840 thoughts on “A Lesson in Surrender – Be like a Feather”

1. When we bathe ourselves in True-appreciation we are also being Intimate with others that registers an “exquisite open feeling” in-our-bodies”, as we can-not have Intimacy without Appreciation as they are like twins they come as a package, with being Intimate letting people in, and Appreciation being more than a physical thing, but a deeper understanding that there is a divine hand in all we do.

2. “I was bathed in the holding quality of love from my inner connection and so I remained like the feather – surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.” That’s the key isn’t it, being able to stay in connection to ourselves, not take things personally, and allow others the space to be where they are.

3. When we hold to what we know to be true and not get caught up with things all around us, like the feather not being influenced by anything, allows a flow that is not swayed off its course as we surrender to what will be.

4. Dinner discussion at the end of the day should be about resolving issues, learning and sharing the love we feel for each other – which was clearly apparent at your dinner table that evening Bianca. But the beauty is because of this experience and the way you handled it you have set a new marker for everyone at the table that night on how easy it can be to let go, deepen and move of from the old.

5. When we don’t take on other people’s stuff as personal they get the space to feel it. If we take it on it’s a relief for them until the next time it comes back. When I get to feel my ‘stuff’ (issues/resistances etc.) I get a greater opportunity to let it go rather than passing it on only for it to come back at me at some point. Having space doesn’t allow issues to circulate.

6. Holding people in space is a great gift you can give as by doing so we all can connect back to who we truly are and are returning to after we have finished this outing outside the plan.

7. I am sure, and have met, many who would propose that to be like a feather in life means to be weak, and in contrast one must be like a bull to survive this world. I also know that this way of thinking often comes from a past hurt or rejection. So, while the bull runs along, defending its loving heart, there is always room for the possibility of another way, even if ‘being like a feather’ seems too far away from possible.

8. We learn that reaction and defending ourselves is the way to go, but what you show here is that when we stay open to what is really hurting us, without making the situation into a right and wrong, we can look beyond the emotions that are playing out and can see that they are just an armour we have learned to put on to cope with life.

   1. It is from our protection that we have learned to react to situations as when we would be free of this protection, these reactions would simply not be there.

   2. There is the opportunity to learn we are much more than what is happening around us, and we can stay steady with ourselves and the love we are within.

9. I can imagine that feeling that level of surrender is easy when you are in a place that is relaxed but it takes practice away from stress-full situations to be able to have the foundation of detachment to the drama but total connection to the Love during the moments of challenge.

10. So much wisdom offered in the floating of a feather.

11. “Observe and not absorb.” invites me to be tender, sensitive, open and very delicate in the middle of a world where horrible things happen. It brings me to appreciate the power of change that my presence brings and to not react or fight anything, but to stay awake to read what’s going on with full understanding. Observing what’s my contribution to the reality we live in instead of reacting to it is certainly a powerful way of being.

    1. Thank you Inma, I enjoyed reading your comment and appreciating the wisdom you have shared. This line changes the common situation of reacting to life to appreciation of ourselves “Observing what’s my contribution to the reality we live in instead of reacting to it is certainly a powerful way of being.”

12. Love the way you held yourself and your family in that situation Bianca. Feels very beautiful remaining steady and gentle no matter what, open from your heart and knowing how gorgeous we equally are, thanks for this powerful sharing

13. I love that analogy and feeling.

14. I don’t think I have ever been able to handle and be in a situation like you have so beautifully shared here but can feel it being a possibility for me as well. I can feel how being reactive would be like attaching a sinker to a feather, and it would not allow space for what is there to unfold and be accepted. And also not taking things personally is a big learning for me as well. And as I write this, I can feel how it all goes back to the wanting to be an individual – in resisting surrender and creating a blob in space.

    1. Yes very well said Fumiyo. When we react we create a problem that did not need to be there if we did not want to make it about ourselves instead of the bigger picture and what we can offer in that moment to others.

15. To surrender like a feather requires us to let go of the denseness we tend to hold onto. If a feather was filled with heaviness it would not be able to flow, surrender and move so graciously in the air. It would come crashing down to the ground like we would when we fill ourselves up with denseness.

16. So gorgeous to read this beautiful blog again Bianca, just feeling the analogy of the feather puts my body into that feeling of trust that true surrender brings,we often go into control with the mistaken idea that this will keep us safe, when surrendering to the love within and being impulsed by that love is the safest way of being.

    1. So true Jill, surrender is definitely the safest way to be and our body resonates with this quality in a deeply healing way. A majority of humanity doesn’t allow ourselves to surrender because we are aligned to an energy that pushes us to go into drive and control.

17. And there is absolute trust in a feather as in where it will land and without control or needing to change direction because it simply goes with the flow.

18. I can see why you relate to surrender as like being a feather, it is light, it flows with the movement of the air and has zero control. It is amazing how nature reminds us of these qualities we have within us too.

19. Thank you Bianca, for we are shown by this example that love is light “as a feather” it is in the energy we move.. Love it !

    1. Yes, I will enjoy playing and experimenting with this analogy in my day because it will bring a focus and a practice to this lightness of Love in action.

20. ‘This hurt and shutdown would stop me from being able to observe and detach from the situation.’ So true Bianca, when we hold onto our hurts we are unable to observe our situation in a clear way, when we respond rather than react to what happens around us we get to read the bigger picture at play and learn from this.

21. What is there to be expressed next is known in the body, that is surrender lived, and when we allow that, and allow ourselves to observe life we are indeed a feather and there is a love, an openness and an ease in how we are and an allowing for both ourselves and others around us.

22. Just love this lesson in control vs surrender. The control is an illusion anyway… just a matter of whether we surrender to a divine plan or the other one.

23. Surrendering is an activity of space very difficult for someone who has chosen to live in time.

24. A beautiful example of when we do not react to a situation, but stay steady and open with ourselves (and others), on some level the situation changes. Feathers may be light, but in their non imposition and flow, there is a strength.

25. It is key to know oneself, one’s innermost and therefore being part of the greater whole, as otherwise we may surrender to something that is not of our innate true being and thus eventually causing a deep devastation and mistrust. The hurt sits deep in us until we find our way back to who we are, surrender the entanglements, involvements and identifications with what is not of our true being and once again surrender to what we truly belong to.

26. I loved reading this Bianca, surrender to how a feather would be, as it falls graciously, untouched to the ground and that’s a reflection for us in every situation, how we need to be more and more gracious and untouched.

27. When we surrender to the stillness we hold within there is a lightness to our movements, that is deeply felt when observed and is extremely graceful, just like watching a feather floating in the breeze.

    1. Thanks Sally, that lightness you observe helps to deepen the lesson from this blog for me. If I’m not attached to the outcome then I’m more likely to feel which way the true path is taking me.

    2. So true Sally, in surrender our movements are certainly light and graceful. When we move like a feather we are able to clear a lot in our path through inspiration and the quality of our movements.

28. ” appreciation for my choice to remain like the feather – surrendered to the exquisite love that surrounds us all ”
    So true there is nothing but love all around us , if we would only be it, ” be love”

29. “I met them with a fullness of love and understanding that melted their hesitancy away”. True love melts and it is the most exquisite feeling when someone holds you in it (or you them) and the anger/hesitation/anxiousness etc… melts and you return to you.

30. Thank you Bianca, for sharing this revelation of how in our surrender to love we are part of a greater whole, moved by a quality that is the same within us all. We then realise and can feel that in any situation a reaction or resistance is nothing personal, in which we then can respond with the truth and love that is honouring of our equalness.

31. So much is said here. One in the truth of surrender and what this actually is, and also, how instead of going into reaction, blame, hurt or judgement about what another has said, to instead take a step back and read and respond to the situation while holding the other person in love. It is not about being better than another, or being ‘perfect’, as there is no such thing. Instead what you have given is simple and practical ways we can first appreciate something about what we ourselves bring, and be all of this and respond and hold others in love rather than react. And also, yes the wisdom and truth that Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine live and present is indeed deeply inspiring ..’observe not absorb’ being one of them, something as all of humanity we need to learn.

32. As a feather duster can clear away the tangled cobwebs, so too can surrender to the love that we are clear the tangles that we create in our lives.

    1. After I wrote a comment I looked up and read this .. such beauty in what you have shared here, so simple and so touching in the way you have expressed, indeed feels like a feather floating down .. exquisite.

33. Today I remained open and was very honest with someone, and in that space, I let go and the interaction we had utterly melted me, as they came back with their own openness … it showed me the power of grace and surrender and how letting go any idea of how it should be, or that anyone be right, brought understanding that allowed a space for a more deeply honest connection. It was deeply healing and I love the analogy here of the feather, as it is the perfect metaphor for surrender.

34. This is very beautiful Bianca. It highlights that when we react, we are reacting to a previous hurt that has been not dealt with being triggered. Even that realisation for someone is life changing. For that in itself removes the personal, thinking that someone is saying something to intentionally hurt. It also highlights our choice when someone is in reaction. Is that all we see, or do we see much more of what is going on? And do we choose to react in response – and we all know where that ends! or do we choose not to react or take on any of what is being said and simply observe. To observe is to bathe another and ourselves in love.

35. Exquisite – the power of love and of our willingness to love and to the divinity we know within. In that connection and in that commitment, the door is sealed and we offer God’s love to everyone.

    1. Beautifully said Katerina. It is so true that in our surrender to the love of who we are, the love of God, we are moved and respond with whatever is needed for the All in that and every moment.

       1. And when we do that our movements are like that of a feather, flowing with rhythms of the Universe.

36. I observed the other day the leaves gently floating down to the ground with such grace, no effort, just allowing themselves to be carried. I loved what you so beautifully shared Bianca how with surrender comes the wisdom of observation, nothing to fix just like the feather being held in love, and holding each other in that same love.

37. Life in this moment is asking me to surrender and let go of trying and having to do it all alone. I am not fully there yet, as this old momentum is deeply ingrained, yet I can feel how I am being held and supported.

38. In the past I have always gone into sympathy with another, thinking that was the correct response, but in fact it just meant I absorbed their stuff. In other words I took it on, therefore not serving the other and most certainly hurting my body. The only way to not absorb is to stay connected with oneself and have no need or desire to fix anybody, which we usually do to make ourselves feel good and which distracts us from dealing with our own stuff.

39. The very image of a feather floating in the wind makes you feel light, open and spacious.

    1. I was actually just feeling and appreciating that same awareness too Jacqmcfadden04.

40. A solid confirmation are those defining moments when we chose love instead of reaction, with each loving choice building onto the next one.

41. ‘what I was to do next was already taken care of.’ … reading this I have a deeper understanding of surrender, it’s to take care and stay connected and open in this moment and the next is taken care of … it removes all striving, all angst and all ‘what if’ or ‘what next’ and brings it simply back to feeling and being in that moment. A beautiful reminder today Bianca thank you.

42. A very beautiful example of the healing effect of observing and not absorbing.

43. I used to think that surrender meant I had to surrender to something else, someone else and therefore give my power away. One day the penny finally dropped and I could feel that it is a deepening into oneself surrendering into the infinite space we hold within.

    1. This is beautiful Lucy, I love how you have come to understand surrender as going deeper into oneself rather than giving yourself away to something outside of ourselves.

44. I held my family member in absolute love, remembering the gorgeous, tender, precious, loving being they naturally are. I just read a few words from Serge Benhayon yesterday; that true success is how loving we have been with others….

45. What a beautiful lesson in surrender, and a powerful reflection and confirmation of just how surrendered you were by not going into reaction yourself with the sharp words of the family member. Holding ourselves in love is the key, because then we can hold others in love too.

46. To be like a feather in the wind is a great analogy to how we can move in the world of energy we live in. Are we able to move with the flow of the energy we have chosen to live or feel we are pushed in a way that asks us to move differently, in another energy that does not naturally belong to us and is moving against that what is there to investigate and become more aware off.

47. Does our primal animal trapped in a corner, come up as a self-defense response and then verbally attack another. When we don’t react and as you have expressed, when we hold everyone dear to our heart there are no corners.

48. The more I practise staying with my body and awake and aware of what I’m feeling, the easier it becomes to observe and read situations as they occur, without reacting to them. It’s amazing that we know exactly what to do and when to do it. When we stay connected to the simplicity of what we can feel, instead of reacting to another person acting differently to how we’d like them to act, it offers space for potential expansion.

49. I can feel the love you hold, Bianca, as you allowed yourself to observe what was unfolding before you. I have been through a similar experience at work, and reading your blog has been a healing confirmation for me of the power of observation.

50. I love this blog Bianca. Break the mould; be like a feather when society wants you to be a brick!

    1. Yes Susie, and that brick in the air will only go one way and that is down to the earth in a straight line, considering life to be linear and bounded to only this earth.

51. ‘In this surrender, I was moving and expressing as my inner connection impulsed me to be. It was very freeing – I felt safe and supported and there was a confidence within my body that I would naturally know what to do next.’ Awesome Bianca when we chose to let go of control we are taken care of in ways that we could never have imagined.

52. Love the analogy of the feather gliding through life completely surrendered to its lack of control, trusting that it will be taken care of on its journey. This is so powerful as it allows us to choose to not react in situations and therefore not add to or escalate any reactions.

53. Bianca, how lovely for you to feel and stay with yourself in the situation for what it is, by observing and reading how things can change for self and others. I feel on the few occasions I allow this way into my body, how life becomes so much simpler and love can then prevail in my life as a much deeper level of interaction and communication.

