The Real Purpose of the ‘Out There’

For a lot of my life I have been rolling around in the ‘out there’, caught up in the “she said, he said, it’s not fair” illusion of life. Through my observations I feel it’s true to say that for most people the ‘out there’ is their reality and this is where the emphasis of life rests for most.

What do I mean when I say the ‘out there’? Well I mean life, as it’s commonly known. The stories we create, the drama we get caught up in, the pain we feel and the highs and the lows. We roll around from scenario to scenario, totally wrapped up in the detail of the ‘out there’, rarely questioning our part in whatever it is we’re embroiled in.

As long as the emphasis stays on the ‘out there’, then the ‘out there’ will always stay the same because the ‘out there’ only exists because of the ‘in here’. Without the ‘in here’, there is no ‘out there’.

When we have a struggle with someone then we nearly always put our attention on what we perceive it is that they are doing wrong. Often we will team up with others who feel the same as us, and if we can’t find someone who also feels the same, then we will find someone who is at least sympathetic to our struggle and who confirms that the problem is indeed ‘out there’.

Many times at work I have witnessed a whole group of people criticise a fellow worker: the fact that there is a group of people all feeling the same way seems to confirm to them that the problem is with the other person, because being part of the majority seems by its very nature to imply that the majority are always right. The expression ‘in the right’ is in itself an indication that something in the ‘in here’ needs attending to.

When we discuss problems with one another there is an unwritten code of conduct that we will side with the person who is confiding in us, especially if it is a close friend. We listen, we sympathise, we join in the criticism and we make absolutely sure that the emphasis stays on the ‘out there’.

Few would dare to say “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?”

Not only do we keep the emphasis on the ‘out there’ with what we consider to be ‘our own’ problems, but we do it with everything else that we perceive to not be working – the government, the education system, climate change, world hunger, violence in society, attitudes to women, child abuse. It seems that we are under the belief that everything that is not working is not working ‘out there’ – we have a smug sense that everything with us is ok. We all seem to believe that “it is ‘those others’ who are stuffing it up for the rest of us.” If it wasn’t for ‘those others’, we’d all be ok! Right?

Life is the sum total of all of its parts.

The ‘out there’ is a magnification of the ‘in here’. The ‘out there’, if you will, is like a giant plasma TV screen of the ‘in here’. If you want to know how you’re doing on the ‘in here’, then take a look at your ‘out there’, it’s up on the big screen for all to see.

This is colossal because it calls us to absolute responsibility. There is nowhere to hide, no one to blame, we have set everything in motion ourselves; and by everything I literally mean every-thing – nothing (as in no-thing) exists ‘out there’ without it first existing in the ‘in here’.

We each have our own perception of the world and rarely stop to consider that the world looks very different to each of us, depending on our own individual ‘in heres’. If a person’s ‘in here’ is one of mistrust and suspicion then that person’s ‘out there’ will be made up of people who can’t be trusted and situations that confirm that the person needs to be permanently on guard. When a person’s ‘in here’ is one of harmony and love then their ‘out there’ will reflect back to them exactly the same harmony and love.

The reason why the world feels so incredibly loveless to so many people is simply because it is a magnification of our collective ‘in here’s’… and there is so much that is loveless in so many people’s ‘in here’s’.

Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect.

Historically when the ‘out there’ hasn’t worked, we have not questioned the direction of our attention, we have simply increased the intensity of our efforts in the ‘out there’. Consequently we are living in an age of paraphernalia. We have desperately filled our ‘out theres’ with all manner of stuff and gadgets in an attempt to make ourselves feel better in our ‘in heres’.

Knowing that every-thing that is not love does not belong in the ‘in here’, the divine function of the ‘out there’ is to reflect back to us the what-is-not-love on the ‘in here’ because if it weren’t for the ‘out there’, how would we know what is not love on the ‘in here’?

As soon as a significant number of people start to change their ‘in heres’ then the feeling in the world will also by reflection be significantly changed. It will become common knowledge that the change in the world has come about through people changing their ‘in heres’, and then the change will spread like wild fire. Indeed this has already begun.

