1,043 thoughts on “The Real Purpose of the ‘Out There’”

1. The ‘out there’ leads to irresponsibility and delay, the ‘in there’ aligns us to our Soul and true purpose.

2. The out there will always be there. The in here will always be here. The only question is how much are we willing to connect to both and bring them into harmony, oneness. The only truth is that we need both, but we need to learn to work with both to our and everybody’s advantage.

3. ‘ If we turn away from the ‘out there’ and start to focus on the ‘in here’ then it is only a matter of time before we remember that God was inside us all along.’ And that it is time to reflect that we have to return back to our divine origin.

4. The more consistent we are at living from within, the more consistent our life is, without the drama or the roller coaster lifestyle, living from the calm of the ‘in here’ is far preferable to the chaos of the ‘out there’.

5. I have been one of the statistics in looking ‘out there’ for my issues and continuing to look ‘out there’ to fix me! Its only when I went inwards did the answers come to me and discover I already have it all, it was my perception of how it needed to look that blurred everything.

6. The more we connect to our ‘in there’ the more our ‘out there’s change and the more we are able to connect to the ‘in there’ of others.

   1. All of our ‘in here’s’ are the same, it’s our ‘in here’s’ that bind us.

7. Great blog Alexis. Shows that the quality of how we live inevitably affects our entire perception of life. If we all lived with the same true quality inside then our perception of the world and what we hold as truth would be the same.

8. “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?” A question for all of us to be responsible for living all the love that we are.

9. Reflection is such a simple concept or awareness, and yet contains within it a path of learning so strong and so clear.

   1. and so absolute. Something must be there in the first place for it to be reflected, you can’t argue with that.

10. “The reason why the world feels so incredibly loveless to so many people is simply because it is a magnification of our collective ‘in here’s’… and there is so much that is loveless in so many people’s ‘in here’s’.” I would say ouch! and it is true it is so easy to blame the world and everyone around us but that will keep us in the same spin going around. This is so because the only thing that can change our situation is to look inside and how we are actually living. This change is simple and not hard – it starts simply with caring for ourselves and doing loving things for ourselves. But we will be forever distracted from this simplicity as long as we make it about the out there.

11. The “in here” determines the “out there” . Not the other way around. So we cannot ever say, that truly the outer can change the “in here” . We are the masters of the “in here”, we just have to claim it and the “out there” cannot affect us.

12. Reading the first paragraphs of this blog makes me smile- isn´t it funny and quite creative what we create to avoid responsibility?! 🙂

    1. We’ve created an entire world out of our dogged need to avoid taking responsibility for the choices that we have made. We live in a playground built out of our utter recklessness and although some will struggle with my use of the word ‘playground’ when they consider the poverty stricken countries in the world, we have to remember that it is us that has created them, they are our macabre playthings. Nothing in our world would look the same if we took responsibility for our choices, our world would be unrecognisable.

13. I have found the quality I hold within affects my experience of life. For example, I travel a lot for work and family commitments but find it possible to feel at home where-ever I am: locations may differ, the feeling of ‘home’ resides within.

14. When we’re fully present with ourselves ‘there’ encompasses outer and inner equally.

    1. Yes indeed Kehinde because although we think that our bodies act like a divide between what is inside of us and what is outside of us, the truth is there is no divide between the inner and the outer.

15. I feel you have touched on something rather massive, colossal in fact Alexis as most would not consider humanity to generally be so arrogant or ignorant however the fact that there is a difference between the ‘out there’ and the ‘in here’ from the fact that most place themselves in the ‘right’ basket indicates the fact that there is a super ginormous form of arrogance coupled with an equally ginormous form of ignorance that is rife in humanity.

    1. Spot on Joshua.

16. I really enjoy when someone takes the time to scientifically pull a part the illusion of what we generally perceive and are caught in. It has been pointed out; “Life is the sum total of all of its parts.” We have something too with the whole because we are a part. What I see that is very common and a reaction to fix, is to go into the ‘good’ and not truly change the energy. When you look at the science of why something is the way it is, it is best practice to look at the whole and not just the part. So truth can be looked at energetically to include the sum total of the all. Energy does not lie and cannot be bastardised.

    1. It is the responsibility of all of us to return ‘our part’ back into the body of God that it started out as.

17. Absolutely Linda it was a game changer, when I realised that no matter what is happening around me, I can choose how I respond and what quality my body is in.

18. Comments Monday

    We constantly think that life just happens to us and I know I have been caught in this many times, but life itself is constantly reflecting back to us how we are inside and the ripple effects we are leaving behind and around us as we move and express, so we are in fact the creators of it all including the parts we do not like.

19. This is amazing to consider… we spend our lives blaming the ‘out there’ for the ‘in here’, when in fact the ‘out there’ is actually reflecting back to us the ‘ in here’, or at least supporting us to strengthen and deepen the ‘in here’.

20. Taking full self-responsibility for our part in life is huge. How often do we assume that circumstances happen to us or around us that have ‘nothing to do with me’?

21. “The reason why the world feels so incredibly loveless to so many people is simply because it is a magnification of our collective ‘in here’s’… and there is so much that is loveless in so many people’s ‘in here’s’.” Love the simplicity of the truth presented here. It calls us to account and responsibility.

22. “Few would dare to say “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?”” Maybe not, but a true friend will.

    1. True love asks you that, even when it is uncomfortable and not really fancied when you are asking. Love always wants you to grow and takes the risk of being rejected.

23. Absolutely – we cannot separate ourselves from what is going on in the world because every single moment of the day we are part of it, we contribute to it and we can help change it to be the kind of world we want to live in.

    1. Agreed Meg, we can’t separate from the world because we are the world and the world is us.

24. “Life is the sum total of all of its parts.” There is no doubt about it, we cannot live life in pockets where we choose to be all that we are in some and less in others, as everything that we experience at any time is a mere reflection of the choices that we have made up to that point in time, no more no less.

    1. If we are choosing to be ‘all that we are’ in some pockets of life and not in others then we are not actually ever being ‘all that we are’.

25. We can spend endless hours on distracting ourselves, blaming others and wishing things were different, if we spent only half this time on developing a relationship with ourselves and becoming more responsible we would experience life ‘in here’ as not so hard but actually a very loving and beautiful way to live.

26. One of the more beautiful thing that we can do is to understand that behind what consider real, there is a bigger truth which is the only thing that really counts.

27. Fumiyo I’m glad that you used the word ‘ perceived’ discomforts when describing situations that arise, as it is possible to get to a place where we sit very comfortably with whatever arises, knowing that it is there to support us to return back to the wholeness that we are from. Shying away from discomfort merely keeps us from taking those crucial steps back to Soul. Steps that we all have to take eventually, it’s just a matter of when.

28. When we remain open to what is happening out there, there is so much we can learn. It feels challenging to be encountered with a reflection that often asks for my responsibility, but what is more painful is to go into contraction and shrink myself in avoidance of those perceived discomforts – that I am actually a part of.

    1. Fumiyo I’m glad that you used the word ‘ perceived’ discomforts when describing situations that arise, as it is possible to get to a place where we sit very comfortably with whatever arises, knowing that it is there to support us to return back to the wholeness that we are from. Shying away from discomfort merely keeps us from taking those crucial steps back to Soul. Steps that we all have to take eventually, it’s just a matter of when.

29. Alexis I stopped at these words: “the fact that there is a group of people all feeling the same way seems to confirm to them that the problem is with the other person, because being part of the majority seems by its very nature to imply that the majority are always right.”
    Isn’t this what we have done as a society? Take the consumption of alcohol, practically everyone drinks it from a young age. It is a total poison to the body and it is unnatural for us to drink it, but mostly everyone does. And if you stop drinking it because you come to the understanding that it is a poison to the body that affects the major organs of the body and can make you very sick. Then you are frowned upon and seen as being ‘weird’ because you have stepped outside the confines of the majority, when actually it’s the majority that are being mislead, and mostly willingly so.

30. Life is a true reflection of the choices we are constantly choosing in all our movements and anything that is not done from the heart will sooner or later manifest as a correction or complication in our daily lives.

    1. Which is why Francisco we’re all swimming in complication.

31. We are much more comfortable thinking that our problems are “out there” as to face that things might have something to do with “in here” can feel more confronting. Looking at global issues from the prospective of self responsibility really changes things.

32. I love the question you pose: “ do we consider the part we play”? It is such a pause moment in the momentum of looking around for someone else to be or take responsibility. We are the responsible adult in our own lives – the sooner this is accepted the sooner others can also choose this. There is only so much space for humanities toxic dumping – it seems to me the planet is starting to heave under the weight of irresponsibility.

    1. Unfortunately I feel that humanity is capable of producing and dumping a whole lot more toxic waste into the Ether and so the Earth will have to continue to increase her cleansing via what is commonly known as ‘natural disasters’.

       1. When these occur it seems humanity chooses to come to together, it is a time when we respond wisely to the ‘call of nature’ and lovingly to the ‘call of humanity’. Perhaps we could make these choices before a natural disaster?

       2. Sandra we could choose to support one another without a disaster occurring but we don’t. Unfortunately our ‘modus opperatus’ is to look after ourselves and those that we erroneously perceive are closest to us and until we choose another way then we shall continue to live in the kind of world that we currently live in.

33. It is so toxic how we arrogantly assume that we must be ‘right’ when others agree with us despite often sensing they are going along with something just for a quiet life.

    1. Ah the illusion of the quiet life, whist all along we’re screaming inside.

34. Great to clock that the purpose of the ‘out there’ is to reflect what is going on for us ‘in here’ and no surprise that we currently have so much upheaval around the world when so many are living a loveless existence and completely abdicating responsibility for how their lives have turned out.

35. It is so true that in issues or problems we look to blame others to avoid looking fully at our part, what we have lived and set up to allow that to be. For example if we have a car accident, we might just palm it off as an accident without considering what led to the point for that to happen. There is much responsibility we avoid but it is this that we need to come back too if we want things to change.

    1. Either we take responsibility now or we take it later but opting out of taking responsibility all together is not an option.

36. Yep – bringing it ALL back to our relationship with self as a keystone of our foundation, is so deeply needed. As is our awareness of not engaging in that which would have us deny our own responsibility in any given situation.

37. “…being part of the majority seems by its very nature to imply that the majority are always right.” This has been accepted for eons and yet time and time and time…..again it is proved to be untrue. The world was flat once right? Being part of a majority means we can abdicate our responsibility to feel the truth of any situation and just give ourself over to the majority view. Absolute irresponsibility.

38. Linda agreed we are almost solely invested in the out there, either actively changing from one activity or relationship to another or clinging desperately onto a particular way of living, not realising that they are both the same in essence and both serve the same purpose, which is to distract us from having a peek inside of us and considering if our inner ingredients are in fact the missing ingredients.

39. “Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect.” – reflection is indeed a most powerful tool for our own growth.

    1. Without reflection how would we know who we are?

40. Interesting how I was reflecting on the level of distraction that we indulge in as a society. I was on a long-haul flight overseas and was observing how most of the passengers were either eating or watching a movie or playing a game on screen. Some were watching movie after movie, totalling about 6 different movies (about 2 hours each) in a row before we got to our destination. This to me shows how much we are constantly seeking a form of distraction, that we are not comfortable just being and allowing the world to happen around us, taking in the happenings and just observing all that is around us. We distract ourselves from feeling with foods and all kinds of entertainment. Hence being caught up in the ‘out there’ and not the ‘in here’. When will we be ready to bring the focus on the depth of relationship we can have with ourselves and those around us?

    1. “When will we be ready to bring the focus on the depth of relationship we can have with ourselves and those around us?” great question Henrietta and I reckon we’ll be ‘ready’ when we get to the point that we are so utterly miserable and empty from our continual and futile efforts of trying to fill ourselves up from the outside that, out of desperation we start to look within.

41. Most of the people are used to live disconnected of the possibility of an ‘in here’ and everything around supports the focus ‘out there’. This makes more valuable the Ageless Wisdom teachings, which help us to reconnect back to our ‘in here’ before anything else. Only from there we are able to understand why everything is as it is, to take responisibility of our part and change ‘in here’ our contribution to the ‘out there’

    1. Well said Amparo, you are exactly right when you say; “Only from there we are able to understand why everything is as it is” in regards to reconnecting back to our ‘in here’s’. Indeed that then highlights why we can’t make sense of the world, it is primarily because we are looking at it from the ‘out there’, basically chaos trying to make sense of chaos.

42. By just becoming aware that there is an ‘in here’ you can connect to, it exposes the whole game of the ‘out there’s’ immediately.

    1. Very simply delivered Suse – all in a nut shell! When we know about the “in here”, the ‘insignificance’ of the “out-there” is obvious, and so is the preciousness of the “in-here” highlighted.

43. To separate the ‘out there’ from the ‘in here’ is to cleave ourselves in two. Accepting that the ‘in here’ informs the ‘out there’ is the embracing of responsibility and this changes our lives completely

44. Agreed Brendan, basically our choice is to fill ourselves with us or be filled by that which is not us.

45. In our resistance of being more of who we are – we easily gravitate to the myriad of distractions around us only to offer a fake sense of security and control away from the truth and absoluteness of our inner-hearts.

46. The more we blame the ‘out there’ for how things are the more aspects of the ‘out there’ that we are blaming becomes magnified rather diminished.

    1. jstewart I think what you’ve described is what’s commonly known as good old ‘drama’!

       1. Very true, Alexis, and so many people believe that this ‘drama’ is what life is all about when in truth the ‘drama’ is all illusion and distraction away from addressing and resolving the cause for the ‘drama’.

       2. Indeed jstewart and when the drama is not there are a lot of people who also feel ‘not there’ because the identity hungry spirit is no longer being fed. We each need to get to the point where we systematically pull the plug on the spirit completely and thereby end it’s miserable existence and hand the seat of power back over to the soul.

       3. I agree, Alexis, that we need to “systematically pull the plug on the spirit completely” however I do not feel it is not to end its existence as it is after all an aspect of our self, our Soul. It is instead to end its dominance and thereby for it to return to Soul.

       4. Brilliantly said.

47. And the reality ‘out there’ is consequence of how we live expressing our ‘in here’.

48. Perfectly presented Alexis. As so wisely stated many many millions of moons ago by Hermes: As Above, So too Below. The macrocosm cannot exist without the microcosm. The sky is forever reflected in the sea.

    1. ‘The sky is forever reflected in the sea’… everything is inextricably linked, including us, and the more I accept and live this the more deeply held and responsible I feel.

49. Our only responsibility is to live a life that is honouring of who we are and to understand that the quality we choose at any moment has a detrimental effect and everything around us, when we really get this fact, we can see that there is a difference between caring for someone and avoiding responsibility by getting involved in their issues rather than just offer our reflection.

50. It is true that out there and in here go hand in hand and that we use the former to confirm/solidify the latter. So, what we live and what comes back at us is not coincidence. This is great to know since gives us the key to shape the out there, often taken as intractable.

    1. We cannot breath out, without first breathing in.

51. A refreshing look at the world outside and how it can actually change if we choose. So often in the past there has been a sense of hopelessness, of pain and/or suffering etc, and all along looking further in the same mess for something to be different. How can something truly change unless the ingredients are changed, i.e what we put in. As the article returns us to, unless the inside or in another way what we putting out, the quality of the ingredients we are putting out there changes then the picture will always be the same but just have different characters in a different setting. As hard as it maybe to swallow for some, and as difficult as it maybe for many, the only way to make a change to what we are seeing is to make a change within ourselves. As the article so clearly sets out, the reflection we are seeing isn’t by chance or an accident or a coincidence it’s a result directly of the sum total of what we have allowed out, the quality of our being inside. If there is something we don’t want to see then there is no use in changing the channel as this will just be more of the same, we will need to change the input.

52. Appreciating our purpose and commitment to living what we are in full on the inside, with everyone equally on the outside might just start to tip the earth on it’s axis and shake-off some loveless-ness, which will make more space for the reflections of love to shine brighter than ever.

53. Alexis I absolutely agree it’s so convenient for us to place the blame “out there”, totally forgetting that we are actually in and part of the situation too. It’s part of our responsibility to look at our part and deal with it then and there rather than carrying judgement and blame and and like you say, instead of dealing with “out there” deal take responsibility for “in here”.

54. ‘If we turn away from the ‘out there’ and start to focus on the ‘in here’ then it is only a matter of time before we remember that God was inside us all along.’ Beautifully said and very true Alexis, after spending most of my life focusing on the ‘out there’ I ended up feeling pretty exhausted and disconnected to life and my true self. Learning to take responsibility and to live ‘in here’ has been an absolute game changer that has bought much joy and a deeper connection to myself and God.

55. A beautiful blog Alexis on reflection and the power and wisdom held in the “in here,” for us all to consider that we all play a major part on the outlook of the “out there.” Thank you.

56. I get very distracted by the ‘out there’ and forget about the ‘in here.’ Love this reminder that the out there can lead to complication and a neglect of myself. I like the way you ended this blog Alexis – “to return to a time when the ‘in here’ and the ‘out there’ is nothing but love because In truth love is all there is.”

    1. ‘In truth love is all there is’… it is our natural and innate state and therefore we have to do very little to get there but surrender all the things we have adopted that interfere.

57. Yes, being part of the majority makes us feel comfortable. There is safety in numbers and people don’t want to stand’ out, but I know there has been many a time where I have wanted to speak out but held back for fear of being the only one with a different view.

58. This was very interesting to read Alexis, I have always liked the saying “It takes two to tango”. It’s a nice neat scenario when we don’t look at ourselves and it’s someone else or “out there”, as you say. I appreciated the plasma TV analogy and how it’s reflecting back everyone’s inner world. The love that we truly are as souls is definitely not playing out on the TV!

59. Amazing Alexis thank you. Has made me look into my “out there” and what this truly means for what is going on in my “in there”. Very profound

60. “In truth love is all there is” anything outside of love is an illusion.

61. No matter how much we endeavour to change the ‘out there’ we will only be ‘moving deck-chairs on the Titanic’. It is only when we address our own ‘in here’ will there be true change.

62. Hear, hear, to us all taking responsibility for our ‘in here’ to offer another way of being to our shared ‘out there’.

63. I love to blame the “out there”, blame others and make them want to see that I am right. Yet, as I am learning it is not about them. I am responsible for everything that happens in my life. It can feel much easier to blame others but that is just a bandaid on an ugly festering wound that I am feeding.

64. We have not spent enough time dissecting what we align to and how.
    We are clear that the number factor works. If other people also feel how I do, this confirms where I stand. Yet, experience abound that masses can rally behind things people etc. that not only do not bring anything good but also deeply harms them. So, the fact that other people also feel in the same way we do means not that much necessarily.
    What are we left with? Aligning with a body that feels something with a level of clarity and with total absence of tension underneath that we do know is the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

    1. And when many do this then the number factor will mean ever so much.

65. I spent many years chasing everything outside of myself but I was never satisfied until I started to discover and appreciate that everything I ever wanted was within me.

66. Love what you have shared Alex, with the “out there” and the “in here”, life for me was lived, and is common to most people, in the out there with no idea of what the in here holds, this is the illusion that it is all out side of us therefore we don’t have a choice and can then blame anything and everything for what happens to us from out there .” If we turn away from the ‘out there’ and start to focus on the ‘in here’ then it is only a matter of time before we remember that God was inside us all along.”

67. ‘Through my observations I feel it’s true to say that for most people the ‘out there’ is their reality and this is where the emphasis of life rests for most.’ I find this really interesting because our reality is not truly our reality at all. When we change the way we live and start to live from the inside out in brotherhood our reality will truly change.

68. A fantastic blog Alexis on the part we all play in how the world is today. When we place the blame on circumstances hence the ‘out there,’ we water down the real responsibility and part that we play in all facets of our lives. This is then magnified by the world at large and the devastation we see play out on the news, in the media etc. When we focus on our part in any given situation and the movements we make everyday we begin to see a pattern of ways that may no longer serve us, which in turn creates a space for us to then choose to move from our own connection. This brings back responsibility to our own backyards which will greatly change the larger landscape of the world.

69. Very profound blog.

    We live in a society where the saying goes, majority rules.

    This is a miss led direction but determined to be the reality of the many.

    And the fact that this saying underpins many decision ranging from households to governments.
    It is a deeply imbeded issue.

    Is it that many of us have the underlying hurt of rejection. Thereby we are willing to swallow anything to be accepted, and by that notion, accepted by anything.

70. I love the concept of life reflecting to us how we choose to live, for it is then up to us to live the life we want and have that constellate to reflect back that care and love…. and also expose when needed what we are choosing to not see so that we can choose to address it. Very cool.

71. “Without the ‘in here’, there is no ‘out there’.”
    This is great and I can say it took me a long while to really grasp this and I can still feel the tendency in me to look to the outside first, trying to push the responsibility away from me, rather than turning in first, setting things straight before I address what ever is happening on the outside.

72. This is ultimate responsibility Alexis thank you… what is ‘out there’ reflects exactly what is ‘in here’ and every time we try to change ‘out there’ because we don’t like it, ignoring the fact it is of our own creation by virtue of what’s ‘in here’, we have created a further complication to unravel at a later date when we finally stop and begin looking ‘in here’ for the source of our ‘out there’ messes.

73. “The expression ‘in the right’ is in itself an indication that something in the ‘in here’ needs attending to.” Whenever I have taken the stance of being ‘in the right’ I have completely overridden and overlooked the wisdom of my ‘in here’. Being in the right shuts down any opportunity for coming to a clear knowing of what is true.

74. Alexis what a great expose on how we live and blame the world! I saw a great cartoon facebook recently with someone asking a crowd ‘who wants change’ and everyone putting up their hands, and then that someone asking once again ‘who wants to change’ and almost no-one putting their hands up. And that’s the thing we keep the illusion of ‘out there’ going to avoid our responsibility in taking charge of and addressing our ‘in here’ and we actively support each other in this game, going into arrangements with each other to maintain our ‘in heres’ as is, while continuing to blame ‘out there’. Every now and then we push out a little further and attempt to change ‘out there’ and fail and retreat to our shell of ‘in here’ bemoaning ‘out there’ and how it will never change and isn’t it awful. Yet all along ‘in here’ is lying in wait for us to see and feel and ‘out there’ merely shows us, until maybe one day we decide to consider the common denominator in all those ‘out theres’, us and our ‘in here’ and we start to consider what might happen if we changed our ‘in here’ and that’s when it all changes; when we’re willing to stop and see that ‘out there’ is the grace shining a light on our ‘in here’ and asking us to go deeper and bring more love to that ‘in here’. There is no other way, just Love.

75. “It seems that we are under the belief that everything that is not working is not working ‘out there’”. Why do we choose to avoid being aware of the ‘in here’ factor when looking at the ‘out there’ that does not work? What does the ‘out there’ tell about us?

    1. Eduardo it seems to point to the fact that we are all heavily invested in keeping the illusion going. It feels like a sinister version of the the Emperor’s New Clothes.

76. The word empathy comes from the Greek empatheia “passion, state of emotion.” To feel this is sold as a value. Is it really?

    1. Eduardo considering that there is not a drop of truth in any emotion, then I would be very wary of empathy as it often seems to do little more than solidify the emotion in another.

77. What if we have lots of people feeling one way regarding something only because they align to the same source and not because it is true?

    1. Then we have the world as we know it Eduardo.

78. The fact that a majority of people feel one way may mean that they are right or the total opposite. It depends on the accuracy of their readings.

79. The ‘out there’ is a reality created to try to compensate for the decision not to feel too much the ‘in here’.

80. I agree – looking within is the only true way to success.

81. I love how you say when talking to another about an issue there is the unspoken rule of sympathising with this person. I can sometimes do this simply out of habit and when reflecting on what I have said and agreed with later I am shocked that I said or agreed to the certain topic. For me this is one good reason for trying to stay present so I can stay true to what I feel rather than blindly following another.

82. Alexis, reading this evening I feel the love you offer with this blog, how we can celebrate what we perceive out there as a reflection for us to go deeper and understand that in here needs some tending. And we do know this, and we know how to keep the focus on out there, as a way to distract from addressing our in-here’s – indeed we can be so deliberate in picking those friends we talk to who we know with confirm our version of the world and will not challenge us to ask that loving question – what is your part in this, and how does your inner world contribute? This is how we can truly support each other by lovingly understanding that everything shown to us is a way to show us where more love is needed, and to root out those pockets we hold which are not loving and do not serve us or others. Thank you, I just love this blog and keep coming back, as each time it reveals another layer to me, or more honestly it shows me another depth to look at in my in here.

83. I love this part Alexis, this is so true, what we see ‘out there’ then is a gift and shows us what we need to work on and heal, or celebrate depending on what we are being reflected. ‘If a person’s ‘in here’ is one of mistrust and suspicion then that person’s ‘out there’ will be made up of people who can’t be trusted and situations that confirm that the person needs to be permanently on guard. When a person’s ‘in here’ is one of harmony and love then their ‘out there’ will reflect back to them exactly the same harmony and love.’

84. It is important to remember that we are all connected and that chaos is in ourselves first, and that chaos in the world is just a reflection of this. ‘As long as the emphasis stays on the ‘out there’, then the ‘out there’ will always stay the same because the ‘out there’ only exists because of the ‘in here’. Without the ‘in here’, there is no ‘out there’. So true, it is always ourselves we have to look at first, what is our part in all of this?

85. We are continually being reflected what is happening inside of us, by what happens outside us, and all of this happens for a reason, ‘Knowing that every-thing that is not love does not belong in the ‘in here’, the divine function of the ‘out there’ is to reflect back to us the what-is-not-love on the ‘in here’ because if it weren’t for the ‘out there’, how would we know what is not love on the ‘in here’?’

86. This is a really gorgeous blog Alexis, and I love what you share in this part, so true, ‘We are all love equally and in its divine expression the whole of the ‘out there’ exists to continually unfold us back to the love that we already are. In its illusionary state the purpose of the ‘out there’ is to keep us embroiled in the illusion for as long as possible. If we turn away from the ‘out there’ and start to focus on the ‘in here’ then it is only a matter of time before we remember that God was inside us all along.’

87. With all our focus on the life happenings outside and around us, we can get lost in it, forget who we are, and lose a sense of connection with the divinity within ourselves. However, as I am learning, this connection is never actually lost. It is simply buried or ignored, forgotten or actively brushed aside, and it only takes a moment to confirm the divine quality that we have once more and feel that re-connection again. The key is however to confirm it once you feel it, as this makes it a real and whole and very much a bodily experience that you can return to again and again.

88. Good on you Alexis for going there. You have the courage to expose this malfunctioning trait in us. The separateness is nurtured in that ‘out there’ state and we get stuck at that spot, love has no room to move. And we so dearly miss the one thing we are all starving for, to love and be loved.

89. “We each have our own perception of the world and rarely stop to consider that the world looks very different to each of us, depending on our own individual ‘in heres’.” This is very true and supports me to have a deeper understanding for myself and others. It clarifies that there is no such thing as right or wrong and that we come from a place based upon our dealt or undealt issues.

90. From attempting to fix the external in order to feel all right inside, i.e. changing the focus of my life from being ‘out there’ to being ‘in here’, my experience of life has been completely changed. Changed from being one of anxiousness and covering up what I was truly feeling inside – unhappy and depressed – to one of self-appreciation. This transpired because by my choice to respond to my inner voice awakened, by the inspiration of Serge Benhayon. Thank you Serge for being you.

91. This is so true “Historically when the ‘out there’ hasn’t worked, we have not questioned the direction of our attention, we have simply increased the intensity of our efforts in the ‘out there’. Then we wonder why our feelings of sadness, lack of confidence and feeling of judgement or hurts in life don’t change. The whole time the lack of relationship to the love within is what is resulting in the lovelessness we experience on the outer.

    1. Well put Danielle.

    2. Or worse… we think our feelings of sadness and lack of confidence are just a normal part of life, when it’s simply a disconnection to the truth we know inside.

       1. Meg what you share is so true, in fact no emotions at all are actually natural to our true way of life and yet they have become the very fabric of our society.

       2. I know! Emotions are not a natural part of us yet we use and abuse them so much they have become a normal part of everyday life – it’s crazy!

       3. Or we can even go and do programs and courses or play sport or become successful or even do self help programs, life coaching or healing retreats and think that we have dealt with the sadness and lack of confidence and that we are now eternally happy and confident and on top of life, but in truth still have the sadness and lack of confidence buried deep and the rest is dressed up on top. This is a horrible imprisonment and is living in the illusion that all is good, when deep down we are rotting on the inside.

       4. Yep – pretending everything is ok is a billion times worse for us than being honest if things are not going so well.

       5. Absolutely because if everything is so called ok then there is never a need to bring change. It’s living a comfortable life instead of a true one.

       6. Danielle we have to ask ourselves what on earth is an ‘ok’ existence when in truth we are the consciousness of God!

       7. Your comment really highlights to me how when we are dishonest and say we’re ok when we’re not the effects are quite massive and we do not begin to initiate the change that is needed and comes first from an honest appraisal of the situation.

92. ‘Few would dare to say “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?”’ This is such a great question, an amazing friend once taught me that no matter what happens I should always look at the part I had to play in it. It’s so easy to blame another, but to take responsibility for yourself and your actions actually feels amazing.

93. Brilliant Alexis!… It is the “ out there”, and the “in here”… It makes it really simple and what these consist of, and how we can absolutely reconfigure and live life with this awareness.

94. Katie, that’s such a game, how we try and find situations and people with which we feel comfortable with, to avoid understanding and feeling the responsibility of seeing our patterns and how we can leave them behind. And we know this, very clearly, I know who to ring who will sympathise and yet when I do that I feel a relief but actually nothing changes, so I’m now learning in these situations to step back a little and feel what my part is and to consider if who I talk to I’m doing so to validate me or to be honest. When I’ve reached out to someone who I know will be honest with me, while the initial conversation might be uncomfortable, I’ve learned hugely and came to a real understanding of what is at play – it’s changed things and is a huge reminder that in each situation we have a choice to see what is going on, to heal and let go and to go deeper with ourselves and others, to address our ‘in here’.