54. Thank you Bianca, it was truly a significant moment to be able to stay with love in such a situation and not retreat into feeling hurt. It’s an enormous learning to observe and not take things personally. It’s very inspiring what you have shared because that same opportunity is there for us all, to be settled deeply into our own love no matter what is going on around us.

55. I feel the support the wind offered the feather as it found its way to the ground. This is something that cannot be seen, only felt and trusted. I wonder if that is why we struggle so much with surrender in our own lives, because we have placed far more importance on what we see and therefore discount the power of what we feel.

56. You could read this article once and never come back to it having gained so much awareness from it the first time. Today when I found this article it was a reread and it was like I hadn’t read it before. The analogy is perfect and so often I have found myself taking on things that are going on around me which then makes me a part of it all. What I am forever learning is how to surrender to what has happened and allow myself to settle or my body to be still in the moment I am in, thus gaining my full self ready to step into the next moment which is already there. The longer I stay anywhere else but fully aware of how I am feeling then I know I don’t see or observe everything that happens before me and I start to carry it.

57. This is a beautiful analogy as it represents so well what is possible when we do surrender to who we are within, where we are at one with the pulse of the universe with God as such we are moved by our Soul in honor of the love we all are. This is the movement that confirms who we are and brings the truth that is needed in this world.

58. ‘Observe and not absorb’, these 4 powerful words are life changing when you apply them everyday, they also give you the space to bring a deeper understanding to another instead of judging them for their choices or behaviours.

59. A joy to return to this again and a beautiful reminder to go ever deeper as I realised that yesterday I reacted with surprise to a question, and consequently closed my heart, when I would have liked to have stayed open and ‘floated like a feather’.

60. I love the analogy of the feather with surrender – one to carry with me throughout my day – thankyou.

61. When we surrender, we go deep into the body and say no to whatever does not correspond to what are we truly surrendering to. It is like landing into something bigger in a movement of embracing it.

62. When one person stays out of reaction, the world is redefined. With every reaction there is a ripple effect that spreads and spreads… take away the reaction and there is one less ripple in the world

63. “In this surrender, I was moving and expressing as my inner connection impulsed me to be.” What I am finding in the surrender to my own body’s connection is a deeper awareness of how I care for myself and also a greater urgency to express at certain times too. There is a great power in our choice to surrender for it allows a greater depth of understanding of who we are and other’s experiences of life too and that is a huge blessing.

64. ‘….surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.’ That’s such an important part of surrender isn’t it, to not worry about what is to come, to not try to control being able to reach a certain outcome. Everytime I read this blog I feel the beauty of truly surrendering and the power of choosing love in life.

65. Thank you Bianca for a deeply beautiful and inspiring blog, to observe and not absorb instead of reacting is a time when we can hold the other person in love and without judgment. When we surrender the soul guides us by love and unfolds the wisdom that is needed in that moment. I am slowly accepting that I can and do read what is going on.

66. Observing not Absorbing is the foundation for so much in life, it is beautiful that you were able to “read” what was really going on in that moment, rather than take it personally. I am still developing surrender and I am deeply inspired by those that are also uncovering the power of it.

67. The willingness to see what is going on beyond an immediate moment is so crucial in life. When you can see that one moment is never isolated but related to a million other moments for someone it’s much easier to not take what happens personally but to approach a situation with more understanding that there may be so much more happening for that person than what is immediately presented in front of you.

68. I love reading this blog and often come back to it when I need to be reminded of how to be loving and open in a situation.

69. It is a powerful moment, when we recognise that our capacity to truly behold others in love is so great that the defences and reactions of old no longer hold sway, Bianca. Thank-you for sharing this, and the Grace with which you hold others here. How blessed are all within your sphere.

    1. It’s true – our capacity to love is endless, and there is nothing like being held in that true love no matter what mistakes we make or reactions we produce.

70. Thank you Bianca, surrendering to the love within oursleves is a true healing for all, this is somehting that I am learning more and more and get to appreciate the simplicity and beauty of life much more than ever before.

71. I find reaction and anger to be a quick burst, similar to a horse breaking through the barrier before it actually opens. When I do this there is no room for observing and the conversation is then moved into reaction. I’ve been working on pausing and giving myself a moment to feel what has come with the words and then respond. It makes a huge difference.

72. Likening the act of surrender to a feather feels very appropriate. Many feathers make for wings and you know what you can do with those!
    To learn not to react is a very valuable thing. However, it’s not about being a robot and controlling ourselves. If we react, it can be a signpost to what needs to be looked at. There may be a deeply seated belief that no longer serves a life that is about surrendering to love. It’s all a good learning!

    1. Very true Jinya, it is not about being a robot and following or trusting without discerning. Reacting means we don’t like what we are feeling – but we should appreciate that we are actually feeling in order to have the reaction!!

73. The feather also reminds me of delicateness and this is what I feel in your words. I cannot resist this delicate expression only appreciate the power of this quality.

74. Thank you for the reminder of the feather analogy…i really like it.

75. The alchemy of the God’s magic – no words needed – “I held my family member in absolute love, remembering the gorgeous, tender, precious, loving being they naturally are.Their heated emotion transformed and any anger or hurt they were feeling dissipated from their body. They looked tentatively into my eyes and I met them with a fullness of love and understanding that melted their hesitancy away.”

76. ‘Observe and not absorb’ are wise and practical words indeed.

77. When we live in total awe of how amazing life is and the magic all around us – there is no other way than to surrender our bodies to that which is from God.

78. I can really feel what it would be like to live life in the flow, as a feather responding to it with no reaction or struggle whatsoever. A beautiful analogy that’s very powerful too. Thanks for sharing.

79. When I considered the picture of the feather floating in the wind, I felt a slight apprehension. I imagined being tossed around in the wind kind of scary, and also purposeless as a victim of circumstance. But I know I love watching feathers reflect playfulness and delicateness, so I read again.

    My heart filled with warmth with this paragraph: “I was totally surrendered to my inner connection, the solid, grounded wisdom that lives within, observing all that was happening around me.”

    All became clear and still. The surrender was no longer to the wind, but a surrender to the depth and the strength of the inner connection within that ensures the elegant, steadiness of the inner essence that is responsible for the harmonious and graceful glide in the wind or any other flow through life.

80. Surrendering starts with connection. We surrender to what we have connected to. Surrendering is a movement of grace; a clear recognition and appreciation of a magnificence to which we are part of.

81. Lovely to read this again and feel the depth of joy there is to be had when we literally observe and not absorb.

82. Thank you for sharing how you clocked unloving thoughts passing through you and you chose not to entertain or engage with them but instead chose to be with the warmth of your heart. To observe, is a choice. To go into reaction, is a choice. And which energy to surrender to is a choice that determines all the choices that follow.

83. Deep appreciation to you for sharing the feather analogy – I can see how the pictures we have of how things are meant to go leave no room for feathers, surrendering, understanding or appreciation. If the pictures are not met then we have hurts, reactions, arguments, defence. One is exhausting and one is not. Feather it is then and out go the pictures – even the picture of what it feels like to surrender like a feather – just time to enjoy being my own experiment.

84. I love coming back to this blog as a gentle reminder to remain in the present moment rather than into thoughts of what is needed or going to happen, forgetting that the future is already taken care of and thereby being in a different time from the present moment. “I was bathed in the holding quality of love from my inner connection and so I remained like the feather – surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.”

85. I am learning more and more how in any situation when we react; we can never truly be with or support another in love, for we have instantly separated from our love and them, and instead made it about ourselves. When we surrender to love we embrace the oneness that we are part of and as such we then are moved by the wisdom of love in divine service to humanity. The beautiful thing is that our bodies are always letting us know the depth of surrender to our love within – our Soul, that we have chosen at any given time.

86. It is in observing life that we truly can surrender to the path that we need to walk without holding back.

87. Surrender has so much of the association of giving up, of losing and loss of freedom. However, how lovely is it not to be held by a loved one and completely let go into the security of the loving embrace? That is surrender. Surrendering to the God and the Universe is no different. This does not mean that we give ourselves over, expecting everything to be done for us, but instead we live making our own choices and decisions with the confidence and knowledge of the loving support God and the Universe.

88. I always love reading your blog Bianca and being reminded of the simplicity and deeper love felt when we choose to surrender instead of holding onto a hurt or a reaction.

    1. Yes I gree, Anna, and I also find it a great reminder when I feel life is a struggle rather than a natural flow.

89. Again, I love this blog, it was something I needed to read today as tensions and reactions came up and to learn to let go and surrender and not go into fight.

90. It is interesting to see the effect of surrender in our bodies. And others around us, it frees us all of the protection we hold, and gives us the opportunity to engage on a deeper level of love.

91. Human life is so set up to distract people from surrender. It’s all very racy, very fast, very stimulating. Sure, we have day spas and can relax. But that relaxation only feels like a break compared to the fast, nerve racking and tense society most live in.

92. Awesome, Ariana. And their grace means that they’ve never been imposing, you can’t help but feel the magic.

93. It’s a misconception that it takes a lot of energy or will power to not react, but as your story – and your analogy – explains, it’s actually about a surrendering. Given our lives have been peppered with hurts and thus reactions, this is an amazing revelation and one which has really inspired me.

94. Such a gorgeous blog Bianca, so inspiring, I loved these words “I was filled with appreciation for my choice to remain like the feather – surrendered to the exquisite love that surrounds us all and to the solid, unwavering wisdom that comes from our inner connection.” Thank you.

95. The analogy of the feather and your use of it, Bianca, is exquisite in deepening the understanding of surrender.

96. A feather surrendered to the energy of space around it with no judgement of where it has come from and no expectations of where it will land is gorgeous

97. I love this blog and keep coming back to it as I have much to learn from it. I love how you point out that you had thoughts of this isn’t fair and they shouldn’t talk to me like this but then you didn’t let the thoughts run but held the person in the love you have for them and this helped you to hold steady and not react.

98. When you give the analogy of the feather and the surrender in that, I can feel the tension and control that I hold in my body. I can also relate to what you share here; ‘I would retreat into a corner of my heart and tentatively wait for someone to give me a sign that it was safe to come out again’.
    So many of us do this, when we have been hurt we shut down waiting for another to show us it is safe – if we all didn’t shut down how different would the world be?

99. Bianca, reading your blog again this morning I am touched by the depth of intimacy you share here. Very beautiful.

100. I find how my shoulders are feeling is a great way of letting me know how surrendered I am. Releasing my shoulders gently, especially feeling that little dip in the front of my shoulders near my collar bones is a beautiful starting place if I am feeling tense.

101. ‘I held my family member in absolute love, remembering the gorgeous, tender, precious, loving being they naturally are.’ Such a golden moment for everyone at the dinner table and such a great reminder to me of the power of observing and bringing understanding to situations we meet rather than reacting to them.

102. I at times feel the old ways of sympathy wanting to emerge because in my past I mistakenly thought that sympathy was a way of showing love, a way of needing to do something. The surrendering like a feather assures me that what I need to know I will know when I need to know, by being able to observe and not absorb you were able to ” I held my family member in absolute love, remembering the gorgeous, tender, precious, loving being they naturally are. “

     1. It is so beautiful to separate behaviours from the person; very profound, very healing.

103. In the past I would have felt surrending like a feather would show a weakness on my part, I now know this level of surrender is not only powerful but supports and holds ourselves and others within this deep love.

104. Surrendering like a feather is such a beautiful analogy and a great supportive focus to hold for the coming day.

105. This is wonderful to read and feel what you share Bianca, very supportive and timely. Surrendering as the feather is a great analogy and what you share about holding yourself and the other with understanding through the conversation is deeply powerful and that the moment came to completion very promptly and lovingly – so inspirational, thank you.

106. To surrender and be obedient to that grander order we belong to brings to us a way of being that is beyond our current imagination of how life can be, but the snippets I already live reminds me of a way of living I know and am deeply connected with as it is our natural way of being in continuous relationship with the Universe and with God.

107. Being like a feather that is in full surrender to the wind that dictates the direction to go to is a beautiful metaphor for us in understanding how we can be in life, to go with the flow and to not resist. I know from own experience that this was not my natural, and I now can see that in others too, but I do also have the experience that when we allow surrender to that grander order, the order that is giving us direction, it is like miracles are taking place and relationships do go beyond our imagination, beyond the limited pictures we commonly are holding.

108. It’s amazing when we can step back how there is a space to observe and feel that it’s not personal, but often it’s just where another is at, and that if we go into it, there is nothing different but if we hold ourselves and just feel it without judgment or reaction a miracle happens, another is offered another way to be, for them to choose and that is how we move on from old patterns and hurts. Beautiful blog Bianca.

109. Bianca beautiful analogy because a feather goes with the flow, it never goes against it and it just glides along with a steady gracefulness. When we don’t react and observe what is at play we get a deeper insight into what is going on, and at the same time it allows another the space to reflect.

110. Learning to surrender in those more challenging times has been an absolute game changer for me as well, rather than holding onto to hurt we make space for understanding and a deeper connection – a win/win for all.

111. Gosh I can fight this surrender so much, so your blog is a timely reminder that we can indeed surrender and that there is much magic and much on offer when we do so.

112. The moments I catch myself in ‘absorbing/reacting’ surrender is a choice to let go and come back to being myself, connected instead of conflicted, with surrender there is a natural flow and ease as we are part of the greater whole.

