choosing to do all of those things thinking I was being loving. It was completely oppose to what true love is. I was willingly choosing to fall for that way of expressing, which I now can clearly feel was extremely harmful and sad. Universal Medicine has helped me to open my eyes to truly see with clarity and discern for myself what truth is and what is not. I have had many amazing realisations of what I have accepted as truth was actually not the true truth. This has been empowering and extremely loving. It is amazing to accept and to allow the lies that I have brought and accepted to be exposed and to allow the healing to begin. The more I am honest about what I have chosen to align to that was false and willing to expose them and let them go, I am then more open to evolve. Thank You Johanna!

169. Lovely to read this again today. It supports us to look at the love we are living, a moment of honest reflection and an opportunity to deepen that love. Thank you Johanna.

170. When you think about it, it’s extraordinary that we allow the mind to override what we are feeling so strongly in our bodies to engage with others in ways that are harmful to us when we really do know that true deep love that is within.

171. I loved your glimpse into the immenseness of what love truly is. It was really beautiful to read and be reminded that it is not an ideal but something that lives within, accessible through a simple choice to just connect.

172. Thanks for exposing many of the lies surrounding love, and for reminding us that love is a natural way of being that comes from the heart to form the foundation of our everyday livingness.

173. Johanna, what you have shared is totally gorgeous and revealing at the same time. I can feel the ideals and beliefs about love and the absolute difference when love comes from honesty and truth.

174. “Allowing people close to me to get away with treating me, at times, without care.” That’s the kicker and for me seems to highlight the level of care we are willing to give ourselves. Thank you for sharing what you now know love to be.. It’s seems equal, fair and simple.. Considering everyone and much larger then what most people see love to be.

175. I love how you mention that our true heart, our inner heart, is pure. I remember feeling very confirmed when it was talked about at a course that we don’t have broken hearts but we do have broken minds. It is very freeing to know that if you do have something that hurts and upsets you that you can get to the bottom of it and release it by accepting the strength we have in our full responsability and understanding that others don’t truly hurt us ……we hurt ourselves through choices made that are not reflective of our true self or a reaction that we have had to something. You can heal anything whenever you are ready to, it’s not about the other person or what mainstream life says about love etc. Looking forward to the next relationship workshop.

176. Gorgeous blog Johanna. When I read the list of lies about love I was able to feel a sneaky stronghold a few of these have on me even now. It is so wonderful to connect to the truth of love. I can feel I am love and that this love is never diminished. I may hide love under layers of hurt and protection but it is always there patiently waiting to be expressed.

177. Love is an emanation, complete within itself, expansive, warm, fiery, still, and above all – natural.

178. Yes the most truest form of love is the love I can feel in my heart for myself and anyone else, this love is not defined by any action or doing because it is a holding.

179. There are so many lies about love that the ‘love’ we have come to accept is a lie in itself. Love a living stillness that lies within.

180. yes so many misconceptions about true love. I certainly got caught up in the many lies/beliefs tied to what love was thought to be. As you express so beautifully ” I am LOVE and I feel the purity of true love when I am connected to my heart”. Thank you Johanna for this awesome sharing.

     1. I love the part you’ve highlighted too Marion. This entire blog is just GOLD. I love every part of it, it is extremely powerful, inspiring and revealing. This is a blog I can read again and again.

181. Johanna I love your sharing . I couldn’t agree more with you when you say that “I am forever unfolding developing and deepening” Thank you for a wonderful informative sharing.

182. Your list of what love was, I can tick all the boxes and say yes, been there done that…in the past. As you have said there is no limits or boundaries to Love in its true form’

183. Love for me is something that I observe, not something that I see, do or measure.

184. It is great what you share, love is not about expectations. Because we are everything already.

185. Love has been a verb for me for a very long time, something you have to do for another. Love was always in relation to another person and never in relation to myself. I am learning and feeling now that love is, that I am love and that it has nothing to do with needs and expectations. That’s quite a turnaround I can tell you and at times quite a challenge to let go off.

186. It is so easy in this world to fall for the false interpretation of what love really is – nearly the whole world is living it. So I really much appreciate your lovely blog to expose all these lies about love . . .