95. ‘Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect.’
    The world offers us many mirrors of reflection everyday. Using these reflections to learn and grow our “in here’s,” is the way to bring truth and rid ourselves of drama that inevitably lead us nowhere. Reflections really do offer us so much when we are aware of its teachings.

96. ‘In truth love is all there is’. And many people are now realising this powerful truth by living it and reflecting this to others.

97. “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?” What a powerful, simple question Alexis, a question that supports a person to look and feel what is happening for them inside. By refocussing the person from the outside it takes away the blame and right/wrong directed towards another.

98. Yes Joel, and we all can play our part ‘As soon as a significant number of people start to change their ‘in heres’ then the feeling in the world will also by reflection be significantly changed. It will become common knowledge that the change in the world has come about through people changing their ‘in heres’, and then the change will spread like wild fire. Indeed this has already begun.

99. “Our future is the same as our past” – Now this just bring everything to a standstill.

100. We can always apportion blame when there is an ‘out there’ .

     1. And thereby avoid looking and feeling to what’s going on within us and thus delaying even more our reconnection back to our grandness.

101. It is empowering and beautiful to know that the divine purpose of this world that we see, is to show us what is going on within all of us. How amazing it is to realise that by changing how we love ourselves improves and changes the world for everyone. This is inspirational and the reflection of this for others is inspirational.

     1. Yes Amanda, we each have the free will and the power to change, let go of our old ways that kept us stuck in our old patterns of abuse. When we come back to self-nurture and self-nourishment, we return to simple living and the wisdom contained in that simple living benefits everyone in this world.

102. It is huge to consider that there is no ‘out there’ without the ‘in here’. I have been part of discussions about changing ourselves before we try and change the world, but still that does not connect with the fact that that everything is connected and that there wouldn’t be chaos in the world if there was not chaos within people first and the world wouldn’t be loveless if we were truly loving within ourselves.

     1. So well said Amanda. This is a simple but profound truth humanity is avoiding; the chaos, suffering and tension we witness in the world is a reflection of what the tension and pain within us not being in connection to our inner most — to our soul.

103. This is an awesome blog Alexis, awesome to re-read again. As you say when this immutable truth is widely known and accepted the world as we know it will enormously change, the responsibility we all have by very natural definition means returning back to the ‘in here’ and the ‘out there’ confirming back to us the love we all are.

104. Great blog Alexis which has set me thinking more about what I might be holding as ‘out there’s’ when in fact I need to bring them in and consider them in the context of ‘in here’. Hiding, rather than standing out, is the easy option but I know that it doesn’t sit well in the long run and that attending to the ‘in here’ is extremely important if change is to occur at any level.

105. True, the separation we create in life is not real, it is an illusion of our own making “Our future is the same as our past, to return to a time when the ‘in here’ and the ‘out there’ is nothing but love because In truth love is all there is.” When we connect with love, it feels full, it feels complete, it feels universal, there is nothing else necessary, all can come back to love.

106. The only real change comes from the inside….”It will become common knowledge that the change in the world has come about through people changing their ‘in heres’,” This has been my inspiration, through the reflection of people connecting to their ‘in heres’ their inner essence and divinity.

107. This really resonated with me, I can remember feeling out of control, I said it was like a small boat rocked on the sea with no oar. I felt out of control and beholden to emotions. Every decision that was made by others, opinions, abuses, issues impacted on me, and I reacted to it all. Observation of my body, how I feel and connection with the steady stillness within has altered this deeply. Observing what takes place but not taking it all on as enabled clarity and stillness to prevail, I have an oar, it is a connection within and it supports me when the ripples, wave and tsunamis come my way.

108. I know I was caught up in the ‘out there’, I could physically feel it in the way my head leaned forward and my eyes hurt at the end of the day, “Through my observations I feel it’s true to say that for most people the ‘out there’ is their reality and this is where the emphasis of life rests for most.” I was propelled by looking out and what was happening and living life from this place and I also have observed this in many people around me. Many conversations are about what is happening to them rather than how they are in themselves. Turning this around supports all of life, making it about how we feel and connecting with our inner soul brings clarity and belonging.

109. When we look at ‘out there’ and get disillusioned by it, we want it different – and we have tried changing it. And, looking at where we are today, it is quite obvious it has not worked. Trying to fix a problem/situation according to an image of how it should be has not worked. And now we are being offered another option – responsibility. I have a feeling it is a choice worth giving it a go.

     1. Hanging on to an idea or image of how things should look does not offer stability and can mean we search to get the image right rather than looking at why it may not be working or how our foundation of our every day impacts on our quality of life. Looking at our responsibility and the foundation from which we live means that we will naturally bring into life that which supports us. There is no need for pictures, ideas or images what will be will naturally unfold.

110. We all experience ‘out there’ in our own ways, and for me, reaction still takes the upper hand over observation.“Have you considered what part you play in all of this?” – this is such a great question to ask myself.

     1. Absolutely Fumiyo, without judgement or harshness but with a loving understanding of why this letting us renounce those behaviours that keep us blaming and reacting to the out there.

111. Bringing it back to our quality inside instead of losing ourselves with the ‘out theres’, is key. ‘As long as the emphasis stays on the ‘out there’, then the ‘out there’ will always stay the same because the ‘out there’ only exists because of the ‘in here’. Without the ‘in here’, there is no ‘out there’.’ Ha ha , so true, what responsibility we have for the in here.

112. ‘Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect.’ What do we choose to reflect?

113. When I privately talk to members of a group criticising a person, I found that often only a few really meant what they said. Quite a few members of that group may be silently or verbally agreeing in order not to become the target themselves. It takes courage, sometimes a lot of courage, to stand up and be truthful against the opinion of a group but it lets us sleep much easier at night.

     1. Well said Christoph, and this is why ‘bitching’ and gossiping is such a common thing in school social groups, workplaces and everywhere really – no one wants to be the person who stands out and says that talking behind someone’s back isn’t okay, because that requires them to step up and be a reflection for NOT doing that consistently… In other words that person would have no basis to say, ‘don’t talk about xyz behind their back’, if at any time they decided to talk about others in this way. It all comes back to consistency and responsibility.

        1. Yes, and courage, especially courage to be love and to express love even when it is not easy.

     2. Christoph I can trace that behaviour back to school. The feeling of being so glad to be ‘in the group’ that I just went along with the pack to avoid detection. That feeling has been the same in me as an adult, feeling relieved when I was the one in with the ‘popular people’ and devastated to be the one who was being criticized and ostracized.

        1. Yes Alexis, it’s great to let that one go. Just being myself is all that matters.

        2. I dealt with the pain of speaking out when it was uncomfortable by taking satisfaction in being the only one who had the courage – I had no choice, it hurt too much to hold back but this satisfaction was not very harmonious either.

114. ‘Many times at work I have witnessed a whole group of people criticise a fellow worker: the fact that there is a group of people all feeling the same way seems to confirm to them that the problem is with the other person…’ this is so common that anyone working in groups of people in our current society can observe it happening daily. Underlying the arrogance and judgement is that which has been exposed or reflected by the person being criticised that the group do not want to face.

     1. ‘Underlying the arrogance and judgement is that which has been exposed or reflected by the person being criticised that the group do not want to face’, well said Michael.

        1. I know when I choose to be irresponsible with my choices and choose not to feel my hurts when confronted by something triggered within me coming up I will seek conformation from someone else in a bid to have my ideal, belief or picture that I have created feel ok and the issue be the other person. These days I usually choose to take responsibility for the discomfort of whatever hurt is bubbling to the surface triggered by a situation out side of me and sit with it and feel the underlying pain of the buried hurt, reconnect with my authentic self and let go of the pain and the attached core belief I developed to confirm that untrue belief. With this process I can appreciate the person that gifted me the opportunity to realise the pain and deepen my connection with the love that I am.

     2. I have to be honest and say that I have been a part of this type of behaviour – as I’m sure many of us have – joining forces with like-minded others to gain collective momentum and avoid taking any individual responsibility for my own contribution…. It’s great to be reminded of this arrogance and to have this exposed.

        1. Bryony I have been realising more and more recently that what you have shared is so very true. When I get really honest about the things in others that I find irritating, frustrating, lacking or any manner of other complaints that I have then what I am now discovering, is that the exact same thing is within me also. This has taken a lot of honesty for me to admit, the biggest was only days ago when I realised that I choose to be on the computer rather than to deepen my relationship with my family and yet I have been blaming them for their lack of connection with me ! These revelations are bringing with them huge opportunities for change.

     3. It is good to be able to observe these things and not get caught up in them. I was just wondering Michael have you spoken to this group of people as sometimes another person’s perspective can help others see a little clearer. I love what Alexis has shared, what I get from this is how we create the ‘out there’ in order not to be and bring ALL the Love we are.

        1. Although I was not referring to one specific situation here but the many experiences of this I have both observed and been a part of in the past this is a great point you raise Vicky. I have been through different stages in relation to this. Initially becoming aware of the fact that I was participating in this in group situations when this was taking place and even initiating it. Once I was aware of it this felt awful and I began to avoid situations or groups of people where I thought this may happen – looking for ‘nice’ or ‘cool’ people who would not be like this. In truth it would still happen here just as much if not more but just with a different attitude. Realising that this was because of how other people affected each other made me realise that I had to look at how I was with other people and from here changes began to happen. As I have continued to make these step by step choices about the way I am with myself, the way I am with others has also changed. I have also begun to express myself differently and more openly with other people, am less measured or reserved. So the answer Vicky is yes, I do now express what I feel when I encounter these situations and have experienced the effect this can have. Not perfected of course, but a gorgeous development to feel and appreciate.

115. To not side with someone and join them in criticising another can be challenging, but the reward is there for everyone in feeling that to criticise another is to not accept our own responsibility to the situation. Nothing good ever comes of belittling other people, whereas great things happen when we bring understanding and look more deeply at our own role in what plays out.

     1. Beautifully said Stephen.

116. “If you want to know how you’re doing on the ‘in here’, then take a look at your ‘out there’, it’s up on the big screen for all to see.” This is exactly why we do not want to reeaalllyy look, and see what’s going on in the world. As I start to let myself see more, the more I realise I have made a contribution to everything I see… yet the more I focus on the quality of the ‘in here’, the less I contribute to all that I hadn’t at one stage wanted to see.

     1. Great reminder and lovely expressed Rosanna, ‘yet the more I focus on the quality of the ‘in here’, the less I contribute to all that I hadn’t at one stage wanted to see.’

     2. Rosanna I love that ‘the more I focus on the quality of the ‘in here’, the less I contribute to all that I hadn’t at one stage wanted to see’ and in so doing we eliminate everything that we don’t want to see, both inside and outside of us.

        1. Great point Alexis, yes, more awareness “inside and outside”!

117. The divine function of the out-there being a reflection of what is not love in the in-here – this is great Alexis. We can then learn so much, if we choose to listen and take self- responsibility for our words, thoughts and deeds.

118. ‘Focus on the out there is a great distraction from the in here, which is the only thing we really have any say over.’ This becomes more obvious as we choose to live from Truth and Love. The outside then changes as a consequence,

119. “Historically when the ‘out there’ hasn’t worked, we have not questioned the direction of our attention, we have simply increased the intensity of our efforts in the ‘out there’.” Love this line Alexis. The extent to which this has governed the direction and quality of our existence can not be overemphasised.

120. This felt very important to expose. I have found that when I want someone to support my opinion, I unconsciously know exactly who to talk with. We can kid ourselves that we are right because the people we speak with agree with us, but this is no random occurrence. If we spent as much time coming back to our inner stillness and wisdom within ourselves as we do rallying support the world would be a very different place.

121. This is such an important topic for us to start exploring and embracing. Having been very much an ‘out there’ person, it requires someone to point it out to you that this is not the only way to be in the world and that it is actually very draining and harmful to the world. Focus on the out there is a great distraction from the in here, which is the only thing we really have any say over.

122. There is a real purpose to life and being out in the world, and this is very different to the purpose we think life is about, a purpose of comfort and self survival. There will be a day in the not too distant future where we are once again taught/supported to understand what life is all about from young. For now Universal Medicine brings us the tools to re-connect to this for ourselves.

123. This is a very real sharing of what is going on in our world and the responsibility we each have for this collectively. The loveless world simply reflects to us the lovelessness we walk around in not claiming the love we all are inside by simply connecting to it. It is beautiful to see the love in everyone as we start to appreciate and love ourselves and by refection this quality inspires others also. This is true evolution to be more love forever more and where we are all going.

124. Taking responsibility for all our actions, without blame need not be a dead weight. It can be confronting but with that there is the opportunity for much learning, true change, evolution and greater joy in life.

     1. I agree Fiona. We have been led to believe that responsibility is a heavy burden. Truly taking responsibility for all our actions actually takes the weight off our shoulders and frees us up to enjoy life.

        1. Elaine and Fiona what you both share about responsibility to self freeing us up rather than burdening us is so true because the real burden comes from when we try and be responsible for everything outside of us. Not only is being responsible for what’s outside of us an incredible weight to bear, it’s actually not even possible, perhaps that’s why it feels so burdensome?

     2. That word ‘responsibility’ has been specifically mis-defined and mis-interpreted for us to never take true responsibility and acknowledge the changes that will bring our collective evolution. I used to think I was super responsible because of all the things I would do correctly/dutifully/reliably. But I had not understood true responsibility to be about my own quality of expression, and not about all the things I did conscientiously.

        1. The ‘good and the bad’ is the ugly.

        2. What a great play with those words Alexis, fun and true.

     3. Leaving behind self-judgement and criticism, we can look objectively and scientifically at what we have allowed to run us and our actions, and how it has affected everyone. Accepting the responsibility for what we have let in, allows us to access deeper understanding of how and why we have done so, and truly understanding ourselves is the way to truly begin healing.

        1. Annie it is only in the last week or so that I have taken responsibility for choosing to separate from myself at 8 years old. I think before that I simply saw myself as a child that was victim to her circumstances but now I see that I did make a decision to move away from being me. I did have a choice and I chose to separate from who I knew myself to be.

     4. Understanding that taking responsibility for our actions can be joyful rather than blaming or judgemental has released a huge weight and struggle from life. Because once we can understand and see clearly how we have created something, there is the space for releasing that energy which doesnt serve, leaving us clearer and more spacious to hold an even greater level of love.. and this is also the joy that awaits us all.

125. “For a lot of my life I have been rolling around in the ‘out there’, caught up in the “she said, he said, it’s not fair” illusion of life” . I too was caught up in this for some years of my life, when I had given up on my connection. It was easy to be caught in that way and not take any responsibility for the self.

126. I agree, the out there is the reflection of the in here and it is the angle we look at things which differs or bring the reflection to us individually.

     1. Absolutely it is all a reflection of what is inside of us. The key is to take responsibility within us and choices we make, with our rhythm and movements.

     2. Very true Kerstin

     3. Kerstin those are a very powerful 4 words, ‘it is the angle’……………….. we look at things which differs or bring the reflection to us individually’.

127. This blog delivers the ultimate message of self responsibility, well written.

128. Yes Rebecca, I agree. Alexis has commented – ‘Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect’. It is our responsibility to re-connect to who we are and to honour that in our way of living in the world by choosing self-responsibility and energetic integrity above all else.

129. This is as great blog to re visit Alexis . I appreciate the need to be reminded of my part in what goes on in the World, especially my inner world and how that impacts the outer. So much truth and simplicity here that I really get the message and I thank you Alexis.

     1. It remind us that there is no inner and outer as we are all connected, all part of the one, so everything that happens must affect the whole. It is like how every cell in the body affects the overall state of the body’s well-being

130. Doug, this is very true, ‘if I change what I am doing everything changes around me’, I noticed this a couple of days ago, I was feeling great, very open and friendly and I was enjoying connecting with people, what I observed was that everyone I met that day was the same with me, I met the most amazing people who would start talking openly with me and afterwards I reflected that as you say ‘what they put out was entirely due to what I was putting out’, very beautiful to feel.

131. This is a major call to humanity to take the responsibility needed to turn the out there back into the harmonious place it should be. A great way of looking at things Alexis, I feel this is a very powerful blog

     1. It is about responsibility, if there is to be any change out there we have to start inside first. Take responsibility for our own actions, only then we can reflect out with truth to support humanity.

132. I just love the way you describe “The ‘out there’ is a magnification of the ‘in here’. The ‘out there’, if you will, is like a giant plasma TV screen of the ‘in here’. If you want to know how you’re doing on the ‘in here’, then take a look at your ‘out there’, it’s up on the big screen for all to see.” How often do we delude ourselves by thinking we can hide our feelings behind an invisible wall of protection when, in fact, 9 times out of 10 we fool no-one.

133. Alexis, reading today I feel the service the ‘out there’ provides us – it shows us what we’ve been doing ‘in here’ and offers a chance to understand and see that we can change ‘in here’ and the truth is we have absolute control over ‘in here’ so it’s hugely empowering to feel and know this – we are not victims of ‘out there’, we’ve just been maintaining faulty beliefs and ideas and ways of being ‘in here’ and this we can change.

     1. I love that way of viewing the ‘out there’ Monica. It is an opportunity to feel the state of the whole, then go back in to the inner world and see where we can refine and develop to further support the whole.

        1. You remind me Fiona that we’re all part of a wider whole and I love that as we develop our relationship with ‘in here’ we bring more of that into ‘out there’ and thus the whole.

     2. This is great Monica and very true – to consider that we are not victims but rather absolutely responsible for ‘within’ and how we are choosing to live. And when we start to shift the pattern of behaviour, I have found things to become far more simpler and a given to keep listening to my body and how i am feeling. There is so much our bodies can teach us, when we stop looking to the outside to do this.

134. Thank you for this sharing Alexis.
     Society is set up for the focus to be outside of us and always striving for the next thing to make life better, all the while this takes us further and further away from appreciating who we are first and being with ourselves. And the difference we feel by simply knowing who we are is huge – as you say – God is inside us and always has been.

     1. I agree hvmorden. Life is setup to keep us striving and trying to fix things out there or after having tried that, giving up on the world. This game played either way keeps us from coming back within and discovering the enormous beauty and simplicity that can be within us, and therefore surrounding us too.

135. Beautiful to be reminded that the ‘out there’ is a collection of all our ‘in theres’. It confuses my mind, because in its linear way it can not grasp the sphericalness of your approach, Alexis. It shows me how often I am still caught up in linear thinking during the day.

136. ‘Few would dare to say “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?”’. Reading this line I am appreciating that I have come a long way, through the support of some very good friends, to look at my part in situations that occur in my life. The humbleness this brings allows me to support others to be honest towards themselves too and accept that nobody is perfect and we are not asked to be either.

137. We spend so much time being ‘out there’ that we get lost in a giant maze we have built and forget where we started from with everything that is ‘in here’. Why did we attempt to leave us to find the center of something we already are?

138. With out the ‘in Here’ there would be no ‘out there’ what a beautiful blog and understanding to life this brings. I love it all espcially that we will one day realise that God is” in here” all along and who we are innately part of by our very being and existence. True love will be lived and the purpose of this world will be fulfilled bringing us back to who we are.

139. This is something we should all ask ourselves ‘Have you considered what part you play in all of this?’ Recently a very wise woman said don’t worry about how everyone else is look at how you are living. This has been so beautifull to do, to instead of moan, belittle, judge or complain about another ask myself how am I? Am I loving enough? Am I open enough? What quality am I bringing to others? What quality am I bringing to all that I do?

140. I’ve noticed how many people blame the weather for how they feel. Especially the space between winter and spring when people feel despondent because spring and light is taking its time to arrive. Yet we can have the feeling of spring inside us all year round.

141. Good point Doug, and on I can relate to.. The world is a mirror of ourselves. What we put ‘out there’ has an uncanny knack of coming back to us. As you say when we change ourselves everything changes.

     1. We are surrender by our own reflections, and therefore it is ultimately so important for us to be responsible for our every movement. Each movement has to have a true quality, as everything is not just reflected back to us but also is felt by others.

        1. Amita what you have shared is crucial to getting ourselves and everybody else out of this massive hole that we’ve dug ourselves into “Each movement has to have a true quality, as everything is not just reflected back to us but also is felt by others’. We’re all in the hole that we’ve dug pretending that it’s real life, so those that know that we’re in a self dug hole need to reflect to everyone else that there is land and sky outside of this dark hole! We’ve created this very narrow reality, it’s not real, once we pull the plug the whole thing will dismantle before our eyes.

142. ‘Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect’. I agree Alexis and we’re not responisible for how a person responds. The person receiving the reflection must be open to receive it! If they have feelings of low self worth, reflection confirms their unworthiness, rather opens up an opportunity to learn.

143. “Out there” offers an incredible opportunity to each and every human being. It offers all a point of reflection and a chance to see and feel the vast differences in what is true and what is not. When you meet the truth, and you know the truth, and it resonates throughout the whole of the human being, it is then we stand together and live this truth in our own way, knowing there is no return to anything less than truth.

144. “As soon as a significant number of people start to change their ‘in heres’ then the feeling in the world will also by reflection be significantly changed. It will become common knowledge that the change in the world has come about through people changing their ‘in heres’, and then the change will spread like wild fire. Indeed this has already begun.” Yes, the ripple that will become a wave has begun, The Way The Livingness.

145. It is so amazing how the world can look completely different from day to day depending on how we are feeling inside. Our ‘in here’ definitely creates our perception of how it is ‘out there’.

146. “Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect.” This has been so revealing and also supportive. Over the last few years I have been able to look at what my life has been reflecting, a lot of it was not loving and supporting, but this have me a choice to change my life and the way I live and choose more loving things. Now I can feel and see more amazing reflections. There is still a long way to go, it’s just the beginning.

147. Alexis Stewart – you are a top writer and this is a top top blog so BIG thanks to you.
     I love how you write and this blog says so much it requires a few re-read visits for sure. The bit that really sticks out for me today is the “out-there is a magnification of the in-here”
     To me this makes sense now and what’s going inside me is then just reflected on the big screen, my world out there so to speak. No point whinging and whining about my world if I am not prepared to look inside and see what choices I am making and contributing to what is going on out there. It would be amazing if more people would look at life in this way as it brings in a level of Responsibility and Accountability.
     Our world tends to focus on the out there at all times and then put effort and attention out there a the cost of the inner being, so is it any wonder we got so many things going wrong inside the human body. Just take an honest look at our healthcare systems around the world today and you get the picture of how bad it actually is.

     1. What I take in is going to be reflected on the big screen out there. Bina Pattel and Alexis Stewart, how smart is that! We are the producers and directors of our own daily soap operas. And we cannot escape this fact.

        1. Felix your use of the description ‘soap operas’, in your sentence ‘We are the producers and directors of our own daily soap operas’ is unfortunately very apt. So many people have the same dramas, highs and lows, infidelity, back stabbing etc that soap operas are full of. We have the power to change our soap operas into beautiful tales of return, if we so choose.

148. “The reason why the world feels so incredibly loveless to so many people is simply because it is a magnification of our collective ‘in here’s’… and there is so much that is loveless in so many people’s ‘in here’s’.” This comment made me stop and ponder Alexis. By taking responsibility for and connecting to our inner world and being the love that we are the outer world naturally takes care of itself.

149. Seeing that we are part of the picture, the ‘out there’ only exists because of the ‘in here’. Without the ‘in here’, there is no ‘out there’, we are all the parts that make up the whole with all our choices too .

150. We are the ‘out there’ as a collective. We are not separate to it, we are a part of it and make up a bigger whole. When each one of us allows a very tiny bit of abuse, multiply that by 7 billion, that’s pretty huge.

151. What is really ‘out there’ right now is the latest trend and that is eyeball tattoos, which I must add is permanent. I can only call this a form of self abuse, yet it is considered ‘cool’. Very very far from being cool.

     1. We can try all we like to not see our part in the world, even to the extent of mutilating or physically torturing oneself in attempt! But we never stop feeling the interconnectedness of us all and how far we have stepped away from a true way of being with ourselves and others harmoniously.

     2. Yes, that one is ‘out there’ Matthew. Tatooing eyeballs has taken extreme behaviour to another level and speaks volumes about what is going on ‘in there’ for that person.

152. I agree Rebecca, and the less willing I am to look at the ‘in here’ the more I look to blame or distract in the ‘out there’, and if there doesn’t seem to be enough out there, well I can create an issue sure enough so there is something. It is hard sometimes to face what we have been resisting, what is coming up inside to be felt and understood, but it is the only way forward towards true clarity and understanding. Thanks for the reminder.

153. What medicine means to me is constantly evolving. Lately I am connecting to the fact that it is all about connecting to myself and my body and allowing myself to feel whatever it presents. I’ve strongly identificated myself with certain hurts, thoughts, behaviour – thinking that I am them. Appreciation has brought me the understanding and return to knowing that this is not True. Accepting this fact and choose to feel, accept and let go of whatever I brought in the way of my natural self is constant Medicine. And when done lovingly, a Joy to explore, returning to who I Truly am.

154. “We each have our own perception of the world and rarely stop to consider that the world looks very different to each of us, depending on our own individual ‘in heres’”. So true Alexis. This is why in so many instances that people have such different views on the same matter. If we are coming from any hurt, it is distorted, but coming from love the truth of everything can be felt.

155. I agree Matilda, collusion makes it so much easier to divest ourselves of responsibility and collectively target another to justify our actions.. But everyone loses out here because if we don’t see our part there can be no awareness, and therefore no evolution – and everyone is the lesser.

156. The ‘out there’ can affect us more than we realise. Even when speaking we can focus on what people are thinking or wanting to hear, and we adjust what we say in order to be accepted or liked. I am working on staying with my inner connection and speaking from there without being concerned with how others are receiving it. A work in progress and one worth focusing on.

     1. Rebecca, you have brought the macrocosm of life in to the microcosm of daily living, this is the work of someone who is very aware and humble.

     2. That’s so true Rebecca – staying present and truly connecting with people is super important and definitely worth working on.

157. The responsibility we all have for what is out there is immense and far greater than we all what to feel and is only seen from the dedication and consistency to the in here. This is beautiful to read and claim for ourselves and a great sharing and calling to come from all of who we are in the smallest detail , thank you.

158. It is very revealing also to consider how we treat every person, and how we treat ourselves first and foremost.. the first sign of dismissiveness, disrespect or even anything less than absolute respect and love begins the slippery slope towards abuse – and if someone is deeply abusive to themselves, they are less aware of abuse going on around them. Their ‘in there’ is abuse, so likely the ‘out there’ would be reflecting the same.

     1. And our definition of abuse is likely to change the more we do respect and care for ourselves. It is an ongoing and ever changing process.

        1. Elaine that’s such a great point.

     2. ‘– and if someone is deeply abusive to themselves, they are less aware of abuse going on around them.’ this is true, we can be and often are deeply abusive to ourselves – sometimes in the name of ‘personal development’, ‘Training’, ‘Experience’ and even ‘Religion’

        1. Carmel what is being confirmed in my experience is that it is my relationship with myself that sets everything else in motion. If I am abusive to myself then I will be abusive to others in some way. It is only by returning to being pure love with myself that I will, in turn, be able to be pure love with everyone else, regardless of what they are being with me.

     3. Absolutely Annie and the loveless slope is very slippery indeed.

159. It is indeed a great point to consider our part in all of this – how have we contributed to abuse, violence, attitudes to women, world hunger, trafficking and sex slavery. We may not have actively bought a slave recently, but where have we stayed in silence and comfort in the face of such horrendous practices, in seeing abuse or violence, or in the futility that it’s ‘out of our control’. Nothing is bigger than us if we all stand and speak up against abuse that we see.

     1. Great point Annie: “Nothing is bigger than us if we all stand and speak up against abuse that we see”. Our voices are powerful when we stand as One.

     2. Very powerful comment Annie. I often wondered how and why one man/ruler could wield so much power over thousands of people – if they all united they would be a force to reckon with.

160. The changing our perception of smoking by banning it from where is was once of the main places we would smoke; bars, restaurants, and not so many years ago it would have be hard to find someplace you could not smoke with the exception of places that did not care about the smoking but with what you lit your cigarette with… explosive places. Smoking is now dropping a bit and slowly being seen as an unacceptable behavior. We can, as you have said, build our reflection of what we know as truth and others will follow.

     1. Yes Steve, I remember being able to smoke on planes, and even on the underground. Travelling back then was treacherous and unpleasant for the non smoker. As you say, big changes can happen when enough people make their voices heard.

161. “As soon as a significant number of people start to change their ‘in heres’ then the feeling in the world will also by reflection be significantly changed.” This is such a great wisdom to know because it gives us the keys to change the world easily. It is not about going ‘out there’ and changing the world but going inside of ourselves and changing the way we are living with ourselves. This is something we all can do and is very possible.

162. ‘Knowing that every-thing that is not love does not belong in the ‘in here’, the divine function of the ‘out there’ is to reflect back to us the what-is-not-love on the ‘in here’ because if it weren’t for the ‘out there’, how would we know what is not love on the ‘in here’?’ I love this Alexis. It explains how I can still hide from the ‘out there’ because I don’t want to see the reflection it offers me because with that comes more responsibility.

163. This is so true “Few would dare to say “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?” We fear being seen as being judgemental when in fact it has nothing to do with being judgemental and everything to do with asking another to be responsible.

     1. Yes I agree Elizabeth. It is almost a silent rule to not go there, to not ask the to be asked question “What part do you play in this?”. I would often feel really challenged and even would go totally into desperation (like end of the world style) when someone asked me what my part in something could be, that is to take responsibility and see my part in it. Slowly I am learning though that is a great gift for someone to ask me this as when I reflect on something and what my part could be in it I truly learn and do it differently next time.

        1. Love this observation Lieke. I have found it is much easier to accept my part in things when I appreciate myself as I don’t get tempted to judge myself and beat myself up. This allows me to take responsibility and change what can be changed.

        2. Leone, I think what you have shared is invaluable ‘ I have found it is much easier to accept my part in things when I appreciate myself as I don’t get tempted to judge myself and beat myself up’. It goes hand in hand with how much easier it is to take responsibility for our part in things when we take out the concept of ‘wrong and right’. If everything is simply learning then it’s so much easier to accept our part in everything.