113. This blog is beautiful to read and an inspiration. It takes quality of presence to not react or close the heart when attacked like that, but the response to your openness shows how worthwhile it is to offer this love unconditionally.

114. This is a lovely blog to come back to. Whenever I need that extra reminder of how to hold someone in love when they are deep in reaction, I can really feel how beautifully we are held in love in this blog. Thank you Bianca, you are also inspirational.

115. I love this blog- I am working through learning not to react and take things on at the moment and this blog I like coming back to daily as it shows me a way forward and what is possible- thank you for sharing your experiences.

116. Every time I read your blog Bianca I can not but feel the love you brought to the table. A very inspirational blog to deepen my connection with myself and truly surrender instead of resisting this pull to be more of who I am.

117. Surrendering like that of a feather to trust in the whims and beauty of nature is just a stunning analogy…. it is deeply inspiring in its utter simplicity… and holds great wisdom that can be embraced as to how to move gently through life.

118. There is nothing more exquisite than to feel the body surrendering and to live in the knowingness that as long as we live life in constant evolution for the good of all absolutely everything that is needed is constellated with simplicity and ease.

119. It’s painful to be in reaction. In relationships, in communications, it creates much friction inwardly and outwardly – and I have self-inflicted this pain on myself much of my life. What you have share here Bianca, how you have observed and read others reactions and not react to it is very inspiring, and I have a lot to learn from this. Thank you.

120. I can most definitely relate to feeling an anxiousness when conversations go deeper and particularly when we start getting more real and truthful with each other. It triggers a vulnerability in me around not being met as I share more of what I might usually keep to myself. This has helped me to understand why we might push people away or feel pushed away by others.

121. Thank you Bianca, you show us the difference when we do not hold back and allow connection to deepen and continue when things are crossing a certain border or limit/measure. It is incredible to feel the effects of surrendering like these, and to trust that indeed the next moment will be taken care of. Can you imagine if we hold back less and less and surrender more and more? Which direction will our connections, conversations with eachother go? Quiet extraordinary.

122. Thank you Bianca. Not to take the words personally, I still catch myself taking it personally in certain situations but am learning to hold myself more and more. Not taking it personally allows me to see what is really going on, not to want or need anything from them and communicate lovingly to support the other person with why. I love how you explain with a feather, delightful and easy to relate to.

123. Bianca, what a beautiful expression of what it is to surrender, and to know in that surrender the next thing is taken care of, there is no drive required, just our presence. And your example with your family member is very instructional, in that you did not go into sympathy with the hurt, you just held them and allows the space for something else, and this is a great example of how love is a beholding where we offer another the opportunity to not be their hurt, and you remind me of how it is to be held. Thank you.

124. It feels like once we surrender to our own loveliness, our lightness and inner-heart then we cannot help but hold everyone else in that same quality. Because the inner-heart speaks of equality and if that feeling is within one, it is within all. We are all in the same boat, divinely built to express Heaven, yet instead we are totally hooked on destruction of the body and behaviours that we judge in each other. Surrender to ones body is a direct avenue to appreciation of the multi-dimensionality we are all in part of, no matter what we are choosing to live.

125. What a glorious way to start the day, in awareness of the words surrender and observation. These should be subjects at schools as life is so much more freeing and enjoyable when we reconnect to the activity of surrendering to our body and observing what goes on around us. The world could be a very different place, health wise, if we didn’t absorb each others emotions.

126. I needed to come back to this blog today to re-connect to it and feel my way forward with a work situation. To learn to remain open in the face of being challenged and having people make decisions away from what would be in the best interests for everyone. To learn to speak within this but to also hold the person who is displaying the bullying behaviours with love not judgement and to not react- this is my lesson.

127. This approach of not reacting to a situation but responding accordingly is what will save the world and it only takes one to start the movement. There’s way too much reacting going on in the world and sometimes we even claim that emotions makes us feel real when that is what is actually poisoning us in our relations both with people but also in the way we relate to life. I know exactly what you are referring to with feeling like a feather, I remember that from young and it’s a very delicate, holding feeling of being one with everything.

128. We always have the choice – feel and align with the hurt or feel and align with the love…
     Simple really, Thankyou for this beautiful reminder that surrendering to the love, just like a feather, allows the love to just be there, supporting us through whatever it is that comes our way.

129. You did not go into protection, withdrawing, retreating or reaction when someone said something that in the past would have triggered a hurt, but instead stayed with this delicious surrender, observing and not absorbing, ‘As I sat, I registered an exquisite open feeling in my body; thoughts did try to enter of “How dare they say that!” but I kept saying no to those and kept coming back to the feeling of warmth that was expanding from my heart.’ This is beautiful Bianca.

130. This is a beautiful and inspiring example of what happens when we stay truly surrendered, ‘In this surrender, I was moving and expressing as my inner connection impulsed me to be. It was very freeing – I felt safe and supported and there was a confidence within my body that I would naturally know what to do next.’ And you naturally did know what to do so lovingly.

131. Beautifully expressed Bianca, I love the way you so deeply honour and appreciate the way you held yourself and others in equality and love.The analogy of a feather is very powerful;
     “I was filled with appreciation for my choice to remain like the feather – surrendered to the exquisite love that surrounds us all and to the solid, unwavering wisdom that comes from our inner connection”.

132. What a powerfully delicate healing love there is in surrender, reading your blog Bianca, I can feel it in my body, just beautiful, thank you.

133. Surrender flows when we’re connected to our true essence: stillness within. We are more likely ‘to lose it’ and react when this inner connection is lost.

134. Just reading the title of this blog finds my body surrendering. To see and feel a feather falling gentle allows my body to do the same.

135. Such a lovely image of a feather floating in the sky – which makes me realise how anxiousness is a resistance to what is going on around me and creates heaviness in the body.

136. It’s easy to feel the love and support in this way of being. We can let go of the need to try and control the way we are with the world and the position we have decided to take and just allow what is the truth to come through us. I love the way you were then able to understand where your family member was coming from and to not take this personally in any way Bianca. This way of being is a revelation.

137. Learning to observe and not react to what happens before us, is indeed an immense step forward, where we can instead feel and understand the outplay and what lies beneath it. Go into reaction and we have jumped right into the spin, and the energy has us equally. and hence awareness is the casualty and the opportunity for true learning and potential healing is lost.

138. I agree Bianca about the way we resist intimacy – I was beginning to have a more intimate conversation with a friend yesterday and realise that I suddenly was uncomfortable with the level of intimacy that we were developing – and made an excuse to cut short this moment. We are forever learning and expanding our experience.

139. Yes at some stage, someone has to stop reacting, and is then possible to those around us to not have their own reactions fed, and in the reflection of stillness to have the possibility of reconnecting with themselves.

140. I love what you share here Bianca, ‘I was bathed in the holding quality of love from my inner connection and so I remained like the feather – surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of’, when we surrender and allow this in our lives it is quite magical.

141. This is a beautiful example of the power of observing and not taking what is said personally and just keeping surrendering. ‘I was filled with appreciation for my choice to remain like the feather – surrendered to the exquisite love that surrounds us all and to the solid, unwavering wisdom that comes from our inner connection.’

142. I am sure many can relate to having gone into reaction instead of staying observing, ‘I would have had my own reaction and I would have been very hurt, closing my heart and stepping away from the love I was naturally feeling. This hurt and shutdown would stop me from being able to observe and detach from the situation.’ I am learning to stay observing and have no investment in the outcome, it feels so much more loving to myself and those involved when I do so.

143. We all do it – stay in the hurt, the rejection, the anguish, the reaction. The problem is that we do not get honest about the fact when it happens, and so it becomes an ingrained way of being that we do not even question. This is why the pathway back to understanding life and self is in the beginning to be vulnerable, to allow yourself to acknowledge that you have been hurt. From there it can start to be dealt with, but without that simple acknowledgement, there can be no honesty and no eventual pathway to the truth.

144. I too love the analogy of the feather because when a feather falls it has a purpose. There is actually nothing ‘airy-fairy’ about it. Its power is in just being with what it is doing, for example gliding through the air, rather than where it is going to end up. There is, in fact, a feeling that it knows exactly where it is going to and that is the beauty that it reflects.

145. Bianca, your line ‘surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of’ spoke deeply to me today as I could feel that is what surrender is, knowing the next moment is taken care of we just have to stay connected and feel, and allow what is there to be expressed. It takes away all push and trying, so today I will feel your words and see feathers.

146. The power of love and surrender, a powerful example Bianca, thank you.

147. I love the analogy of the feather, so much freedom in surrender.

148. It is beautiful to feel the impact this has on others when we are willing to surrender. It is gorgeous for us, and for the other person, by simply being who we are and living and speaking from the truth that we know is inside us.

149. Letting go of control and to just be and observe with what is. For me surrendering is very much about allowing myself to just be, without any need in having to be different or having to do something.

150. Gorgeous to observe the power of love. We believe the lie that we could get hurt when we show ourselves vulnerable whereas vulnerability is as safe as love.

151. It is the relinquishing of control without diminishing the power and grace that is the teaching of this feather analogy for me – super relevant and significant – thank you.

152. This has inspired me deeply – thank you Bianca

153. It is profound to consider just how many issues would not be in the world if we simply surrendered and observed what is going on around us.

154. Thank you Bianca, for sharing the power and simplicity of surrendering to what is divine.

155. The opposite of surrender is to control. It is easy for me to identify several areas of my life where I still feel I need control, a great place to look at what I feel like I am fighting to defend.

156. Bianca these words particularly stood out for me ‘Yesterday I spent the day feeling like the feather. I was totally surrendered to my inner connection, the solid, grounded wisdom that lives within, observing all that was happening around me.’ There is so much more to see and feel when we are surrendered and allowing of all that is going on around us.

157. ‘As I sat, I registered an exquisite open feeling in my body; thoughts did try to enter of “How dare they say that!” but I kept saying no to those and kept coming back to the feeling of warmth that was expanding from my heart.’ With observing your own thoughts you took a step back and made space for everyone to evolve.
     So beautiful to read and to feel the level of surrender you choose.

158. ‘I was filled with appreciation for my choice to remain like the feather – surrendered to the exquisite love that surrounds us all and to the solid, unwavering wisdom that comes from our inner connection.’
     Feathers are strong and supported by the shaft to then extend out to the lighter extended parts.
     Like feathers we have our inner strength and our outer expression and every single one of us has purpose and beauty combined.
     To be like a feather is the ultimate way of living. Light. Strong. Surrendered and Beautiful. 🍃

159. Bianca, I love coming back to this blog, this really stands out for me, ‘They looked tentatively into my eyes and I met them with a fullness of love and understanding that melted their hesitancy away.’ Since reading this the first time I have become more aware of how I am feeling with others, particularly my son, if I am reacting, annoyed with him and looking at him with disappointment for something he my have done or if I am holding him in love no matter what has happened, it is great to be more aware of this.

160. It is incredible what can happen when we are willing to surrender. Not only do we let go of so much that we have held onto, sometimes for years, but also it allows us to be more open with others and to the opportunties that are being presented to us.

161. Beautiful revelation – thank you Bianca.

162. Surrender can seem like the hardest thing to do. We can know it is what is most needed, but we can also ask why is it that we struggle to embrace that which supports us the most? We fight what we yearn for…and when it sits in front of us we can so struggle to accept it and embrace it. However, could this be the learning – a learning of what surrender truly means?

163. Surrender is so commonly perceived as giving up, yet Bianca you have beautifully shared how it can be such a beautifully loving and inspiring way to live. As I develop my surrender to myself so I am experiencing my world unfolding into ever-greater beauty.

164. Having always reacted to what I felt was being pushed about and governed by other people and their behaviour or treatment of me, I have become more and more like a feather and really appreciate the grace and space it affords to stay constant but not rigid; to flow but not sacrifice myself; to feel all that is going on around me, but not absorb it – a feather rather than a doormat!

165. “As I sat, I registered an exquisite open feeling in my body; thoughts did try to enter of “How dare they say that!” but I kept saying no to those and kept coming back to the feeling of warmth that was expanding from my heart.”

     We always have a choice to say no to the thoughts that are feed us should we choose to align to the source or energy that will feed us the type of thoughts that separate us from others, causing further hurts and reactions, it’s a powerful choice and a worthy discipline to say no to theses thoughts.

166. To surrender in life we must have trust, to have trust we have deep connection to our bodies and innermost hearts and all that is around us.

167. “In this surrender it becomes one with the wind, no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements, trusting completely that it will be taken care of in its movements and when it stops.”
     The more we try to control our lives and the people close to us, the life becomes a struggle, the expectations we lace upon ourselves and other people, the frustration, stress and tension we create, as things never quite turn out as we expected them to, the images and ideals of how we thought our life’s to be imprison us, in there hold, but it is us whom have subscribed to there images.

     1. Control definitely leads to struggle. As a feather there is no diminishing of ourselves just the grace to flow alongside other people’s choices, taking responsibility for our own.

168. When another person is reacting to us because of a hurt, if we then react them we have conflict. To observe another person and not take on or absorb their reaction or hurt, we need to hold ourselves steady and stay deeply connected to our own body, bringing understanding to why the other person is acting in a certain way, and not judge or condemn them, simply hold them as an equal and the knowing that they are at their core the same loving person that we all are, just in that moment they are not choosing it. This offers the other an opportunity to return to the love and connection to themselves, when we hold them in this way.