187. True love does not need anything and this exposes everything we have been led to believe love is for being nothing more then an exchange of favours and ‘fillers’ of the emptiness we are protecting from being exposed. It is a perfect arrangement that leaves us forever searching outside of ourselves for something we innately already are.

188. How absolutely beautifully put Johanna, we carry so many ideas, beliefs and ideals about what love is, all from our heads and minds.
     We remember what love is from when we were children, and feel it in our bodies and hearts.

189. Like water flowing down a river, so do we flow back to love. Final destination is set. Unavoidable. When sometimes I get stressed by ‘how can I be love?’ I remember the pull towards love, like water is pulled towards the ocean and trust that being love is play and fun and light like water falling down a water fall . How majestic and magical.

     1. I love this felixschumacher8. It reminds me I do not have to try when it is time to love… and it is always time to love 🙂

190. An awesome declaration Johanna thank you, in sharing it I too can feel the love you are, and appreciate again that I can do that as I am that too.

191. Love only has meaning and true power when it is being lived. Thank you Johanna

192. I must admit you are right Johanna, there is a lot of lies about love.
     And you are spot on with the revelation “love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt.” I used to buy into the false self-sacrificing impostor of love and “I get tricked into thinking that I get hurt.” Now I have come to realize that holding back my love which I thought was protecting me from being hurt does 2 things. (1) It is no protection at all, I still feel raw exposed and weak. (2) It hurts like hell, it hurts others around me, and it hurts me to the core because all I want is to love, and to be loved. Love is courageous brave and uplifting.

193. Love is ‘Supportive, nourishing and TRUE’
     Thank you Johanna for knowing true love and sharing this with all.✨✨

194. Thank you Johanna for reflecting the quality of true love and that the truth of the love we are is in all of our hearts, not in our minds.

195. This turns most people’s understanding of Love on its head. Love is actually a way of living, a way of life and in my experience starts first with how much we choose to Be Love in all that we do. It is very powerful to always be thinking and being True Love.

     1. This is such a great point Joshua. Your comment makes me question what on earth I am choosing if I am not choosing to live with love.

196. I love the relationship courses- they present something very different to what’s out there usually. You’ve made a great point here Johanna- ‘if we are all holding misinterpretations and expectations of what Love is, then our relationships are being affected greatly, because one person’s expectation rarely fits in with another’s. No wonder there is often a mismatch!’ and no wonder most relationships have a lot of fights- cause most of us are living from pictures of what love is meant to be like and not actually making the relationship about love.

197. A beautifully shared blog with us all Johanna – One that I could relate to big time and I feel sure many others could too. Your first example list of what you thought love was about rang so many bells for me. ‘Meeting expectations’ not only for what I thought others expected from me but most of all the high expectation I had put upon myself. Another layer to try and dull the love that was there inside all the time just waiting to truly shine.

198. There is so much that we except in our lives that is very far from love. What you have shared is a great reminder of what our ideals and beliefs and perceptions of love can be and how they get in the way of true love, that bringing love to ourselves first is key. Thank you.

199. Hi Johanna, I too have fallen for most of these misconceptions about love, it’s no wonder that ‘love’ (ie needs and expectations) can be blamed for so much pain and suffering! A great reminder that our love is in our heart, untouched and is not able to be diminished or ‘hurt’.

200. Thank you Johanna for revealing all these lies about love. Love has to be one of the most harmfully misinterpreted words. Unimedpedia which is dedicated to bringing truth back to words defines true love here: http://www.unimedliving.com/unimedpedia/word-index/unimedpedia-love.html and also provide a couple of GREAT free audios about love!

201. Hi Johanna, there was one sentence which really stood out for me and that was’ I get tricked into thinking that I get hurt.’ This was such a wow of course how we allow the ideals and beliefs to fool us into thinking love is one thing when it isn’t at all. Thank you for this truly revealing blog.

     1. This line also stuck with me Judy. At some point I have chosen to believe that love can feel hurt or that to expect something to occur outside of me is normal to do, so much so that until now I never even considered – what if expecations are harming us? It sounds like a obvious question as we know what happens when expecations are not met – there is reaction, hurt and much harm. But now it’s got me wondering, if holding expectations brings the harms I have experienced, then why have I never questioned them or thought “This isn’t normal”? What do we gain from creating, holding onto or adopting expectations? About love or about anything in life.

