For a lot of my life I have been rolling around in the ‘out there’, caught up in the “she said, he said, it’s not fair” illusion of life. Through my observations I feel it’s true to say that for most people the ‘out there’ is their reality and this is where the emphasis of life rests for most.
What do I mean when I say the ‘out there’? Well I mean life, as it’s commonly known. The stories we create, the drama we get caught up in, the pain we feel and the highs and the lows. We roll around from scenario to scenario, totally wrapped up in the detail of the ‘out there’, rarely questioning our part in whatever it is we’re embroiled in.
As long as the emphasis stays on the ‘out there’, then the ‘out there’ will always stay the same because the ‘out there’ only exists because of the ‘in here’. Without the ‘in here’, there is no ‘out there’.
When we have a struggle with someone then we nearly always put our attention on what we perceive it is that they are doing wrong. Often we will team up with others who feel the same as us, and if we can’t find someone who also feels the same, then we will find someone who is at least sympathetic to our struggle and who confirms that the problem is indeed ‘out there’.
Many times at work I have witnessed a whole group of people criticise a fellow worker: the fact that there is a group of people all feeling the same way seems to confirm to them that the problem is with the other person, because being part of the majority seems by its very nature to imply that the majority are always right. The expression ‘in the right’ is in itself an indication that something in the ‘in here’ needs attending to.
When we discuss problems with one another there is an unwritten code of conduct that we will side with the person who is confiding in us, especially if it is a close friend. We listen, we sympathise, we join in the criticism and we make absolutely sure that the emphasis stays on the ‘out there’.
Few would dare to say “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?”
Not only do we keep the emphasis on the ‘out there’ with what we consider to be ‘our own’ problems, but we do it with everything else that we perceive to not be working – the government, the education system, climate change, world hunger, violence in society, attitudes to women, child abuse. It seems that we are under the belief that everything that is not working is not working ‘out there’ – we have a smug sense that everything with us is ok. We all seem to believe that “it is ‘those others’ who are stuffing it up for the rest of us.” If it wasn’t for ‘those others’, we’d all be ok! Right?
Life is the sum total of all of its parts.
The ‘out there’ is a magnification of the ‘in here’. The ‘out there’, if you will, is like a giant plasma TV screen of the ‘in here’. If you want to know how you’re doing on the ‘in here’, then take a look at your ‘out there’, it’s up on the big screen for all to see.
This is colossal because it calls us to absolute responsibility. There is nowhere to hide, no one to blame, we have set everything in motion ourselves; and by everything I literally mean every-thing – nothing (as in no-thing) exists ‘out there’ without it first existing in the ‘in here’.
We each have our own perception of the world and rarely stop to consider that the world looks very different to each of us, depending on our own individual ‘in heres’. If a person’s ‘in here’ is one of mistrust and suspicion then that person’s ‘out there’ will be made up of people who can’t be trusted and situations that confirm that the person needs to be permanently on guard. When a person’s ‘in here’ is one of harmony and love then their ‘out there’ will reflect back to them exactly the same harmony and love.
The reason why the world feels so incredibly loveless to so many people is simply because it is a magnification of our collective ‘in here’s’… and there is so much that is loveless in so many people’s ‘in here’s’.
Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect.
Historically when the ‘out there’ hasn’t worked, we have not questioned the direction of our attention, we have simply increased the intensity of our efforts in the ‘out there’. Consequently we are living in an age of paraphernalia. We have desperately filled our ‘out theres’ with all manner of stuff and gadgets in an attempt to make ourselves feel better in our ‘in heres’.
Knowing that every-thing that is not love does not belong in the ‘in here’, the divine function of the ‘out there’ is to reflect back to us the what-is-not-love on the ‘in here’ because if it weren’t for the ‘out there’, how would we know what is not love on the ‘in here’?
As soon as a significant number of people start to change their ‘in heres’ then the feeling in the world will also by reflection be significantly changed. It will become common knowledge that the change in the world has come about through people changing their ‘in heres’, and then the change will spread like wild fire. Indeed this has already begun.
We are all love equally and in its divine expression the whole of the ‘out there’ exists to continually unfold us back to the love that we already are. In its illusionary state the purpose of the ‘out there’ is to keep us embroiled in the illusion for as long as possible. If we turn away from the ‘out there’ and start to focus on the ‘in here’ then it is only a matter of time before we remember that God was inside us all along.
Our future is the same as our past, to return to a time when the ‘in here’ and the ‘out there’ is nothing but love because In truth love is all there is.
By Alexis Stewart, Student of the Livingness, Mum, Care worker, Yoga Teacher, Sydney, Australia