        3. I love being reminded that I am always learning (or relearning as I have a feeling I know all the lessons inside out). Sometimes I get frustrated as I seem to have to learn the same lesson countless times. I am coming to accept that the lessons will only stop once I have lived what I need to relearn.

        4. Great Lieke, yes it can be hard to do, but only with a commitment to honesty, is greater understanding and awareness possible, and that is a gift beyond measure. We get to understand that there is something deeper going on, and that we are not those patterns we run and the dramas we seem to have created around us. We can also get to see and understand why we have created those dramas in the first place, and that can be surprising and deeply freeing because once we register those, we have the freedom to learn and to make a different choice.

        5. I agree Lieke, if we give ourselves a chance, and not go into reaction, considering the question, ‘what part do you play in this?’ is a great opportunity to grow.

        6. Learning to take responsibility for every single choice that we make can indeed be challenging because we like to think that we can get away with some things. The truth however is that we cannot get away with anything because our body registers every choice we have ever made.

        7. ‘It goes hand in hand with how much easier it is to take responsibility for our part in things when we take out the concept of ‘wrong and right’. If everything is simply learning then it’s so much easier to accept our part in everything’. I have found that this really helps Alexis, that there is no ‘right or wrong’, simply a learning.

        8. So true Lieke that it is a great gift when we are asked to reflect on what is our part in a situation. I thank very much Serge Benhayon, his family and Universal Medicine for the support and inspiration for enabling me to understand this. For by doing so it leads to the understanding that, “Our future is the same as our past, to return to a time when the ‘in here’ and the ‘out there’ is nothing but love because In truth love is all there is.”

        9. I agree too Lieke, it is sometimes difficult when we feel events and people and conspired and colluded against us, and the injustice of it, when in fact there is much of great value to learn if we choose to be honest – we have had a part to play in this: it could be that we have chosen to not read and be aware of the energy at play, that we have not held enough love for ourselves or others to speak up at what was happening, that we have chosen to continue an eons-long momentum of not speaking, of contracting, of not standing our ground, of allowing abuse by our silence or complicitness..and so on.. The reason why we have an abusive, unjust and cruel world today, is because of what humanity has allowed to flourish unchallenged – by not speaking up at the first sign of disharmony and lack of love between us, or by not registering it even with ourselves.

     2. I agree Elizabeth, if we could understand that looking at our part in a situation is not about judgement at all, but rather responsibility and learning and greater awareness, then we could all learn how to move forward together and supporting each other, never making it about blame and judgement. This would be true steps towards relating and building trust between each other.

        1. How true Annie. We seem to avoid being seen as ‘wrong’ like the plague. We wriggle, squirm and outright lie our way out of being seen as the culprit. It’s second nature for us to blame another if our boss has picked up on a problem “well, so and so didn’t do blah, blah, blah”. If our partner brings something up then our knee jerk reaction is to say ‘Yeh but you blah, blah, blah”. And these conversations never lead anywhere other than round and around. Responsibility is the super highway out of here.

        2. ‘We seem to avoid being seen as ‘wrong’ like the plague. We wriggle, squirm and outright lie our way out of being seen as the culprit.’
           So true Alexis, and yes I can totally relate to the ‘second nature’ of weaseling my way out of the ‘I’ve done something wrong’ category. Why is it we don’t want to be the one to be blamed? Is it because we are so used to blaming others for petty mistakes, rather then talking stuff through together as a brotherhood that we know how awful it feels to be on the receiving end of such… well… abuse! By taking responsibility the blame is dissolved and perhaps we can then show others that making mistakes or being wrong is not as bad as it seems. Especially if we are willing to open up and understand the why behind it and learn from what seemed to be wrong. There are so many constant lessons on offer; blame blinds us to these blessings.

        3. I have also noticed in some work situations, when there is a culture of judgement and blame used as a way of controlling workers, then it is like a cancer that spreads amongst all the workers to deflect the judgement coming at them, easier to try to blame someone else to not feel the abuse being directed towards them… but this is so fundamentally counter-productive and harmful, as this destroys relationships between people, and undermines everyone rather than truly supporting when it could be each person joyfully taking responsibility for their part, and greater learning for all.

     3. Many do not ask or reflect on this question, ‘Have you considered what part you play in all of this?”, yet it is vital to reflect on this if we truly want to change and heal our patterns and ways of being that are less than loving.

     4. Exactly right Elizabeth – we are actually being responsible when we ask another to be responsible. It will take courage at first but with practice it will become normal.

164. It is easy to blame government, society, or muslims or communists or jews or our health system, or bad drivers for the state of world affairs, but it is much more difficult to look inwardly and see that the way we contribute to the way things are.

     1. Well said Adam – in that blame we are pretty much wiping our hands of all responsibility and interconnectedness with all. In that blame we are saying no to change and writing off the world as a hopeless place that is done for! To me, that makes it so challenging to live a joyful life full of love and playfulness when the gloom of what we claim to be unchangeable lurks over our heads. Looking within is proving to be a simple and delightful journey of re-awakening and understanding of what life is offering us by way of constant reflection.

165. We have forgotten about the ‘in here’ for so long the truly deeply ‘in here’. Thank goodness for Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine who are waking everyone up.

166. I find this blog very revealing when we consider just how much we tend to ignore what is ‘out there’ because we do not want to see what is really going on ‘out there’, yet what is this saying out our relationship with our ‘in here’?

167. Alexis I loved this blog ‘As soon as a significant number of people start to change their ‘in heres’ then the feeling in the world will also by reflection be significantly changed.’ The more we reflect back that it’s ok to ‘in here’ and we don’t need to live in the ‘out there’ the more people will trust that the ‘in here’ is the right place to be.

168. Alexis – an amazing blog exposing how we see and deal with life. What stood out for me today to be reminded of was: “nothing (as in no-thing) exists ‘out there’ without it first existing in the ‘in here’.” And how awesome is life in reflecting the truth of how we are living, if we choose to be honest and take self responsibility as an important point to learn from .

169. The level of responsibility that you’re talking about is not considered by the majority. And as you depict it correctly, as long as the majority is the majority, the majority can stay in the illusory feeling to be right… Until more and more people like you, Alexis, start to point out the truth. One by one reading this and being confronted with this truth the illusion is weakened.

170. Could you imagine the world where this happened – “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?”????? It would be super challenging for so many – I know it can be challenging for myself when I ask myself that questions and don’t always want to see the part I have played.

     1. I agree Sarah, it is quite easy to see the mess that the world is in, but it takes some courage and honesty to turn it into a reflection of what it can expose in us where have we settled for less than what is true, where have we sold out to, or invested in something because it brings us recognition or reward or individuality.. there is so much if we decided to be honest, but all it takes is that first commitment to know truth above all else.

171. I love reading this blog as it reminds me of the truth of, ‘Change yourself and your world changes.’

172. I listen to people complain about one another at work all the time and I have done it myself. It is often to big a leap, or there is too big a block to see our own part in whatever situation is created that we are confronted with. Yet if we look back over our lives we will see the same patterns repeat again and again until we are actually willing to face the facts that we all make the lives we get. Once we address this then the issues that others arise in us no longer occur or become much less of an issue and life can then get much better.

     1. Yes Stephen I agree and find it a really powerful process looking at how patterns play out. When I see and really feel into a pattern, it is clear to me that I cannot blame any one else ‘out there’ as it is has been me creating that pattern.

173. “Our future is the same as our past, to return to a time when the ‘in here’ and the ‘out there’ is nothing but love because In truth love is all there is.” love this sentence Alexis, indeed we are all in it and it’s empowering to feel the reflection that can be offered to others by me being more consistent in the “in here” .

174. Donna as I am reading through the comments that was the feeling I have ” I am enjoying the process of seeing my ” out there ” change remarkably to reflect the changes I have made ” in here”. My world is reflecting such love, I meet it everywhere I go, which had me so inspired as I was feeling the world has changed. But the responsibility I now live ” in here” is reflecting in my ” out there” and it’s also to be appreciated in the foundations and choices I have laid.

175. I am enjoying the process of seeing my “out there” change remarkably to reflect the changes I have made “in here”. Your blog Alexis is a beautiful reminder to always take responsibility for how we feel – all of the time.

176. It is important to be ‘out there’ with the in here well and truly part of life. Out there is ever so supported by the ‘in here’.

     1. Totally agree Matthew, if we can connect to the true inner essence and develop that ‘in here’ into the quality of all the ‘out there’ then our lives would be able take on the immense beauty and magic of our inner life, and life itself would return to a truth we have long ago forgotten.

177. Being ‘out there’ is a constant mental game and very draining. So if we are out there, we have left our ‘in here’, open to anything that wants a free home, which introduces all sorts of thoughts that then influence the out there even more.

178. I have just had some experiences over the past couple of days where I have not been fully claimed in my purpose has been presenting. It has been fascinating to feel how the energy knows just exactly how to manoeuvre and manipulate, because of this. I have been able to bring more awareness to it and now going forward will be able to make other choices. This obviously needing to come from within and never as you say Alexis from the outer!

179. “The ‘out there’ is a magnification of the ‘in here’”. What we present to the world is the sum of what we feel inside and if it is not then what we are reflecting is not who we are in our essence and we need to ask ourselves why this is. To reflect truly from our essence is the best gift we can give humanity. A great sharing, Alexis.

180. ‘Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect.’ Reflecting on what you have shared here Alexis I have a deeper appreciation of the many reflections that appear throughout my day and the insights they bring

181. So true. As a society we do seem to love to blame others rather than take responsibility for ourselves. This does not work.

182. “We are all love equally and in its divine expression the whole of the ‘out there’ exists to continually unfold us back to the love that we already are” I love this statement Alexis, for within it I can feel the continual evolving movement of the whole universe. We are part of the “out there” — its energy flows through us all the time, and we can choose what will allow us “to unfold ourselves back to the love we truly are”. There is actually no separation, we are part of it, and it is part of us, all we have to do is choose the love.

     1. I love that statement too and your addition as well Joan. If we consider that we are unfolding back to a love that we already are it takes away the striving of trying to be something and makes it more about reconnecting with what is already within us.

        1. I feel the wonderful thing is that we have a choice Fiona. Here we are living moments of time and in every moment that is now we have a choice to feel that evolving energy and move with it not obstruct it. The world’s problems come from obstructing it, which is also a choice.

183. “There is nowhere to hide, no one to blame, we have set everything in motion ourselves; and by everything I literally mean every-thing – nothing (as in no-thing) exists ‘out there’ without it first existing in the ‘in here’.”
     This is really revealing of how we think about the things we do in our spare time, or in those supposedly private moments when we think that there is no one else around. Never do we stop being responsible for ourselves. It is often difficult to hear, but it is up to us to determine what kind of life we wish to have. This does not mean being rich or poor, that our life would be easy if we just wish it to be so, it means that the way we react to life, and what we do when things get hard will determine the quality of our living. That has a far far greater consequence on how we feel about our life, and it comes down to our choices.

184. Yes, we sure have taken on many of the loveless ways from ‘out there’ and the results are catastrophic. Statistics tell the tale, we can’t hide from these.

185. love this call to the greater responsibility we hold, not only of the state of our own lives, but also in our contribution to the state of the world, and to remember that inaction is still an active choice we make.

186. ‘ If we turn away from the ‘out there’ and start to focus on the ‘in here’ then it is only a matter of time before we remember that God was inside us all along.’ – Very true Alexis and beautifully said. Universal Medicine presentations supported me to focus on the ‘in here’ and I began to make choices that were more loving and true. Taking responsibility for my actions has been key to accepting and understanding situations and people rather than blaming and judging them.

     1. I agree Anna, one of the greatest healings ever is the realisation that we have everything inside of us, we are already born whole and equal with all..so we can never ever be less, it is only a matter of choosing to live less or choosing to reclaim and unfold what we have within. Its a game changer.

187. My feeling is, that you describe one of the main diseases in society – looking for love outside of ourselves and when something goes wrong, of course somebody else must be guilty of that. The lack of responsibility is still enormous. We can’t wait for anybody to show us the way, we ourselves can lead the way, we can be role models for other people, when we start to take responsibility for all our choices.

188. “If we turn away from the ‘out there’ and start to focus on the ‘in here’ then it is only a matter of time before we remember that God was inside us all along.” What I am finding is that even the ‘out there’ can be in our own bodies. We can blame it and react to what it does and create this gap where our being and our body are separate from one another, which is not true because our body reflects our choices. Which then brings up the fact that we are actually much more than our bodies, that our ‘in here’ is not psychical but energetic. Our ‘in here’ is not something that is dense for the human eye to see but the whole body can feel the quality of our being. Which brings it home more that we are energetic beings rather than just human beings.

189. This is agreat reminder, Elaine, it is like getting back to truth again and not be distracted in any way.

190. Well said Mary, I can relate to what you have written here about waiting for the world to change first, feeling helpless and demotivated in the past. Thank God for Serge Benhayon being so patient and showing the world that there is a different way to live.

     1. I can relate to waiting for others or the world to change first. The problem with that is that we all just wait around and nothing changes, and in fact things get worse.

        1. Debra I agree that so many of us wait for people to change in relationships before we change. It’s like stale mate. We hold tight in our contracted position, waiting for the other person to shift from there contracted position, often bagging them out for not changing! I have felt the most incredible shifts in my relationships by committing to changing with no expectation on the other person changing.

     2. Hear hear to what you share here Julie, and yes, ‘Thank God for Serge Benhayon being so patient and showing the world that there is a different way to live.’

191. In relationship it’s not uncommon for me to feel challenged by certain behaviours. If at this time I respond to the behaviour and want to control the “out there” in reaction, I will often find myself in the wake of a drama that follows having made the choice to change the outer rather then the inner.
     Feeling disappointment and frustration that a particular behaviour does not match my ideals and beliefs can also be a trap that keeps me focused on fixing the “out there”, resulting in discomfort and the desire to control.
     Alternatively if I stop and allow myself to connect and feel the love I am “in here” first, I feel a gentle stillness that allows a love inside me to open up and connect to the inner quality both within myself and the other. This is the key that unlocks the wisdom and inspires the motion to contribute anything to the “out there”.
     The feeling is so completely different to when I choose to be disconnected in relationship. When connecting first to the “In here”, I am not concerned about others judgments from “out there”, I feel a freedom to express lovingly and in alignment with what feels true.
     The response from this place often amazes me, and is not short of a miracle. I have no doubt the quality of our inner is reflected in our outer world.
     The question is then what are we reflecting?

192. Thank you Mary for sharing with such honesty,
     I can also feel the responsibility to look inward and connect with my heart before responding to another.
     To respond from any hurt or need just further entrenches the illusionary pull of the “out there”, adding to the lovelessness and confirming the hurt.
     To respond from our essence allows for miracles to happen right before our eyes!

     1. Yes reacting is something we can easily slip into in any situation, and when we look at what is behind reaction, it is just us not responding from who we are but rather from a hurt or need. To be honest with this is a step to start feeling the difference between reacting and responding, and trusting the connection we have within ourselves and are able to honour all of the time.

193. The “blame game” that we all participate in from time to time is simply an aversion of the responsibility we all carry towards each other. As the old saying goes, it takes two to tango.

194. The paradox of being in life, 100% committed and involved in community and work, yet not being ‘of life’ only truly made sense after studying with Universal Medicine. Bringing everything back to feeling in an honest and simple way, puts a holt to so many mental contrivances about how to live. It is all there is our bodies, which does not mean insulating ourselves from life one bit – in fact it allows a letting go of much protection from the hurts we hold around life not working, in its micro and macro forms.

195. The simplicity of being a reflection through the quality, consistency and way we are is in itself inspiring. In the same way as I was inspired by many in Universal Medicine I can appreciate the ability that I too have to inspire those I meet. Now thats what will change the world.

196. “As long as the emphasis stays on the ‘out there’, then the ‘out there’ will always stay the same because the ‘out there’ only exists because of the ‘in here’.” A strong point Alexis and calls us to stop the blame game. If we want to change, it is time we stop looking outside of ourselves, stop blaming others and take full responsibility for how we feel, knowing that it is direct reflection of the choices that we have made in the past and continue in the present. To make a change to our ‘in here’ requires first of all being honest and then making different choices.

     1. And a reminder to me that if I am in my head I am already in the out there.

        1. Yes elainearthey, the more we choose to connect with our bodies and truth within ourselves the more of the “out there” falls away or comes up to be dealt to be renounced as it is totally against our true nature of love.

197. ‘Holding the world to ransom’, yes I know this one well Mary, and what a weapon of mass destruction it actually is. Thank you for reminding me of the power we all behold. Every choice, every movement we make either adds to the devastation, or re-sets the course with love.

198. “When we have a struggle with someone then we nearly always put our attention on what we perceive it is that they are doing wrong.” This is something that I see a lot at work. I use to get caught up in the blaming others game. But over last few years have been looking at how i can change myself that my reflection allows these people to be respectful, honest and trust worthy. It has been working for me and my relationships has changed with my staff.

199. This blog just reinforces the importance of our responsibility for all our thoughts, actions and words as we all know it’s not working out there, so we all have a duty to help put that right.

200. I love that there is nowhere to hide no one to blame. I find driving in the very busy city of London is a good indication of where I am at, in any given moment, are people cutting me up or are they giving me space, are people tearing past me or slowing me down?

     1. kevmchardy when you are on the ground amongst the hustle and bustle of the traffic, most people would resign themselves to that’s just how it is, some days chaotic some days the traffic flows. To bring this back to reflection and take responsibility for your part is huge. I know for me if I lay the foundations before I travel it unfolds, but if I am not prepared in the detail I find delays along the way including running late, and if you are honest enough to reflect you will find a lack of commitment and purpose before I even got out the door. Wow it’s so immediate … our experiences are our choices.

201. A timely blog for me to read, thank you Alexis for sharing. I have been noticing lately my attention to the ‘out there’ and just noting to myself why is the attention not going ‘in here’ – as I become more honest with this awareness I can feel the pull to go ‘in here’ more and I feel actually very loved by this.

202. There is something very ugly and insidious about ‘safety in numbers’ – once we have a few others on our side in the focus on someone’s else ‘wrong doing’ we are so far from taking responsibility and so caught in a collusion of blame. The greatest friend or colleague is the one who provides us with the opportunity to explore the part we play in any situation – from here we are open to the power, joy and evolution of responsibility.

     1. Thank you for reminding me of this this morning. It is a truth to always be aware of and, when appropriate, share and when someone calls it out in us to welcome.

     2. That is so true Matilda and to know such a friend or colleagues is such a gift and needs to be celebrated and appreciated.

203. Knowing we can make a difference to the ‘out there’ is allowing appreciation of our grandness. Not because we are more special though but that we all are equally from and made of this divine and eternal love.

     1. Beautiful Annie and how spectacular is it going to be when we all remember that we are The Sons of God and are all taking responsibility for our ‘in here’s’? Wohoo it’s going to get super busy on the in here and the out there is going to get very shiny indeed!

204. This is gorgeous and this is what responsible can promote, not holding back ourselves and learning to live large and unencumbered by our issues not only liberates us, it is an inspiration and so the ripples spread out.

205. Reading this got me pondering how much I have taken the outside as an attack and affront rather than considering there maybe something to learn. “We are all love equally and in its divine expression the whole of the ‘out there’ exists to continually unfold us back to the love that we already are.” Considering this quote even for a moment and pondering ‘is this what is happening in life?’ and than having a go at seeing everything as something to learn, changes lives. No more victim, no more any type of drama, just the purpose of returning to the love that we know and that we all are…

     1. I love this quote as well davidsonsamantha. I am working in the mental health area and I can observe exactly this – it is magical how things are lined up for the patient to go to a deeper understanding for themselves but they refused it as having a bad time. Through this I learned that everything that is happening to me is an heavenly gift to get a deeper understanding for myself.

     2. That’s a great point Samantha – about being open to what there is for us to learn in any situation. I know if I go into ‘victim mode’ then there is no learning possible – just wallowing!

        1. Fiona many a woman has drowned from wallowing in the waters of ‘Poor Me’.

        2. True Fiona, by taking each and every situation as an opportunity for learning about ourselves, then no matter what happens, no matter how traumatic or miserable, we can receive it as a wonderful gift from God. Accepting responsibility and learning what each situation is bringing to us allows us to make the most of the incident and to grow and deepen in wisdom.

        3. Yes Fiona, every situation presents an opportunity to learn more about ourselves if we remain open, so although it may seem and be difficult at the time, it is in reality a gift.

206. “Life is the sum total of all of its parts.” Very powerful and poignant Alexis. We cannot escape our responsibility forever. In the end, we will need to come to the honest truth that we create our own existence. We make choices that determine the outcome and our experience of lie. And that collectively, as humanity, we are responsible for how the world is, so in creating change it starts with us as individuals, equal parts of the whole.

207. Crucial to understanding another is to consider that our perception can differ “We each have our own perception of the world and rarely stop to consider that the world looks very different to each of us,” Knowing that what people chose and what people encounter impacts on how they perceive life allows us space to express how we feel without judgement and righteousness coming into play.

208. A powerful break-down of the illusion that there is anything separate from us, or anything that we are not responsible for, whether within ourselves or the world around us that we create.

     1. I like that little nutshell Dianne -‘the world around us that WE CREATE – says it all. With all the pain and suffering in the world this really offered something poignant to ponder.

     2. I agree Dianne, and a great reminder that we have the power of choice of responsibility we can take, which then creates the world we live in.

        1. Wow Annie, we currently live in a world where most people shirk responsibility, imagine what it will be like when we get to a point where the majority of people are choosing to take responsibility. So solid and so united, one throng of people all moving towards a common goal.

209. It’s so true, everything that comes to us in life is a reflection of what is going on in the ‘in-here’ .. and I mean every-thing, good, bad and indifferent. There really is no luck, no victimhood, no-one else to blame and there is a great sense of power in knowing that we are in control of our lives by simply taking care of our ‘in-heres’.

     1. Jeannette, you are absolutely spot on when you say that there is no such thing as luck. I really do think that in the future we will do away with that word completely as it is totally made up.

        1. Wow, imagine no such concept as luck – there would be no more gambling with our lives.

210. Taking responsibility for ourselves really does make a difference to the world. We may not see changes that we expect, and nor should there be any attachment to such changes, but it doesn’t mean that we aren’t providing a great support to all humanity by being responsible for the one thing we can be – ourself!

     1. Very lovely comment Fiona, we can indeed be responsible for ourselves and as you say this does offer support to humanity. It is also great that you mention not getting attached to outcomes, supporting others does not mean you will necessarily get thanks and attention, it may be that what you share is never directly appreciated, but this isn’t the point. Supporting humanity isn’t about the individual recognition, it concerns the whole at all times.

     2. Yes Fiona, this is something I can get caught up in – having a fixed picture of the changes I expect to see as a result of my actions. It’s so true that we may never get to see the consequences of our actions, but that should not stop us from taking responsibility and supporting others where we can. Not having any expectations means we don’t set ourselves up to be disappointed.

        1. Debra it’s true that we may never get to see the consequences of our actions but we always get to feel them.

211. When I take a moment to ponder this, there is no doubt for me that this is true, “The ‘out there’ is a magnification of the ‘in here’.” how could it be any different, we bring to life what we chose.

212. Alexis, you are so spot on. Focusing on what is going on outside of us and trying to fix it or make it right, in many cases is just a distraction from the fact that we know the patterns we are playing our, the choices we are making and the lives we are living are not inline with the truth of who we are.

213. Go Mary, go Mary, go Mary !

214. “I have learnt through Universal Medicine that I was holding the world to ransom, so I’m making the changes to my life and by me the microcosm changing it can set up a chain reaction for the world macrocosm to change how about that!”. This is beautiful Mary and brings a true understanding of what it means to be a change agent. We change ourselves first and then the world changes.

     1. I agree Elizabeth, what Mary shares about starting with ourselves is the key. I used to think it was hopeless trying to change what’s wrong with the world. It’s such a big job, that it’s easy to just say ‘oh well’ and focus on making your own life comfortable. BUT actually by making small changes to the way we live does have a ripple effect, and the more each individual takes charge of what they can control, the more a ground swell is created that can effect massive change.

     2. Absolutely Mary and Elizabeth, change begins with self and then we notice the world is different. It is letting go of old patterns of holding people to ransom and demanding they change first, then I will change, this never works.

215. I love being ‘out there’ in the world while being connected to the ‘in here’, if I let ‘in here’ go, anything can happen.

     1. Yes Matthew I too find it is much more fun to be ‘out there’ when connected to yourself and can be quite overwhelming when disconnected. It is even ‘funner’ when groups of connected people share time together in the ‘out there’.

     2. This is a good point Matthew and one I have experienced. When I focus on the ‘out there,’ I am at the mercy of the chaos and can absorb all the emotions that are constantly flying around. When my focus is on the ‘in here,’ I can happily be ‘out there,’ but not be affected by it.

216. The ‘out there’ is so complicated, such a minefield of pitfalls that can tie me up in circles when I have let it. The ‘in here’ is simple and true, feeling the awareness of the difference is key and gets easier the more we stay ‘in here’ .

     1. gillrandall I had to laugh as I also can admit that for me the “out there” is so much more complicated than “in there” – it is as simplicity has no space “out there”.

     2. Gill more and more I am finding that the ‘out there’ is just as simple and true as the ‘in here’, as long as I continually keep asking myself what is the ‘out there’ saying about me. What I am finding more and more is that the ‘out there’ continually keeps calling me to take more and more responsibility. The more responsible I become, the more responsibility I am called to take.

        1. Love this Alexis, such a simple check-in ‘what is the out there’ saying about me?’. It’s all right in front of our noses if we choose to see it.

        2. A great question to reflect on Alexis, ‘I continually keep asking myself what is the ‘out there’ saying about me,’ whilst making sure all the time that I am ‘in here’ with me. Which brings it back to me being responsible.

217. True responsibility I call this Mary. When we change the way we do things and the quality in which we do them the whole world changes.

     1. Elaine when you say ‘When we change the way we do things and the quality in which we do them the whole world changes’, that is indeed the God’s honest truth, the world is quite literally a different place.

     2. Well said, Elaine. If we don’t address the blockages that are keeping us from bringing our true selves to the world and what we do, then we are only recycling that which doesn’t truly support others and doesn’t lead us to evolve.

     3. Beautiful Elaine. It is powerful when we choose the quality of love in our day. It blesses everyone we meet and reminds others of the inner divine spark that is there.

     4. The absolute beauty of the interconnected whole that we are all part of. Thank you Elaine.

     5. It really is that simple Elaine, ‘When we change the way we do things and the quality in which we do them the whole world changes.’

218. If we accept that we are contributing, even ever so slightly, to all that’s going on around us in our world today, then we have a responsibility to ensure that what we’re bringing is contributing in a positive way and not negatively as we’re affecting everyone else, as well as our selves. This blog and all the comments are an inspiring reminder that we’re contributing every minute of every day, not just when we think about it, or decide to ‘make more effort’ …….

219. I loved reading this blog, as it reminds me of the simplicity of life, everything we choose, we’ll get reflected. No exception, so there is actually only one simple choice to change our lives and all the problems that are occuring in the world. That is to choose to live from love to the best of our ability, and use the reflection as a gift for it shows us what’s it what needs work.

     1. Benkt I agree, it’s almost a relief isn’t it, knowing that by keeping it super simple and continually bringing it back to ourselves then we take care of everything else.

        1. It almost is, and brings the responsibility for our lives in our own hands. Which makes life actually super simple, as we don’t need to search for things that are outside of us.

        2. In a nutshell my friend.

        3. Every time I challenge myself to another level of simplicity, I first have to deal with the stories my mind has that it cannot be that simple. If I surrender to the simplicity I am shown that the stories are just that – getting in the way of the magic that unfolds when I let go.

        4. Vicky I was really struck by what you have shared ‘Every time I challenge myself to another level of simplicity, I first have to deal with the stories my mind has that it cannot be that simple. If I surrender to the simplicity I am shown that the stories are just that – getting in the way of the magic that unfolds when I let go’, this really is so powerfully true.

     2. I like how you expressed this so simply Benkt. Choosing simplicity is choosing to live from love.

     3. So true, Benkt and thank you for this. How powerful we are, and how simple it really is, or can be?

     4. I love your appreciation of the gift that our reflection is and constantly offers us Benkt. It’s like everyday we are offered a seat in heaven’s classroom. I hadn’t seen it like this before, and for this, thank you.

     5. Absolutely Benkt. Living from the simplicity, to be all of us and share that with the world. Magic indeed.

220. ‘If you want to know how you’re doing on the ‘in here’, then take a look at your ‘out there’, it’s up on the big screen for all to see.’ ….. just love this, Alexis. It’s so true, how we are with ourselves, how we choose to be in each moment 100% affects our perception, how we see the ‘out there’, how much understanding we bring and how much we claim our part in what’s going on around us.

221. “Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect.’ Nature is a very clear example of this, nature just is and this Magic of God reflects to us all our choices, simple and very playful too.

222. Such a great blog Alexis. The amazingness of our ‘in here’ is just hidden behind layers of protection. As this light breaks through the layers we are able to correspond with the light ‘out there’ and this is a beautiful moment to feel and experience. Letting the light through allows you to see the light in others, even behind and through their layers of protection, what a gift this is.

223. “Our future is the same as our past…” and as we return to the past, we realise that this has all been one long detour, back to the beginning.

224. How long can we go on applying fixes from without to try to resolve our ills before we finally turn to look at ourselves? Starting to consider our own impact on life is a true moment of humility, painful but equally empowering and potentially the start of a true change.

225. I am reminded of the mysterious ‘they’, who are part of the ‘out there’ and who it seems are to blame for most things in life. ‘They’ are an undefined group of people who should do things differently and because ‘they’ haven’t done what ‘they’ should have done then I can’t do what I should be doing and am absolved.

     1. Yes Richard – very well said! I know I’ve thought like this before and in doing so conveniently ‘absolved’ myself of my part in a situation! Now I make sure to bring myself back to my responsibility and what I chose rather than give myself excuses as to why I didn’t or did do this or that… It’s a much more fulfilling and joyful way to live.