202. Johanna, we have all bought into a lesser version of what love is, which isn’t love at all. And we all loose and end up getting hurt and hurting others in the process. And then we blame love and we demand others be our version of love before we open up and be love ourselves. It’s such a set-up a clever one (Or so we can think), but it’s all based on a false love and it’s not necessary. As Johanna shares here love, the real, true kind is very different, it doesn’t demand, it is open, gracious, allowing and it forever reflects we are love, this is us, our true nature and it’s never tarnished, always there ready and waiting to be expressed – our job, to live it to the best of our abilities.

203. “Love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt.” To know and feel this is huge, our whole world seems to be turning around hurts and avoiding these hurts, how ridiculous. We can live love everyday!

     1. So true- it is actually ridiculous. All this protection is feeding an illusion.

204. Hear hear Carmel, good comment, short and sweet, I love that!

205. Hi Johanna, is love the most misinterpreted word in the english language? or is it the word with the most different meanings? or is that everyone in the world has a different definition for what the word love means to them?

     Whatever it is , it’s amazing that Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have defined the true meaning of love. Thanks for your blog.

206. There are so many lies about love that the ‘love’ we have come to accept is a lie in itself. Thank you for re-defining true love as opposed to the lies.

     1. Yes Kylie I agree. Because of all the lies I ones decide to not love again. Since I met Serge Benhayon I know again what true love is. It is wunderbar that Johanna wrote about “love” in her exposing blog.

     2. Totally agree Kylie. Today’s version of love is absolutely untrue and experts are trying to get their head around how to control the massive violence caused by the lie of romantic and emotional love, but never even consider to question the concept of love we live today as a reality. It is so important to re-define true love to counter those lies and show that there is another way. Very beautiful Johanna, thank you!

207. The lies about love have to be exposed since they carry the seeds for all evil that is around in our societies. While true love is actually that simple, it just is, the false love is loaded with all kind of conditions that hold us all from truly connecting to each other. If we can truly connect to each other, in a connection from love, we will get an understanding of one another which will bring us closer together. Not connecting and trying to impose on one another instead will enforce separation and misunderstanding, the cause of all the misery we currently experience in our societies.

     1. The more I think about it you are right nvanhaastrecht the lies about love are not some innocent mistake, you have more accurately nominated them “seeds for all evil that is around in our societies” these strong words reveal the wolf in our communities causing destruction, using the word love as sheep’s clothing and fooling everyone that has forsaken God’s very real love.

     2. So well said nvanhaastrecht – there is no mistake – love has been purposefully bastardised and each time we buy into a lie about love we feed this bastardisation.

     3. True love just is, false love is loaded with conditions – yes, and we are most familiar with the latter so we are suspicious of the former.

208. A beautiful reflection about love and what it is to your understanding. You are sharing a precious observation – that love is a holding quality that doesn’t judge, want or invests. It is the pure truth of us all being one and treating us just as preciously as we would treat a newborn, tender and lovingly, clear and aware.

     1. Absolutely true and beautifully expressed christinahecke.

209. Thanks Johanna for sharing your account on what ideals you held about Love and what you now know Love to be. I too once thought love to be all about sacrifice and making things work and looking after the other person and all of what I now call ‘icky stuff’ – the stuff that has no truth to it and actually makes my skin crawl if I try to enter into it now! Love is truth, honouring ourselves, accepting where another is at, being present and patient, feeling our own delicateness and preciousness, feeling another’s delicateness and preciousness and holding them in that –​ no matter what they may choose for themselves. ​ This I choose to live each day.

210. Love this Johanna, ‘Love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt’ – very exposing. It astonishes me how fooled I have been my whole life, thinking I ‘knew’ myself, but I’ve been so far away from who I truly am, that could not have been the case, until now.

211. How wonderful to have the support and understanding from Universal Medicine in presenting the truth about relationships and love.

212. That is awesome to know that true love can never actually hurt ‘Love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt’ I have also felt this within my body, that in order for me to get hurt I had to be far away from the love that I truly am with no or little self-care or self-love.