We are all love equally and in its divine expression the whole of the ‘out there’ exists to continually unfold us back to the love that we already are. In its illusionary state the purpose of the ‘out there’ is to keep us embroiled in the illusion for as long as possible. If we turn away from the ‘out there’ and start to focus on the ‘in here’ then it is only a matter of time before we remember that God was inside us all along.

Our future is the same as our past, to return to a time when the ‘in here’ and the ‘out there’ is nothing but love because In truth love is all there is.

By Alexis Stewart, Student of the Livingness, Mum, Care worker, Yoga Teacher, Sydney, Australia

Further Reading:
Looking in a Mirror – Enjoying a True Reflection
True Reflection, the Way of The Livingness & The 5 Elements of God

1,143 thoughts on “The Real Purpose of the ‘Out There’

  1. It’s a very powerful read, all I can say is “Here, here!” 🙂 A brilliant way Alexis to establish the true order of things beginning with changing how we are inside before the outer world can reflect the love we all innately are.

  2. If we fail to see and feel our part in how everything in our day to day life unfolds, we will correspondingly fail to learn the lessons to grow and evolve that are also on offer.

  3. ” When a person’s ‘in here’ is one of harmony and love then their ‘out there’ will reflect back to them exactly the same harmony and love.” This is not entirely true as we can be living in love and harmony and come under attack by others because of their reaction to our love.

      1. Humanity makes a great team when we work together to come to the truth and greater love. It’s been a really supportive blog for me to read this week as I’m making shifts in my self responsibility and your blog brought in some uncomfortable but very welcomed awareness.

      2. I agree whole heartedly Melinda. When we take out who’s wrong and who’s right and the need to be ahead of another, then we can feel how we’re all in this together, equally so and can simply get on with supporting each other to come to more and more truth and more and more love.

  4. I would agree that for most of us, the ‘out there’ is our reality and the idea that we can live from ‘in there’ is completely foreign. I started to re-discover ‘in there’ through the Gentle Breathe Meditation and then to my delight discovered I can actually live my life ‘in there’ through Esoteric Yoga. ‘In there’ can be found the steadiness and stillness that allows you to be in the world without being swept up in what’s going on ‘out there’.

  5. “…being part of the majority seems by its very nature to imply that the majority are always right.” – I think it’s important to be aware of this and not to give our power away to the ‘majority’ nor use it as a comfortable excuse for doing something but to always instead discern from inside of ourselves what we sense is true.

  6. I love the way you express Alexis, you just go to the heart of the matter in often a simple and humourous way. The ‘out theres’ represent to us what we are putting out there, when the ‘in heres’ change to one of true love and care, so too will the ‘out there’ be so very different to what we see now.

  7. It’s just not possible to change what’s out there without changing what’s inside. And it’s interesting how we expect the world to be perfect without us playing our part.

  8. This is so true ‘Few would dare to say “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?’ Yet it is our responsibility to do so .. how brave are we to say this and also how willing and honest are we to look at the part that we play .. how we live, what are our choices and how do we treat others?

  9. Great reminder to read this article again. On a pratical level: I would like to generate a bigger income, a better job position. That is not realised by working harder, but by working on my consistency to live the love I am, therefore increasing my self worth, which will then be reflected by a higher income, a better job.

  10. The out there will always be there. The in here will always be here. The only question is how much are we willing to connect to both and bring them into harmony, oneness. The only truth is that we need both, but we need to learn to work with both to our and everybody’s advantage.

  11. ‘ If we turn away from the ‘out there’ and start to focus on the ‘in here’ then it is only a matter of time before we remember that God was inside us all along.’ And that it is time to reflect that we have to return back to our divine origin.

  12. The more consistent we are at living from within, the more consistent our life is, without the drama or the roller coaster lifestyle, living from the calm of the ‘in here’ is far preferable to the chaos of the ‘out there’.

  13. I have been one of the statistics in looking ‘out there’ for my issues and continuing to look ‘out there’ to fix me! Its only when I went inwards did the answers come to me and discover I already have it all, it was my perception of how it needed to look that blurred everything.

  14. The more we connect to our ‘in there’ the more our ‘out there’s change and the more we are able to connect to the ‘in there’ of others.

  15. Great blog Alexis. Shows that the quality of how we live inevitably affects our entire perception of life. If we all lived with the same true quality inside then our perception of the world and what we hold as truth would be the same.