226. Truly wonderful blog Alexis – such an accurate observation of how we ‘love’ to point fingers at something out there to absolve ourselves of the absoluteness of the responsibility we have. There is an irony in a sense here in that when we deny our own responsibility we are responsible for this too – there is no escaping it.

227. Absolutely, living with responsibility is the key, when we choose responsibility we understand and appreciation that “everything is energy and everything is because of energy, by Serge Benhayon”, therefor every move or choice we make, not only impacts us but the world too. Therefore being responsible is the key.

228. “The ‘out there’ is a magnification of the ‘in here’. The ‘out there’, if you will, is like a giant plasma TV screen of the ‘in here’. If you want to know how you’re doing on the ‘in here’, then take a look at your ‘out there’, it’s up on the big screen for all to see.” Beautiful, it is so true our out there is the biggest reflection of the in here, as we truly connect to the truth within us, our out there changes too, our connection to everyone changes.

229. What is in the inside, is in the outside. Today I felt so much appreciation and love, and this is what I got back. There is no border, it is one and the same.

230. I have recently had an experience in moving to a new job where there were a number of things that appeared to need to change “out there”. I was making some adjustments but not achieving the desired results. I then looked at the “in here” and first addressed what needed to change within me and then the external or “out there” changes fell into place. In my experience it does not seem to matter what the situation is, we always need to first look at the “in here”.

     1. Beautifully stated Lee. It is as if the key to open the door on the outside is inside us, and this is the place that we need to look at first. It’s like trying to open a door with the wrong key if we don’t, it just not going to work and we can get frustrated or angry and blame the door, all the while we are holding the wrong key.

231. Alexis, there is something in how it’s all set up as you say, the world as we know it is all about out there and indeed we have behaviours and ways of being that confirm that. As you illustrate we often ‘gang up’ on others and find those who agree with us so we can have an echo chamber and not have to look at in here, indeed your point that we feel when others confide in us that somehow we should sympathise is spot on. We avoid evolution in many of our conversations as we can seek to stay in looking at out there as being the cause of all our woes, and this is irresponsible and convenient – we see what we want to see and not what is there to be seen. When we become more honest with ourselves and allow ourselves to ask that question ‘How am I contributing right now to ‘out there”, it changes and we begin to see that all along we’ve had glasses on, of a particular tint or shade which allow us to filter the world and we’ve not been truly seeing it at all. Life is about learning to live in it observing the world and staying connected to our bodies and how we feel, so living from in here. Out there is a reflection of that.

232. Great blog, I love your sharing here Alexis.
     “If we turn away from the ‘out there’ and start to focus on the ‘in here’ then it is only a matter of time before we remember that God was inside us all along”.
     Therein lies a responsibility to be the love that we innately are –
     the power of love.
     As you say ‘In truth love is all there is’.

233. The concept that the world is a reflection of what is going on inside every one of us is absolutely huge! I can feel the absolute truth of what you have presented Alexis – thank you. The way you express yourself is truly magnificent.

234. What we project out to the world comes back to us

235. The stars are considered to be very far out there. However, what if they too were reflecting back to us what we have already inside.

236. “the divine function of the ‘out there’ is to reflect back to us the what-is-not-love on the ‘in here’ because if it weren’t for the ‘out there’, how would we know what is not love on the ‘in here’?”- so true Alexis, and what a great reminder .

237. “If we turn away from the ‘out there’ and start to focus on the ‘in here’ then it is only a matter of time before we remember that God was inside us all along.” This is so true, God is and has always been inside of us, we just need to trust ‘in here’ know we are all complete and all knowing.

238. I love this Lucinda “the truth staring back at you” this is absolutely what Universal Medicine reflects 🙂

239. This blog reminds me on something my mom says often: “there is nothing you can do about it.” And what she means with that saying is, that we are helpless, powerless about our circumstances.
     What a comfortable attitude – or is it not?
     On one hand it is totally comfortable because it frees me from all responsibility. But on the other hand it leaves me powerless. Maybe not so comfortable at the end…

240. wow, I just loved reading your blog this morning. It makes total sense and inspires me to focus on the in here whatever anyone else is doing.

241. Taking responsibility for the relationships we have with the world around us is always a great way to start finding out about that place within that holds no judgement or shame.

242. I agree Alexis, the out there is a reflection of our befiefs and ideals as of our lived love. The out there shows me how much I still am caught by imaginations how things have to be, how much I am still controlling instead of surrendering to the love I am in truth.

     1. I love your honest comment Kerstin. Control is also something for me to be constantly aware of and to let go and feel what is ‘in there’.

     2. “The out there shows me how much I still am caught by imaginations how things have to be”. This is very true Kerstin. There is a truer way to live when we surrender as you say, and let go of the outer imaginings.

243. Unless of course once you connect within, you hold it within and do not express it. Too many of us hold ourselves back from sharing what we feel inwardly with the world – out of understandable concern that it will be rejected. And so there is no reflection being offered that the world can be different, whilst those who know truth continue to hide in the shadows. The “in there” needs to be expressed in the “out there”.

     1. Yes, Adam, if we are truly connecting to the love within we will naturally be inclined to share it with everyone. We only hold back when we are in reaction and holding the world to ransom in some way.

244. It’s easy to criticise what we see out there, but when we turn the spotlight around and have a closer look at how we are living, it’s a great place to start. There are many ways I know where I could be more loving with myself and others. My experience has shown that from small self-loving steps, great change can happen.

245. I recognise me in some of the distractions I used to busy myself with. At the time, I though my ‘out there’ was everyone elses fault. Now that I have switched my focus to the ‘in here,’ I have control over my behaviour and reactions and am no longer at the mercy of the chaos out there.

246. The “out there” can work in two ways. One as you say is to “keep us embroiled in the illusion” but it can also act as a confirmation of our true Divine selves. Depending on our “in here” we can observe reflections of our Glory and the magic are God (ie love) or reflections of all that is not love.

247. “The ‘out there’ is a magnification of the ‘in here’.” No denying what is really going on in our lives and in the world, we only have to look at our lives and the reflection is there.

248. Great question and one that is always relevant to ask: “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?”

249. “the fact that there is a group of people all feeling the same way seems to confirm to them that the problem is with the other person, because being part of the majority seems by its very nature to imply that the majority are always right.” This is a big illusion we allow ourselves to live in. Simply joining the majority because that is safe, instead of listening to the truth we feel inside is missing out on allowing ourselves to be who we truly are.

250. I love how you state that we have a silent pack that we coincide with the one that confides in us or is close to us, this is true and it stops us from discerning for ourselves what the situation at hand is and from that reflecting to our loved ones what it is they are chasing or what part they have in a situation.

251. awesome blog Alexis if we remember that the ‘out there’ is a perfect reflection of the ‘in here” or the choices we have made and the quality we live in, it is apparent that we always have the opportunity to make different choices and change the ‘out there’ in every way.

252. I love this presentation, Alexis, of the ‘in here’ and the ‘out there’. It is so true that we are masters of avoiding the ‘in here’, in fact throughout history we have been so determined to not take responsibility for it, that we have persecuted anyone who suggested otherwise.

     1. Sad but true Janet Williams.

253. The most challenging person we have to deal with everyday is the one that we see in the mirror every morning.

     1. Agreed Steve and we’re slippery critters to boot !

     2. Awesome comment, Steve and so true!

     3. Well said, Steve. Once we befriend who we see in the mirror, we are more likely to connect with the ‘in here’ and stop looking outside for answers or distractions.

     4. Ahahah Steve that is so true – now we know why we have such a mirror.

        1. Steve what stood out in relief when I read your comment was that the reason why the whole world is set up as a mirror is because we,as human beings, are not only lost but so determined to stay lost that every-thing has to literally be set up in order to shout the truth in our faces and yet……………and yet we still refuse to believe in our own majesty.

     5. Yes Steve – I know what you are talking about. In this context self-love is for me the key to self-salvation, and to start to take responsibility for all our choices.

254. Majority and minority is a man-made separation which does not exist in Soul. We are the whole, all the out there is made up of all the in here which is every single one of us. We are a part of everything we see, and we have a responsibility to live what is true. This is not being superior or special, it is simply really a responsibility and our real work in this real world. Having said that, it takes just one person to initiate this responsibility, consistently so, with no investment in anyone getting it, and that is a part of the responsibility and real work too.

255. Brilliant blog Alexis, this sentence stood out for me: “If we turn away from the ‘out there’ and start to focus on the ‘in here’ then it is only a matter of time before we remember that God was inside us all along.”

     1. That was exactly the sentence that stood out for me too, Diana: “If we turn away from the ‘out there’ and start to focus on the ‘in here’ then it is only a matter of time before we remember that God was inside us all along.” The knowing that God was inside all along, never left us and never will leave us is deeply confirming, gives confidence and feels like unconditional love.

256. “The ‘out there’ is a magnification of the ‘in here’. The ‘out there’, if you will, is like a giant plasma TV screen of the ‘in here’. If you want to know how you’re doing on the ‘in here’, then take a look at your ‘out there’, it’s up on the big screen for all to see.” This is amazing Alexis. The only reason for the out there is to show us what is happening with the in here. Sometimes I ignor what is on the big screen or pretend that it is not my big screen, but I know that whatever is reflected is there for me to learn from or appreciate.

257. Yes love that line also Marika, responsibility at this level is not an arduous task it is empowering and a loving response to what is being ‘asked’ of us.

258. Brilliant Rebecca !

259. It is simple when we make ourselves and our experiences the common denominator. It brings us back to self-responsibility and not imposing on others to make our lives ok for us.

260. Alexis, Love your blog. So relatable and in such a simple language. I love your analogy of the ‘out there’ being a reflection of the ‘in here’. There is much to take from your words, thank you.

261. ‘Few would dare to say “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?”’

     It’s not the norm, but as I have been discovering more recently it is such a great thing to do this, and it can be done without any internal finger pointing, but with a simple loving and honest appraisal. Then we have the opportunity to move forward relatively quickly, with a fresh new perspective and a deeper sense of what it means to be responsible. It also inspires others as they do not feel attacked or blamed, which is the normal in this day as you share here Alexis.

     1. Very beautifully said, Anna McCormack. When things go ‘wrong’ we tend to shy away from wanting to see what part we had to play, however, the ability to see the truth in what has taken place and to choose to take responsibility for our contribution is an absolute blessing. It reminds me of a snakes and ladders board – choosing to take responsibility we give ourselves the gift of a ladder.

        1. Alison I love that ‘by choosing to take responsibility we give ourselves the gift of a ladder’ and it’s so true. What I am finding at the moment is that by taking responsibility for my part in the difficult aspects of my relationships, I am feeling a sense of expansion and yet it could be seen as rather contradictory that by taking responsibility for something that many would see as negative could actually lead to such a positive feeling. It makes me realise how we keep ourselves contracted by not wanting to take responsibility for our part in our struggles, we think that we are maintaining elevation by avoiding owning up to our part in joint struggles but we are really stifling ourselves.

        2. Gorgeous Alison. Just yesterday I really struggled to go there in a situation with one of my children, as what was being reflected was very painful for me to feel. I find some hurts are easier to reach and let go of then others in the taking responsibility. When it is the deep hurt associated with leaving ourselves, denying truth, love and God, it feels a whole lot harder. But necessary and altogether possible.

262. “Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect.’ What I hear when I read this sentence is that there is no easy way to feel what we have to feel with respect to the loveless choices we have all made. I agree, there is no way out of this, feel it, move on…..with love.

     1. There’s such simplicity in this “it’s job is simply to reflect”. This feels very playful. There’s no need to change, fix, better, discount, judge or what so ever any reflection. Because they’re just reflecting. It’s up to us to what we do with the reflection. One gigantic school full of possible lessons.

        1. I agree Floris. This is a beautiful line. Just as the Universe is constantly reflecting its divine order and rhythm, we too all reflect something at any given moment. It is absolutely up to us what we are choosing to reflect.

        2. “Divine order and rhythm” as well as “choosing to reflect” says a lot. In this I am reading responsibility and awareness of the fact that if we are indeed part of the Grand Universe – The All – which we are, than there must be a certain Divine order and rhythm that we belong to as well. Only our arrogance and ignorance to the fact that we are a feeling creature, allows us to choose otherwise.

        3. very well said Vicky we are always reflecting a quality without fail and this quality is determined but the accumulation of our choices. If we wish to reflect love and harmony to the world then this is what we need for and with ourselves first and foremost.

        4. in writing my comment I could feel how in the past I always wanted peace, to be good and to do the right thing but it never dawned on me that the way I was with myself is the only true way to bring change to the world. Yet despite my honest intentions my actions were false in the sense that they were void of love and there the reflection would be one of falseness. Tis falseness is felt by everyone and perpetuates the distrust we hold amongst each other.

        5. I love the appreciation of responsibility in what you’re sharing Carolien. To me there’s this ‘strange’ attitudes towards responsibility. I’ve been very strict on myself in regards to taking responsibility, it took never enough… This led me to be never satisfied or joyful – but when I’m honest and real, there’s a lot of responsibility in most part of my life, but did I connect to my body and feel when something felt true and responsible and when not… Often I didn’t and still my body can feel totally harmonious, yet I’m feeling not good enough, not worth to be appreciated, etc. So on one hand there’s the importancy of connecting to the body and appreciate myself and on the other side there’s always a pull to be more responsible.

     2. Love the power in what you’ve shared Anna – I often have this feeling of being trapped by my past choices and what is to come. But I know that that is only the resistance in the way of actually feeling what is there and moving on with love. Also, when I read this quote from Alexis I feel God – reflection is the language of God, He doesn’t judge and is not invested or bias in what he is reflecting to each of us – He reflects whatever is needed for us to evolve (that’s my understanding anyway).

        1. Thank you Rachel, I love what you have shared here. I too have struggled in the past feeling the choices of my past (ha ha), and feeling I was eternally doomed by them. But it is as you say just the avoidance of the ‘uh oh’, that super hurts, ok, so now I’m going to work on that, or better, I’m going to change it straight up….however way is fine, so long as we are not giving ourselves a hard time.

        2. I also love what you have expressed here about reflection being God’s language – what ever is needed. God is not about being nice, God is about being true, and what ever is needed for each of us to return to that truth, there is no investment in what has to occur. Pure trust is also God’s way. He is AMAZING and so inspiring.

263. Thannks Alexis, this is such a timely reminder for me to stay with me, feel what needs to be felt, and see the ‘out there’ as a reflection for the inner. I have found latley some areas I have been looking ‘out there’ for answers that I know need to come from within.

     1. So true Chris a timely reminder for us all I feel. In Alexis words “If you want to know how you’re doing on the ‘in here’, then take a look at your ‘out there’. It’s upon the big screen for all to see”. Brilliant sharing Alexis thank you.

     2. I know this too Chris. When I find myself looking outside and particularly when I find that I am blaming the external for something that is happening I know I have lost my way. As you say, the answers lie within.

        1. I agree Lee – blaming the external circumstance instantly loses the great insight that is there for us to understand what we have taken on, what we have allowed ourselves to be in – but if we check back and are willing to feel and understand – then we give ourselves the choice to be free of that false impost hereafter.

264. What you have shared here really gets to the heart of much of the combative and argumentative aspects of society. Because if everyone realised that what happens in the outer world is a result of inner disharmony and imbalances, then we would be forced to look at ourselves and take personal responsibility for everything we don’t like on the outside. But that is the crux of the matter, since most people do not want to feel the incredible hurt that this way of looking at the world may expose, and the fact that they have created the mess in the first place. I have experienced an example of this recently when I was complaining to my wife about the current political leadership situation in the U.S., and realised that if I merely focused on how I was living, speaking, and interacting with friends, family,co-workers, and the general public in a loving and caring way, that that way of being could eventually spread to others through inspiration, thus making some of the changes I would have liked to see in this country. But blaming others and pointing fingers only leads to more separation, anger, frustration, and resentment, and never to any reconciliation.

     1. Michael, that is a very constructive way to look at situations that disturb us. It is easy to become disheartened and frustrated at the way the world operates but as you say taking responsibility for our own space is the most proactive and positive step we can take. Too often we are put off this because it can feel like we won’t make a difference, yet the ripple effect of one loving action is greater than we often give credit.

     2. Beautifully said Michael.

     3. I was deeply touched by the consideration your brought to your ‘frustration’ with the US leadership debacle, very understandable! Simply gorgeous what you allowed to unfold …. when we stand back and point our finger, we’re judging, the other person feels hurt and goes into protection which may very possibly prompt their behaviour to become even more extreme. Anger is the result of deep, unresolved hurt. It’s easy to see how just by sitting on the couch at home, venting at the TV, we are in fact, adding to the toxic energy that’s crippling our world. Thank you michaelgoodhart36.

265. Alexis, I love what you share, I am learning more and more that to enjoin others in criticising someone misses the great opportunity there is for learning from our experiences and get to the root cause of what is going on. Recently two close friends criticised another for being a bit cold and I was able to cut the comments down by simply stating that this other person still had to work on that aspect of their life and their personality, bringing understanding and love to the whole situation and allowing my friends to see that their comments were judgemental, yet in doing this it required no criticism of them by me. This felt lovely and very confirming for everyone involved and left no one feeling lesser.

     1. Stephen that’s great to hear, especially ‘yet in doing this it required no criticism of them by me’ as this is something that I am working on. I find that even if there is so much as a trace of judgement on my part then it triggers a reaction in others, (understandably, as my inner judgement causes what I then receive back from the outer).

        1. What I also feel to add is the important role of appreciation in this. When we appreciate ourselves naturally we start to appreciate who someone else is and it becomes simple to see and feel their essence and then judgement is not likely to occur.

     2. I can feel the humility you bring to the conversation Stephen and how when you are aware and accepting of your own strengths and weaknesses, there can be understanding of others and that no one benefits from criticism, which comes from a place of I know better.

        1. Beautifully said Simon. When we don’t hold that judgement and criticism towards ourselves, we are able to bring that same love and understanding towards others.

        2. So true Simon, when we drop the judgement of ourselves – and the striving for perfection – we can then meet others with this same openness and understanding.

        3. Oh yes Simon, very true. When we accept our own strengths and weaknesses, we have much more understanding for all people around us, no matter what they are up to.

     3. Hi Marika, yes it is the de-personalising that is the key isn’t it, being able to see that a behaviour is not defining of who anyone is but is a just a trait they have taken on that can easily be shed with love and understanding.

     4. This is a beautiful example Stephen of not seeing another as less. It is all about the choices we have each made and what a lovely choice you made to bring love and understanding to this situation.

     5. Beautiful example Stephen when we do not judge we can see much more clearly what is truly going on. Our judgements are so often based on our own needs and beliefs.

        1. I have been allowing myself to feel how beautiful it is to separate the behaviour from the person, continuing to show love and allowing them the space to make their next choices, without judgment.

     6. This is a great way of dealing with negative chat about others Stephen. Your response did not put anyone down, but brought in an understanding. The two close friends now know that you wont join in with anyone talking about them behind their back.

        1. Awesome comment, Simon V ….. when there is a hint of ‘I know better’ it is as bad, if not worse than the original judgment of the ‘out there’. To offer understanding with love and humility is indeed a true blessing.

        2. I agree Debra, it is being willing to not join in and be the one to not participate that offers a healing to all involved. Too often there is negative chat, gossiping and I have found that not participating can be confronting for some but also inspiring a new way of inter human relationships.

     7. Beautiful Stephen, it is such an easy trap to fall into collusion and judgement when there is a group of people criticising another, but it just means they have collectively been sucked into an energy that brings them down and attacks another, using them to gather greater force for the attack. It is a huge step towards responsibility and greater freedom when we choose to not engage with that kind of energy, whilst holding ourselves aware and able to discern clearly the energy that is at play.

        1. Annie I love how you have depersonalized it further by documenting what is happening energetically to the group.

     8. That is so key, Stephen. We can get caught up in our own needs to be liked that when someone presents us with something and they are looking for us to agree with them, we often don’t speak the truth we may be feeling because we do not want to rock the boat, or worse, for them to not ask us for our opinion again because they didn’t get what they were asking for. But it is far more loving to do as you have done and spoken the truth about everyone’s responsibility in the situation, not from a place of judgement, but from equality.

     9. Totally agree Marika, it is a great example of true friendship. To be able to call out something with a friend, as you say Stephen, not leaving anyone feeling lessor or left out. Really great!!

     10. This is gorgeous, Stephen, and so needed in the workplace. I work in a predominantly female environment and there are a lot of judgments being made ….. as Alexis so eloquently shares ‘the fact that there is a group of people all feeling the same way seems to confirm to them that the problem is with the other person, because being part of the majority seems by its very nature to imply that the majority is always right.’
         It’s actually bullying as no one is choosing to stop and consider the person being judged and what support they may be needing to help them with whatever they may be dealing with that’s causing the behaviour that others are finding unacceptable. Instead people choose to gang together and alienate the person being judged. It’s incredibly powerful when someone chooses to express love and allow others to consider the other perspective. It cuts the energy.

     11. Thank you Shirley-Ann, beautifully and humbly expressed.

     12. This is gorgeous Stephen, this is love and what it means to detach and be the eternal observer, free of judgement but willing to stand and speak for all.

266. Looking at problems in the world and seeing them as external to us, or not affecting us is very convenient. It allows us to continue our lives and days as if what we do does not, or can not have an impact. Each thing we do can either heal or harm – we have the ultimate choice in this, and this is how the apparently huge health, political, social and environmental problems we currently see will change – by each of us choosing the quality we are in each moment to come from love.

     1. It tells us a huge amount about life Amelia; that to take care of our own environment has the significant and powerful effect on the environment outside of ourselves. This is the degree of our own responsibility.

        1. and also confirms the power we each hold. If we don’t like an environment we have the capacity to bring the required change.

     2. As soon as we go into blaming another for our problems, there is a tension that comes with this and is a sure sign that we are not taking responsibility for our part in the issue. It requires a lot of honesty and willingness to go there to see our part in any issue that arises ‘out there’ knowing that when we heal the ‘in here’ that issue will look and feel completely different.

        1. Yes, I agree and it is also incredibly liberating and empowering to take full responsibility for our lives and our actions and inactions.

        2. Absolutely Donna. So often we think that responsibility is a big bad word yet when we do choose to see the part we play in situations and take responsibility we find it actually feels great!

     3. So true Amelia. The out there is seen as the out there, as separate to us. The only way to change the out there is to know that the out there is actually the in here and that we are not separate from it. Each and every choice makes a difference

     4. Amelia in reading your comment, with which I wholeheartedly agree, I was struck by the convenience of contraction, of feeling unworthy etc. as this will tell us that we are not enough to be able to make a change and hence we have a way out of our responsibility to the whole.

        1. and Carolien reading your comment lead me to ponder on the fact that, when I felt that I was taking responsibility for so much (animal welfare, the disabled, the terminally ill) I was actually not taking responsibility for anything because I was not taking responsibility for myself first! Taking responsibility can be as much of a cover as not taking any responsibility and in fact is way sneakier!

        2. I can relate to that Alexis, there are many false interpretations of responsibility that I have fallen for; charities, separating my garbage, taking on other peoples burdens to name but a few. Ofcourse we still need to take care of ourselves, our environment and each other but this is a result of responsibility it isn’t quite ‘it’. True responsibility is being all that I am with no limitations and measurements.

        3. Carolien what a fantastic responsibility !

     5. The way we complicate life and make it almost impossible to change our apparently huge global problems is the comfort of not wanting to assume responsibility. Its a strategy to avoid to live the responsibility we are and we have for ourselves, others and the planet. We don’t need complex social or economic theories, we just have to accept the fact that everything is energy and that we are not in charge when living in an altered vessel that just acts by the energy it aligned to.

     6. Yes. No more hands up in despair at the state of our world. More a ‘hands in with awareness’ of the integral and essential part we all play; responsibly choosing love as the foundation stone for everything.

     7. “Each thing we do can either heal or harm” – so true, we have such a huge responsibility. Every moment we make a choice and it is our responsibility to make sure, that our choices are lovingly, otherwise as you say, they are harming to other people.

267. I can’t help but wonder if this is the same principal when we look out into space. All we get back is a reflection of what we put out. If so what is the point of spending all the time, money and effort on searching for more of the same. It would be wiser and more supportive of humanity to put those resources into truthfully looking for the actual cause of the mess we are creating on out own planet.

     1. The ‘Reflection’ is powerful. As Alexis commented – ‘Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect’ and thus we have everything at our fingertips but all depends on how open we are to taking responsibility for what we see and know (In Here). How deeply is Humanity willing to look?

     2. Wow Sandra. The further we look out the broader the reflection is. Imagine if we turned those amazing telescopes into microscopes and looked within first. It would be interesting to see the difference in the out there having studied the in here first.

        1. The way we look inside will determine what we see on the outside.

        2. Absolutely Carolien, when we claim our divinity in full and live as the equal Sons of God we are we will walk divinity and the “out there” aligns to our “in there” quality.

     3. So true Sandra – and this constant search for something more ‘out there’ really highlights the disregard we are in as a majority. We don’t want to be held accountable for our part in what this planet, our home for now, is showing us – so we frantically search for another option, another planet we can all move to instead of simply connecting to who we are. It sounds insane and like a logistical nightmare moving to another planet! But hey… anything distraction will do so our stuff isn’t exposed and irresponsibility can continue to rein.

        1. Oh my goodness Rachael what a horrendous thought. Us lot, with our polluted ‘in-here’s’ all packed in a rocket ship and off we go to pollute another planet! Dear Lord we really have to sort ourselves out.

     4. This is such a poignant point Sandra and can apply to all the time and money put into so many things such as finding a cure to cancer. All the efforts are focused on looking at what is ‘out there’ and not at what is ‘in here’.

     5. We have spent huge amounts of time and money looking both as far outside of our world as we can as well as within our own bodies to the smallest particles that we can find. However, it is not what we have found but what we have been looking for that has been our downfall in both of these regards.
        The majority of the time we look to the stars to find out where we come from, and we look at the smallest parts of our bodies to fix ourselves when something has gone wrong. In both cases we see ourselves as the wise one, the holder or gatherer of knowledge looking to make our outer self better, or to satisfy our need to know. What if we did discover the origins of the universe and ourselves? What if we did cure every disease known to mankind? What then? Would it make us more joyful? More loving? Would all that knowledge bring us the inner peace that we are actually looking for?

     6. Great point Sandra, there is so much investment in what to understand space, the cosmos and universe, yet we can’t even get a handle on how we are living on earth. We rape, pillage and plunder then earth, wonder why we have climate change and yet don’t want to take any responsibility for what is truly going on, as you say, how we are the ones creating the mess on our own planet.

     7. Sandra yes it is that simple really, turn the focus on to the problems the world is reflecting, rather than turning and looking for something new and distracting “out there”.
        The powers that be promote ” out there” but the world is reflecting the responsibility we are running away from, it’s in our face for us to connect to the “in here” as we are all feeling the affects of the mismanagement of our world, responsibility starts ‘ within ‘ us.

268. I love this blog and all it is reflecting and the joy of seeing the ‘out there’ versus the ‘in here’ and the simplicity this brings to it all with understanding and love. Appreciation of who we are and being in connection with the “in here” allows a fullness and wider vision to be seen of the bigger picture and love to be our focus.

     1. I love the simplicity as well of what Alexis shares here. The ‘out there’ versus the ‘in here’. It’s a language we can all understand and yet although so simple brings so much depth. It reflects to us how there is so very much more to what we see.

        1. True Vicky. The simplicity of the language brings a greater clarity and understanding.

     2. And if we focus on the ‘in here’ then the ‘out there’ takes care of itself! This is a wonderful way to live as it releases us from the expectations, demands and control we have on what happens ‘out there’.

        1. Beautiful point Sandra – “…if we focus on the ‘in here’ then the ‘out there’ takes care of itself! “. This is indeed a wonderful way to live!

        2. I agree, I’ve just read this blog for the first time and I had a chuckle at the ‘out there’ and the ‘in here’ as it so beautifully shows how we do assume the position of innocence, not wanting to take any responsibility for everything that is going on around us that we find unsavoury or unfair.

        3. Exactly, Sandra …… the ‘in here’ is what we are individually responsible for, and it is equally important to let other’s take care of their own ‘in here’s’, which in turn takes care of the out there. If we don’t take responsibility for our own ‘in here’s’ we are choosing to disconnect from ourselves and from life. However, we all crave the love that we already are, therefore, the more people who are choosing to live their lives from that place, the greater the pull for others to follow and choose to find themselves again.

        4. Well said Sandra, the constant focus on the “out there” is an exhausting controlling that holds us in disconnection from ourselves and the “in here”. There is no need to control the “out there” as the “in here” is what guides us through life and the “out there” aligns.

        5. Yeah – Sandra I love what you share: “if we focus on the ‘in here’ then the ‘out there’ takes care of itself!” For me that is so true as if I am choosing to be more inside I also choose to put not so much effort in the outside hence I am not so tired and nervous anymore as the release from all the expectations, demands and control did not exhausted me so much.

        6. I love your words – “if we focus on the “in here” the “out there” takes care of itself.” So true. Once we are connected to ourselves, then we connected to everybody else as well and life will come towards us.

        7. Alexander I love the distinction that you make ‘Once we are connected to ourselves, then we connected to everybody else as well and life will come towards us’, rather than how we currently live which is in disconnection from ourselves and thrusting ourselves towards life.

        8. Well said Sandra, it’s all in the rhythm we live by, this in turn sets the foundation for how we will be in our day, with no expectations. I am working one day a week, and the rest I have to say I am self employed, I find it amazing when I look back over the week the people I have met and the diversity I am offered could not be planned, the synchronicity is beautiful as a reflection of the purpose and connection ” in here” is lived.

     3. I agree, I’ve just read this blog for the first time and I had a chuckle at the ‘out there’ and the ‘in here’ as it so beautifully shows how we do assume the position of innocence, not wanting to take any responsibility for everything that is going on around us that we find unsavoury or unfair.

269. Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect.
     The pure absoluteness of love and integrity with which Universal medicine shines it’s mirror makes for a crystal clear reflection – the truth staring back at you – a code of conduct that inspires the inside out.