     1. I agree Vicky. Love is about being who you are (which is love) and then expressing from who you are (which is love).

        1. Brilliant said Vicky and Christoph. Love is everywhere.

213. When you put the lies we have been sold about love like that, direct and to the point, how ridiculous are they?!

214. This is very beautiful Johanna, thank you. There are many versions of Love out there and many people do get caught up in them resulting in feeling emotional. To be able to remove these emotions certainly feels very liberating. Then we can start feeling what true Love is.

215. I find it interesting how so many people can have different expectations about love…What they should and should not be doing, who they should give their love to and what love means. The truth about love however, is something everyone would be able to agree on and feel the same way about it. What you now know true love to be seems along those lines Johanna.

216. I love how you say love can’t get hurt. Isn’t that one of the greatest lies about love that we fall for. We think that when we fall in love we have love but then when a relationship ends we fall out of love and are heartbroken. But this is just something we do and think how it works, when all the while love just is never falling in or out of something.

217. I love your definition of love. How it varies from the needy/trading agreement we were sold was love. Children know it innately.

218. “Love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt”
     So inspiring to read Johanna, thank you
     Yes we are forever unfolding, developing and connecting to the love that we are, what a divine gift

219. Johanna I really love what you have shared about love. Thank you

220. No more lies…only the love that I have always known and as Austin Powers would say ‘oh yeah baby!’.

221. So True Johanna! Love isn’t having ideals or expectations of others to give love to you or expecting that we need to provide for others, it is simply a connnection within, that we then share with another and if they choose to be love as well in that moment than we have ‘making love’. It is really beautiful for this to be unfolding and be developing in our lives. I find I have a deep knowing of what is love and what is not and that communication is always happening within myself. The best part is just enjoying naturally loving moments when nothing was trying to be achieved but simply there was loving expression.

222. I love how you say that love can be lived every day. Love is always treated as this special thing between two people and like the maximum you can achieve in life, but it is actually a very casual and daily thing, our foundation of all life and our true origins. That’s so amazing it is massive and all that we are and at the same time a very simple and daily expression.

223. I have the same experience as you Johanna. I used to think love was about giving and taking, sacrifice, recognition and sex. The same goes for intimacy, another beautiful word that has been bastardised but that is such a part of the expression of true love and not limited either in tis true form. I now know much more what love is, but i can feel that true love is so enormous that i have only uncovered the surfice of it. And yet this is already a 1000 times more then the old belief and ideal about love.

224. A beautiful article Johanna. I remember how painful the emotional style of ‘love’ was and began to wonder “Is this really love, when I actually feel so miserable and so not me?” It doesn’t make sense that this could be love and that it’s because it’s not. No wonder we are all so miserable, waiting for this thing called love, when it’s there all the time, waiting for us.

     1. So true Jennifer; the love that we have been sold is not love at all but just a bundle of emotions, often very painful. “No wonder we are all so miserable, waiting for this thing called love, when it’s there all the time, waiting for us”. I am so glad that it (love) has waited patiently for me to figure this out!

225. So many lies about Love – but we choose to fall for them – meaning that we know the truth deep down inside and yet decide that it is not the way. Love is within us all – we deserve it – absolutely.

226. So heavily ingrained is emotional love, that without the awareness Universal Medicine has brought me around the Love topic, my investment in the idea of needing to be in a romantic relationship that enables love would still be a huge goal for me. Whilst there is nothing wrong with a romantic relationship, the very foundation of it today, is for me, very different to what I thought was true in the past.

227. Johanna, beautiful blog that shows what happens when we allow ourselves to believe love is emotions. We miss the glory of what love truly is.

     1. We miss out on a lot! And the main thing that I released I was missing out on when I was getting caught up in the emotional side of love is the connecting with my self. I was missing out on having one of the most beautiful relationships ever with the person who always looks at me when I brush my teeth, put my makeup on and brush my hair. If you didn’t figure it out the person I can have the most beautiful relationship with is ME.

228. Johanna, you have nailed it for me with your words ‘… Love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt.’. This provides me with a simple way to very quickly pull myself up if I am getting caught up in old ideals and beliefs and to remind myself about the true meaning of love. Thank you.

229. Thank you Joanna for sharing the true nature of love, for we are bombarded from every angle with a false love that is very emotional and has plenty of hooks to enthrall us.