169. “Have you ever observed how a feather floats through the sky, so smoothly and with grace, no matter what is going on around it.” This is beautiful imagery Bianca and captures the essence of surrender. It is inspiring for when I feel that I need to relinquish control.

170. Reading this again Bianca I am so moved by the very tender moment with your family that you shared. So inspiring and it shows just how powerfully transforming these moments can be.

171. This is a true lesson in surrender and a real inspiration on living surrendered in this way and feels so joyful and what we know ourselves to truly be. Any thing else simply is not us and learning to live this way again and to sustain it consistently feels very very beautiful. Being surrendered like a feather in the wind floating gracefully with the all is who we are naturally.Thank you.

172. Thank you Bianca your sharing here has offered a stop point for me to begin to surrender in life, to observe and not absorb in the way I have been lately and to see that in surrender we begin to see and become a part of the flow of life. Beautiful.

173. I wanted to come back to this blog, I had a situation yesterday where I got very hurt by something and reacted and I could feel the want to give up and shut down from others. I remembered this blog and wanted to come back to it to be reminded of the different choices I can make. It is a situation I need to go back too today, while I don’t have all the answers, I can feel it is about preparing myself and being very tender and caring so that I am in the grace of knowing how to handle whatever is presented next. This is where my true wisdom lies, not in the trying to work out what to do next or think my way out of it.

174. I think it’s a great point you make Bianca about how in true surrender to ourselves it’s not about being separate and identified with what we think makes us an individual but to a connection with us all and sensing what is harmonious for all.

175. “In this surrender it becomes one with the wind, no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements, trusting completely that it will be taken care of in its movements and when it stops.” This is showing us, as we truly surrender, all will be taken care of.

176. What exposes an emotion is my surrender to love. The emotion stands out as what it is: as an energy attacking love. You describe so beautifully the healing art of surrendering, Bianca.

177. I love to reread this blog expressing in such a light and playful way how simple it can be not to react.

178. I love that image of a feather floating and moving with the flow and yet keep its tenderness, lightness and grace. Reading what you have written reminded me of the story I have heard about the migration of butterflies, how they can fly through storms and hurricanes. There is a stupendous natural harmony, rhythm and order that comes with this graceful way of being that hands down shows up how deluded we are when we think we need to use force and be tough.

179. Bianca, a timely topic on surrender and one that I’m currently bringing much attention to as I find myself going about the day often in protection rather than surrendered like a feather!

180. Thanks Bianca, this is a powerful reminder that anything other than surrender brings an element of control in life. What is helpful about what you’ve shared and is consistent with my experience too is that it is a very bodily thing to surrender. This makes it very easy to feel whether in fact I am surrendering or not and adjust accordingly, letting go of held tension or guarding in that moment…

181. To observe and not absorb is very powerful when I apply it but I don’t always do so even though I know how amazing it is. What I realise after reading your blog again Bianca is that holding onto old hurts is what allows me to react instead of surrender. My hurts are not even real and I know it is a choice to hold onto them, so this is where surrender is so healing and supportive because it simply melts away these false hurts and beliefs I have held onto to allow space for me to read any given situation, be open and loving. I also find when I am not connected to my body reactions comes easily and it is from building a foundation of deep awareness and connection with myself first that will truly support me in every way and therefore, surrender like a feather. And also, it is from my previous choices of expression and movements that prepares me for what comes next, and these choices will either assist me to observe or absorb. Everything is linked back to choices, responsibility and willingness to surrender.

182. “. . . surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.”
     This is such a foundational truth and when lived all the struggle, tension and thoughts leave because there just isn’t space to hold two realties at once. Choosing surrender opens our hearts to understanding the all knowing wisdom and guidance of a reality much greater than protecting our hurts.

183. I find the observing and not absorbing is a very powerful tool for me to use in my daily living and assists me to be more surrendered to what is truly going on. I am more aware of my reactions which occur when I absorb what is being said or what is happening. It also exposes the many ideals and beliefs we have in our lives in terms of how we respond to others. A great sharing, Bianca.

184. Thank you Bianca for sharing the analogy of the feather and surrender. I’ve been feeling in the last couple of days how important it is to surrender to natural rhythm and wisdom we hold within, for if not then what takes its place is not pleasant. In my case it’s likely to be stress and frustrated there is definitely no love in that, nor any stillness to let the wind take you to the next moment.

185. Thank you, I love coming back to this blog and its richness; I had an experience yesterday when I did not react despite of what was coming at me and it was equally as magical – nothing in me needed to point out or fix anything and that situation likewise ended with the most harmonious and truly intimate resolution between people.

186. If this surrendering approach to life could be adopted by all and we could always speak from a place of stillness instead of reaction the flow of the world would be in the rhythm of the Universe.

187. Bianca, this is s very loving and understanding blog. Your line ‘They looked tentatively into my eyes and I met them with a fullness of love and understanding that melted their hesitancy away.’ when being with your family member shows a way to be love in the world, when we meet another with that love we offer the opportunity for them to be love and we change the paradigm between us and set a new foundation for us all. It’s how we live the love we are – thank you for sharing your lived experience with it.

188. It’s so beautiful to feel the love and understanding you held the person in who was bringing a past hurt they’d felt to the situation; that what they was searching for was reassurance that they would be held no matter if they tested you with harsh words. It’s amazing how, when we trust the love we are, we come back to love.

     I’m so inspired to stay steady, to choose love even if someone is reacting to me or I’ve reacted to someone. So inspired to live the love I am and allow trust in myself and in God.

189. Practicing this exercise in work places, family homes and in and amongst friends would naturally change our relationships and the ripple effects are enormous.

190. Living life in observation and not in absorption is a fundamental key exercise for each and every person in the world not matter our age.

191. This article is one that I will reread Bianca as it really does demonstrate the importance of not reacting and instead remaining ourselves. It is easy to react or ignore what is before us but to actually hold ourselves in this way is something that is really needed in this world.

192. The analogy of the feather holds a significant way to be with all of life and this is something I can feel I am returning, this way of living does not waste kidney energy and allows the body to be itself.

193. When we allow ourselves to truly surrender, all we are doing is connecting back to that which is already within us, and which has alwasy been there. There is nothing to do and we don’t even have to try. All we have to do is allow ourselves to feel what is already there.

194. A gorgeous observation of surrender Bianca ‘ There is not a speck of control as it silkily glides through the air and surrenders to the wind, letting it guide its movements.’

195. Re-reading your wonderful post Bianca and the conversations between your family/dynamics, what I got from this was that – to surrender like a feather, is to be free from, though completely aware of the energies at play knowing yourself and allowing yourself to drop down into this, unaffected by the rustling of everything else. It is the grace of divinity at play; and us in this kind of play. Surrendered.

196. What a fantastic experience you had feeling the absolute power in observing and not absorbing, connecting to the grand stillness and love the you are in your surrendered and appreciative state. So much to learn and what an exquisite reflection for you family to feel that Love never compromises and no matter what is always there holding us deeply and strongly to expand and grow with.

197. Thank you for the reminder of “the exquisite love that surrounds us all” and that every moment is an opportunity to surrender to the exquisite beauty that is God’s love.

198. Watching the marvels of a feather dancing and one eddying on microcosmic wind currents is something that holds my interest as to how it moves and shifts by the subtlest of energies! Similarly we are exquisite beings and the subtlest of energy absorbed takes us away from our exquisite inner-most. What has been shared by Serge Benhayon on energetic Integrity and energetic responsibility has changed the world forever!

199. Absolutely Ariana, surrender to our Inner-most is a choice to be love!

200. In surrender, we remain in a spaciousness that is untouched by time. When we leave this surrender, in order to seek the outcome we wish, or resolve the situation – we immediately condense ourselves into the constructs and limitations of time.

201. When you describe the ease with which the situation transformed, purely by staying surrendered to your openness, love and understanding, it shows how any other choice to react, harden, manage the situation etc. simply doesn’t make sense/ nor does it work.

202. A gorgeous moment has been offered to me by reading your blog Bianca. I had a dilemma and now magically I can see a way through this as I let go of personal feelings and allow others to be. Offering love and understanding allows another the opportunity to also expand their understanding of life, and to feel the space we are surrounded by when we recall the feather floating through the air.

203. Bianca this is a beautiful example of how we can be in life surrendering and allowing trusting in ourselves and all we feel. This is not easy in the world the way it currently is if we live in the reactions and emotions of all that goes on but you have shown the key to life lived this way and is very true and real if we choose to simplify surrender and allow. As you share with the feather ” In this surrender it becomes one with the wind, no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements, trusting completely that it will be taken care of in its movements and when it stops.” Then we can feel the stillness and love inside we are.

204. Hurt gives us the ability to think we are separate from another. It gives us the justification of holding judgement and impositions against another which does not allow us all to be living equally as one. I know when I have been hurt it feels like the world is against me when in truth is was actually my own choices to not be the real me that really hurt the most

205. To be able to surrender is something that I have never been able to do very easily. But since I have had treatments from practitioners of Universal Medicine, I have been able to experience what it feels like to be able to surrender my body and begin to let go of the control that I have held in my body for so long. Surrendering is something that I have found easier to do when I am having a treatment, however to allow my body to be in this state when I am going about my day to day life is a work in progress. It is changing, and I find the more that I am able to let go of any attachments I may have to ideals or beliefs, the more I am able to let my body flow with what is being presented to me, and then everything around me also flows.

206. The analogy of the feather floating with no attachment to anything, simply just being a feather, is a constant reminder when seeing them when out walking, to keep letting go and surrender more unto my body. This is bringing a natural re-adjustment and re-configuration with every step taken. The feather floating down towards me, or laying as if purposely placed on the pathin front of me, brings a lovely inner smile to the surface and a deep sense of connection and confirmation of Hierarchy always walking with us all.

207. Feathers are a beautiful symbol, not only of surrender but also of a beautiful lightness of being.

208. I can feel the gorgeous depth of your surrender likening it to a feather floating and gliding through the air Bianca, and have been working on this in different situations too. I have recently had family members around me and have been discussing some intimate plans around my passing over in the future which they have found a little challenging. We hide this with jokes as they attempt to lighten the discussion. With the surrendering, I found I needed more trust and less investment into the outcome of the conversation.

209. Bianca, I love reading your article, this really stands out for me, ‘Have you ever observed how a feather floats through the sky, so smoothly and with grace, no matter what is going on around it.’ Lately I have been feeling this and it feels exquisite, it makes me realize how hard I have been and that actually feeling surrendered is our natural way of being and allows us to be light and playful and aware.

210. Surrender is not something that I can say I have been particularly good at in life, in order to protect myself, I have gone in to control, needing to have certainty in life, not being able to go with the flow. These were not choices I could make at the time, life is somewhat different now, but can feel the pulls of control and invariably protection that comes with that control can come in from time to time, But understand that it is a choice, a choice to allow the energy to take me off course, not to surrender to the flow of the universe. That it actually takes a lot more of my energy to combat being in the flow and aligning to the cycles that are all around us, so surrender is a choice I make more and more every day.

211. The clear and profound feeling I get reading this blog, settles me in my body and prepares me for my day, allowing a gentleness to be there in my movement and in my engagement with people and activity. It brings a knowing that being this way, things get done, without push, drive and measuring myself against what I do. Thus I come back to a knowing of who I am and how I can live life, today, without any anxiousness about the result. So I find this blog very practical.

212. To surrender to the Universe is an amazing feeling of being taken care of, of being part of a whole and that everything is in a movement we are responsible for. Anything that comes across us than is just a reflection of this movement and shows us if we live surrendered or not, but we are always held by the all. To surrender is a choice, we are held anyway.

213. This is such a beautiful story. It is a gorgeous example of how we can be with life instead of reacting to it. There is no need to leave our inner connection if we can learn to observe and not absorb.

214. There is in all of our bodies a natural rhythm or pulse and it is something that is known only by feeling. It is like a fingerprint, it is unique to each one of us. When you connect to it it feels exquisite because you feel a knowing in every cell of your body, like something you have always known and never known at the same time; there is a wonder and appreciation for all that you are. The connection happens in a an instant and it is undeniable. It is the precious gift that each of us brings to humanity. It is there in every one of us waiting, sometimes many lifetimes, for us to say “yes there you are”, I accept that you are all that I need you to be, you are complete and there is nothing else I need you to do, just be all of that light you have inside of you.

215. Surrender is such a key thing, I know for myself at least. I find the doing, the motion and action very easy, and yet in life that is not always called for – learning to surrender and be myself and know that is enough is a huge life lesson I would like and am working towards mastering.

216. This makes it so clear – the only harm which can affect us we create for ourselves.

217. Surrendering to our connection feels like a very precious gift we can give to our bodies, and it responds back with appreciation in every movement. Thank you for passing on the analogy of the floating feather.

218. Bianca, this is so gorgeous to read, thank you for sharing the analogy of the feather and surrender, I recently felt like this; my body feeling so exquisitely light and surrendered, I felt very joyful and playful, it was a great marker for me on how we can live in thus surrendered way.

219. This is such beautiful description of how we can handle something that for some could be an almost daily occurrence … someone in the family or at work reacts and says something potentially hurtful to us. The way you did not react Bianca but instead chose to understand and observe what was going on for the other person i.e. that what you were talking about had triggered an old hurt, is super powerful. As you write: ‘The retaliation I felt in the comment was because this person was feeling vulnerable as the conversation went deeper, asking us all to go to another level of intimacy with one another.’ That moment of vulnerability is a key moment to behold and hold in love and go deeper. I love it.