  16. “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?” A question for all of us to be responsible for living all the love that we are.

  17. It makes sense that the out there is a magnification of the in here, and a reflection of our choices and how we are choosing to live. It is up to us to question and accept what is true and what is not.

  18. “The reason why the world feels so incredibly loveless to so many people is simply because it is a magnification of our collective ‘in here’s’… and there is so much that is loveless in so many people’s ‘in here’s’.” I would say ouch! and it is true it is so easy to blame the world and everyone around us but that will keep us in the same spin going around. This is so because the only thing that can change our situation is to look inside and how we are actually living. This change is simple and not hard – it starts simply with caring for ourselves and doing loving things for ourselves. But we will be forever distracted from this simplicity as long as we make it about the out there.

  19. The “in here” determines the “out there” . Not the other way around. So we cannot ever say, that truly the outer can change the “in here” . We are the masters of the “in here”, we just have to claim it and the “out there” cannot affect us.

    1. We’ve created an entire world out of our dogged need to avoid taking responsibility for the choices that we have made. We live in a playground built out of our utter recklessness and although some will struggle with my use of the word ‘playground’ when they consider the poverty stricken countries in the world, we have to remember that it is us that has created them, they are our macabre playthings. Nothing in our world would look the same if we took responsibility for our choices, our world would be unrecognisable.

  20. I have found the quality I hold within affects my experience of life. For example, I travel a lot for work and family commitments but find it possible to feel at home where-ever I am: locations may differ, the feeling of ‘home’ resides within.

    1. Yes indeed Kehinde because although we think that our bodies act like a divide between what is inside of us and what is outside of us, the truth is there is no divide between the inner and the outer.

  21. I feel you have touched on something rather massive, colossal in fact Alexis as most would not consider humanity to generally be so arrogant or ignorant however the fact that there is a difference between the ‘out there’ and the ‘in here’ from the fact that most place themselves in the ‘right’ basket indicates the fact that there is a super ginormous form of arrogance coupled with an equally ginormous form of ignorance that is rife in humanity.

  22. I really enjoy when someone takes the time to scientifically pull a part the illusion of what we generally perceive and are caught in. It has been pointed out; “Life is the sum total of all of its parts.” We have something too with the whole because we are a part. What I see that is very common and a reaction to fix, is to go into the ‘good’ and not truly change the energy. When you look at the science of why something is the way it is, it is best practice to look at the whole and not just the part. So truth can be looked at energetically to include the sum total of the all. Energy does not lie and cannot be bastardised.

  23. Comments Monday

    We constantly think that life just happens to us and I know I have been caught in this many times, but life itself is constantly reflecting back to us how we are inside and the ripple effects we are leaving behind and around us as we move and express, so we are in fact the creators of it all including the parts we do not like.

  24. This is amazing to consider… we spend our lives blaming the ‘out there’ for the ‘in here’, when in fact the ‘out there’ is actually reflecting back to us the ‘ in here’, or at least supporting us to strengthen and deepen the ‘in here’.

  25. Taking full self-responsibility for our part in life is huge. How often do we assume that circumstances happen to us or around us that have ‘nothing to do with me’?

  26. “The reason why the world feels so incredibly loveless to so many people is simply because it is a magnification of our collective ‘in here’s’… and there is so much that is loveless in so many people’s ‘in here’s’.” Love the simplicity of the truth presented here. It calls us to account and responsibility.

  27. “Few would dare to say “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?”” Maybe not, but a true friend will.

  28. Laying the blame on the “out there” is really an excuse and distraction from not taking responsibility for our “in here”. It is interesting how we often do not make the connection with what is reflected around us to how we are living and that perhaps in taking responsibility for our part in what is reflected back to us it would start to change.

  29. Absolutely – we cannot separate ourselves from what is going on in the world because every single moment of the day we are part of it, we contribute to it and we can help change it to be the kind of world we want to live in.

  30. “Life is the sum total of all of its parts.” There is no doubt about it, we cannot live life in pockets where we choose to be all that we are in some and less in others, as everything that we experience at any time is a mere reflection of the choices that we have made up to that point in time, no more no less.

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