230. Joanna, “treating myself and another with tenderness, preciousness and a deep level of care” encompasses everything that true love is about. Thank you.

231. I feel the key is to love and care for ourselves deeply, when I care for me I am so much more loving than I could possibly be if I am disregarding myself. It allows for all the different expressions of love that there are, as I have learnt that love isn’t mushy or romantic but it is about being true and speaking up when something isn’t right, as much as it is about a deep care for all.

232. I am inspired by your blog Johanna to every day continue to build more true love in my body and life. Thank you.

233. Thank you for sharing your experience of love and connection to love Johanna. In your words I can feel the power and revelation in the presentation you attended. I am exploring love and trying to consistently connect to the love within me.

234. Thank you Johanna, just like you, the love that has been shared by Serge Benhayon has brought many monumental changes in my life.

235. I wasn’t even really aware that my expectations around love were so enormous and as to loving myself that was not even a consideration until I came to feel the quality of true love which Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine present. I love what you have written Johanna and what you feel true love is.

236. Hello Johanna I also had misconceptions about what the meaning of love was before coming to Universal Medicine presentations and thank you for nominating what true love is.

     1. I thought I new what love is but I wasn’t really sure if I had got close to feeling it or not and based on feedback from partners I didn’t think I was any good at it. It is a revelation to discover that love comes from within our inner heart and is the energy of God.

237. Thank you Johanna for your sharing, to know and feel what is love and what is not love, is to be aware of who and what we are.

238. I too used to hold onto all those ideals and beliefs about what love was, with a deep knowingness that that was not it, thanks to Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon I have now learnt to honour what true love is and how it feels in my body and live it everyday to the best of my ability.

239. ‘And if we are all holding misinterpretations and expectations of what Love is, then our relationships are being affected greatly, because one person’s expectation rarely fits in with another’s. No wonder there is often a mismatch!’
     This is so true, there are so many ideas and interpretations of what love is and everybody picks their own version of it which piles up to an enormous amount of expectations and demands but nobody can keep track of who’s is who’s. So very messy and complicated. Meanwhile love just is and holds us in love as it is love no matter what.

240. Isn’t it amazing that, as you state, love is something that we all are and deserve. We are all deserving of love. There is so much that is telling us that we don’t deserve love, that we should always put others first, not to be selfish and it is perfectly okay to suffer, to sacrifice and to be hard on ourselves. Character-building is a term often used as an excuse to deny love, the luck of the draw, you’ve made your bed so now you must lie in it. There are so many ingrained beliefs taught to us that justify the denial of love.

241. Beautiful post Johanna, you highlight here so well between the 2 loves – emotional love and true love, and just in reading your descriptions of True Love and its quality, it feels completely different to the ‘pull’, antagonism or bartering felt in the descriptions you share in regards the ‘other love’ – the emotional one we so often fall for, but yet deep down yearn for the original version.

242. I have learnt and felt so much about what love is and isn’t through the presentations from Serge Benhayon and his family. I can feel love in my body- it is without expectation, neediness, guilt and comparison – I now have a greater awareness of these things in my body if they are present. I feel my relationship with love is in its’ infancy and is slowly expanding as I connect more intimately with myself. Johanna your blog was very affirming for me.

243. I think we could compile a whole book about the lies about love. This blog is such a great start!

244. It’s amazing to me that not in any of my past spiritual teachings did anyone explain that we come from love, and that we are love, innately so. Until Universal Medicine, who not only explained this, but were actually able to give me the tools to get back to living love, in a very practical way. There is no doubt in my mind that “The Way of the Livingness” is the key to deeply living this love in our lives, every day in every way.

245. I love your blog Johanna, I know I too fell for this illusion of love, but thanks to Serge Benhayon I also now experience the truth and beauty of real love everyday.

246. This is a beautiful article that allowed me to feel that when we hold on to love being a certain way this actually holds us away from feeling the true love that may in fact be there. wow.

247. Thank you Johanna. I too had all those beliefs about what love is, Serge Benhayon has shown me something different , he lives and reflects love , love is now a very different experience as I learn to live the love I am more and more.