220. The more we dissolve the pockets of tension in our bodies the more able and ready we are to dissolve the tensions in our day. I love your example and experience of this Bianca and feel a direct reflection in how you were that day with yourself was a great foundation to be able to support your family member to heal a tension they had been carrying. This is how we can heal each other, it’s all by reflection and of course, love. How we live is not just for ourselves, everyone gets the blessing.

221. When I think of surrender it feels like going limp, like a rag roll and being really floppy. I know this isn’t true surrender and the feather analogy really helps to understand what it is actually about. A feather is in no way floppy or limp, it holds its form beautifully – in fact, that’s what surrender feels like, surrendering to form, the form of the body and allowing it to move in a way that is harmonious with nature and surroundings.

     1. Yes, surrendering is not giving up. It is all that you can be and what comes through is awesome.

222. “I was bathed in the holding quality of love from my inner connection and so I remained like the feather – surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of”… this is immense Bianca, and an amazing philosophy for life. It just goes to show that if we hold our inner connection with ourselves then we can move mountains…. with love. It is amazing how the simplest of things, like a feather, can teach us so much if only we are willing to listen.

223. Yes to understand that surrender allows us to reconnect to our true power changes everything, a power that is always there inside untouched by the world and its issues, a power waiting for us to stand back and reclaim it. If we choose to put aside our separate selves and allow instead the true nature of our Divinity to come through, then we well know and understand once more where we are truly from – and the world will also through that reflection get to know it for themselves once again.

224. What I am experiencing of late is quite a lot of moments of tension in many of my interactions and relationships with others… Often this is uncomfortable at the time because I’m either dealing with my own reaction, or that of another (and sometimes both of us!) but I’m also realising that these moments of tension are an opportunity to let go, to be vulnerable, and to surrender… And instead of ignoring the tension, or hardening up to pretend it’s not there or I’m not affected, it’s allowing the relationships to go to another deeper level.

225. Thank you Bianca for sharing with us a truly inspiring and beautiful story. What a beautiful analogy the feather is floating down gently in the breeze. When we can hold ourselves gently in the flow of our inner heart, surrendered, we are able to hold them in our love, allowing them the space by not absorbing but observing.

226. “When my family member spoke, I was able to observe what was going on and support myself to not take the words personally, but to feel and look deeper at what was happening before my eyes.” Bianca I am inspired as it is even more difficult to not react with family members and with your decision you also gave your family and yourself a possibility to heal – how beautiful is that.

227. Being like a feather in the wind and allow myself to be taken wherever I there are lessong for me to learn is a great way of living and which I know is the way for all of us to go. We can let go the control, the life planning, and the investments in any outcome, it is all about learning. One big learning I have received from the healing and presentations from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine is the fact that we come from love and that we have lived that before and that with that connection we have access to all the knowledge of the universe. So let go of the control, return to love and be like a feather in the wind, forever prepared to go where you are needed and have to be for you to serve and have the lessons in life that are there for you to assist you in you evolution back to a way of being that we all have to return to.

228. Thank you Bianca for this inspiringly beautiful moment with your family. I felt the powerful transformation for your family as you held them to not go back to the old way of reaction which pulls people apart. Instead there was a true holding love that allowed the other to let go of their emotions and with more space to feel their own love again. This is showing us all how we can bring our relationships back to love with the time old true way of ‘observe and not absorb’. What was equally beautiful was that as you did that it gave you space to connect to the wisdom of what to say or not say next. This is the foundational way of healing for all our relationships.

229. Re reading your blog Bianca, I can feel my body go to another level of surrender. Thank you for the beautiful reminder that surrendering in our body is always a choice that we can make in any moment.

230. Thank you Bianca – your blog comes at the right time for me just now, as I am also to visit family and and I shall just keep this with me for all my family I am to meet: “I held my family member in absolute love, remembering the gorgeous, tender, precious, loving being they naturally are.” And they are and I can feel it, and that is all that matters.

231. Hello Bianca and I enjoyed the analogy. As we have known for a long time now, ‘everything is energy’ and so it would make sense before we move, express or think to take into consideration or awareness everything around us. Therefore, “no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements, trusting completely that it will be taken care of in its movements and when it stops”.

232. To hold steady and not fall back into patterns of behaviour (which are often so firmly entrenched when it comes to family) is a really powerful opportunity and point of change for everyone involved. And that is what is amazing – it only takes one person to make a shift, for the established behaviours to be opened up, making space for others to review and change.

233. “In this surrender, I was moving and expressing as my inner connection impulsed me to be. It was very freeing – I felt safe and supported and there was a confidence within my body that I would naturally know what to do next.” This is a beautiful way to live moving and expressing as our inner connection impulses us to this is our natural way to be and a livingness I appreciate and honour deeply the times I spend living from this space.

234. A beautiful analogy Bianca; I can just imagine a gentle, tender feather floating gracefully on the wind.
     I love and am inspired by your story of unconditional love, steadiness and allowing.

235. It might seem simple on the surface, but this choice to stay with the absolute delicateness and ease in the face of anger or annoyance is one that will change the world. For as long as history goes we have sat here trading blows with those who we care and know the most. So wow Bianca, let us bring on what this feather has to teach – may we all live with the strength of understanding you have show here.

236. I can relate to the ‘What I am expressing is too much’ or, another favorite of mine “I cannot say this because then he or she will think…..’ and then I think for the other. I am learning to just express what is there to express, regardless of what people might say or think. This still creates some anxiousness and the fascinating thing is, I also have it when I am expressing my love and appreciation. I can also think oops, this is too much perhaps. It’s all about surrender…

237. As I re-read this gorgeous blog I felt what you were describing, Bianca, was the true meaning of Power. To hold ourselves in Love and all others in a steady and consistent way is Power. The Power of Love… Truth… Harmony… Joy… and Stillness.

238. This is so gorgeous I can feel your surrendering like a feather in your writing and thank you for reminding me to let go and be part of the Love that surrounds us all. You write with a gentle strength and solidness as well giving everyone the opportunity to feel there is a different way to be. I can tell this is a defining marker for both you and your family. It shows if we don’t go into reaction but stay open to love it support others (and the all) to be all they are as well.

239. ‘Yesterday I spent the day feeling like the feather. I was totally surrendered to my inner connection, the solid, grounded wisdom that lives within, observing all that was happening around me.’

     I love this writing: the surrender of a feather and the totally solid wisdom, in absolute partnership in a day. A point of huge inspiration.

240. Thank you Bianca for sharing such a lovely experience with your family, being able to completely surrender, observe and not absorb the reaction of you family member. The analogy of the feather is awesome, and I will remember to bring it into my day.

241. I have had a few challenging weeks with changes taking place at work, with new systems and projects. Today at one point I felt overwhelmed. Then I remembered the feather and surrender analogy. As I allowed myself to just let go of the worry and know that all will be taken care of no matter what it appears to look like. I could feel my body relax and the pressure fade away.

242. ‘I was bathed in the holding quality of love from my inner connection and so I remained like the feather – surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.’ – Love this, beautifully said Bianca.

243. I find it so amazing that you did not react to what and how this family member expressed but stayed with you and connected. A great example of surrender to a situation that resolved beautifully because of your reflection.

244. I am becoming more aware of the harm sympathising does especially to me and my body when another feels hurt. I tire easily so observing and not absorbing is key.

245. To me it feels like there are levels of surrender and interestingly I can feel how I am being asked to surrender more deeply in my relationship. I can feel how I am holding on to control, resisting to go deeper and trusting. Thank you Bianca for sharing such a gorgeous blog on surrendering that I will take with me into the day.

246. If we have built our lives on control and having a tight grip, it is nerve racking to surrender like a feather. The more I practise this the more I realise that it is in the tight grip that the anxiety is created. Then it makes more and more sense to ‘let go’.

247. “Yesterday I spent the day feeling like the feather. I was totally surrendered to my inner connection, the solid, grounded wisdom that lives within, observing all that was happening around me.” What an amazing day you have described here, Bianca, by staying connected to yourself, and being completely surrendered to that, you had such an incredible outcome when you just continued to stay with yourself when a member of your family reacted to a remark that you had made. What an example of how things pan out of their own accord when we just lovingly hold those around us in that space. There is no need to actually DO anything, just to be yourself, be the amazingly loving person that you truly are. Thank you for sharing.

248. “In this surrender it becomes one with the wind, no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements, trusting completely that it will be taken care of in its movements and when it stops.” I love the description of the feather you use here, Bianca, as an analogy to surrendering control. It is especially pertinent to me at the moment, I am in the process of a very big move, and it is sometimes hard to let go of the need to control how things will evolve. But I find the above description so fits how I really want to be able to fully let go of that need to control, and let it evolve as it is meant to do. I find it very stilling to read this lovely blog, and realise just how freeing it can be to just let go and let God and the hierarchy sort it all and be guided in what is to be done.

249. Thank you Bianca for such a beautiful appreciation of understanding surrendering offers our hearts to open and be all the love we are. I also share an ever deepening appreciation to Serge Benhayon for offering these simple yet profound truths to everyday living and ‘observe and not absorb’ is one of the most important, other wise everyone is shut out of love, and this just plain hurts.

250. A feather is such a beautiful reflection for us when we consider how it allows itself to be carried by the air until it oh so gracefully falls to the ground. Sometimes it seesm as though they are suspended in the air, just waiting for the next small draught to come along and pick it up again, always knowing that it will be supported. If we allow oursleves to see life in this way, that we are constantly being held and supported in whatever we do, our lives would be transformed.

251. Beautiful to re- read your blog Bianca. In learning to observe and not absorb a key factor is how I am feeling about myself. When I feel full and enough then I have understanding of where another is coming from. When I feel less than then I can react and not respond, which is usually due to an unresolved hurt from way back. Dealing with old hurts and expectations enables me to let go and detach from the outcome.

252. I love this analogy of a feather being akin to surrender. A feather doesn’t just let go and surrender in a ‘whatever’ kind of way, a feather allowed itself to be carried by the larger world, it grows connected to a living being, when the time is right it allows itself to be released, the it is carried by the wind and placed where it is needed, not attached to where it ends up or who (if any) see it.

253. It is many years since I first heard Serge Benhayon present the importance of ‘observe not absorb’ in our livingness. Your beautiful elaboration on this theme in your analogy with a feather has inspired me to reinforce my acceptance of observing and not absorbing in my daily life. Thank you.

254. “I was filled with appreciation for my choice to remain like the feather – surrendered to the exquisite love that surrounds us all and to the solid, unwavering wisdom that comes from our inner connection.” This blog is very pertinent as lately we have been discussing the nature of intimacy within a Women In Livingness group that I attend in London each month. I am beginning to sense the intimacy we can offer in surrendering to this inner connection and hence inspire another to stay with themselves, by holding them in a loving space so that they are able to feel what’s coming up for them and to gain greater clarity on the truth of their choices.

255. From re-reading this blog I can feel just how accessible support is, in the state of surrender and that in becoming tense or trying to control a situation, support becomes hard to find, even though it is still there.

256. What a great reading you had on this situation. It is so easy to go into an instant reaction based on hurt, but as you have just demonstrated Bianca there is so much more going on behind the scenes as it were energetically and emotionally then first meets the eye and when we go for the reaction we miss out on reading all the other things which can bring a great healing to the situation.

257. Thank you for sharing with us the beautiful analogy of the feather. What occurs to me when I think of a feather floating down is that even though it is gently falling, it looks held, supported the whole time by an invisible power. The reminds me that we are all constantly held and supported by the universe. When we surrender to just allowing our natural universality to come through, we can feel that support that is always there for us.

258. This is so lovely Bianca. To be able to feel the reaction and not take it on, to surrender and float like a feather, such a beautiful analogy.

259. Love is unattached to the reactions that come from others. It flows on regardless of whether it is accepted or not, and provides the opportunity for us to feel just how held we always are.

260. There is nothing better than surrendering completely to our true nature, the “… exquisite love that surrounds us all and to the solid, unwavering wisdom that comes from our inner connection”, however it can be a great challenge to let go of the reins that we have so tightly held for entire lifetimes and trust this exquisite love and our inner-connection. That is where Natalie Benhayon and Universal Medicine have become the breeze that has supported many to surrender to life as does a feather.

261. Being aware of what we are surrendering to is important! We can surrender to our inner connection like you did here Bianca or we can give ourselves over to anxiousness, angst, stress, anger, bliss…

262. A feather may be aligned with space, it may not be in time – there is no rush and it moves without any purpose of going anywhere. When we align with time, we limit ourselves, when we align with space, even while sitting at the computer, we remain more universal.

263. The only true and real confidence comes from knowing and being who we are – that changes our whole relationship with life and we realize how all the struggle was self-created and perpetuated by holding onto false identifications.

264. Family and close ones can be quite challenging when it comes to not falling back into familiar patterns of behaviour, same hurts same reactions playing out repeating the well-known family dynamics. It just needs one to step out of the cycle and thereby offer another quality and choice for all to change as you have beautifully done and described here. The common pattern of waiting for the other to make the first step and let down the guard doesn´t work, it is always us (everyone) to take the first step; that´s how we change the world.

     1. I love this. Not waiting for someone else to make the first move but actually taking responsibility for the part we play and realising that we have all it takes to call the changes too.