     1. Beautifully said lucindag. Hence through reflection we can inspire and be inspired to live and enjoy life more deeply and in a way that nourishes us all.

270. Great point – “Without the ‘in here’, there is no ‘out there’.” It is really like putting the cart before the horse when we despondently go about trying to fix all the ‘out theres’ and choose to think that we do not have a part in how these things out there are.

     2. Exactly Gabrielle, so with this we can never pull out and leave it to others to clean the mess we all helped to create.

271. Yes Alexis, as I trust the truth and love that is within me more and more, my outer reflection of me in the world is flowing a lot smoother and with less drama. When I find myself being caught up in the world around me I bring myself back to my innermost truth which I know I can trust and can then take responsibility for.

272. “If we turn away from the ‘out there’ and start to focus on the ‘in here’ then it is only a matter of time before we remember that God was inside us all along.” And this is what supports us to see and feel what our part is in any situation. Thank you for the reminder, Alexis.

273. ‘Our future is the same as our past, to return to a time when the ‘in here’ and the ‘out there’ is nothing but love because In truth love is all there is.’ Beautiful last sentence for it shows that one day the ‘in here’ and ‘out here’ will simply be One love.

274. Reflection is divine medicine.

     1. I agree felixschumacher8 and therefore we should see every reflection as a gift.

275. I knew exactly what this sentence meant when I read it “Knowing that every-thing that is not love does not belong in the ‘in here’, the divine function of the ‘out there’ is to reflect back to us the what-is-not-love on the ‘in here’ because if it weren’t for the ‘out there’, how would we know what is not love on the ‘in here’?” but I had to re-read it a few times to really feel it. And the reflection we get with this is enormous, thank you Alexis.

276. I agree that I have noticed that how I am feeling inside is like a filter through which I interpret everything I see, hear, touch, feel and even taste. I know when I am feeling still, loving and joyful with myself then I can easily see the joy and beauty all around me.

277. This is such a true observation. By focusing on the ‘out there’ then responsibility lies ‘out there’. However, when we return to the ‘inner here’ then not only does responsibility return to us but also the position to be able to bring about change, which is so empowering.

278. Great Blog Alexis. Your statement..”rarely questioning our part in whatever it is we’re embroiled in…” is pure gold, as quite often, it is easy to position ourselves as simply being the recipient within a dynamic, but really, there is no coincidence that, for some reason, we can be embroiled in some kind of dynamic. There is always an opportunity to learn and discover something about ourselves by having the ability to question.

279. Gorgeous blog and lovin the playfulness with words Alexis! Thank you. It is fascinating to consider that we all actually feel a deep unease when we are not connected to the ‘in here’ and we register this as a general dissatisfaction with life. And then do we address this? Not usually. We go looking in the ‘out there’ for the solution to our woe ,constantly searching for that thing or person or job or diet or money that will bring us life satisfaction, not fully realising that the only way the life around is going to change is by changing the commitment to the ‘in here’.

280. Loved this part Alexis “Life is the sum total of all of its parts.” real hard hitting. we cannot pay attention to one part of life and expect to have everything be harmonious without paying attention to how we are in all parts. well noted form this blog that, everything starts with us. Great point you make that what is happening on the outside reflects what is happening on the inside. I have had many instances with that. Where i see myself one way and so just keep getting things to confirm that. Then, when i change what i feel, as if magically, the outside reflects this also. It amazing what happens. reflection can tell us so much.

     1. Emily I agree that ‘reflection can tell us so much’. I actually wonder if we would be able to know who we are without it?

        1. Great question Alexis, Without each other I don’t we would stand a chance. We bring so much to everyone we know.

281. Yes Alexis a sobering truth. You remind us to
     Look again…only this time direct your focus “in here”.

282. Beautifully summed up way it is, thank you Alexis. To be reminded ‘love is all there is’ allows our connection to all we are to expand and build evermore.

283. That is exactly what I felt with this blog Susan, we find many ways to dance around the fact that we are responible for our own lives.

284. What you have shared here Alexis is so true. I know because as I have worked to connect more deeply to what I know is true, my outer world has changed dramatically as a result.

285. Alexis, I love how deep you go with your contemplation of the world and life. In this blog you have taken me deeper as well, a different perspective that rests the responsibility of all that we see wrong in this world squarely on our own shoulders. Instead of being the burden that it could be perceived to be, it can be seen that each of us has the power to change our own lives and ultimately, the world.

     1. Kate you have summed it up in a nutshell ‘Instead of being the burden that it could be perceived to be, it can be seen that each of us has the power to change our own lives and ultimately, the world’.

286. Great blog Alexis, it is certainly up to us to take responsibility for ourselves, in all aspects of our lives; in so doing the world will change.
     “nothing (as in no-thing) exists ‘out there’ without it first existing in the ‘in here”.
     Let the love begin ‘in-here’ for us all to benefit ‘out-there’

287. It’s so true that without the ‘in here’, there is no ‘out there’. What we experience is dependent on the quality of our relationship with ourselves.

288. This is beautiful Doug, God is literally everywhere.

289. Amazing Blog Alexis. What I see is that the fist complication happens ‘in here’ when we separate from our Soul, our most natural way of being. If this tanget continues then one is left to only see the reflection of what happens “out there” when we separate from Soul. The pain that this creates is enormous and hence we have invested in the world of “out there” to try and fix all the problems “out there” but what you have said is so amazing and revelatory because you are saying that, the problems “Out there” can only be fixed by coming “in here” and reconnecting with our innermost, then the reflection will start to clear up as we go about bringing our innermost to all aspects of life.

     1. Spot on harryjwhite – everyday we are witnessing the fallout from living contra to this our most natural way of being – expressing from the innermost out.

     2. Thank you Harry this makes sense of why in many situations in life we can get to a point of absolutely not knowing what to do. Rather than this being a moment of despair it can simply be a flashing light to show we have lost connection with ourselves and own knowing and are choosing to be run and distracted by ‘out there’.

        1. ‘in many situations in life we can get to a point of absolutely not knowing what to do. Rather than this being a moment of despair it can simply be a flashing light to show we have lost connection with ourselves and own knowing and are choosing to be run and distracted by ‘out there’. Love it Jsnel.

290. An awesome blog – so simply exposing our unwillingness to take responsibility for what is reflected all around us.

     1. Is so in our face too Carmin, some times i wonder how it is so hard to miss- where our stubbornness and not wanting to look at things really kick in.

        1. Yes Emily, sometimes it seems blatantly obvious that we have been acting in a certain way that we wonder how on earth we could have missed it.

291. Perception is what blinds us from seeing the truth of all things.

     1. But how do we get to a point that is beyond perception?

        1. Kate what a fabulous question. Could it be that by returning to love we eradicate perception and end up as love looking at love?

        2. Not an easy thing to do I agree Katechorley, but a willigness to question and ponder on the way things “are” is a great place to start.

     2. I agree Adam. It is interesting how we always seem to think that our perception is right and the other person’s perception is wrong when in truth it is perception itself that is the problem.

     3. I agree Adam with perception comes re-interpretation of the truth. When we perceive we are projecting out what we want or need to see. Genuine observation is receiving what we are feeling from the world around us and accepting what it is reflecting to us to learn. ‘To perceive or receive that is the question’..

        1. Love that one ‘‘To perceive or receive that is the question’

     4. ‘Perception is what blinds us from seeing the truth of all things’, a nugget of gold Adam.

292. “The ‘out there’, if you will, is like a giant plasma TV screen of the ‘in here.’”

     How true. Our lives and everything that happens in them are a reflection of the relationship we have with ourselves; the level of honesty, love and presence we are able to hold.

293. “When we have a struggle with someone then we nearly always put our attention on what we perceive it is that they are doing wrong.”

     This is gold. I see this in my behaviour time and time again, my first response (or perhaps reaction) will be to identify what is ‘wrong’ about someone else’s behaviour and go into blame. I am learning to catch this and use the event to turn the spotlight inwards and look at where I am at, what part I play. It is easier for me to see this in day to day interactions out in the world and harder to see it in my own home, but this is changing.

     1. Yes Emma I can really relate to what you have shared. In a recent interaction I went straight to blame and judgement of another before looking within. This avoidance was just to deflect the big ouch that was in it for me to feel.

294. I love the clarity of perspective you bring with your discussion of the ‘in here’ and ‘out there’ Alexis. You have beautifully simplified and therefore brought this subject into greater understanding for all. It makes perfect sense the way you have presented it and offers a true reflection of the meaning of responsibility.

295. “Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect”- So true Alexis. A great reminder of how our “in here ” is by observing our “out there”. If everyone choose to see and read this for themselves what a different place the world would be- definitely more harmonious.

296. Doug not only can we imagine ‘a world of harmony where every one is connected to and living from their hearts?’ but we have lived it for longer than we have not lived it.

297. What I love about this piece is the responsibility it calls us too. As I was reading it I could reflect on a few ‘out there’ things in my life that I didn’t like but it really asks us to go deeper with looking at how we are with ourselves and then others in our interactions. This is our first part to focus on.

     1. True Kristy. brings about an awesome responsibility where we cannot just blame it on other people for what is wrong with our lives. We actually have to start to ponder where we were in all of this and what role did we play.

298. Marika I love what you have said here…”we are not victims of life unless we choose to be” – Knowing that we are and how we are in our life is a reflection of our choices – all of them, is huge.

299. Absolutely Marika, very true. When we are honest and accept that we are the ones that have created the world we live in to date, through the loveless choices made on a daily basis, we will realise the truth that we are also the ones that can change this through the love we choose to live with on a daily basis as this is what then magnifies through all our interactions. This is the power of love that we all have access to.

300. I know when I start to blame someone else for something, I am not wanting to look at my own part and take responsibility. Sometimes it’s hard to do, as there is relief in blaming someone else. But the relief is momentary and does not offer anything, other than feeding the initial issue and making it bigger than ben hur in the long run.

301. Yes this has been my experience too Alexis as soon as I changed my “in-heres” what life was reflecting back to me changed enormously. We are so obviously responsible for, yet we love to blame others for the life we are actually creating by our own choices.

302. ‘Few would dare to say “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?”’

     You are so right Alexis. I can think of many times in which I have gone with the unwritten code of conduct that exists between us. Yet the times I have ‘dared’ to bring responsibility into the picture have felt the most true, even if the reaction I received for doing so was less than palatable. It is this fear, of the reaction, that keeps us from expressing what we feel. How much easier it would be for the person expressing if we all decided to embrace, to the best of our ability, a non-reactive stance to life and remained open to what others have to say.

     1. I know I always consider a true friend as one who is honest with me when I seek their counsel on something and will always tell me if there is something I need to look at myself, or take responsibility for, that is contributing to the issue I find myself in.

     2. I agree Victoria, for me the avoidance of conflict has been a big part about playing it safe and not creating a stir. I feel the fear of the reaction and fear of rejection are what keeps me at times playing small. When I embrace the truth and express it no matter what there is a great expanding.

303. Brilliant blog Alexis! So easy to relate to and I can just see the world nodding in agreement to their ‘in heres’ and ‘out theres’ as I did. So simple and far reaching and a potential life change as you suggest.

304. The example of the workplace ganging-up is a great one and exposes 1) the evil of gossip, 2) the evil of a decision to blindly side with any given individual in a dispute and 3) the power of groupthink. Always the situation must be read – the person with whom you ordinarily feel the most empathy might just be the one off-track. Additionally, I can feel how quickly division between people can occur once an idea or belief sets in. I suspect this is how wars start and ideologies take over. – with a group of people with an agenda.

     1. I completely agree Victoria. Collusion is something that occurs a lot in our lives but not something we talk about very much. There is a perception in the world that collusion with others is a good thing. That somehow collusion is supportive. We believe that sympathy and or empathy are good things to do, but they can actually blind us to the truth of the situation. I would say feeling the truth through feeling the quality of energy in our bodies in any situation before anything else is always the most supportive thing for everyone including ourselves.

     2. Great point Victoria. It is so clear that we become blind the second we make a situation about someone else without considering the reflection for ourselves.

        1. Exactly Leonne, because there is always a reflection to consider.

305. The dynamics of blame and he said/she said and right/wrong are extremely polarising. There can never be harmony or unity while there is an investment in a position or a sense of righteousness about something.

306. Great blog Alexis. I loved the analogy of the giant plasma screen. It brought to mind an image: what if we were all walking around attached to our own personal plasma screens, broadcasting a televisual version of our inner selves? How interesting and exposing that would be! But of course this is actually happening – we just can’t see it, though we do feel it and see people acting out their inner turmoil and discomfort all the time. Making it visible would simply make it that much more obvious.

307. I agree Lee. This analogy brilliantly exposes the reality that we cannot ever hide form the choices that we make, as much as we endeavor to through all our distractions, as it is from all our choices that we have created the way the world exists today.

308. There is no escaping the truth that what comes to us in life is a reflection of what is there to be healed in our ‘in heres’ and what ever is happening in the world is our collective responsibility. I am imagining a world in which we are all unified, all reflecting love to each other, all taking responsibility for ourselves and the All. I love how you say that one by one we can affect this change – that is the truth calling.

309. “Knowing that every-thing that is not love does not belong in the ‘in here’, the divine function of the ‘out there’ is to reflect back to us the what-is-not-love on the ‘in here’” – and reflect it does, and it is not pretty. Alexis I love your slant on responsibility being both and individual and collective thing and how if we look at this from the micro to the macro it still applicable.

310. Thank you Alexis for bringing light to why our world is in this state of loveless existence and the integral part we play in this. That the degree in which we ourselves connect to love is the degree in which we live this love in the world. There is no escaping the fact that how we choose to live and breathe has an effect on all as this is what we then bring to the world through all our interactions. Understanding and accepting this responsibility is empowering, as it is through the love we embrace, live and breathe that we then know that we are the ones who have the power to restore love to this world once again. And as you pointed out, this way of living has already begun.

311. This is a great article Alexis. I know I still get caught in the ‘out theres’ as life has been completely set up so that is where our focus is. We know deep down that there is more to life than what we see, but in our search of ‘the more’ we keep getting distracted by more of the same to keep us searching. We know deep down there is more because we know deep down that we are more.

312. That is a great point you are making Marika, when we react to life we have already lost, because we have reduced ourselves and from that contracted place we cannot bring to life all that we are.

313. We all play a part in the big play called LIFE. You cannot say that something is not your concern or responsibility, just because it takes place out of your sight. Everything that takes place on earth is our concern. When I jump in the pool, it affects the whole pool. It is the same outside of the pool.

     1. That’s a big one to feel and then accept Mariette. Everything we do, think, say, act on affects everyone. Even acknowledging that this is possible is huge as most of the time we get caught up in our own selves and lives that we have never considered this a possibility.

        1. Yes, we get caught up in our own selves, same for me, but the making that choice again and realizing that is it not about self but about everybody, just emphasizes our grandness and how we are all big shining starts here on earth, if we chose so…

     2. Good point Mariette and one most of us certainly myself don’t like to fully feel or be responsible for. There is no physical boundary in energetic laws.

     3. Great way to put it Mariette. Everything we do has a ripple effect – or a big splash effect. It can either add to whats already out there- misery, violence, anger, disharmony, lovelessness etc etc. or bring about a change.

     4. Beautifully said Mariette – the pool of life is a great example – the ripples expand across the water and then in a perfect job of reflection, bounces them back.

     5. Absolutely Mariette. Our movements, behaviours and actions make bigger ripples than we realise. When we ‘splash’ it sets of a series of ripples and once they have expanded further than we can see, we like to believe that they are gone, but this is not the case as the ripples continue going further outward.

314. I love a “healthy sense of curiosity” – it keeps us open to explore the so-much-more than we often consider ourselves and life to be, and to relate that openness with responsibility might be an unexpected but juicy recipe for life.

315. It may be of interest to mention that there are 2 different ‘in-heres’, the one that is innate and makes who we are in essence and then the other one, that is all the stuff we have taken in and identified with. When we start connecting with the ‘in-here’ it is crucial to know the difference, otherwise we might be repelled by the outer we have assimilated.

     1. Yes Alex, crucial indeed to know which is the voice of our Soul and which is the voice of our wayward spirit. Great point.

     2. Alex you have raised a very important point. So could we say that there is an ‘in there’ that is false and one that is true? As you say it is essential to know the difference.

        1. Knowing the difference is what allows us to make conscious and well educated choices. It is part of the science that plays out in life, inside and outside of us. We need to know the game that is being played so that we are players and not just the ball kicked around.

     3. Great point Alex. There is the in-here that is what we might call the pure, unadulterated us, and the in-here that is the construct of ideals and beliefs you speak of. Discarding what is in truth not us, be it inner construct or outer projection, is the way forward… From this place we can allow our inner essence to shine forth without impediment. No projection, only emanation of something quite divine… us.

        1. To know the ‘What-is’ and the ‘What-is-not’ sounds mystical at the beginning, but basically is what you describe here. Only when we know the difference we have a real choice.

     4. This is such a pertinent point Alex, many of us are identified with an ‘in-here’ that is very far removed from who we really are therefore the change we seek is impossible until we question these ideals and beliefs and go deeper.

        1. Great point Kate, until we get honest enough what we seek is just a reflection for that honesty or lack there of.

        2. Yes, so true Kate, it takes a real challenging of these ideals and beliefs to reveal the true beauty that we are within.

     5. Agreed Alex, imperative in fact to be aware of connecting to our true ‘in here’, our essence, and in building that connection the other becomes easier to detect and call out.

     6. “different reflections in the ‘outer’ ” – that is when we start recognizing and wonder that our life somehow changes as it it usually happens gradually until it is so obvious that we don´t recognize it anymore for the long lived repetitions of the same issues and patterns over and over again.

316. Accepting that we really can make a difference is what makes the difference.

     1. Well said Nicole.

     2. I like this Nicole – simple Thank you.

        1. Nicole I feel that what you have shared is important, ‘Accepting that we really can make a difference is what makes the difference’ as knowing that we can and indeed are making a difference has a momentum built into it whereas feeling that we can’t make a difference has a dead end built into it.

317. This is a great blog and very timely. Thank you. I was about to start blaming someone for the quality of our relationship. Reading this has given me a very valuable stop moment to ask ‘what part am I playing in all of this?’

     1. I will keep reminding myself too Simone where the impulse to blame is coming from – ‘in here or out there’. Love the simplicity of this!

     2. Don’t you love it when that happens Simone? I find that is the norm now that I read exactly what is needed for me that day. It is one of the things I love about reading these sharing, insights etc it is very supportive.

        1. Agreed Simone and Vanessa – I need to ask this question with something pretty major playing out for someone very close to me which is also impacting me. I can’t just blame them, I have to fess up to my irresponsibility in it all too. ouch.

     3. Yes, I agree, Simone, I experienced a stressful situation at work in a new job where a colleague was aggressive towards me. It reversed completely once I realised that it was purely a reflection of how I myself was speaking, i.e. the edge that was in my voice caused by anxiousness, and when I focused on taking stillness into the situation it changed that day and has been great ever since. Awesome, life-changing discovery. And now we all have fun and yes, we are busy, but it somehow feels more relaxed, which is cool.

     4. Good catch Simone. We all play our part.

     5. That is a great opportunity to change the quality of the relationship by taking responsibility. And understanding our part also allows us to heal our hurt and let go of judgement towards others.

318. ‘When we discuss problems with one another there is an unwritten code of conduct that we will side with the person who is confiding in us, especially if it is a close friend.’ This gets tricky when we are friends with both – way better to listen, not give it any energy, just let them resolve the issue for themselves. I must admit, I avoid asking the question, ‘What is your part in all of this?’ because, when I have dared to, it has been met with complete incomprehension.

     1. I feel that we have to be sensitive to who we’re asking the question to and when. We’re not always open and willing to hear such a deep Truth and look at ourselves, especially if we are caught up in what we perceive someone else has done wrong. We have to feel and get a sense of when to ask this to another, but the true responsibility that we hold is continually asking that of ourselves. The more we focus on the inside and our stuff, I feel we’re more likely to be sensitive to others and what questions to ask that support another to see more.

        1. Shevon the point you make is crucial, asking someone ‘what’s their part in all of this’ is simply going to fuel anger in many and you may have to duck a right hander!

        2. ‘but the true responsibility that we hold is continually asking that of ourselves.’ I agree Shevon, and being aware of that question has completely changed my attitude to issues in life knowing that everything is a reflection of a choice that I have made. It takes away all the blaming others and brings it back to me, which is great.

     2. Ha ha Carmel that is funny in that we like to play ignorant to what we are doing in life, I know I am fully guilty of that one, ‘what me?’ flutter of the eyelashes. I am becoming much more willing to look at my part and it does result in a moving on from things much quicker.

     3. That’s pretty telling of how as a society we have come to form these unsaid norms of how we need to be with each other. Its like an unsaid agreement of ‘if you don’t expose me, I won’t expose you’ kind of deal.

     4. Great honesty and sharing Carmel. Yes, it is better to sit and listen but is it also a missed opportunity of moving through the issue for someone by raising the question, ‘what is your part in all of this?’ I feel my hesitancy in doing this, for fear of the backlash, standing out. But there can be other ways to approach this question – ‘perhaps …’ , ‘is it possible you may be feeling ….’

     5. The need to gossip has such a strong pull as in the very nature of that behaviour we do not need to look at ourselves and what we may or may not be doing. Next time I am tempted to gossip, I will be reminded of these words also – “What is my part in all of this, or what I am not choosing to see?”

     6. We are so resistant to taking responsibility for our actions and your comments really brings that home Carmel. We choose to play ignorant rather than truly look and examine what our contribution to the situation has been, how we feel and how we may have imposed on another. Its an important question to ask, and the more we choose to ask it of ourselves voluntarily, the more we empower ourselves to deal with all the disharmony that exists, both ‘in here’ and ‘out there’.

     7. So true Carmel. And this sometimes comes along with the revealing response ‘whose side are you on?’

     8. Sometimes all we have to do is listen and let the other person work it through themselves, and I know that my saying nothing at times, says a lot. At other times, the question ‘what is your part in all of this?’ is relevant and needs to be asked – each situation is so unique. But when there is something to be said, a truth to be spoken, and it goes unsaid, we are harming ourselves by our lack of expression, and we are harming the other person by not offering them a truth that was there to be seen or heard.

        1. I am learning more too that listening to another is quite often all that is needed and as long as I see everything presented is as result of energy can steer away from anything being personal. There are other ways to ask what anothers part played is in a situation and with simple prompts someone can come around to their own realisations as long as the listener is holding them with no judgement or criticism. The truth of what needs to be said can also be felt more easily. These are moments when the ‘in here’ is super important!

        2. ‘with simple prompts someone can come around to their own realisations as long as the listener is holding them with no judgement or criticism’. Jsnelgrove36 what you have shared is so true and I would add that the listener is more effective also if they are not invested in any outcome but it is so rare to be listened to by anyone who has neither judgement, criticism or investment, in fact it’s actually rare to simply be truly listened to, most people are purely waiting for their turn to talk.

        3. Yes, the ‘in here’ is the essential ingredient for knowing what to say or do in any given moment.

319. This is awesome Alexis, thank you. I think what you’ve shared is very important – the quality of what goes on inside our bodies; our relationship with self, the way we treat our body, our thoughts etc., have a huge affect on our view on the outside world. I can use myself as an example here; I can become quite self-judgmental, and not understanding toward the choices I make, and can thus both be judgmental of others and believe they are being very judgmental of me. This has lead to a huge amount of effort being put into my appearance in the past but not actually me and loving my body. This is changing now, but living like that has affected my life and body a lot.

     1. Beautiful honesty Susie. Just the other day I experienced being very self-judgemental, and in that I assumed others were thinking the same about it. As a result, I shut everyone out; I did not want to communicate with others. Also, I was judgemental about them, I did not see the glory which I usually see – and then I went into comparison and jealousy. I moved on from this pretty quickly however, it was an eyeopener into gaining a deeper understanding of how many many people impose onto others their opinions about themselves, their ‘in there’ and the dire results which come from this.

        1. Love the honesty your both share Suzie, Gina and it feels like Alexis has opened a door that makes honesty more accessible with her ‘in here’ and ‘out there’ analogy! I too was awakened yesterday to a ‘better than’, ‘in here’ that invited judgement and superiority. Again I caught it quickly and was immediately taken back to hurts at primary school! I’m in my late 50’s!! Not judging ourselves by these reactions is key as you mentioned Suzie – living form who we truly are, not our imperfections is my lesson here.

        2. Awesome Bernadette; yes the importance to allow the vulnerability in feeling what comes up, knowing that the feeling is not who we are but rather than numb it, just to look at it, then the journey to healing the issue begins.

        3. So true Gina. It is all there for us to observe without self judgement. We can then respond in a loving way to ourselves. Self appreciation and love must come first if we are to heal our hurts!

     2. Me too Susie, it is amazing how much we change ourselves for others, because of what we may think we need to be like or look like to fit in. I know I have been my worst critic, the more I appreciate myself the less this happens and the more content I now feel with myself.

        1. I second that James. True success in life in large part relies on just how much we are willing to really appreciate ourselves – the beauty that we all are.

        2. Dean I love what you have shared ‘True success in life in large part relies on just how much we are willing to really appreciate ourselves – the beauty that we all are’. What I am coming to know from my body is exactly what you have shared and that is that by appreciating ourselves we appreciate everyone else because in truth we are all others.

        3. So true Alexis. And as I start to see past the ideas I have about myself I see how much we really are from One.

     3. Thanks Susie, awesome thing to share and thus has inspired me to share something with you, A trusted friend told me the other day what and how judgment can occur, she explained that judgment can’t actually exist if we read a situation deeply enough.
        Example of this is, say we get a pimple but instead of sitting for a moment and feeling what our body may be communicating to us through this spot on our face, we go into a panic to find coverup for our face, get a bit depressed and eat more food that will likely cause more spots because we are a little effected from having a spot in the first place!!

        Another approach is we look at the pimple, allowed ourselves to feel and
        hear the message being sent by our body and then sure… get the makeup to support us all in the knowing that we got the message about the spot loud and clear. The spot goes faster as its work is done and we are free of self critic.

        1. Awesome example Sarah. There is also a huge difference in ‘fighting’ the pimple – applying countless creams, masks, ointments and lotions in an effort to get rid of it or cover it up, and in truly looking at what our body is trying to communicate and THEN applying creams to support the clearing process.

        2. Yes, we still need the foundation but the way we apply it is to support not to get rid of the message we might not want to be reminder of, like the block of chocolate we ate the night before in the pantry.

     4. Love this Susie, I can very much relate as a woman twice your age who did this for a much longer period. How beautiful that you have the awareness now to change this so young and inspire a whole other generation to do the same. A leading light you are.

320. I so love what you present here Alexis, just because we find a majority for our point of view and believe that it is right, does not mean it is the truth.

     1. In fact it would be a good moment to consider that you may just be fooling yourself!

        1. Very true Vanessa McHardy but in order to do that would require us to drop our arrogance which is something that we resist at times.

     2. Yeah I agree Judith, the way Alexis describes how we can go about looking for people to side with our point of view and how we often don’t expose this in others but allow them to play this game shows that we settle for not rocking the boat as opposed to going to truth.

        1. Spot on Kristy…and often the ‘story’ is embellished to gain support of others when it isn’t actually the truth. And then the person gets so far into it that they begin to believe their own story…then even if they know they’re not telling the truth, their pride doesn’t always let them tell the truth.

     3. Yes Judith. It is a way to continue the living in a total lack of responsibility by having someone else endorse that it is all the fault of another.

     4. So true Judith. It is as if we think we make our point of view stronger, that it will be more true, if it is a majority view point This is all done to avoid taking responsibility to look at what is ‘in here’.

     5. How wise Judith. Sometimes even one person can bring the truth when many thousands of others oppose it – history is full of such opposition.

        1. Great point Dean, history actually teaches us that it is not so wise to follow the masses, yet it makes us feel save and stay in our comfort. To stand out going against the trend is not so easy.

        2. I would love to develop the strength in myself to be like that Judith. To hold true to myself to such a point that when there is something true to say, do or represent, I am no longer perturbed by the forces that potentially come through any of us when our comforts are challenged.

     6. Absolutely Judith, just because the majority believe something, no matter how fervently, it does not necessarily equate with it being true. How along did the majority believe the world was flat..?

     7. I love this too Judith, and I see how I have done this myself in the past, and still have the tendency to ‘go there’ if I choose. It is always on offer, there is always someone who will listen to your plight and join on in, especially if they too have an issue with the other person or type of situation it is about. We go into cohorts to play it safe, to feel needed or belonging to someone or group of someones, and also because we don’t want to see that we too have a part to play in every situation that occurs in our lives. Talking in a language that is more responsible when these situations come up is a whole different approach that is very inspiring.

     8. I agree, and it might just mean that we side up with people struggling with the same ‘in here’ issues who then have the same perception of the ‘out there’.

        1. Good point Diana, we look for people with the same issues, to get confirmed that it is okay to have that issue.

        2. Exactly Judith Andras, and that is how we choose to stay in the illusion of what we have created over and over again.

321. I agree Ariana, this is an important question that we do not ask ourselves quite often enough. The reason being that it is a discomforting question as it asks us to take responsibility, it is a lot more comfortable to leave it up to others to do something about what ever it is that bothers us about the world.

322. This shows the importance of swimming in the sea and not getting wet – when we make ‘out there’ important, when we let ourselves be sucked in by it, we are simply choosing not to be responsible for ‘in here’ This blog is a great way of showing all we have made the ‘out there’ to be and how none of it is truly who we are.

     1. Yes indeed and the word “illusion” springs to mind in pondering on the truth in this blog.

        1. Irena you are so right. We have created a ridiculous illusion, which we have projected from our scewed ‘in here’s’. It’s a hologram !!!

     2. Yes I agree and what a perfect setup because than we can avoid responsibility! However the way the world is today, as well as the health of our bodies, is showing us this does not work. Bringing attention to ‘in here’ is the way for change to happen.