248. As I read your beautiful blog Johanna, I can feel the love you speak of coming alive in my body. We never forget and always are that love and sometimes if we are not aware of it being there, it takes only a moment for it to make itself known on request. A Beautiful gift and something we can all inspire in our livingness, just as Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have reflected to us so lovingly. Thank you for the gift of Love you have so tenderly brought to this sharing today.

249. Serge Benhayon writes that “love is not emotional” contrary to all the notions of love I see, read and experience around me. I believed that you could not have love on your own, that it required an other person to reflect it. I am not yet completely free of this belief but I can see a bigger and more loving love ahead of me.

250. It’s a great point that love can never get hurt and is complete within itself. It reveals how many lies we tell ourselves and others in the name of love, that end up in hurt. It also helps remind me about going to a deeper place within me that is really supportive.

251. Bring on the love within all relationships.

252. I think I have fallen for every lie there is about love. It’s all distorted and upside down but thanks to Universal Medicine I am beginning to see much clearer.

253. Johanna thank you. I can really feel the truth of what you write when you express what you feel true love to be. Its incredible to think how sold out I had become, how I would operate from a very distorted version of what I believed love to be, all the while knowing that it wasn’t right but not knowing how to change. What a blessing to find the Universal Medicine teachings, as I am now able to connect to and live from a truth that lives inside of me.

254. I LOVE this blog Johanna and can feel your love in your expression. By attending Universal medicine presentations and workshops I too have felt that all the love I have been searching for throughout my life is actually living inside me. Knowing that I am love has taken the pressure off my relationships! I no longer have a need for people to give me love because I am love and I am choosing to live in a way that makes me feel my love every day. I have much appreciation for Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for presenting ways on how we can connect to the love that naturally lives inside each and everyone of us.

255. This is a great blog for us all and especially for young people who are continually bombarded by the mediia selling them a love that is emotional and full of expectations, conditions, beliefs and ideals. Thank you Johanna.

     1. I agree, Elaine, the old emotional love that brings many problems with it, is still sold out there to keep the younger generations trapped in their emotional turmoils, so that they seek more of the same and the media audience numbers go up. This is a very important blog, and so clearly expressed. A truly loving relationship is not a slave to emotion, but a couple taking responsibility to love themselves and be fulfilled in themselves, so that they may bring the whole of their being love to each other, without need. This way there is a deepening of intimacy and harmony between them.

256. I used to think love required someone else to be there, and relationship was about having that with another person.

     1. I used to think the same, always looking for love outside of me and always looking for relationships too, it’s crazy what ideals we grow up with.

     2. Yes Fumiyo this is how love is presented to us. Religion taught me that love is all about sacrifice, about being of service to others in total disregard to myself. I am forever grateful to Universal Medicine for showing me what true love is.

257. Johanna thank you so much for such a honest and clear blog about love and true love. My feeling is we all fall for that emotional love because it is so much easier to live. In my whole life I never consciously knew what love was until I met Serge Benhayon and his family. Until this time I never said to a man or to another person “I love you” because of not knowing how what love truly is. But now I say “I love you” to everyone I meet – I can’t hold my self back to not do so and what a joy that is!!!!

258. My experience completely. I went to my first relationship talk thinking it would help me find a guy – boy was I wrong. But instead I found me and learnt what it meant to truly love myself and others.

     1. Hi hvmorden, I also thought that it was a relationship workshop on relationships with others but found that it has to start with the relationship I have with myself first.

259. What love is and what it is not – it’s all so obvious because I know it to be true with every cell in my body.

260. The revelation for me about love that has been shared by Universal Medicine, is that true love is not something you can give anyone or get from anyone, that love can only be expressed from within ourselves. When 2 people come together in their own expression of ‘being love’, they are then ‘making love’…how gorgeous is that!

     1. Marika, I love what you wrote, just gorgeous.

261. Lovely Johanna, what you wrote is so wonderful and it touched me because I myself had the same experience you wrote about: “I’ve been able to feel Love in its true form and have been clearly shown that this Love can be lived every day. From this reflection I’ve also been able to feel that I AM LOVE.”
     The world around me never showed me such a love and therefore I choose to forget what real love is about. It was until I got this reminder from Serge Benhayon to no longer fall for the lies about love.

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