265. Not reacting, i.e. observing and not absorbing a situation or a person´s behaviour is really key to change our relationships – with ourselves, others and life. There is no limit to how much we can learn and unfold in this process as there are layers upon layers of reactions (hurt and protection) that need to be discarded so that we set ourselves free from the self-imprisonment that keeps us from living the love and joy that wait in all of us to be lived once again.

266. The very notion of surrendering is quite unusual to the way society lives which is mostly about protection, control etc. But then where or what do I surrender to? As you say, you surrender to yourself, your inner connection. We really need to know where we can and should surrender to so that we get to know life and ourselves in its fullness.

267. Bianca there are so many lines in this blog that are a pure delight to read. Just as the wind guides the movements of the feather, when we surrender, the love we are held in, God’s love, guides our next movement.

268. When I first heard Serge say ‘Observe and not absorb’ I could feel the sense of what he said but in no way was I able to put it into practice as it was outside of my experience. Gradually over the years these words have begun to become a reality – not all the time but when they do I can feel the love and grace in my body and no longer the need to re-act and retaliate. As you have described Bianca, it allows space for me to understand and to feel the bigger picture and allows the other person a moment to feel the love we are when we flow together and are not in competition.

269. It is interesting to observe my own resistance to surrendering. The other day I felt my body truly surrender and I felt still, vital, alive, settled, rested, joyful and alert all at the same time. My body felt spacious and so did the day around me too, I felt like there was time to do everything. By the evening I chose to go into old patterns of push and drive and I sabotaged the amazing quality I had connected to in the day. What is it about feeling amazing that I choose to not accept and hold all the time?

270. I really enjoyed re-reading this blog and to feel the affects of being like the feather within my own body, and then to have that as a reminder during my day. If we allow ourselves to surrender, it soon becomes evident how much we hold onto within our bodies and the tension becomes more noticeable. Personally I have noticed things like typing a letter when the wording had to be just so, and sometimes whilst navigating a busy intersection whilst driving – in moments like these and along with many others, surrendering the body is true medicine.

271. It is so interesting for me to feel the path I would have once gone down and to resist going into reaction and to stay in love when something like confrontation happens. Even when I slip up, I am able to observe what has happened and consider the hurt that allowed the reaction. I can then deal with that hurt and know that it is not me, just something I need to consider. When we surrender we can really be fearless. How beautiful is that!

272. There is never a moment that the feather is lost or free-falling, it is always being guided by the air, energy and conditions all around it. Reading your words today Bianca it becomes clear that we are not disconeected, separate and at ‘risk’ of the elements in the way we see but in fact we are surrounded and held by the universe constantly. We are beheld by God to our very last particle and cell of our being.

273. Bianca, it is very gorgeous to re-read this article, since reading it the first time I have been aware of not reacting if someone is hurt and not being themselves and instead I have been practicing holding them in love, when I do this
     I can feel how non-judgemental this is for the person and how it allows them to come back to themselves and not get defensive and withdraw, thank you for sharing your experience.

274. Surrender had always the connotations of giving up and giving one’s power to something or someone. This changed when I encountered Serge Benhayon and he presented the true meaning of surrender. It is in fact the complete antithesis of what I used to believe and you have expressed this beautifully with this analogy of the feather.

275. Go into reaction and we have lost the space and the moment to observe and learn what is being presented for us and for all to gain deeper understanding and awareness.

276. Love this…..”I was filled with appreciation for my choice to remain like the feather”, it is a choice and a challenging one at times when one is triggered by someone. To actually observe and not react really is a choice, one we can make when we do surrender.

277. Natalie Benhayon is indeed a true role model and someone in whom the depth of surrender is apparent, felt and lived.

278. To appreciate ourselves so deeply and to know that we have given our all in each moment, completes it and makes way for true surrender to be.

279. There is such great lightness and divinity in Surrender, akin to the feather.

280. To surrender to Love whilst all that is happening, is an art that is well worth mastering.

281. In this surrender it becomes one with the wind, no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements, trusting completely that it will be taken care of in its movements and when it stops. This line stood out for me as I am learning to trust that I will be taken care of and everything will work out….it is this trusting that deepens my surrender….

282. Bianca meal times are a great opportunity to connect, a great opportunity to share about the day however, it’s when we surrender that true connection and intimacy can be possible. If we first see the essence of each person we can bring meals times back to a celebration rather than a frantic affair.

283. “In this surrender I was moving and expressing like my body wants me to be” When we surrender to our body, our body gets truly tangable and alive.

284. To surrender like a feather to our innermost is our natural way of being. We belong to the all to which our inner most is connected to, to the all that is the universe, God. So why do we tend to avoid that by going into reaction and because of that stray away of this connection? Is it because we have chosen a life of separation from God and in that have created a way of living that is void of true love and based on the hurts we hold from being in this disconnection? To me there is only one way and that is to surrender to the love that resides in me and is connected with the whole. In that I can feel how divine we are, that we do not belong to this earth and are far greater than this. We all have to return to our original state of being that is in co-creation with the all instead of the self created world that we are currently living in which shows us clearly that something is not right.

285. I so love the use of the metaphor of the feather gliding through the air, absolutely trusting that all will be as it is meant to be. What a wonderful description for the process of surrender. Learning to surrender and trust has been something I have had many problems with, the need to control has been uppermost. But with this description, I can see how easy it could really be, no more struggle, my adjustment to surrendering is becoming easier the more I feel the beauty of the feather gliding through the air. Thank you Bianca.

286. I’m noticing how, all too often, in my uniquely individual way, I set myself apart and want to be seen as an individual. I can plague myself with doubt, with not good enough and their opposites –knowing better and being better in some way. All very yuck. And if I’m choosing to be super individuated I can reflect on how these choices to be different for the sake of how it feels in my body and how they don’t reflect the magnificence of who we are so this pull us all down, and then I use this to be even more different!

     So what’s beautiful about this article is feeling the magnificence of the universe and the grace of surrender to its ‘grand symphony’. My efforts to stand out are so at odds with who I am and the love I feel for humanity I can simply stop it and return to the all of us.

287. This lightness of the feather, the ability to fly and the dedication to surrender is something which touches my heart always when I think of it.

288. Bianca – the choice to observe and not absorb has come out so beautifully in this sharing, and your observation of a feather, the lightness and playfulness of this is a quality we can all be in. And for me it comes across as an openness and joy that is very supportive to those around us.

289. This is a beautiful blog offering the reality and healing that comes from surrender if we can allow ourselves to be like a feather in life and take a moment to truly feel what is going on. As you share this simply changes everything as the need to react and correct is strong and does not work for us to have a loving evolving connection with each other. A great reflection and way forward thank you Bianca

290. I am needing sorely to practice surrender! When things do not go the way we plan and we get agitated about it, then it is a sure sign that we are trying to control something and there is very little control in surrender. One thing I find frustrating to surrender to is when the body is saying it is time to rest, and yet I can feel so much that needs to be done. It is like there is a tension there from the things that are waiting to be done, and yet there is the body saying it is time to rest. This tension and the call of the body are not always easy to handle, but yet this is where ‘Surrender’ is needed.

291. What a wonderful opportunity the whole family was offered in that moment. I have remembered this many times since reading it the first time.

292. I love how you actually claimed your power in that moment and decided not to go into a reaction or cause a scene – it does feel absolutely freeing to not be beholden to another’s tensions or anger. I too clearly remember what it felt like to not react to a huge trigger from my family – it’s so liberating to just be.

293. Being like a feather is easier than being like a stone. If someone is a “stone’ with me then I connect with his or her inner – feather and something beautiful happens.

294. “Observe and not absorb” is a powerful key to keep the connection with our natural state in every situation. It doesn’t matter how much rush, hard or impositive can be our environment, there is always a place within to connect. Serge Benhayon and his teachings of the Ageless Wisdom are so inspiring for its simplicity and for the deep love that he is bringing everyday to the world.

295. Thank you again for this blog Bianca. I was thinking about this while learning more about surrender today following a conversation that did not go as expected. So I am further deepening my understanding of surrender and letting go of control.

296. Life is very different when we are simply open to whatever presents itself and then respond.

297. This is such a beautiful analogy. A feather is just one component of many that enables a bird to fly. They are weightless and exquisitley graceful on their own, but together provide a strength and power that can carry a bird across oceans and continents. If we consider that each of us has these innate qualities within us, and remind oursleves of that throughout the day, we have the potential to bring another the reflection of those qualities that they have within themselves but may not have ever considered. What a blessing we are being offered by this blog.

298. This reminds me of the truth that underneath our protections we are desperate to be held in love and that our protective reactions only come because we are using our hurts as an excuse to not be loving ourselves. Your holding of you knowing love that was there at the dawning of the day, allowed your family member to trust your love Bianca. A true marker that is now in your body. An inspiration for me this morning. Thank you!

299. A feather. The power and impact of something so delicate. Now that is inspiration for sharing ourselves without armour with the world.

300. Reacting to any situation instantly draws us into the energy of it, and robs us of the space we could otherwise hold to truly see and understand what is going on.. wherein lies the greater wisdom and understanding of what is needed in response.

301. Bianca, I love how you have expressed the understanding of surrender. We have become so accustomed to trying to manage life and wear ourselves out trying to control situations – and yet if we understand we are part of one harmonious constellated whole, we can relinquish the worry and need to control, and instead embrace the simplicity and freedom that comes with the choice to move within that harmony and true purpose, moving from the inner impulse that is constantly with us within.

302. Like a feather I can feel held and trust each next moment is one I’m supported in by staying connected to my own love. There is a simplicity and magic to being like a feather.

303. It is very powerful when we don’t react. When we take the time to just be open and observe and come to understand the situation in front of us rather than needing it to be a certain way. To do this, I have had to really get honest with how often I want to control the situation and how I have a need for things to be a certain way. When I allow it to be and bring understanding to it all, it feels so great in my body and it gives the other person space to not feel judged or “not good enough” if they don’t meet my expectations of them.

304. Such a good exposing on when we can let go of the not wanting to hurt others or offend, not go into hardness or judgment, not to contract and express with love – the ripple effects can be devastating. The opportunities for everyone involved are missed and we keep cementing old patterns and behaviours further in our bodies. Having the strength to not waver from the delicate, tender Souls that we are and share this no matter what is being asked for and is the truth of who we know ourselves and everyone to be.

305. It feels crazy that society is caught in these unnecessary reactions between people and what happens in the world around us which is keeping us from remaining open and surrender.

306. Reading this blog I can also feel the enormous appreciation for Serge Benhayon and the Ageless Wisdom what they continue to present has supported me to change my life in many areas. To observe and not absorb is a big one and I am realising its truth at deeper and deeper levels.

307. I love this analogy here Bianca, with the likeness to a feather, delicate and graceful, fragile yet strong. When we do surrender like the gliding feather, we do not know the outcome of what will happen but we simply go with the rhythm and flow.

308. Bianca, what a beautiful sharing – very insightful and inspiring. I now have a deeper understanding of what is meant by’ observing and not absorbing’.

309. Committing to be connected to our bodies and to have awareness in our movements allows us to observe and not absorb life, where we can accept and surrender to the flow of the universe.

310. I have returned to read this amazing blog once again Bianca and this morning a line stayed with me “…part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements.” This reminded me that all in nature is there to offer a reflection for us to learn, to heal and to return to that which we come from. It also reminded me that when we surrender we too become part of this harmonious symphony.

311. Yesterday I felt a deeper level of absolute surrendering, appreciating and honoring of being in my body and who I am. The feeling that every move was initiated to be with me first and foremost. I was with this awareness on a walk and hey-presto the feathers where along my path. This is a wonderful blog to reflect on often, thank you.

312. This is a very inspiring story the way you stayed with yourself and held your connection in the face of a comment that could have taken you out. You supported yourself beautifully to not react but to understand your family member by observing their reaction and emotions and not absorbing it.

313. Surrender is a state we can get to all the time; it isn’t causing any reaction, but a understanding of life and the situation.

314. Incredible to consider that not only is every-thing expression but that every-thing is either true or not, there is no middle ground.

315. It is beautiful how you describe that the surrender started during your day and then sustained you in your evening conversation. Cause Surrender is not so much an instant decision that you could take but rather a movement that you build.

316. Your body knows and to be with what it knows is to surrender to it. Alleluia !

317. i love this blog and the feeling it inspires in my body of surrendering to my inner connection… Being open and lovng with everyone but not letting others’ emotions or unresolved hurts have a hold on us as well. There’s the solidness of knowing our inner most connection is absolute, all that is needed but not from a holding on, but from a surrendering to ourselves, to that within us which is so beautiful and true.

318. Surrendering to the divine is the greatest gift we can give ourselves as we get to feel the flow and easiness in our movements and the simplicity of how life constellates to what is needed at every moment for the good of all.

319. Yesterday I had a similar experience. I expressed something in a group and was corrected in front of everyone. Immediately I went into guilt and the thoughts of ‘I’ve done something wrong’, but than I was wondering what are these thoughts good for? Do they serve us all, me or the group I am sitting with? The clear and simple answer was ‘no’. And so I reconnected to my strength and power, connected back to the group, become a father again, so to speak. The reaction of mine was holding onto an old hurt and the hurt was created to hold me back, to not speak up anymore, to protect myself. But that was an illusion because I am not protected when I am separated from the true me and/or the group. Nothing hurts more than to be disconnected, unaware, blended and shut down. We trick ourselves here and it is a grace to step out of this illusions.