        1. Yes jsnelgrove36 if we bring the attention to the ‘in here’ that will than be what we contribute to the ‘out there’.

        2. Well said jsnelgrove36 – and we are already seeing the difference of many people who have changed their lives simply by making this shift. It shows that there are many temptations, but to remain true to ourselves is so important. Responsibility is key and I had no understanding of this a few years ago. Not just to ourselves, but to each other.

     3. Yes this is so true, in pursuit of the ‘out there’ feels like a dog chasing its tail and the goal seems forever out of reach. Where as living with the ‘in here’ is talking about taking true responsibility and feeling all of our choices.

323. I love the point you make that “We each have our own perception of the world and rarely stop to consider that the world looks very different to each of us, depending on our own individual ‘in heres’.” Sometimes we forget to consider that there are many things we carry that can get in the way of what the truth is. And that others also carry their things. Humbling to reflect on this.

     1. Yes that is a good point to reflect on, and I see it every day how early these ill perceptions begin working with young people it is quite shocking at times how cruel our minds will be and how it perceives the world around it because of a hurt that was not healed.

        1. This is an important point you raise Vanessa, that the way our mind perceives the world and the responses it chooses is coloured by unhealed hurts and this can be from very early in life indeed. It shows the responsibility we have for paying attention to, spotting the evidence of our hurts, deepening our understanding and healing those hurts. This allows us to be more open and loving with our outlook and expression. We are accountable not just to our self but to everyone else in our life as well.

     2. Yeah great point- we see the ‘out there’ based on the hurts and experiences we are carrying on the inside. This changes our perception of everything.

        1. Perception is a dangerous filter to carry as it can taint otherwise innocently loving situations and expressions.

        2. That makes perception a very delicate thing… can even turn lies into truth or truth into lies just to avoid a hurtful experience.

        3. Even our own eyes can fool us due to perception – will swear things are one way when in truth they another. Remaining open to what influences our perception can take us past the illusions.

     3. Very humbling indeed David. It is revelation for humanity to understand that how they perceive others is a reflection of their ‘in there’, their issues. And so if you mistrust someone before you even ‘know’ them, then that will be your experience with them.

        1. So true Gina, that’s exactly how it is.

        2. Yes ginadunlop if you react to someone from a hurt on the ‘in there’ then that is the quality you meet them in.

        3. I just love the science around this – it is revelation and world changing.

     4. Yes Michael, bringing understanding to every situation is humbling and I find it allows me to step back and reflect on the truth that I am on the same path as everyone else and as long as I’m looking after my ‘in here’, when we meet, your ‘in here’ has a chance to be nourished as well.

     5. Yes l agree Marika and the more we look from the “in here” lense the truer will be the reflection and the more unanimous the vote on what’s really happening all round.

     6. Yes Marika, as Alexis’ last line, ‘in truth love is all there is’. Something I have always known ‘in here’ but found difficult to express ‘out there’. Now with the support of of Universal Medicine and the Student Body I am learning to release those hurts and misconceptions that have held me back from my true expression.

     7. To see it this way brings understanding for other people when they react or respond in a way that may be different to the way we respond.

        1. I am learning that understanding is a key to addressing any issues that we may have with another that appear to be ‘out there’. Understanding comes when we read the energy of what is truly going on without judgement or trying to find a solution, just simply reading what is there.

     8. Amen to that Marika.

     9. Yes Marika, none of us truly resists Love – it is where we come from and living it is our purpose.

     10. Great point David. How we see the world is through the ‘in here’ lens that we have each individually created. With the emphasis here being on the ‘individually’.

     11. Yes David its good to keep in mind that not everyone sees the world as we do. Having an understanding of our own perceptions and past misconceptions helps us to be more compassionate with others.

324. As a very wise woman and great friend often says, “Curiosity not criticism”. Takes the self-bashing out of all realisations and supports us to accept our part in what we see and take responsibility thereafter for the quality we contribute to the whole.

     1. Thank you Lucy for this great reminder to be gentle with ourselves and look with curiosity at realisations.

325. I love the analogy of the big screen reflecting for us all the ‘in here’. Superb writing that I loved reading.

     1. I love that analogy as well Lee Green. So helpful to look at it like this, nothing is hidden anymore – all is revealed.

        1. Everything is seen by everyone – we are all on ‘reality TV’.

326. “the divine function of the ‘out there’ is to reflect back to us the what-is-not-love on the ‘in here’ This is beautiful. It takes away any possible excuse for blaming others for ‘out there’ and brings responsibility squarely back to our doorstep. For me this has often resulted in the blame and shame of myself, but this does not change a thing. I fully agree that the only way to change the world that is ‘out there’ is to deeply love and honour my ‘in here’.

327. It feels as though the more uncomfortable things become ‘in here’ the more we ‘need’ to blame the ‘out there’ for our discomforts. As you say Alexis we have not been inclined to look within for the cause of our dilemma, mostly I feel because we would have to start being honest. Once we begin to connect within our hearts begin to open and we become more aware and able to see that we are part of the ‘out there’ while we maintain an investment in the ‘out there’. When we invest in ourselves we begin the process of return and becoming one again so that the ‘out there’ and the ‘in here’ become one once again.

328. “Without the ‘in here’, there is no ‘out there’ ” – I love this Alexis!

329. This is an awesome reminder Alexis and calls us all to greater responsibility: ‘the divine function of the ‘out there’ is to reflect back to us the what-is-not-love on the ‘in here’. If we are truly willing to see our ‘out there’ as the gift of reflection that it is then we have the opportunity to change our behaviour and ultimately the world that we are living in. This is so empowering and blows out of the water the belief that we cannot make a difference because we are just one person. So not true.

330. These are wise words and sharings Alexis thank you its beautiful to read feel and know all you are sharing.The’ in here’ is love with the outside reflecting to us and is a real teller of our lives our choices and the way we are living.

331. I like that to Doug, with the world in the frightful state it is there is all the more reason for change happening sooner and faster than it is already. Why do we choose to live in misery when we can unite and have everything everyone could ever need.

     1. So why not? Why are we not asking that question? Could it be that it is simpler to not ask it, than ask it and then, possibly, have to accept our responsibility in it all?

332. ‘“Have you considered what part you play in all of this?” This is the question asked by a deeply true friend. One who has no investment and loves us for however we respond, or react.

333. It’s massively easy to get caught up in what is going on around you – it’s a 24/7 distraction, I’m definitely no master yet but I know when I’m able to remain steady, hold myself and not leave the beauty and integrity and truth I know is inside me life simply feels fantastic.

     1. Indeed, we hold the key to the kingdom of God inside of us.

        1. That’s very true – it’s super empowering to know we actually always hold the key to everything within us, in every situation and in any moment.

334. ‘Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect.’ Such an amazing statement! Hear, hear.

     1. Yes this is well worth taking note of! How often have we provided a reflection for someone but have an expectation of what that might do, or try to control the outcome in some way. It is as though we need something to come from it in order to make us feel worthy or comfortable, or to get recognition for the sterling job we have done! it’s true – ‘Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect.’

335. When friends have confided in me about issues they are having I have recently dared to go there and ask “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?” this has been really interesting as I have often held this back in fear of their reaction, what I have found instead is there has been a openingness to go there and look deeper into there involvement. When my partner/ friend has asked the same thing in me, i too have appreciated the nudge to look closer into my part. This has been a great healing lesson.

     1. Indeed Samantha – I can feel a moment when this is said to me of not wanting to go there, and instead to focus on the issue as being outside of me, but being open to the possibility of my own part it in allows a realisation which feels like a release of much of the tension and leads to understanding and greater responsibility.

336. Thank you for expressing this so clearly Alexis and for making it so clear to understand what it is that we do. It’s something we’ve all done – looking for someone else to blame for whatever predicament we’re in and yet the only way out is to take full responsibility for our part in it and once we do, as you’ve expressed here, the changes start to take place.

337. Alexis, this is a stunning blog calling for a return to love in full through living our lives with total responsibility for out thoughts, words and actions on a daily basis – thus bringing a complete stop to the old and familiar ‘blame game’ of making everyone ‘out there’ in the wrong, rather than face our hurts and bring the focus within. Becoming honest and responsible with ourselves first, then truth can be known.
     “This is colossal because it calls us to absolute responsibility. There is nowhere to hide, no one to blame, we have set everything in motion ourselves; and by everything I literally mean every-thing – nothing (as in no-thing) exists ‘out there’ without it first existing in the ‘in here’.”

     1. Stephanie, what a great comment, you helped crystallise Alexis’ blog further for me, in particular the fact that nothing out there is ever the issue, it always comes back to me and my willingness to face my hurts and look within to see and understand how I’ve been operating which allows what is shown from out there back to me. And when I do this, when I live this, out there is embraced as a forever deepening, saying to me you can be more love, here’s this and I can feel how it becomes a loving friend showing me each step back to ever greater love. This completely changes everything, each and every situation I meet in life offers me an opportunity to be more love, to bring my love to it, to be willing and open to always see my part and to take responsibility for it.

        1. Oooh Monica deeper and deeper we go until we arrive back on our doorstep.

        2. Yes Alexis ‘arrive on our doorstep’, that is such a beautiful way to put it, that’s exactly what we do and each step takes us ever deeper.

338. “…the divine function of the ‘out there’ is to reflect back to us the what-is-not-love on the ‘in here’ because if it weren’t for the ‘out there’, how would we know what is not love on the ‘in here’? For so long we have lived believing the ‘out-there’ is not only real but the truth, when we realise that it is a reflection and live from this realisation it is a real game-changer.

     1. The power of reflection, of casting back the light or lack of light lived is the truth that is there for all to see. It is only our willingness to see that allows us to accept the responsibility that is a reflection of OUR choices in how we are choosing to live. Agreed Jonathan to ‘live from this realisation it is a real game-changer.’

339. If we deeply allow ourselves to let us in in our own hearts then we only can be open to other people. In the out there we only play a role which is not us, but perhaps gives us a lot of recognition, however on the inside we stay empty and often desperate.

340. I looked the title of this blog today ‘the real purpose of out there’ and realised that there’s nothing to fear in out there, it acts as a mirror for what I know and feel in here and it plays out faithfully what I’ve allowed in here – it’s like my own projection screen writ large highlighting what I’ve allowed and the choices I’ve made, and that can be an ouch at times, but as I lovingly allow myself to observe and not react to out there I get greater clarity about how I’ve been and can see what might need to change in here. It’s a beautiful cycle and one which never stops, so today I am appreciating that I do not need to react to out there, I just need to observe it and be willing to be honest about how I’ve been and the choices I’ve made.

     1. Monica I feels it’s of huge significance that you say that ‘there is nothing to fear in the ‘out there’ and that when we use it as a loving support then it changes our reaction to it.

        1. Yes Alexis, it changes everything, and it takes away blame and brings us back to responsibility. I can feel how it re-introduces the openness many of us had as children where we observed life but we stayed with feeling and connecting to our bodies as we did so, that’s what this journey is, a coming back to the central point in us, our essence and feeling everything around us from there, feeling the love and feeling those places where we’ve not been love, seeing how it’s reflected back to us from out there and lovingly making changes, and knowing that anything that is presented to us is an opportunity, something we are capable of and can address and that it’s our choice to do so, (and even if at that time we don’t, we will be offered another opportunity, life never stops offering us that). And the second thing is to let go any need for how it should be, to drop expectations of myself and others, these are lethal, it truly is about observing and where we meet those points where we find we have expectations being honest about that and tenderly unravelling them and any underlying hurts that may be there, it’s about simply making life about love, living that love and have that love rule.

     2. Your appreciation of the cycle is felt Monica and a the loving reminder for us all..that rather than react to what is ‘out there’ we can simply observe it and be honest about how we have been in life and the choices we have made. Being loving with ourselves makes a world of difference to how we respond.

341. Thank you Alexis for delivering this powerful gem, “When a person’s ‘in here’ is one of harmony and love then their ‘out there’ will reflect back to them exactly the same harmony and love.” We are the ones that are a constant in our lives, and if the same patterns keep cropping up in our jobs, relationships and families then it’s a reflection of our ‘in here’s’.

342. When we continually strive from the ‘out there,’ we stay small and in comfort, but to choose the responsibility of the ‘in here,’ brings it back to us and that is truly magnificent.

     1. Well said Kelly – I agree. We play a huge game with ourselves to avoid responsibility, by playing small and seeking comfort through the external world. Yet clearly this is not working for us as we are avoiding living the truth of our greatness and as such living in dis-harmony. The love we bring is far greater that any game we could ever play and it is our responsibility to connect to our love within and live this greatness in our everyday. With this we can then return to live with the true power we were all designed to live with.

        1. Beautiful Carola. What I have also found is that the game is also extremely exhausting on the body and it robs us of the grandeur we hold already. Its our choice to be responsible and stop rolling the dice on the game board. That is where our true power lies.

        2. I agree Kelly. I have experience this exhaustion and can honestly say that it did not feel like who I truly was in anyway. Being honest with myself about the unloving choices I was making with how I was exhausting myself was super empowering as I realised that I can make loving choices that instead supported me to be and live who I truly am with far more vitality.

343. I love reading or hearing about what you have observed Alexis and the astuteness you bring and share. These few words are superb ‘…..rarely questioning our part in whatever it is we’re embroiled in.’ To live just by these words could change one’s life beyond imagination.

344. “And what is your part in this?” The image I get is of a cat jumping into a group of pigeons…

345. “Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect.” While re-rereading this blog today this line stood out for me as it shows me the blessing that life is actually presenting to us all the time, if we are ready to see it or not. It is the love that is all around us and we live in and with continuously, that is presenting us opportunities to return to this love we are equally from again and again until we see and understand it.

346. Through reflection we see what in truth it is that we still have ‘in here’. A reflection never lies.

     1. Yes Marika, what a gift in truth, to have life reflecting our every expression… and if the reflection is not to our liking we do always have the opportunity to choose differently.

347. When what we see in our ‘out there’ is love, we know that we are living heaven on earth.

348. Great points you make here, Alexis.

     I too have noticed a very strong ‘out there’ mentality in workplaces, not just with individuals but in an organizational sense. It can seem very difficult for a business owner or executive team to be honest and take responsibility for downturns in the business, knowing that the decisions that were made effect so many people (i.e., employees). Much easier to blame the economy, the government, competitors, etc.

     And likewise, it feels much better on the surface for employees in that same example to point fingers at the leadership or the government or the economy than look at what possible part they could have played in where they are in that moment.

     The ‘out there’ is a victim mentality. When in truth, if everything is reflecting to us something about the choices we make, then there can be no victims.

349. So true Mary – I have become more and more aware of this recently and after wrestling with the initial feeling of discomfort when recognising that I was caught up in the ‘out there’ it was beautiful to feel the joy when I came out the other side to the ‘in here’ and could feel and appreciate the magic of God.

350. This is gold “We are all love equally and in its divine expression the whole of the ‘out there’ exists to continually unfold us back to the love that we already are. In its illusionary state the purpose of the ‘out there’ is to keep us embroiled in the illusion for as long as possible. If we turn away from the ‘out there’ and start to focus on the ‘in here’ then it is only a matter of time before we remember that God was inside us all along.”

351. Thank you for an awesome blog Alexis which puts a huge spotlight on ‘the real purpose of the out there’. I could relate to everything you shared with a good dose of ouches along the way.

352. What a powerful and exposing blog Alexis. I loved reading it.
     Serge Benhayon, the founder of Universal Medicine has brought a reflection of what can be lived in truth from the ‘in here’. My view of the ‘out there’ has gone through many changes since attending Universal Medicine presentations and the world looks and feels completely different from the ‘in here’ perspective bringing a re-connection to joy and an inner warmth that was impossible to feel when focused ‘out there’.
     “If you want to know how you’re doing on the ‘in here’, then take a look at your ‘out there’, it’s up on the big screen for all to see.”

353. It’s interesting how the right blog for you to read often appears precisely when you need to read it.

354. So true Alexis “Consequently we are living in an age of paraphernalia. We have desperately filled our ‘out theres’ with all manner of stuff and gadgets in an attempt to make ourselves feel better in our ‘in heres’.” . . . to no avail. Same if we fill ourselves with what’s going on in the world without ever feeling what is going on within us.

355. ‘It seems that we are under the belief that everything that is not working is not working ‘out there’ – we have a smug sense that everything with us is ok.’ – This is so exposing Alexis and I can feel a sense of hopeless in this attitude, like ‘I can’t save or change the world so I’m just going to enjoy myself while I can’. I used to feel like this, overwhelmed by what I saw and felt so I may as well party hard and go deeper into irresponsibility because the world cannot be saved. After bringing myself back to a love within and committing to living each day, to the best of my ability, with my focus on the ‘in here’ – I am beginning to understand the world and myself. I don’t feel hopeless and like nothing can change because I feel the grace of every moment as a moment to choose love and responsibility.

     1. Beautiful and inspiring Rachael. I love this, ‘I don’t feel hopeless and like nothing can change because I feel the grace of every moment as a moment to choose love and responsibility.’

        1. I agree Lucy, gorgeously said Rachael. It is empowering to realise that the opportunity to surrender to love is gracefully offered to us in every moment.

        2. Lucy I agree with you about Rachael’s expression, ‘beautiful and inspiring’ indeed.

     2. Very beautiful Rachael, and expressed with such grace.

356. A great piece of writing and awesome lesson in responsibility – what is inside is definitely on the big screen for us all to see and learn from if we choose to take responsibility for the part we play.

357. I love this blog! It’s like BAM here it is, so what are you going to do? Keep on blaming the world and everyone else in it for all the mess you see OR take responsibility and clean up what is inside by embracing everything you are and the love inherent to you?

     1. BOOM yes Rachael that is so IT! Its like, we have to get real and see, every day we are presented with opportunities or reflections that things need changing and what are we doing about it?

        1. Love both your enthusiasm to get real about changing what is not of truth – and indeed it is the only way for all of us. The sooner we choose to be responsible the sooner we will see change for true good.

     2. Love it Harry! What are we doing about it? On the majority we ain’t doing much… As a humanity we tend to pour money and energy into changing the ‘out there’ without much regard for the changes that we need ‘in here’. All we need to do is look within.

358. Great blog- lots to ponder on Alexis about reflections shown to us in our lives- the “out there” vs the “in here”. Are we taking responsibility for what is truly being shown to us, or are we choosing to ignore truth by putting the blame out there?

359. ‘..the fact that there is a group of people all feeling the same way seems to confirm to them that the problem is with the other person..’ This is something I am witness to and can at times get caught up in in most days. The ‘gang mentality’, which is really just a fancy name for bullying others as an excuse to not deal with ones own stuff, issues or reactions. There is no love in this and it’s a very false and harmful retardation of brotherhood, with people coming together because they agree or have an argument in common. True brotherhood does not separate anyone from another and there is not write or wrong, only what is true and what is not and everyone is included in that knowing.

360. Constantly checking out what’s going on ‘out there’ is a favourite pastime for many people and there can be quite a lot of emotional energy stirred up in the process. People get involved in all sorts of activism in the belief that they are making a difference by standing up for something they strongly believe in. Yet checking the ‘in here’ is out of their realm of perception so it’s all just a ‘busyness’ that changes little. I am finding that the more I am looking inside of me, the more I am finding answers to what is going on ‘out there’. It can seem like a drop in the ocean but ‘word’ is spreading and people are changing.

     1. Helen thanks for bringing up activism. Recently I have been looking back on my days of animal rights involvement and can clearly see how the energy that I was in was simply fueling the things that I was looking to change. I carried my emotional reaction to animal cruelty with me to the rallies and into the conversations that I had. In summary I was being ‘loveless’ energetically and was thinking that I could change something that had arisen out of lovelessness. I now know beyond a shadow of a doubt that only love has the power to change anything.

     2. That is a great point Helen, I am sure many of us with all ‘good’ intention have been involved in different causes to try to change what we feel is wrong with our world. Often though the approach comes with aggression or heavy emotion that clouds the underlying issue. For example fighting for peace does simply not make sense. If we start with the ‘in here’ rather than going ‘out there’ to change the world slowly but surely our world will reflect these loving changes.

361. “Our future is the same as our past, to return to a time when the ‘in here’ and the ‘out there’ is nothing but love because In truth love is all there is.” This is so beautiful and so true, love is all there is and that is all we are returning too, in here and out there.

362. Beautifull Mary and so true, this is something I very much need to do .. Connect more to the ‘in there’ 😀

363. …and that the God in you is in the God in me, therefore the light in you in the light in me, my love is your love and his love is our love. We create boundaries to afford us an excuse to run from this truth and the love that we are.

364. …back to the power of reflection having no investment in what it is reflecting, I am often in awe of the beauty of natures reflections, how exquisitely beautiful they are and how they are also confirming the absolute grandness of us in– truth.

365. The quality of that which we breathe in, is the quality of that which we breathe out. The quality of that which we breathe out, will determine the quality of that which we breathe in – As above so below and as below so above. Thankyou Alexis for this gorgeous exploration of this ageless truth. We are each responsible for the quality of air we all breathe.

     1. Simple, practical and divine truth. Beautiful Liane.

366. “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?” This is essentially the million-dollar question!

367. “If you want to know how you’re doing on the ‘in here’, then take a look at your ‘out there’, it’s up on the big screen for all to see.” Everything can be seen as call that leads us back to our deep connection to the love we are ‘in here’. Alexis, your blog is so simply presented and yet when taken to heart has the power to change the world.

     1. Yes Victoria Picone, when we truly start to live as is suggested in this one sentence our life changes and with it the world will experience a turn around.

        1. I have a friend who looks out at the world and feels it near impossible that it could change by us individually making the changes within us to reflect the quality we want to see in our world. Although this is the only way we will truly experience a turn around, as we have tried to ‘fix’ the world from the outside in and this has not worked. An inside out approach is called for and one of collective responsibility.

368. Only when we reclaim and re-live the love we are deep within, will this love be reinstated in the world in which we live.

     1. The truth you present is obvious and everyone knows it (even when they don’t want to know). So we may ask why has humanity invested so much in changing the world without much success but is so hesitant to look inside and initiate change from the inside out? Some part of us must ‘love’ the ‘out-there’, no matter how much it makes us suffer.

        1. Alex I wonder if it has more to do with fearing the ‘in here’ rather than loving the ‘out there’. We’re all lugging around a lot of pain that we feel we dare not re-visit and so our investment in the out there is to prevent us from feeling our painful ‘in heres’. But our glorious ‘in heres’ lie underneath our painful in here’s and so we bar ourselves from our own salvation.

     2. Exactly Liane, “re-live”.

369. I love the truth of your blog Alexis. I was only having this conversation with a friend the other day. Our tendency on the whole is to find fault with everything outside of us without considering it is we who are seeing through our own filters. “Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect.”

370. Alexis, this is an inspirational read, and a required read I would say for all! I absolutely see that I have done and still do this ” out there” blame game the invisible ” they” we speak of. Bringing it back to “in here” clarifies so much and requires us to take responsibility for out part in all that is reflected back to us. “If we turn away from the “out there” and start to focus on the “in here” then it is only a matter of time before we remember that God was inside us all along” beautifully said Alexis!

371. Have you considered what part you are playing in this? A big deep question, that we don’t like to look at. I have only recently started to be open to this possibility as I didn’t like how I was finding myself in repeated situations. The truth is just by being open I am seeing how I repeatedly set up the situation through the choices I make. It does mean we have to be more responsible if we want anything to change.

     1. Yes Shevon, we first need to be willing to see our part in the ‘merry-go-round’ we not only bought a ticket for but built in the first place! With this willingness comes the choice – responsibility or irresponsibility. Actually that choice is always there, but in our irresponsibility we can easily choose to ignore that we have a different choice.

        1. Yep Lucy we chose our way into this mess, we have to choose our way out, there’s no other way.

        2. “the ‘merry-go-round’ we not only bought a ticket for but built in the first place!” Letting go of pride and investment is a big step – for then we can begin to see the truth behind the soap box from which we have been standing.

372. There is so much self indulgence and lack of responsibility in the way we choose to live, which creates the absolute rot, corruption, lack of love and care that we do not like to see in this world or dare to admit. Taking responsibility for ones self in everything is the only true way forward. It makes life way more simple and joyful as everything becomes a learning. It allows another the freedom and space to feel what is true for them.

373. “The stories we create, the drama we get caught up in, the pain we feel and the highs and the lows. We roll around from scenario to scenario, totally wrapped up in the detail of the ‘out there’, rarely questioning our part in whatever it is we’re embroiled in.” Amazing the lengths we go to to keep us away from our light.

374. Our future is the same as our past, so our future is already here. Everything is already here, we just have to make that choice for love, in here.

     1. Bingo Mariette. Love is simply waiting to be chosen.

375. God this is a really good article Alexis! I was totally captivated, reflective and profoundly touched by your clarity of truth in its simplest form, thank you, it will stay with me.

376. “Few would dare to say “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?””.
     Great question Alexis and something I completely avoided for many years. Accountability and responsibility – looking for it ‘out there’ as in ‘who’s fault’ and blaming, when all we need to do is take loving responsibility and bring ourselves to account by looking at that possibility ‘in here’.

     1. There’s a lot to be admitted! All my life I’ve been very responsible, but made it mainly about taking responsibility for my actions. I’ve invested a lot in the relationship with the outside world in regards to openness, kindness, honesty. But never really accepted that the True purpose of life is to build also a forever evolving relationship with myself and my body. Accepting and living the Responsibility first and foremost rather than to do so many things in order to be accepted and recognised. The ‘out there’ is wide spread… It would be great if we – as a race – would define a common ground on what ‘out there’ and ‘in here’ actually means on a personal level.

     2. I often direct this question to myself if I come up against a situation I am having a reaction about. It takes any blame out of it and puts the focus back on me, and what I am being called to understand or go deeper with.

        1. That is beautiful, a deeper understanding and implementation of responsibility.

     3. It has been and sometimes still is my common way of behaviour Jeanette to only look ‘out there’ for ‘who’s fault’ instead to take my responsibility and look to my own contribution to it in my ‘in there’. I have to acknowledge that it is a deeply ingrained movement in my body and all of my systems that needs time and a strong commitment to love in order to undo this in all its illusionary ways.

        1. I understand what you are saying here Nico as it has been my common way as well, you are right, time and a strong commitment to oneself and to love is required to lovingly undo such ingrained behaviour.

377. A beautiful claiming of the responsibility we all hold. Blame can seem like an easier path but really we only get more of the same. When we take responsibility for ourselves and our lives we know we hold the power to make change.

378. We endlessly discuss jobs, cars, marriages, awards, victories and defeats, but the cupboard is very bare when it comes to sharing about how we are in ourselves. The bits that exist seem to see inner exploration as a mystical voyage. None that I have read do what you do here Alexis and show that there is, in fact a beautiful relationship between the two, a constant reflection asking us all to understand the ‘in here’ is contributing and controlling the ‘out here’ for us all. Thank you for putting this out there.

     1. A beautiful relationship there is indeed Joseph and it is a blessing to al of us that this reflection is always there to show us its relation to our ‘in here’ and one day we all will appreciate this fact as it will eventually bring us all back to who we truly are and where we belong to.

     2. Yes Joseph I find this is what many women often talk about is all the busyness with kids and work and not having any time for themselves. I know this constant game with the ‘out there’ stopping any chance of having time or space for the ‘in here’. It’s amazing though what comes up when you ask ‘Is there anything you could let go of, to care for you?’… and then comes a whole lot of reasons and excuses to keep it the way it is. It’s beautiful really because it confirms that we are responsible for the way we are living and we are the ones that can choose to make loving changes at any moment.

        1. Aimee that would be a great article for you to expand on ‘ I find this is what many women often talk about is all the busyness with kids and work and not having any time for themselves. I know this constant game with the ‘out there’ stopping any chance of having time or space for the ‘in here’.

     3. There is much in what you say here Joseph. Any contemplation of the ‘in here’ has this pre-existing connotation of being some kind of indulgent, airy-fairy, mystical reflection – my Dad used to call it ‘navel-gazing’! But it couldn’t be further from that. In fact it is a rock solid, undeniable, actual science. It is concrete fact – a fact that we all need to start taking responsibility for. Because the longer we ignore the ‘in here’, the messier the ‘out there’ is going to get. And surely the state of the world’s health, politics, well-being and climate is enough to show us that the ‘out there’ (and thus – by science – the ‘in here’) is at an uber-critical point.

379. This blog makes so much sense Alexsis! This is a real call for us to stop indulging in the drama of what is going on around us and to take responsibility for the choices we are making and to connect to the “in here”. Once done, collectively there will be less drama out there and more understanding for one another as well as ourselves.

380. Thank you for your great blog Alexis. I also find that life flows when we are connected to our inner selves, being in our body & honouring how we feel, rather than looking “out there” for solutions.It’s a whole turnaround for me, a change of perspective which is so worth it.Your blog is also a great reminder to stop and check in with ourselves,if we find ourselves in tricky waters blaming others for our woes, rather than taking responsibility for our part.

381. We have created the ‘out there’ by how we are in the ‘in here,’ change the ‘in here’ and the ‘out there’ will naturally change. Blaming others for the way things are is so old and so convenient it keeps us stuck in our old patterns so that the ‘out there never changes. I love the way you have put this blog together Alexis it really brings to light how that it is through our own lack of honesty and responsibility that we still have a world that is not a true reflection of how it could be.

     1. Alison thanks for saying it so clearly ‘it is through our own lack of honesty and responsibility that we still have a world that is not a true reflection of how it could be’.

382. I like your use of the words ‘in there’ and ‘out there’, it make it so very clear how much we jump between the ‘in there’ and ‘out there’ in life but rarely jump to the conclusion of the ‘in there’ and ‘out there’ being the same, thus no more jumping required between the ‘in there’ and ‘out there.’

     1. That’s great Esther – let’s all stop jumping and be still!

383. “The ‘out there’ is a magnification of the ‘in here’. This is a great reminder Alexis of the responsibility we have to live the love we naturally are.

     1. I love it Peter and we can’t say it enough, it is a great reminder to the responsibility we have to live our lives in correspondence to who we naturally are.

384. I agree Alexis we like to see the world in two categories where the I has nothing to do with the all. Everywhere where we do not want to take responsibility it is the other/others or out there, as you so aptly describe, that is causing the mess with no connection back to ourselves. But as you say ‘Life is the sum total of all of its parts’, so there is never a detached version of us in the equation of the all.