     1. Hi Sandra, Bianca’s whole blog has presented me with a stop-moment because I am really struggling with letting go of my need to be correct all the time. Since first reading this beautiful blog I have begun working on recognising these moments of inner turmoil.

        On reading these words of yours just now I have felt a further and deeper resonance within my body as I am struggling in particular with my old ways of ‘putting up’. This and wanting to surrender like a feather is causing me confusion.

        Your words, “The reaction of mine was holding onto an old hurt and the hurt was created to hold me back, to not speak up anymore, to protect myself. But that was an illusion because I am not protected when I am separated from the true me and/or the group.” seem to have provided a key for me to feel more deeply and with greater focus on my internal wranglings. Thank you ❤

        1. Yeah Maggie. These inner wranglings are so much a waste of time – are they not?! And to step out of this is such a grace, and gives us space.

320. In this blog it is clear that Bianca is surrendering to her body, and not to any outer source. This is a very important point that is well worth considering.

321. What I got so clearly from your blog today – and have been learning from the presentations of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine – is that we can actually be of incredible support to ourselves. I love how you supported yourself to not go into reaction but to remain open and observe what was going on, that then supported your family to not increase the reaction and to surrender to the openness and love that was on offer. To start living a life of self-care and self-love, is actually really supportive of yourself because the more you choose to take care of you, the easier it becomes and a more loving foundation you build for yourself so you can more easily observe than absorb what goes on around you.

322. Hello Bianca and I love the analogy you bring with this blog. There is certainly great power in this ‘surrender’ so long as it is a true surrender and doesn’t hold an expectation of what should happen next. No matter what the setting allowing your body to truly settle and then speaking from there always pulls in the ‘right’ things to say or do. Thanks Bianca.

323. The lightness of a feather is a great symbol of our ability to surrender to the greater all and hold ourselves and others in that same quality.

324. Thank you Bianca, it has been beautiful to re-visit this blog and a great reminder that in surrender there is great power. The timing of this reminder is perfect.

325. Wow it seems to me that when we surrender everything flows, when we hold back and put up our many forms of protection we are actually saying no to divinity and with this saying no we are really causing so much harm to our bodies, humanity and the world. We can no longer say no to what is so naturally true without the huge impact being felt.

326. When we surrender there is no aspect of ‘us’ left, we have handed over to a higher power to work through us. The ensuing outcome is to be appreciated and humbly accepted, that we got ourselves out of the way.

327. Surrendering is completely trusting the outcome will be felt by all and will hold all equally.

328. The responsibility we take when it comes to our awareness that there is a reaction is a very loving choice for everyone. Choosing not to follow the pate of reaction but keeping our hearts open and surrendering like a feather to the moment is a golden opportunity to just be with each other even if it is a little awkward, it may only last a moment or two.

329. We can surrender to being truly connected with ourself and others or we can surrender to getting emotional and hurting ourselves and others. It’s just a choice between the two as you have shown Bianca and one that we have in every moment.

330. I love your analogy of surrender being like the feather that floats in the sky, trusting that all will be as it is meant to be. “In this surrender, I was moving and expressing as my inner connection impulsed me to be. It was very freeing – I felt safe and supported and there was a confidence within my body that I would naturally know what to do next”. This is the way that we all need to be living and moving in the future, wonderful that you had this gorgeous day in this way of being and how beautifully it worked out with your family in your evening discussion. I am working very much on the need for me to learn to surrender more deeply, a very inspiring reading for me to feel how beautiful it can be. I have had glimpses of this, much more to come in the future.

331. With support from Natalie Benhayon I am learning that surrender has a whole new meaning than what I thought, and that is as important to be surrendered within my body as it is to surrender to what is going on in my life. The surrender is never wishy washy, but a surrender that has a knowing that there is a much greater plan at play than any plans I have.

332. Thank you for highlighting the importance of surrender Bianca. I can relate to the tension of being frustrated or wanting to have control in situations, but as you’ve shared we can simply observe and not absorb, instead of trying to ‘solve’ problems or fight whatever is happening around us.

333. For me previously surrendering was a foreign concept, such was how I was living with my body like a rock through life and it had to be a certain way, fit a certain picture, look a certain way. But life as approached by looks and appearances has not worked because our bodies feel, not just look in response or reaction to life. I have have a greater understanding that surrender is about how we move or bodies and if my toes are scrunched or there is tightness in my jaw then that is a fight, that is not surrender. It’s from the fight in ourselves that creates the tension with another and as you’ve shared here Bianca when that fight isn’t within us it’s not within our relationships with others, Thank you.

334. A great reminder to surrender to our love and to our quality of being – to approach life as light as a feather.

335. I have come back to this blog and reconnected with what you shared about the choice to stay with the open feeling in your heart, not react at the dinner table when you received the comment. It is very true, the reaction on our part can keep trying to come in, the words of injustice and how could they behave this way are all just hanging in the air waiting for us to choose them, OR NOT! That is the most enormous point for me, I actually have a choice of listening to that injustice voice or reading the energy of why the behaviour/ words came through that person. Did they listen to a voice in order to cover up what they were feeling? So easy to do, but by my holding steady we all get an opportunity to a least see the words are being fed to us.

336. Accepting ourselves for who we truly are, allows us to surrender to what is with the knowing that everything is perfectly taken care of.

337. Observing and not absorbing life if one of the most powerful life skills we can ever have, it allows us to stand up strong and not waiver from our truth within.

338. With reading your blog Bianca, I’m able to appreciate how far I’ve come in the practice of observing and not absorbing too. When I’m living in a way that aligns with and honours the natural stillness within me, I am so much more present with, holding and understanding of others. Conversely when I let my nervous system run the show, I’m like a sponge to the emotions, ideals and beliefs of others, and my body becomes dense and disconnected.

339. Surrender – to be free of ideals, beliefs, expectations and images – thus allowing the soul’s work to be impulsed and activated through the vehicle of the body. Getting that which we identify as self, out of the way.

340. Your feather analogy reminded me of a moment at the beach this morning, as I observed, in awe, a delicate wavelet roll into the shore. Each particle of water joined with the next one and the next one, in perfect sequence, pulled and guided along by a force that resulted in a delicate, intricate and playful ripple effect. It was like the water was dancing. And it occurred to me in that moment, that every single particle is interdependent with all others. Each has its role to play at the very precise moment when it is needed. No holding back or diverting from the plan. There is so much we can learn from nature. It so lovingly reflects the simplicity and grandness of the all that we are all from, and the greater purpose of our existence.

341. Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon are shining examples of what is actually possible when we surrender to the exquisiteness that we are and the wisdom that is available to us all to connect to. The more we choose to connect to our natural essence and vibration the more we realise how ginormous we really are and where we come from. The healing and evolution that you share in your blog is a great reflection of this and the harmony that we can be in.

342. I love this blog and have long felt the immense harm to myself and others when I absorb rather than observe life. After reading this very beautiful and inspiring blog again today, I clicked on one of the links below the blog to read a bit more about observing and not absorbing and had a big laugh when I was taken to an old photo of myself. It links to a short article I wrote as does the second link. I am certainly a forever student of life learning from all others including myself!

343. Recently I was totally unable to surrender to an imagined work load. My body hardened and my connection with myself was severed, for all intense and purposes I became a head with no body. This is how most people live and it is so incredibly difficult, life becomes a struggle at best and a battle at worse. Surrender is our natural way and yet we are not living it.

344. “So I don’t need to be the super strong muscle guy?” No be like a feather. “So I don’t need to be the outstanding performer?” No, just be like a feather. “So what you’re saying is the sport I do is not really needed?” Just be like a feather. “But I have to be a fast worker!” Just be like a feather. “What if others fight against me?” Just be like a feather. For they are all touched deeply by your true quality. As I appreciate yours Bianca, and these delicate words.

345. Again, very interesting how surrender has been changed to mean or represent ‘giving up’. When in actual fact it is our way to true power.

346. Surrender is key to a deep understanding of life.

347. I love the analogy of Surrender as a feather – this absolutely captures surrender to a tee.
     The more we surrender to our light, the more heavenly our every movement.

348. Hi Bianca, I also felt to add that I particularly loved this line in your blog as I felt it said it all. . . “I was bathed in the holding quality of love from my inner connection and so I remained like the feather – surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.”

349. Surrendering is a beautiful thing, the moment I hear or say this word my body responds. The response is a letting go of all that I am holding in that moment. This allows me to feel what I have been carrying. I love this word as I love the feeling of letting it all go. Thank you for sharing Bianca.

350. Thank you Bianca the choice to remain surrendered like a feather is a simple and powerful way to deal with any situation in life especially with any challenges we may feel. I know when I have chosen surrender instead of reaction it seems space opens up for us to experience a deeper love and acceptance of ourselves and others as you have so beautifully shared with us here.

351. I love the power and grace of a feather showing us the strength in surrendering to a flow that is not about us as individuals but about a bigger picture that incorporates everyone in even the smallest details. And what a brilliant example of a ‘feather in action’ around your dinner table, Bianca, thank you.

352. Surrendering is something that I too am learning to do more and more and what is so powerful about this is that the more I let drop away from my body, the more vulnerable I feel, and with that comes a willingness to allow others to see that vulnerability and then they often begin to surrender too! It really does work like magic.

353. These symbols in nature are everywhere if we open ourselves up to the magic that surrounds us. When we realise what is presented is not random but perfectly timed and relevant.

354. It’s fascinating to feel how over bearing my mind can be when it gets caught up in control. My awareness reduces and I become ensnared in the situation that I am trying to control. My thoughts have the intensity of a freight train and I feel hell bent on manipulating the situation ‘my way’ and all of this is going on in a body that is hard. I have been really practicing ‘handing it over’ to the bigger part of me that knows what to do in all situations. In order to hand it over, my part to is hand it over in a body that is as surrendered as possible.

355. “Smoothly and with grace”. When we choose to move our body in this way it has a profound effect on how we feel. The key to how we feel is in our movements. I find that when I deliberately make my movements about being graceful, then everything else flows from that. This way of moving supports me then with whatever is presented that may be challenging as I have already established a rhythm in my body that is harmonious.

356. I can still find it challenging when somebody is reacting strongly to me yet I am also learning to not take it personally. Surrendering for me is also about not taking things personally or thinking that life is about me. It has to do with observing life and people and not getting emotionally involved in what is going on around me. When I stay with myself, I am actually of a bigger support to others than when I react.

357. Hi Bianca, your blog really has an impact on me. Every time I feel like going into a control or anxiousness/overwhelm I think of the feather and surrender. I have to say surrendering works like magic 🙂

358. I love this Bianca. The feeling of surrender and trusting that we will be supported where we land. I lose trust at times and feel that I need to control which gets in the way of surrendering. This then creates a tension in my body which ends up putting me into a momentum of unloving and unsupportive actions – all stemming from a lack of surrender. This is a beautiful reminder.

359. It seems to me that learning not to react to situations is one of the greatest lessons there is. This is because when we react we give enormous amounts of energy to the very situation we are seeking to stop or avoid. Odd as it may feel if we have not experienced the fact, when we accept and observe what is happening we do not empower it, but instead give it the space to dissipate. This is by no means advocating a passive approach to life because it is also important to express what we know is true – but when we speak in reaction we are just adding to the ill energy we do not like nor choose.

     1. I am finding it very difficult to hold in check my reactions Richard, but step by step I am becoming more aware of what I am doing… I am defending myself for no other reason than an unknown fear, because I always have. I feel that the more that I become aware to what I am doing, the more space will open up for me to actually stand back and observe one day! ❤

        1. As an addendum: over the last two days we have seen a crowd of rooks in our garden squabbling over some chocolate cake … I feel that these magic moments are telling me that I am not letting my feathers float freely… Yet!

360. Learning to surrender is a work in progress for me, but I have experienced similar moments when I let go of resistance to a situation – and felt that ‘feather-like’ lightness. My feeling is that we can take that lightness into everything we do, when we are prepared to let go and trust enough to allow it.

     1. Letting go is so key, yes. Whether that is our version of what is right or wrong; our need to control an outcome; our previous experience and hurts or any sense of competition/comparison, letting go is a shoulder dropping, space enhancing liberation!

361. Unless we have a solid foundation of love for ourselves and our inner most connection is very steady, we will absorb…. We absorb because we leave our connection, and then we get hurt.

362. This was so beautiful to re-read and feel even deeper what is being offered– how to observe and not take on another’s unresolved issue or pain. It’s a blog I’ll keep coming back to… It offers a great reflection of how much love we are choosing for ourselves, how solid we are with our inner connection or not, because this is what defines how much we can truly surrender.

363. It is amazing to stay open when someone is ‘attacking’ you as that is tricky to do so I am very inspired by your sharing.

364. I have recently been observing and being inspired by the people around me and their ability to hold a presence and care in their bodies no matter the situation, and highlighting that for me I don’t carry that same consistency – that I get caught up in the wind and let it carry me and effect me, rather than gliding on it.

365. It’s interesting how we can have a tendency to link strength with control, I know I certainly have, yet control isn’t a strength at all, it’s abusive and very limiting. I love how you have shown the power in our true strength, to surrender to our love and trust in ourselves, knowing that when we do, everything is just as it needs to be. ‘I was filled with appreciation for my choice to remain like the feather – surrendered to the exquisite love that surrounds us all and to the solid, unwavering wisdom that comes from our inner connection.’