385. Never really understood the group and gang mentality, to pray on the weak, nor does the work place bullying work for me, people form groups and what people spend there day talking about …. has nothing to do with work … really doesn’t sit with me, as we are all there to do a job in the work place, and work side by side in harmony.

386. This is an absolutely amazing blog, so true and hits the nail of life right on the head. Over the past little while I have really been noticing things and people who have really annoyed me and have really been looking at myself to try to understand why. That’s what I’ve been doing looking in to understand the out so this has been a very timely read for me. Thank you Alexis.

     1. Yes, I agree Kevin – this is a great marker for being more honest with ourselves – nowadays (thank you Serge Benhayon) whenever I feel any kind of tension in my body (e.g. frustration) at another, I know this is letting me know that there is something I am projecting ‘out there unto another. Time to stop and feel what I don’t want to see about myself from their reflection.

     2. This is so brilliant kevmchardy. This is what it is all about. Having the commitment and responsibility to just stop and go “hang on…what’s going on here…why is this thing, out there, bothering me, in here”. Inspiring to hear that you are doing that – when the most of society just take the easy way out and rant and vent and flail and attack whatever it is that has pushed their button.

387. I love how this blog is written – it relates to everything! How we have lived.. how we are living.. and how we will be tomorrow.

     1. My sentiments exactly Abby – Yes, yes and yes – it does relate to everything!

     2. I agree Abby and I feel very inspired by the authority with which it is written.

388. how revealing that we can consider the ‘out there’ to be a reflection of the ‘in here’. That’s quite challenging but also quite hopeful because the more we discard what is not love within us and live the love that we are, the more this becomes the world we live in.

     1. Yes indeed Amanda and, as you say, it is all of these – Revealing, Challenging and Inspiring. The power of change is in our hands.

389. “Few would dare to say “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?”” – this is regretably so true Alexis. With the study of the esoteric teachings (thank you Serge Benhayon and all the Universal team!) I have come to live in a way where I always ask myself “what’s my part in this?”. This is a most empowering question that places us in the driver’s seat of our life, rather than victims. And as you highlight very well in your blog, those reflections are powerful, gradually and solidly spread around us, supporting true change in a world that so need it.

390. Oooh, the part we play ‘in here’ reflects and is also a part of the ‘out there’ is so true Alexis, we can’t blame or compare with others without accepting our part in the scenario. Knowing the ‘out there’ is the magnification of the ‘in here’ that we all can look at, is the colossal responsibility to feel into.

391. Alexis, I love that you are reminding us all that everyone begins with our innermost connection with us and thus this is the quality that is fostered through every facet of our day. This is a huge revelation as we have for so long been invested in the view from the world around us and had not stopped to know or unfold our part in it. Thank you for your blog as you inspire people everywhere to know the harmony that is possible when we begin from our inner light and its connection, allowing this to light the way throughout every moment that follows.

392. This is great – “If a person’s ‘in here’ is one of mistrust and suspicion then that person’s ‘out there’ will be made up of people who can’t be trusted and situations that confirm that the person needs to be permanently on guard.” I have observed this in another, even to the point of reading the story that is playing out in their head based on the mistrust and not the truth of what has been presented.

393. When ones ‘in there’ is void, then ones perception is devoid of love and truth.

394. I enjoyed reading your blog Alexis. A comical and powerful way of describing exactly what goes on in the world which is a reflection of how we are choosing to live.

     1. Well said Rebecca and I really enjoyed the humour and power in this blog.

395. “The reason why the world feels so incredibly loveless to so many people is simply because it is a magnification of our collective ‘in here’s’… and there is so much that is loveless in so many people’s ‘in here’s’.” this nails it on the head. So often I’ve wanted “love’ approval etc.. from others to fill up my loveless “in here’s”. Yet that is not only irresponsible it is impossible. It is deeply empowering to now know and build a life that first based on the quality of what is “in here” first. I know whenever I get caught up in the “out there” I seemingly forget my responsibility for my “in here”. Yet it also shows the incredible power when we do make loving choices with how we are “in here”.

396. We are sold the ‘out there’ from so young and we jump in and spend an entire life chasing the ‘out there’ trying to reel it in, trying to make it ‘something’ or ‘that thing’…but as you have beautifully exposed Alexis, it will never deliver. When we connect to the truth of the ‘in here’ then our ‘out there’ aligns naturally with no effort and no push…simply divinity at work!

397. Alexis, you bring a simple great truth in this blog that ‘Without the ‘in here’, there is no ‘out here’.’ and yet we’ve set up our world to obsess over and address the ‘out there’, to find solutions to those out theres we don’t consider appropriate or don’t like and of course it never works as we’re missing that vital component the ‘in here’. It is so super simple and yet we fight the simplicity of it, in truth we fight the responsibility of it, the knowing that we have a part to play in all those out there’s that until we look at and address our parts nothing out there will truly change. And as more of us address our in here’s the out there’s change for all of us and there are different reflections to be seen and felt in the world to remind us all that ultimately we’re on a journey back to the love we are.

398. We are a lot more comfortable with life when we view the world as things ‘out there’, that the what happens ‘out there’ is not in our control, so therefore we don’t have to take responsibility for it. But what is ‘out there’ is always a reflection of what is going on ‘in there’ inside of ourselves. This is somewhat confronting for many, but it is actually what is happening, and does take awareness to see this, which differs for us all.

399. When everyone takes responsibility for their ‘in heres’ and no longer blame others for how they are feeling, this will be the moment when we stop having war in this world.

     1. Eleanor, Alexis fabulous blog made me stop and really look at the ‘ins’ and ‘outs’ (haha) of how we are in the world and what you have added here feels so true. Roll on that day.

     2. It absolutely does come down to responsibility. To making the choice to allow ourself to connect within and become once again familiar with our inner self then from there peel the layers of the out there away without judgement but a loving understanding that only the inner heart can hold.

     3. What a true statement you share Eleanor… time to stop the blame

     4. That is powerful, we actually have the keys within us to respond to what our world is reflecting which we have all had a hand in creating.

     5. We blame the world for that which we have created that we know is not in line with the love that we are so that we do not have to take responsibility for these loveless choices. Humility, humbleness and honesty are the path back to the truth that burns bright within us all. When truth is restored to our daily way of living, there will be no want nor need for war for the harmony we feel within will be the harmony we live out in the world.

     6. That’s so true Eleanor, we all have to accept that our ‘in here’s’ are a result of our own choices without pointing the finger at others.

     7. The 3 R’s that can change the world – Responsibility, Responsibility & Responsibility!

400. A great blog and one that shows up comparison and jealousy for exactly what they are: obsession with the out there because the in here is void of love.

     1. True, this blog shows up the fact that every single issue that is,is because of a lack of love and connection to our loving source and thus the true power that accompanies it, that which easily knows a false or created issue from the truth available in life.

     2. Well said Elaine – comparison and jealousy exposed yet again!

401. “If you want to know how you’re doing on the ‘in here’, then take a look at your ‘out there’, it’s up on the big screen for all to see.” This is such a great piece of advice. How we perceive what’s going on around us is like a barometer of where we are at and what is the next thing we need to work on so to strip the layers to more of the love that we are.

     1. Beautifully said Eleanor. Thank you.

402. ‘In here’ is feeling very warm after reading your fabulous blog Alexis thank you.

403. Just because many people accept something doesn’t mean it is true. Many years ago in the 1950s 80% of men smoked – it was considered ‘normal’. Nowadays far fewer do so. As we learn and discover – be it through evidence-based research or through studying our own bodies and how they feel – we can take responsibility back for our own bodies and behaviours, which patently affects everyone with whom we come into contact.

404. “Few would dare to say “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?”” Yet this question is so important. What we think, say and do affects how the world reflects back to us – be it ‘good’ or ‘bad’. Taking responsibility and making new choices does indeed alter that reflection – from day to day.

405. This is a great blog Alexis which I can really understand. Not too long ago I had been blaming a bit of my ‘out there’ for some problems I was having, but luckily a dear friend pointed out to me that all that is around us is there for us to evolve from, good and bad. It was such a great revelation for me as I turned this difficult situation on its head and saw it as a opportunity to heal the hurt I had that was creating it, or making me react to it. Its amazing because with this new out look life becomes a playground where we can constantly choose to look deeper into what is ‘in here’.

406. A beautiful encapsulation of how we view the world and our part within it Alexis, thank you. How amazing would it be if this was the first sentence we met on the first day of school “The ‘out there’, if you will, is like a giant plasma TV screen of the ‘in here’.” What is evident from your article is that learning to focus on the ‘in here’ returns us to something very precious within, God. You have most importantly high lighted the way in which we can gang up on others, form group opinions and completely side step the real issue of addressing our responsibility in any given situation. In my view this has to be more vital than learning to read and write. Lets put ‘in here’ at the top of the curriculum and then allow our temporal skills to unfold once we know who we are, once we can identity what is not love and what does not belong inside us and work to build an ‘in here’ we can be lovingly proud of. Then we can truly begin to build an ‘out there’ that makes for superb viewing.

     1. I agree Rowena, what a great line….“The ‘out there’, if you will, is like a giant plasma TV screen of the ‘in here’.” Everything we encounter is just a refection of what we are holding onto, protecting or bringing understanding and love, either way, the ‘out there’ reflects that.

     2. Count me in Rowena. “Then we can truly begin to build an ‘out there’ that makes for superb viewing.” I love it.

     3. Beautifully said rowenakstewart. Having the truth of who we are re-confirmed at an early age by true role models would change everything world wide – there wold certainly be a very different, harmonious news channel delivered on household TV screens!
        ” Lets put ‘in here’ at the top of the curriculum and then allow our temporal skills to unfold once we know who we are, once we can identity what is not love and what does not belong inside us and work to build an ‘in here’ we can be lovingly proud of. Then we can truly begin to build an ‘out there’ that makes for superb viewing.

     4. I love the idea of the ‘in here’ being at the top of the curriculum. Not just in schools. But work-places, families, governments…The world would very quickly start to look and feel very different.

        1. Universal Medicine and the Way of the Livingness are exactly that, the personal choice to everyday make the true ‘in-here’ the top curriculum for living.

     5. ‘Lets put ‘in here’ at the top of the curriculum and then allow our temporal skills to unfold once we know who we are, once we can identity what is not love and what does not belong inside us’. Absolutely Rowena this is the way forward for education.

407. Wow Alexis, what a gorgeous article, this makes complete sense, ‘the divine function of the ‘out there’ is to reflect back to us the what-is-not-love on the ‘in here’, this makes reflection really easy for me to understand, thank you.

     1. I so agree Rebecca – a real ‘aha’ moment!

408. Love, Love, Love. I loved reading this blog.

     The ‘in here’s’ are the simple reflection of the ‘out there’s’.
     Great message.

     1. I felt super enthusiastic about this blog too Luke, these simple messages holds the key to everything.

     2. Me too Luke – This blogs offers it all and there is no room for comfort or irresponsibility as it calls everyone to account, equally so. We all have an ‘in here’ because there wouldn’t be an ‘out there’ if there wasn’t. So what’s ‘in here’ and is the same in every single person? Yes… divinely so. It seems crazy that we make excuses to not feel or live from this place and focus most of our time and energy ‘out there’!

        1. Agree with you here, I do Rachael Evans. 🙂

409. Great, great blog Alexis. Love it! Surely everyone in the world would get this if they read what you’ve presented so very clearly! That’s my first thought, but I know only too well how deeply rooted the attachment to the illusion of the ‘out there’ is. I for one, have critisised others ‘out there’ for not ‘getting’ it when I haven’t really ‘got it’ myself! All the time not truly wanting to admit to my part in it and the responsibility I have in changing it. As I’ve become more accepting of this I’ve begun to see responsibility in a new light and love the fact that ‘out there’ is the perfect reflection in whatever form to remind me how I am living and the responsibility I have.

410. Very beautiful Alexis. I totally relate to what you share. I find it ironic that what we do to fix the ‘out-there’ is to go and change the ‘out-there’ and we can spend our whole lives running around doing this. Almost as though we are trying to mend holes of a sinking boat. The bottom line is that the ‘in-here’ is the part causing the ‘out-there’ and only is the ‘in-here’ ignored because of our lack of true responsibility

     1. You paint a very vivid picture with your analogy of trying to mend holes of a sinking boat Joshua. We need to focus on building a solid and strong ‘Love Boat’ and then we can travel safely everywhere.

        1. Ha! Love this Tamara “Build a strong and solid ‘Love Boat'” within and we can travel throughout the ‘out there’ without needing to fix anything or anyone, simply reflect from our gorgeous ‘in here’ to the ‘out there’!

     2. The ‘in-there’ is causing the ‘out-there’. Perfect expressed – thus the insanity of trying to fix the ‘out-there’.

411. “being part of the majority seems by its very nature to imply that the majority are always right” and when we go along with it to fit in we add to the ‘out there’ bubble. When we feel the truth of Divinity ‘in here’ and express it we offer others the choice to feel that there is another way, which, as it expands, can be felt and shared by the majority

     1. Beautifully said Mary. It’s wonderful for me to start by acknowledging how I still buy into the majority rule in having a drive to want to persuade people when there is no need. Expressing the divine truth in how I live is enough. Being me is enough. Yes, definitely work in progress, but no call for any force whatsoever.

412. ‘we have simply increased the intensity of our efforts in the ‘out there’’… this is a very familiar way for me, to ‘fix’ the problem and generate ever greater levels of activity outside of me in an effort to fill me up. It creates the odd moment of completion which quickly falls away to be replaced by even greater efforts on some other madcap scheme. Its exhausting, we are all doing it, and brings absolutely no awareness to how we are feeling, or what is really going on… the deep emptiness that so many live their lives in.

     1. Well said Simon, that is exactly like it is out there, a ridiculous merry go round of our own creation…. and when the in here is waiting for us all along!

     2. Simon I really love that you mention the ‘odd moment of completion’ as fleeting moments ‘replaced by even greater efforts on some other madcap scheme.’ I’ve found it worth pondering how I chase these moments of completion for their temporary calm, comfort – got to finish this and then I’ll feel in control, or on top of things. But these moments are imitation of the true harmony I feel when I am with myself. I may complete the same tasks but one way I’ll be exhausted and racy, the other will have the integrity of true harmony.

413. ‘As soon as a significant number of people start to change their ‘in heres’ then the feeling in the world will also by reflection be significantly changed.’ I agree with this from the standpoint that my own experience is when I change my way, from looking at how I am behaving, everything else changes around me.

414. Thanks Alexis. Cool post.

     1. Yes, Nicole, in the distant past, decades ago my life took a much better turn when I considered that ‘everything that happened to me was a result of my own actions’ – clearly that was not entirely accurate but it meant I took responsibility for my life and it also meant that if I wanted change, all I had to do was to change my actions. Recently I learned there was more to it than that but it was a great start.

415. ‘…..the fact that there is a group of people all feeling the same way seems to confirm to them that the problem is with the other person, because being part of the majority seems by its very nature to imply that the majority are always right.’ I really love this observation that you have made as this really does happen and can leave one feeling very unsettled as most often, there is no truth in ‘the majority rule’.

416. You shown us the insights of the world of creation we live in Alexis, like we are ‘in here’ we experience ‘out there’ and until we acknowledge that in what is ‘out there’ is a reflection of what is ‘in us’ and that we play our part in this, we will be trapped in this illusion we collectively are holding on to.

417. A great blog with so much to ponder on bringing one ‘in here’ and not ‘out there’ by reflection and inspiration. Thank you Alexis for a brilliant sharing and read.

418. When we seek anything ‘out there’ we give away our power and continue to do so as we reach further and further away… We only have to look at the state of the World we live in… not to mention the state of our bodies and health to see this. This is not evolution. We only truly evolve when we realise that we are all the makers of our own disharmony.

     1. Absolutely Kathryn, getting caught up in the illusion of life whereby we become the puppet of the forces we meet, responding to the need for recognition, approval and power does not evolve. To choose to connect to what is true within us and to live this in the world, reflects another way for others, one which expands truth and love and allows Humanity to evolve.

     2. “We only truly evolve when we realise that we are all the makers of our own disharmony.” So true Kathryn, I can remember the moment when it really twigged with me, that the one commonality through my life and all its seemingly inherent problems was ME! Therefore it meant that a. I must be creating them and b. I can do something about it. The beautiful thing was that a few years later I met Universal Medicine and learnt how to truly connect with my ‘in here’ and begin to make those deeply healing shifts that has brought about much change, so much so that these days my ‘out there’ reflects a very different inner environment. What a truly revelatory gift this blog is, Alexis has given us a much needed opportunity to understand and appreciate that without addressing our inner world, our outer world has no other option than to reflect the dire lack of harmony we perpetually create.

        1. I have experienced this too Rowena – my ‘out there’ reflects a very different picture from how it appeared before attending Universal Medicine presentations.
           “The beautiful thing was that a few years later I met Universal Medicine and learnt how to truly connect with my ‘in here’ and begin to make those deeply healing shifts that has brought about much change, so much so that these days my ‘out there’ reflects a very different inner environment”.

     3. ‘We only truly evolve when we realise that we are all the makers of our own disharmony.’ So true Kathryn and such an empowering realisation that we all have the power to change our ‘out there’ by focussing on our ‘in here’ and taking responsibility for how we are living rather than joining in with the prevailing blame game.

419. The blame game is very rife in many workplaces with a search to pinpoint something on one particular person. It is like a search for the ‘bad’ guy in a movie and once found they are subject to pain and suffering or in this case humiliation and embarrassment.

     1. I have noticed this seems to be a popular choice of operations in workplaces, everyone loves someone to blame and having a scape goat of course. I have even been guilty of going into this group mentality at times. I think if we hold any kind of ‘issue’ with someone at work we should speak to them about it directly and not behind their back, otherwise you feed and encourage mistrust and bad blood between co-workers.

     2. Yes Matthew – it’s a sick game of bullying that separates us from them. I have witnessed, been subject to and the integrator of the blame game if someone has made a mistake at work – all the attention goes on that person to humiliate yet no one is asking the question of how this mistake happened… Is there distractions in the office, a lack of group work or presence in the team or are we all working to fast to please another? In every situation there is a chance to evolve together in responsibility but the blame game can be too comfortable at times to see the light amongst the shadows.

     3. As long as there is another who is doing worse than us, then we are OK. Hence the pursuit of the ‘bad guy’. It perfectly enables us to avoid our own responsibility.

        1. Otto I think you are spot on when you say that as long as ‘there is another who is doing worse than us, then we are OK. Hence the pursuit of the ‘bad guy’. It perfectly enables us to avoid our own responsibility’. Something very ugly that I have known myself to do countless times in the past is to allow others to critisize friends or work colleagues as it enables me to hang back in the shadows and settle into a comfortable spot for a while, a kind of a ‘the heats off me for a moment’ feeling.

        2. Totally, totally Alexis. You can see this all over the internet too. Bystanders skulking in the shadows – relieved that the abuse that is being hurled is targeted to someone else. But, by doing nothing, we are in fact saying yes to this abuse, and the target of the abuse sees and feels the hundreds/thousands of bystanders doing nothing. A few people in an office or a huge swathe of people on the internet – it’s the same. Abuse begets abuse and if we don’t say no, we are in fact saying yes.

        3. So true Otto – standing by, pointing at the ‘bad guy’ and doing nothing about abuse is totally irresponsible. The results are seen in the state of the world today.

        4. Yes Stephanie. But I caught myself doing it yesterday. I was talking about a relative and was doing exactly what we are both talking about in this thread. I could feel the relief that I was getting from the focus of attention being on them and their issues. Horrible. I spotted it and stopped the conversation. But even this brief moment is the first breath of separation or ‘out there’ rather than ‘in here’.

     4. I have witnessed this in work places Matthew, ‘the blame game is very rife in many workplaces with a search to pinpoint something on one particular person’, I have noticed that this can happen to take any blame off the people who are doing the accusing, so the focus is taken away from them and put onto the person who is blamed.

420. The ‘out there’ gets very messy at times. It feels like a wrestling match that never ends, only draining all who choose to participate in the wrestling match until one, both or all participants flop to the floor in exhaustion and even then the kicking and crying still continues without any true resolution.

421. This is a beautiful blog Alexis. ‘Our future is the same as our past, to return to a time when the ‘in here’ and the ‘out there’ is nothing but love because In truth love is all there is.’ True Harmony 🙂

422. Wow, Alexis. What a brilliant offering. Responsibility is about playing our part. And our part is a part of a bigger part that includes everyone and everything. When we find a fault with a bigger part we so often conveniently forget that that means and includes us and that is where a true change can start to happen.

423. I love your point Alexis about how we tend to go to people we know who will validate what it is that we are feeling “in here”. When we continue to play these games we are encourage involution as opposed to evolution, a trick of our spirit to keep us small.

424. How supportive to read this today Alexis as it has enabled me the opportunity to take more responsibility for my part in a recent incident instead of going into the pattern of wanting to blame or react. Definitely inspiration for me to re connect to the truth and love of the ‘in here’ and what I chose that allowed something that is not love to enter the ‘in here’ which caused me to want to blame the ‘out there’. Thank you.

     1. Wow that’s pretty cool Angela, I love how something as simple as reading a blog can have a direct and tangible affect on our lives. It’s so important to keep sharing in this way.

     2. Angela – brilliant that you saw this. Even more brilliant that you acted upon it and followed it through. I appreciate that commitment.

425. If we take a look around at how we are living from how we set up our home, the state of our car, the state of our desk, down to every room in our house. Everything in our external world is a direct reflection of how we are in our inner world, so what I have found is that if my outer world is chaotic, it is highly likely so is my inner world. As I have addressed my inner world and taken responsibility for how I feel, my outer world has become clear and very simple.

     1. Yes, the same thing has happened to me Donna. The clearer I feel inside, the clearer the day is set out ahead of me. There are less complications and confusions, just a beautiful flow of movement. But on days when my ‘in here’ in not feeling so good, there are more things that I encounter during the day that reflect this. But as this blog says, these are just amazing opportunities to heal another hurt and move on to the next.

426. Everything we see ‘out there’ is a direct reflection of what is going on in our internal world. As we heal our hurts and take full responsibility for our issues we realise that we can no longer blame the external world for how we feel yet use everything that is ‘out there’ as a pivotal reflection for our healing. Awesome blog Alexis, thank you.

427. Great blog, journeying me through the interrelationship between our inner and outer world and how they are inextricably, purposely linked to each other through the gift of reflection. Loved this truism: ‘Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect.’ That’s why reflective truth can often hurt. It pulls no punches and takes no prisoners. But it always brings us a lesson if we choose to look for it.

428. Thank you Alexis I enjoyed reading this and feeling the comical twist your brought in the beginning to the rather serious matter of how people conspire with each other to not look within and see the outer as a reflection. Some great points raised and it confirms for me how the only way to live in celebration of life and with true freedom is knowing who I am within and what I have to offer the world regardless of how it is received.

429. The true reflection of life is what we live everyday. There is no filter on the reflection it is as clear as day and shares its truth because it is its responsibility as a mirror . We then have the choice to use these reflections to learn about our ‘in here,’ and the ‘out there,’ in every moment. The two can work together to bring true learning and evolvement if we so choose.

430. Love it … ‘But without the ‘in here’ the ‘out there’ does not exist’. Simple, true and bringing it back to responsibility.

431. “If you want to know how you’re doing on the ‘in here’, then take a look at your ‘out there’, it’s up on the big screen for all to see” – how important is this, yet few of us truly live so open-view, though i do agree more and more people are doing this. What we reflect from the inside ‘in there’, is naturally what people get to see on the outside, ‘out there’. 2 worlds that are in fact one yet so often lived compartmentalised as two, like work and home life. Living spherically as one, being our divine origins.

432. Super post Alexis…..”… a whole group of people criticise a fellow worker: the fact that there is a group of people all feeling the same way seems to confirm to them that the problem is with the other person, because being part of the majority seems by its very nature to imply that the majority are always right” – I’ve seen and also experienced this before myself, and this herd-like behaviour is very common in workplaces today. Nothing just happens and when it does, whether in the majority or minority, always is there the need to look within and not rely on commonality, or popularity wherein often can lie the greatest illusion. Truth over popularity or numbers comes to mind.

433. When we let the world in more and more, what the world reflects back to us allows us to go deeper within, and what a celebration this is. We may see more loveless acts reflected back, and that is because we have allowed more to be revealed and are willing to heal more. There is always more responsibility to take, but every step of the way is an enormous appreciation to ourselves for willing to go there.

434. This blog is profoundly revealing. It will never change ‘out there’ unless we are willing take full responsibility for our ‘in here’, for we are all equal parts of the all.

435. It is deeply humbling to know that our collective ‘in heres’ is what is creating the ‘out there’ mess that currently abounds. Indeed there are many of us that choose to work from our innermost, and work on any issues that may arise that stop us expressing from this place of absolute love. The only way for this world to change, is for us each to have awareness of the part we play, with the quality in every word, moment and action we are a part of. Once we reach this awareness, we have the choice then to take ultimate responsibility – and change this world we live in, or not.

     1. Absolutely Amelia, I agree, it is in every aspect of our life there is a responsibility to reconnect to our inner-most and change the “world we live in”!

     2. Very true Amelia, the choice is there for us to make or not. I know that taking responsibility for everything in my life is very empowering whilst blaming the ‘out there’ for the messy parts of my life is super disempowering. I know which choice feels better in my body: I choose responsibility and acceptance of my grandness.

436. Focussing on the ‘out there’ keeps us fuel to – seemingly – not having to deal with all those moments (coming to us by reflections) that we do not want to feel. It’s like a constant motion where we do not choose to take anymore responsibility. And often when we choose it, we’re chosing it from a drive. So whenever ‘it’ doesn’t work in the ‘out there’, we stil can blame and fall back into our old patterns and behaviours – without even considering that all along we haven’t chosen the ‘in here’. Beautifully delivered Alexis.

437. For a lot of people including myself, many times we focus on the problems out there as a distraction rather than looking deeper within ourselves to come to peace, understanding or acceptance to what is happening in our lives. Not to say it’s not right to clock or call out corruption or untruths, but creating joint drama or calamity can be a good way to distract ourselves from our part in the puzzle.

438. Amazing Alexis. The out there is only a distraction to keep us from connecting to the in here. I know that my world is completely different when I am connected to the in here rather than caught up in the out there. I have also experienced that the only true way to change the out there is through the in here. This requires taking responsibility for our own “stuff” and not blaming the out there.

     1. Totally Lee, admitting and then enjoying changing the inside through choices leads to an outer reflected joy…even if it takes a bit of time, and the process quite tumultuous enough to have us avoid, deflect, or bury dealing with those hurts. Owning our stuff is essential, and worth everything in the end. It leaves a clear open view from which others can be inspired too.

439. Excellent blog Alexis. So true that things that are happening ‘out there’ and a reflection of what is going on “in here” so this means we have a knowing on all that is reflecting out there by asking ‘in here’, I’m totally blown away by this.

440. Awesome blog that stops you in your tracks to consider the true responsibility we each have in creating the life we live. As you so straightforwardly express our “out there” is merely a reflection of the way we are inside and when we come back to that truth, we are able to see how accountable we all are for the way the world is. It takes away all reason to blame others, and brings it back to the quality in which we are choosing to live, with love or without.

     1. Indeed Jade, all that life all the time does is reflecting back to us how we are with ourselves and that in no way we can blame others for what is happening ‘out there’ but instead each of us has his or het own responsibility in that and that is to choose for love, to live the love that resides in us all equally. and until we do so, we will collectively experience life as being loveless and hostile, the exact reflection of how we are with ourselves.

441. It’s true, finger pointing and blaming everything ‘out there’ for all our problems is a great way of shirking taking responsibility for ourself.

     1. Yes Fiona, all that is asked of us it to take our own responsibility in life, and the ‘out there’ will continue to reflect to us this fact until we understand and accept our part in the play. Only when we start to live the love we originally come from and of which we always carry a spark from in our inner most, the ‘out there’ will reflect the same love that is in us, and in that is confirming who we are and where we come from and are all equally part of.

442. “If you want to know how you’re doing on the ‘in here’, then take a look at your ‘out there’” When we fight life and see ourselves as a victim, we miss totally the divine reflection – that everything is perfectly placed to show us the truth of our choices in life. Thank you Alexis for this impactful blog.

     1. Spot on Joseph, everything that we are living is reflected back to us if we are open to seeing it. Of course most of the time we shirk our part in it, and try to fix or ‘make better’ the thing we see outside rather than looking at ourselves first.

443. Alexis, this is a great call to build our love “in here” and so take responsibility for spreading that love around for others to feel in their own “in heres”. In order for there to be a change and the possibility of harmony, everyone’s “in heres” have to change perspective through feeling that love that is always available.

444. This is grand, and shows us our incredible responsibility for all that is ‘in here’ we get reflected ‘out there’. Truly beautiful piece Alexis.

     1. Indeed Benkt, we have a massive responsibility to show the world what is ‘in here’ rather than simply criticising and finding fault with what is ‘out here’.

445. Amazing blog and I can totally relate. The more loving I have become ‘in here’ with myself and in my expression and relationships with others, the more this is coming back with people being truly loving and supportive with me. We really do create our own reality and if you know this you also know how to make your reality a loving one.

446. This article has knocked my socks off Alexis. Blame can be applied so subtly but it is clear that any focus whatsoever on the ‘out there’ being the problem is a denial of our own responsibility. This truth makes life very simple as it shows we are capable of lovingly resolving absolutely every issue we face.

     1. Thank you Cathy and Leonne, I agree, we absolutely have no issues when we take loving responsibility for all that is presented to us that were once considered an “issue we face!

447. The more we see clearly the ‘out there’ as a gift, as a reflection and as a message to us, then the more we are able to then adjust the in here. I have been practising, as I am definitely still learning that when something another does hurts me, bothers me or doesn’t fit the pictures that I have as right, I can at that moment feel what my part in the picture is. When I remember that its a reflection, I often smile thinking great, now I can learn from this, even if at the moment its a lot to own and my pride wants to get in the way.

     1. I so relate to every word you have written here Rosie, nowadays I am smiling too and allowing the support I need to deal with whatever is presenting itself before me.

448. This is a truly wonderful blog, much to ponder on over many readings. There is so much truth and wisdom here Alexis. Yes, humanity is constantly focussed on being able to blame someone else for all that is going on in the world, but we have to really look at ourselves deeply, and learn just how much we are responsible for here, and own up to it. There will be ‘many happy returns’ to this blog for me.

449. A great blog Alexis…calling us all to a greater responsibility for ourselves and our choices. The reality is we can’t blame anyone else for our lives because whatever is happening ‘out there’ is purely a reflection of what is happening ‘in here.’ The blaming others and always focusing on the ‘out there’ is just a distraction, an avoidance at looking at our own life and the consequences of our choices.

450. Alexis! I love this blog, the out there and the in here. Absolutely love how you have explained it. I have had to stop lately and check in here and take responsibility rather than blame (and it hasn’t been easy) as for me it has been like changing a big pattern of behaviour as I have preferred to blame someone else rather than look at my part and take responsibility for most of my life.

     1. Hear, hear! Rosie jumping on the bandwagon of the blame game in life, which is seen by so many in society as normal, this still raises its ugly head in my life also. Sense the presentation by Serge Benhayon I now find it easy to nip blaming in the bud before the blame of someone else takes control of my life. Normal life in a society that is hell bent on keeping up with the Jones was part of the blame game that I used to be part of before Universal Medicine, and now my life could not be more Rosie! Pun Intended.

451. Great blog Alexis. It all comes back to our self-responsibility doesn’t it and you’ve nailed it when you’ve said that “The ‘out there’ is a magnification of the ‘in here’.” – nobody to blame, not even ourselves, just an opportunity to take a good look at ourselves, our choices and what we are putting ‘out there’ and where this is in fact coming from.

452. “Few would dare to say “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?”.” – how true this is, and when presented, it actually offers the person an opportunity for greater awareness if they choose that, or they can dig their heels in and continue to blame another person or situation. There is always a choice.

453. Awesome Alexis, ultimately it is all about responsibility. Once we choose responsibility, blaming ourselves and or others simply doesn’t stick. We are a master of our own choices, our life is a result of all our choices. There is no one to blame but a huge learning consistently to assist us to forever evolve.

454. Hello Alexis and what a cracker blog, whether you be ‘out there’ or ‘in here’ it all relates. The responsibility we hold with what is going on around us and also right in front of our eyes is beautifully revealed here to us, in short I love it. What you have detailedly revealed here stops everything dead in it’s tracks. We can go on like we are or we can turn back ‘in here’ for everything. As we do that you can watch the ‘same’ world transform in front of your eyes, we change and the world changes with you. As again you so beautifully said Alexis, “Reflection has no investment whatsoever in what it is reflecting; its job is simply to reflect.” So what are we being reflected, personally and collectively: great blog.

455. Another corker ‘… there is an unwritten code of conduct that we will side with the person who is confiding in us…’. I’m so much more aware of this now, and the work environment is rife with this kind of behaviour. I still fall into this trap, more so when I feel I have been affected by the same situation. However, more and more I will do my best to stand firm, listen, offer understanding and not lean in to join the other person in sympathy as it does not empower them in any way.

456. ‘…because being part of the majority seems by its very nature to imply that the majority are always right’ This is one of society’s biggest lies yet. Whilst the majority can be true at times, it should certainly not be treated as a rule.

457. Alexis, this is so clear and makes so much sense. It was hard to accept that what I could see and feel that what was going on in life was a reflection of what was within because then I would have to take responsibility and it is easier to stand with the majority because it is easier to hide. Deep down or ‘in here’ we can always feel the truth – all we need to do is claim it. Love the sharing – thanks Alexis.

     1. “it is easier to stand with the majority because it is easier to hide” – so true and so very revealing ch1956. I had a real ouch moment when I read these words as they resonated so loudly as to how I used to live. Once we assume responsibility for ourselves and our way of living, hiding “out there” is no longer an option.

458. The need to blame other people comes from wanting to relieve the tension of actually knowing that we have created our own mess but we do not want to face that fact so look outside of ourselves and blame others. You explain it so well Alexis with the example of the “out there” and “in here”. It is a very big moment in a person’s life when they stop and feel what they have created in their life. If in that moment they stop blaming others then true healing can begin. The teachings of Universal Medicine brought me to that stop moment and I have never looked back. No more blaming others, or myself just understanding the choices that I am making and that I can always make a different choice.

     1. Very true Elizabeth, the need for blame only exists when there is a lack of responsibility. The less responsibility we live with, the more we need to invest in blame, in the “out there” as Alexis puts it. The teachings of Universal Medicine have brought me to a much deeper understanding of responsibility. I still go into a little blaming at times but it is so very obvious now that I can catch it quick smart, work on understanding the situation and then take responsibility for how my choices have played out. And then I have the opportunity to make different choices – Simple! No blame, no being hard on myself required!

     2. Love this Elizabeth, we can in any moment make that different choice and that is the most beautiful and empowering understanding we can come to, as it places us back in the position of true responsibility for the way we are living.

     3. The power we have is so simple… we can always make different choices, at any time, at any age. We are fully empowered and just have to live it.

        1. Well said. Responsibility is a choice.

459. Wow, Alexis, a great blog. By asking the question ‘What part do I play in this?’ allows us to feel and reveal what’s ‘ in here’ that is obscuring the connection to the love we are. Looking at the reflection ‘out there’ and accepting absolute responsibility builds a steady and committed relationship with ourselves to peel back the layers on our return to a truer way of being. Thanks for revealing the purpose of reflection so clearly.

     1. … and imagine how different all relationships would be when asking this question. ‘What part do I play in this?’
        When we look ‘In here’ first, before ‘out there’ our relationships will be shaped by responsibility, rather than the irresponsibility that breaks down our relationship with ourselves and others.

        1. Yes Kylie, well said – the responsibility feels real and true whereas as everything else feels like a game being played.

     2. Hello Megan and I agree. This approach or choice is something for every situation we are faced with. If we find ourselves blaming, complaining or a victim to something, this is a point to stop and just look at our part. I’m not saying we take all the responsibility but at least look at our part in what we are faced with. One thing’s for sure, the complaining, blaming route has always lead back to the complaining and blaming. It would seem you never move from the one spot, the landscape just changes. From experience when we go “in here” everything changes and if we have spent much time looking ‘out there’ then it may take some consistent dedication to begin to turn back in.

     3. Beautifully said Megan, absolute responsibility it is. By choosing this is actually deeply empowering. It may not seem so at first but once we are willing to take responsibility, clarity, truth and empowerment can be felt to start healing what we were avoiding and our past loveless choices.

460. Love it Alexis! Especially the part where you expose how much finger pointing there is (for example when we finger point at the government, or finger point at the education system, or finger point at climate change) – we like to perceive all the ‘bad’ things that happen around us yet see it as something completely separate to who we are and act as if it has nothing to do with us. But in reality, we have everything to do with it, even with those things that might appear out of our control such as the weather! It is only when we stop to really let ourselves feel this, that we get to also feel the power of that which lies within us – that we actually are responsible and hence have the capacity to change so much in our world today. We are not victims unless we choose to play such a role, we are amazing peoples who can make amazing change in the world through the simple changes we make within ourselves first.

     1. Absolutely Henrietta, a powerful comment highlighting by choosing to play the blaming game is an unloving choice to not take responsibility for our life, our world and everything around us.

        1. And Chan, I must add that strangely, as I am learning time and time again, when we do step up to taking responsibility, then it is not actually that difficult, in fact more often than not, it is rather easy and we suddenly realise that we feel amazing for doing it and hence in that amazingness we have the energy and the purpose and the openness to take on board more responsibility. Now who could ever have imagined this?

     2. This is a great point you have made about us being responsible for the weather. I was pondering on this very fact a couple of days ago when watching something about global warming and how people are damaging the environment. It occurred to me that it is true we are responsible for the environment, but in order to find solutions to all these problems, we first need to heal our own ‘in here’ environments so that our actions can come from love as opposed to reaction. Another reflection of the responsibility we have in everything we do.

        1. Love it Eleanor – we so do need to heal first the internal environment that we hold within ourselves before we can have any real or true impact on the actual environment. Key word again is responsibility! Funny how this words seems to crop up everywhere – don’t think we can escape it!

461. “Our future is the same as our past, to return to a time when the ‘in here’ and the ‘out there’ is nothing but love because In truth love is all there is” Thank you Alexis, this blog has so much to ponder on, and explains our perceived need to be focusing so much of our attention on the ” out there ” at the expense of our presence and loving attention ” in here”

462. The ‘out there’ is a magnification of the ‘in here’.
     I love this phrase Alexis- it really says it all in terms of self responsibility and how and what we reflect to others. There is much to ponder on here – a great sharing.

     1. Yes, the is a powerful sentence, it brings it right back to each and every one of us. No more pointing fingers.

463. Listening to the radio recently there was a comment made by a police commissioner talking about the police’s ability to reduce crime. He said something along the lines of “there was only so much they can do”. I have this heard often, as well as the phrase “that they are treating the symptoms not the cause”, it had me question about what i was doing to reduce crime – not in a rugby tackle people down to the ground way, but am I having honest conversations, am I present and connecting with people, Am I taking full responsibility for all that I can do? It is not just an out there problem it does make a difference how we are with ourselves and other people – what difference will it make today if you are truly present with yourself and everyone you meet?

     1. Love this Nicole and this alone has the power to make a difference. This is a great example of things we leave to others and not look in our own backyard. As you are saying ‘crime is the responsibility of the Police and if it’s not going well it’s their fault and they should do something about it. We criticise them and wonder where they are, but as you are saying what have we done? Could it be this simple? I am with you and it is super simple but again there will be those that criticise or brush this away, while that’s ok it reveals for me they are not ready to turn back just yet. Those who have the awareness of what we equally know need to take the lead at this point. So I agree and I will look at my conversations and everything I do today to see what I am doing to ‘tackle crime’, very well said Nicole.

     2. Great points nicolesjardin, how honest are we truly being with ourselves? Are we truly connecting to others, taking full responsibility for our actions or are we choosing to play the “out there” card. I feel as you shared that the difference lies with each of us, actively choosing to be present in life, with ourselves and those around us and not choosing to fall back on old ways or patterns of being that deem us the victim of our circumstance or situation. True change begins within.

     3. Nicole so many people would assume that as long as they weren’t the ones committing the crime then they have no responsibility in reducing it, so I love the depth of your inquiry as to what you can do to affect the crime rate. We are all responsible for the crime in the world, therefore we all have a role to play in reducing it.

        1. Yes many, like myself in the past would rather not watch or hear the news… and pretend crime doesn’t exist so that I didn’t have to feel or be responsible for it. But even turning an blind eye is part of the problem, the pretending it doesn’t exist is part of the problem. Therefore, even though I am not committing the crime, I am still part of the problem.

        2. Recently I found myself a first responder at an car accident scene which involved a critically injured young child, initially there were two of us trained in first aid and we able to act and support in the first instance and then a doctor and nurse arrived and stepped in and finally the ambulance arrived, everyone had a role to play. It was a great metaphor for me showing that we all can do our bit to help if we had all stood around waiting for ambulance to arrive because it was their job the child would have died.

     4. Nicole, Raymond, this is so superb what you are offering here by taking it deeper. “not my problem”, “nothing to do with me”, “wouldn’t happen in this neighbourhood”, “my kids would never get involved in that kind of thing”, “I blame the parents”, “we need more police on the streets”….I could write on and on and on the list of examples of the way in which we arrogantly absolve ourselves of our responsibility. And you don’t have to live in South Central LA and be on the streets talking to crack addicts to be dealing with crime – as you have so beautifully expressed, every single interaction and relationship is an opportunity to deepen the connection with all of humanity…and since it is that lack of connection that is the true root cause of all crime, then that is pretty brilliant police work.

        1. Otto that’s it ! ‘ every single interaction and relationship is an opportunity to deepen the connection with all of humanity…and since it is that lack of connection that is the true root cause of all crime’

        2. I love what you have added Otto we don’t have to run off and away from our homes we have the opportunity to connect with every interaction. Being present and available and not holding back are simple ways we can be responsible.

        3. Nicole. Indeed they are simple – but immensely powerful. In fact you could say that ALL we have to do is be present, fully open and ourselves.

        4. Thank you Otto and so in that same way you could say true community starts at home, or possibly further true community starts with you. If you want something to change in and around you look what you can do, not ‘out there’, ‘in here’.

        5. Responsibility perfectly described. Straight between the eyes. Bullseye!

464. “being part of the majority seems by its very nature to imply that the majority are always right” – Nailed it…this is such a huge thing to become aware of… we have entire systems of democracy based on this approach… the pack must be right…but often it is not

     1. Whenever we look to ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ over truth, we always lose.

        1. Well said Kylie

     2. Very true, being part of the majority is often just a case of being a sheep and following as it feels comfortable and safe rather than standing out and being different.

        1. Unfortunately today the majority are choosing irresponsibility so we can’t rely on numbers to tell the truth only the “in here” can discern that for sure and hence why the ultimate responsibility comes from within.

     3. Yes Joel, we can easily fall into the trap of holding back expressing something because it may not fit with the majority…or looking to for confirmation from the majority first before we say what we feel – it is this doubting or holding back that gives power to the “out there” as Alexis so aptly puts it, and in doing so further erodes our connection to the “in here”.

     4. Yes and how we look to others to confirm ourselves – our ‘out there;.

     5. The pack must be right and the behaviour becomes normalised because so may agree or do it … take drinking alcohol as an example. To not drink is sometimes seen as unusual and that there is something wrong with a person if they don’t drink! And yet the human body sees alcohol as a toxic substance.

     6. Absolutely we crave a sense of belonging and do not want to deal with other people’s reactions when we choose to stay true. But as Alexis mentions all this really is. Is a reflection of ourselves perhaps not wanting to deal with why we are so invested in the ‘out there’.

        1. Yes, if we’re not honest with ourselves about that craving to belong and be part of something, if we’re not honest about how it can feel uncomfortable to be the odd one out, we tend to go blind. We’re blinded by this determination to do whatever it takes to belong, so we drink what we know our bodies can’t handle, we bludgeon our bodies with the wrong foods and the wrong behaviours. And we then blame what is out there for the turmoil we feel inside.

        2. Love this Abby takes away all sense of blame and brings it straight back to truth – whether we choose to connect or not is totally our choice and not the fault or blame of another, no matter how intense it is.

     7. Agree Joel, we live in this misinterpretation of equalness and assume that what the majority says is the way it has to be. If we would be aware that everything is energy and everything is because of energy we would be discerning with the quality we choose to live in and not take decisions due to majority, but due to quality/energy.

        1. Very true Rachael, quality instead of majority is the way to go. Just because there are more people doing anything doesn’t mean it is the right way.

     8. You nailed Joel, think about all the advantages of pack rule… we never have to take responsibility for any of our actions or choices! This becomes a space where comfort is king but love is hard to find anywhere.

        1. So True Steve, it’s where the whole bystander mentality comes from…I can’t do anything, because I am just me and there are so many of them.

     9. So true Joel. There are many instances in society where we go with majority but this is not always true. Look at where we are at as a society at present with current rates of illness and disease – have we got here through following the majority? Are the majority right? Sometimes it takes a minority to offer a different reflection and present a new way forward.

        1. Yes, sometimes we have to be the one who stands out, and steps aside for others to remember that they have a choice and that they don’t have to just follow the majority.

     10. Yes, yes, yes Joel. History is littered with zillions of examples of ‘the pack’ being catastrophically wrong.

         1. She’s a witch, she’s a witch….I hear you cry with pitchforks at the ready 🙂

     11. This would be just the ‘norm’ Joel and you are ‘right’, on that is. We move the norm around to suit, well just about anything. We give big measure to the ‘majority’ or the ‘norm’ without first having a look at where both these are headed. Just because something is followed by a majority or comes under the heading of the norm doesn’t mean it should be treated any different to anything else. Feel it for yourself and if you don’t feel it’s ‘right’, at least stop and question why.

         1. We do move the norm around …. Romans visiting the gladiatorial battles for entertainment = norm, women not being given a vote = norm, slavery = norm, yet we could feel any of these at any time and see they are far from normal.

         2. Strange Joel how we can see these things after a while when they pass but at the time we accept them? We can look back now and say ‘slavery’ well that wasn’t ok and we have moved on from that, or have we? Can we really move on from something we haven’t truly seen or dealt with or does it remain there and just change how it looks. I would see from the way we treat the ‘norm’ many things we think we have moved on from are actually still occurring, as I said they have just changed how they look.

         3. I agree Raymond, we just change the name…slavery…human trafficking… gladiators….sports… As you say, have we truly moved on?

         4. Hello Joel and it’s pretty amazing to expose this. I know we may not want to see it as this but it’s making more sense everyday. We are going around and around in circles, changing the colour for the day, year or century only to reveal it’s all from the same pot. Maybe from this point and as we look at the this deeper we can truly move on.

         5. Deeper into the energy yes, deeper into the psychology no – historians have done this for eons and not delivered any true insight to humanity!

465. It’s true that when we keep looking ‘out there’ the cause for what is ‘out there’ never gets addressed until we look at where it came from – ‘in here’. From us and our choices.

     1. The simple truth – we cannot be living responsibly if we walk away from a mess we have made, be it out there or in here.

        1. Henrietta the trouble is, it’s not possible to ever walk away from the mess that we’ve made, we just drag it around with us.

        2. Ha ha Alex, this is so true…and what a weight to drag around! No wonder we feel so heavy when we don’t take responsibility!

        3. And if we walk away the lack of responsibility always comes back to bite us on the bum. As Alexis said, we can’t walk away from it, we can only drag it around with us and pretend like it’s not there (or blame others for it!).

        4. Nikki, I love your contribution to the thread:
           Nikki – things do come back and ‘bite us in the bum’ – we are far better off dealing with them then and there than sweeping things under the carpet only to be discovered much later as a mess well overdue to clean up.

        5. As Otto said “Responsibility is true freedom”. We are free because we are living without the burden of undealt with things.

        6. And how powerful is that! Dealing with things as they come up! Love it Nikki. It is not the perception that most in society have, usually it is seen as “avoid responsibility and you are more free”, but what you are presenting here is “deal with your responsbilies bit by bit (whilst allowing the space like Ray mentioned) and you will taste true freedom in the process!”. Freedom and Responsibly do go hand in hand.

        7. Henrietta, fascinating that you have linked responsibility with freedom when most would have said that there were mutually exclusive. Many would argue that responsibility acts like shackles and yet, in truth responsibility is the key to undoing the shackles.

        8. “Freedom in responsibility” does seem very contradictory depending on your perspective, but strangely it has been my experience that in those times where I have stepped up to be more responsible, the response in my body is more solid, more relaxed and with a knowing that this is just as it should be. It literally is a full body response, an embracing of the responsibility and a feeling of finally being ‘at home’, accompanied by much joy too.

        9. Henrietta I love the detail that you have shared from your body, The body is our authority.

        10. It is a complete farce that you are free when you don’t have responsibility. Avoiding responsibility is more like a chain around your neck that won’t lessen until you go there.

        11. Henrietta, Alexis, Nikki – this is so spot on. And I love your words Henrietta “no wonder we feel so heavy when we don’t take responsibility”. This is huge for me. And brilliant to consider. That, in fact, taking responsibility is in fact the path to true freedom. Such a game changer on what most of us erroneously consider responsibility to be.

        12. Otto, I love your contribution to the thread – you have said words of gold “taking responsibility is true freedom” – this may sound contradictory as we think of responsibility as tying us down, but only sounds that way till one steps up to feel the difference!

        13. Yes this is true, “it’s not possible to ever walk away from the mess that we’ve made, we just drag it around with us.” We can only put our head down as we increase the weight of what we carry or as Alexis says, “drag” with us. If we look at life in moments, so yes practically Monday looks like this or Sunday looks like that but if we look at life in moments or parts then that gives us space to see more. At any moment if something doesn’t seem right then don’t wish for Tuesday, deal with the moment in front of you. It can be as simple as acknowledging something isn’t ‘right’ and not trying to make it seems as though everything is fine. Responsibility isn’t just about telling someone what you did wrong, it comes more into how you are, you quality after you have felt something isn’t right. If you walk past this feeling then you carry the same quality with you, not responsible. Stop and feel what is going on, bring more awareness to it and walk your next step, responsible.

        14. Ray, I love your contribution to the thread – as always you have nailed it, it is about taking a stop or a moment the instant that we feel that something does not sit right. We give ourselves the space to feel and deal (with it). Otherwise the weight is there or it feels like we butt heads against a wall as we try to move forwards, or have left the brakes on whilst driving. As you have so beautifully and simply said – it is not about fixing things, but it is all about naming it and allowing our true quality to come through.

        15. Nikki, Otto and Ray, I love your contributions to the thread:
            Nikki – things do come back and ‘bite us in the bum’ – we are far better off dealing with them then and there than sweeping things under the carpet only to be discovered much later as a mess well overdue to clean up.
            Otto – you have said words of gold “taking responsibility is true freedom” – this may sound contradictory as we think of responsibility as tying us down, but only sounds that way till one steps up to feel the difference!
            Ray – as always you have nailed it, it is about taking a stop or a moment the instant that we feel that something does not sit right. We give ourselves the space to feel and deal (with it). Otherwise the weight is there or it feels like we butt heads agains a wall as we try to move forwards, or have left the brakes on whilst driving. As you have so beautifully and simply said – it is not about fixing things, but it is all about naming it and allowing our true quality to come through.

        16. What is shown to me in this mini-thread is the absolute simplicity of taking responsibility. Ray – you have broken it down to the basics. It’s brilliant and very, very useful to me. Thank you. After reading these words, there really are no more excuses, complications, belief system or preconceptions to hide behind. Walk my next step – responsibly.

     2. Totally spot on Leigh. inside is reflected outside…therefore inside came first.

     3. It’s interesting that when we don’t like what we see ‘out there’ we tend to look further and further ‘out there’ rather than coming immediately ‘in here’. As our choices determine what is ‘out there’ there is nowhere else to turn but ‘in here’. One day we will realise that responsibility is our only true way forward ‘in here’ and ‘out there’.

        1. Kylie, I wish this was written in every psychology book there is. To understand this in full is true freedom and power.

        2. I agree, Kylie, sad but true, responsibility is calling us through the mess which nedds and is getting more and more vast and horrendous, in order that we take action against it, instead of everybody taking responsibility now equally.

        3. Being curious I noticed a few ‘out there’ disturbances yesterday and this morning, ‘out there’ even being in my body – the quality within my body can reflect the quality of the choices even further within (which is generally very obvious, one is warm and radiates and the other is not, it’s cold and sucks me into a cold and harshness) When going ‘in here’ the ‘out there’ made more sense. It’s like reacting to having a garden full of weeds and not acknowledging that weeds come with stems, roots and seeds and an intention to plant them there in the first place.

        4. Yes, very true Kylie, we like to create a web of stories where one story confirms the other but no one story brings us any closer to ourself, the truth.

     4. It’s about taking responsibility for all our choices which has the ability to completely cut out blaming this or that, therefore no more excuses, just an absolute yes to evolving.

     5. So true Leigh, anything that addresses a solution to what is out there will only ever be a temporary fix and the situation will raise its head in another guise. Real change requires addressing the in here.

466. What an amazing blog. Absolutely true.

467. Dear Alexis Stewart – you really have made some valid points here for the world to sit with and ponder on. You have nailed it. Let’s stop blaming and look at our part in whatever it is that is going on ‘out there’ in our world that we have created.
     You are so right – it does come down to taking absolute Responsibility and it is this word that holds true power if we Live with Responsibility. I owe my life to Universal Medicine for showing me how to take true Responsibility and it has taken some time to accept that I am the movie maker of my own life and I stick all the characters where I want and it is up to me to make new choices and change the picture out there if I don’t like it.
     I so get it and now I get on with it. No more whinging, whining, gossiping and colluding with others to bad mouth another. What an utter waste of time I say.

     1. Ah come on Bina do we have to get on with it, I saw my neighbour and they weren’t doing it, it’s Friday and the weekend is so close can we start maybe Monday, I have toO much on to start and plus no one else is doing it, kidding of course. I just wanted to see if you were reading my comment. I am with you Bina, time to walk and let the talking be. Life is a reflection, don’t like the reflection then the only point that will change things is you, now that’s responsibility.

        1. Love it Ray!! We can, and I have, come up with so many excuses to not take responsibility and not get on with it. The only way to change the out there is by working on the in here.

        2. Thank you Lee and to me this is a constant choice and while there is only one true responsibility if we turn away at that moment then we can find many ways not to choose it and justify every one of them.

        3. Brilliant Ray. The best comedy is the comedy that delivers an ouch – or should I say, reflection. I have so played that game. Time to walk. Beside you Ray. Beside you Bina.

        4. Thank you and should we hold hands? Maybe not, unless you want to? Ah kidding or am I, anyway agreed Otto and lets get out there, all of us and walk this into the ground.

        5. Hold hands? I’m gonna have both my arms wrapped around you and you can expect flowers on your doorstep.

     2. Bina, she did nail it. And I had some strange reactions reading it. I knew what she was writing was the truth – we are 100% responsible of our own lives and our ‘out theres’ reflect our ‘in here’s…but part of me was a bit squirmish and checked out and it reflected that part of me does not want to take 100% responsibility for my own life. There is a perceived ‘safety’ in checking out life out there and not looking at my part. Well comfort is a better word. Some for me to ponder on indeed.

     3. Dear Bina Pattel, you make me smile.

     4. Agree Bina, an absolute waste of time to blame and point the finger. A daily dose of absolute Responsibility is very good medicine!

     5. Indeed Bina, we are our own movie makers when it comes to our lives and when we realise and accept this we will understand how much power we have and that no situation is ever that of a victim but that of our own doing. Thus it lays in our hands to make the changes that we would like to see the world to be.

     6. Hi Bina 🙂 No more whinging and whining – time to get on with it indeed!

     7. Absolutely Bina Pattel. So I’m not liking my day? What is there being shown to me to consider, to heal? I’m not enjoying having lovelessness reflected back to me? Great, where’s the lovelessness on the inside and the love I can build?

        1. Hello Karin and I agree. If those questions are the first point are too much then all you need do is stop. If you are not “liking” your day just the mere stop to bring more awareness to ‘why’ is a huge step. It’s like giving yourself time to feel what is going on that lead to this type of day. You may not get the answers to these questions the way you normally get answers. It may take some time and it may come in different ways, the important thing is you stop and feel what is going on. So often we walk past the “So I’m not liking my day” and wait for it to be ‘better’ or quickly go off and do something else and so as not to take any notice. At any point something doesn’t feel that great, we need to stop and consider why, at least.

        2. Agree entirely Ray. Reading what you write, it seems too. simple, such a tiny and easy thing to do. But, oh so often, I just steam roll on. Why? Because I don’t want to feel in full the choices that I have made and because I’m not taking full responsibility for the fact that my every move effects everything and everyone. The choice to stop is such a simple one, yet it is so powerful, because you are saying no to whatever you are running with and saying yes to seeing more. This is the responsibility of each of us and when it is explained so minimally and concisely as it is here by Ray, there really is no excuse.

468. “Have you considered what part you play in all of this?” Alexis this is a dangerous question and indeed one that few dare to ask because it asks people to be accountable and take responsibility for their actions or inactions. I love the clarity you have in speaking about the ‘out there’ in contrast to the ‘in here’. So true that most people are looking to blame something ‘out there’ rather than look ‘in here’ to see “who dun it”. I love how you liken reflection to the big screen and how it mirrors back to us what we are doing, just like my children’s behavior is an accurate barometer as to how I am feeling during the day.

     1. If we used the ‘out there’ as a mirror, rather than a distraction, our entire world would change instantly.

        1. I love that Kylie, very true.

        2. Agreed Kylie and we would be reflected much of what we have not wanted to see but need to see, until such time we don’t need to see.

        3. Beautifully, simply expressed. Change ourselves and our world changes.

        4. I like what you are saying Kylie. By using the out there as a field to play in we keep creating new scenarios but when we see it as a mere reflection of what is there already we can use it as a tool to make the changes that are needed.

     2. So true Sandra, it is a big question and one few dare ask as the responsibility is great. However, having dared to ask the question and take responsibility the change in the out there as a result is huge.

     3. Wow this is so true Sandra. The example you have given here in regards to our children being a reflection of us is an interesting one and something that I am noticing personally. Sure we can blame many things on why they are behaving the way they do but sure as anything if I’m ‘OUT’ then so are they 🙂 🙂 🙂

     4. It is a question that can seem dangerous but is one that contrary to what may be the reaction, is deeply loving.

        1. Well said Nikki.

469. The ‘out there’ is the world of shifting scenarios created by how we are ‘in here.’ At the same time, the ‘out there’ is always an opportunity to work in the ‘in here’ part so we can construct ‘out there’ scenarios that help us to keep deepening. The ‘out there’ ‘in here’ equation always work in our favour. Only that we choose how much tail or head wind blows our way.

     1. Here, here Eduardo!

     2. Well said Eduardo. Throws blaming ‘out there’ entirely out the window.

        1. There can’t be a blaming of the world when we know our responsibility and part played within it and as we connect more deeply to us and the innermost beauty and depth of who we are we cannot have anything but true compassion and grace for the world as we observe others continuously coming to their own levels of honesty and responsibility in their own time. Comparison, blame and imposition cease to exist in this philosophy as the love of God is not only all encompassing but never interferes in the process that we each and all need to make to return to and know the equal love that we are.

     3. Gorgeous Eduardo, a true philosophical way of looking at life.

     4. Well said Eduardo. It is also amazing and fascinating how we can give so much focus to stories and what is going on around us so we do not look at let alone address the way we ourselves are living.

     5. This is very powerful Eduardo and reminds me that they two; ‘in here’ and ‘out there’ are partners. Constantly reflecting to each other and constantly offering opportunities for evolution. Embrace both. Read both.

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