     1. Because of what we are taught growing up, we seldom connect the words ‘power’ and ‘strength’ with ‘feather’ or ‘surrender’. I love what you share. Alison, that there is trues power in surrender.

366. With surrender there is always a deeper level we are able to go to. I find this amazing and deeply healing, as feeling surrendered in the body… well… there is nothing like it!

367. To surrender is to understand that there is more to life than us as individuals – that there is a grander plan in place for us to partake of, that is, surrender to.

368. Bianca the first “thought” that comes to mind about a feather is that it is weak, gets blown about by the wind and is not strong. Yet the delicateness and at ease in which you’ve related and described it brings a real strength to the analogy. One of the biggest problems I’ve faced during my life is the constant unease at which I felt about myself, yet I love the fact that by surrendering and being like a feather I am allowing myself to be at ease with myself.

369. A beautiful reminder to keep coming back to the stillness in my body when life gets busy and respond to what my body feels to do, not what my head wants to do!

370. If we where to live in a way that truly supported ourselves we would naturally support others without any trying of any kind.

371. Reacting in anyway is indeed poison to the body and our bodies are not designed to have this poison.

372. If we where to really surrender and not get caught in another issues we would naturally all support each other.

373. This analogy is one I can also really relate to and I have also started to have experiences such as these when others react, which is a huge step forward for how I am with myself and those around me. What I have found is that the reaction for the other does not seem to last as long either and so it supports them to come back to themselves by me not going into reaction also.

374. To surrender and understand ourselves and other people’s reactions is key to learning from our relationships. Reactions can be like a ping pong ball effect where it can continue from one reaction to another, potentially spiralling out of control leaving everyone involved feeling drained, angry and exhausted. Whereas once we choose to obverse the situation, understand, surrender and be open we are then able to make the next choice a more loving one and more able to choose to express with love.

375. I keep returning to this blog to be reminded of the exquisite beauty that is on offer when we choose to surrender. It is a big one for me – to let go.. Thank you.

376. To read a situation and the reason behind people’s behaviours and communications with compassionate understanding and without taking them personally is one of our greatest sources of power. A power that allow us to move through life with the Grace of a floating feather.

377. The feather is a beautiful analogy Bianca, and one to remember in aspects of life.. to just let go; let it go, and loose the fight or antagonism. To let it be. Part of this is from understanding as you share, and also accepting someone’s choice or free will to be where they are at…the more we accept ourselves, the more we accept another and react less, and respond more.

378. Surrender is a key word for us to explore and ponder on. There is a big difference between surrendering and submitting – the difference being that in one you self empower whilst with the second option (submitting) you give your power away and allow someone or something else to control and to make decisions on your behalf, always at your detriment and never in support of your growth. Surrendering has nothing of disempowerment in it – it is about empowering a deeper part of ourselves that we know knows best and will always hold our own and everyone else’s wellbeing as equal and valued.
     So, given this understanding of surrender, and getting to realise how powerful it is, then why is it that we find it so difficult to surrender? Could it be that there are two parts of us – one that struggles to surrender to the greater within us all and seeks to stay in control? A part of us that does not want to admit that it is part of a greater whole…Once you pass through the portal of surrender, one realises that it truly is the way, yet when one stands on the other side, one struggles to let go of all those things that we thought were the very things that held us ‘afloat’ so to speak. It takes a big breath to let go and trust, never in a way that gives ones power away to another, yet in every way allowing the greater power within to show the way.
     And even then, surrender comes in stages. You pass through one portal only to find another and yet another and yet another, each time going deeper, the process the same. And not much different to us developing gentleness with ourselves and others, then tenderness, then even deeper levels of tenderness… and infinitum. It is an endless and magnificent and utterly humbling road to travel as we discover more and more of ourselves and how powerful we really are in our surrender.

379. Wonderful, Bianca, that you were able to stay with your beautiful self when a member of your family reacted to something that you said. I love your description of how you held yourself with no reaction and just observed the situation, holding the other with love, to the point that he/she completely relaxed and trusted your intentions in the conversation. How beautiful it is when we can do that, it opens up the possibility of much more intimate conversations within your family, built the level of trust between its members, so that the family may be taken to a different level of understanding. It is so precious when we can learn to let go of the need to control, let oneself be as the feather, being in harmony with the rhythms of the universe.

380. It is a truly beautiful and apt analogy Bianca, that of the feather… I can just feel the surrender and complete absence of control or tension in it’s gentle float.

381. Such a powerful blog, Bianca, thank you for sharing. I love your description of the feather floating in the wind, “There is not a speck of control as it silkily glides through the air and surrenders to the wind, letting it guide its movements”. It is so beautiful to feel the enormous freedom in that feather, to fully surrender, trusting completely to the wind to take it to wherever it is meant to be. An enormous symbol to me to let myself be as that feather, let go of the need to control what happens, and trust that I am enough as I am, and appreciate just how beautiful I am. Such important words those, surrender, trust, appreciate.

382. Bianca, I so loved re-reading your blog and realised I have just gone into the very thing you talk about… “I would go into doubt and let thoughts flood my head…”, so I appreciate the reminder that it is a simple choice to let go and surrender to myself.

383. The other day I was out walking and saw the wind flow though the blossom on the tree, and the way the nettles got caught and carried in the wind, looking like a shower of snow. It reminds me of your description of a feather – the ability to let go and allow the wind to carry you, to not try and control life and your direction in it and those around you, to not get caught up in the turmoil of life, but to surrender

384. I received some news recently that made me feel very sad and powerless, I wanted this feeling to go away, I was tempted to harden up and push it down. By surrendering to it completely I could see the image I was holding onto that clashed with the news I was given, I was able to let the flood of tears out and the sadness passed completely from my body.

     1. Nicole, this is amazing what you have shared. It shows how sometimes we can be at war with ourselves when our perceptions of how we want things to be do not correspond with what is actually unfolding. And the key here really is to let it go and allow what is. In other words surrender. How beautiful that you were able to allow this process to unfold and let go of the image and the need to control from your body.

385. Thank you Bianca you have allowed such a lovely association between the act of surrender (if that’s not an oxymoron!) and not absorbing life – ‘observe and not absorb’.

386. I hadn’t heard of the feather analogy but it is not only beautiful, it also makes sense. I have just tried it in a situation that potentially would have me get very worried, but instead I surrendered to whatever the outcome might be and just heard today that the other party have decided to side with the truth and what really happened and thus in my favour.

387. I sat two exams this week, something that feels so unnatural to me. What struck me though was how the work I have doing on surrendering supported me throughout the whole process. From studying to sitting the exam and afterwards. My body was clear in telling me when tension had crept it. It was clear in telling me when I was not caring for myself. And it was clear in telling me when I was in the zone and on fire. It has been a great experience to feel as there is so much in it that confirms the level of surrender I have allowed myself to live regularly, that when it is not present it stands out like a sore thumb, and when it is it feels amazing.

388. “I did not go into sympathy for the hurt they were feeling and no anger exploded in my body.”
     That is amazing what you are sharing here and very extraordinary – it is revolutionizing human behavior to this date and a true way forward. Thanks for sharing this! It is really something that needs to be heard by as many as are ready to listen.

389. Surrender does feel so natural, like the return it is to our true way of being. All the trying, not feeling enough, issues, and resulting tension in the body drop away as you feel there is no need for any of that. The ironic thing I love about surrender is that although you are simply being and responding to life (apparently passive), you feel full and completely present in life.

390. “They looked tentatively into my eyes and I met them with a fullness of love and understanding”. This is super important as I have noticed that people can look at you, but not necessarily in the eyes and avoid the connection that can be felt.

391. Surrendering does feel like you become one with ‘the grand symphony of nature’s elements’. You feel way bigger than just you, as you are part of the All. There is such an ease of being as you are in tune and rhythm with everything.

392. You have hit the nail on the head Bianca with the words, ‘not a speck of control’, when describing the feather drifting down. I can feel that is what I choose over the ease and simplicity of surrender. To surrender is to let go of knowing what you will do next or how anyone else will behave. It shows how much of our interactions are actually controlled and calculated to stay within a perceived safe range. Yet as you discovered when you let go and stay open the possibilities in our relationships can be way beyond what we can imagine.

393. What a gorgeous blog Bianca. I could feel the feather as you described it drifting down, its exquisite beauty, lightness and grace. I have often noticed this in nature, especially birds and felt the absolute presence in each moment and lack of individuality they have. I am sure no birds fly around wondering if anyone is looking, how they look or if they are the best at flying. They just live life in response to the rhythms of the universe, in harmony with everything else.

394. Whenever we step up, whenever we stop a behaviour that interfered with our well-being, we then notice our momentum from our previous behaviour and that can sometimes be quite in our face. Once the momentum is exhausted, things get much simpler but the transition period needs to be dealt with.

395. Indeed Natalie Benhayon does have a beautiful lived way. All the Benhayons do, it is what makes them so accessible, open and inspirational because they are truly living (to the best of their ability, and not in perfection) what they are presenting. So we (humanity) can see that it is really possible and not just words on a page or being spoken, they are being lived. And beautifully so.

396. Wow enormous healing you share with us Bianca, when we hold others in love we can watch as they let go of their hurts and see as they melt into understanding. How powerful is that! Forget all types of counselling all we need to do is stay with ourselves and hold the person forever in love.

397. “I would retreat into a corner of my heart and tentatively wait for someone to give me a sign that it was safe to come out again.”. This is something I recognize within myself. I’ve also experienced the Power of being surrendered to me when somebody’s reacting. There’s such a Grace and Understanding towards the other that hurt has actually no space to ‘enter’ the body. Within this lies the secret, which isn’t really a secret. But love is the ‘key’ to not get hurt, rather than trying to protect ourselves.

398. I love the surrender I can feel in my body just reading the feather gliding with total surrender, part of the symphony of the universe.
     Beautiful and exquisite in it’s movement and yet equally part of the whole. So much wisdom is reflected to us in nature that we are never without loving support. Movement with this understanding absolutely offers a flow in my day that is undeniably worth choosing every step in.

399. I’m enjoying developing surrendering more to what I feel from my body and living from the natural wisdom that comes with that. Serge Benhayon’s presentations on surrender are wonderful (to put it mildly), I love how he his clear about what the surrender is to and that it’s not a vague thing but an actual choice like you have shared Bianca.

400. I know so many people who struggle to sleep and to really relax – that even after a holiday feel tired and tense. Perhaps what we are missing is this surrender – this trust in ourselves and in the world and let go. I have experienced it during sessions, where on the massage table I feel able to let go and really surrender myself and yet I can struggle to do this in life. I have began to practice it at home at night, setting myself up in a space where I can feel safe to let go.

401. “In this surrender it becomes one with the wind, no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements, trusting completely that it will be taken care of in its movements and when it stops.” Ah the grace Bianca in what your write here is totally gorgeous. When I surrender, I too feel this way at one with everything, trusting and knowing all is well and I’ll be given everything I need when the times comes. Surrender to me these days feels like a falling back into the love we are, cushioned, completely held and supported by a grandness that knows.

402. When a conversation starts to go deeper, I find myself automatically changing the energy of a situation – I can do it by asking a question or sharing an experience that is quite shallow. I am inspired by the thought of being like a feather and surrendering to what is being presented, to allow myself to go deeper and feel, because that allows everybody to go deeper and evolve.

403. This blog is such a beautiful reminder of the lightness and playfulness of who we are. The floating and delicacy is deeply felt and is so relatable to amongst the hardness and hiding of our bodies we often live in as seemingly us. Beautiful to read and the appreciation it offers is simply gorgeous.

404. Being able to completely trust that we will be taken care of as we move through life and that every place where we land is the right place to be, seems in-congruent to the experiences that myself, and from what I see, what most people have experienced. Life can seem like it will only happen if we make it so, if we push and we strive, take control and at times manipulate it to be what the image of it is that we are carrying and trying to achieve. Letting go of this image and trusting that you are more than enough, and that this is what in fact carries you through life with the most grace and understanding, is a continuous process as more and more of the old images rear their heads out of the quagmire of our minds and in to the light to be seen for what they are – simply images that have no bearing on who you are or what you are here to do.

405. It is beautiful to read how your surrender brought true love and evolution to your family Bianca.

406. I have also experienced more conversations where I can now identify the old patterns of reaction starting to arise with my old friend ‘reaction.’ It’s not a moment to stop and think, but pause, feel and express. It just defuses the situation without making anyone less.

407. I too have a deep appreciation of the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, teachings that have and continue to invite me to deepen my relationship with myself and with everyone in my life. The tenderness and fragility that was kept hidden and guarded has been unveiled, much to mine and everyone else’s delight, the gorgeous gift of surrendering to the love of God within is a gift to the whole of humanity. Thank you Bianca for sharing how this gift has touched you and empowered your family to go to a deeper level of intimacy and connection, true evolution in action.

408. What I can feel in your sharing, Bianca, is how you have built yourself a foundation of love with yourself, so that you were able not to react, but stay steady, light and observing like a feather does.

409. It is a true blessing, not only to ourselves but also to everybody we are with, if we surrender to the grandness we are part off and the evolution that it brings. That is the beauty of surrendering to the grander whole, that it brings evolution for everybody we are with just because we are able to observe and feel supported and equipped for the next step to come without going into any doubt.

410. I keep returning to this blog and marveling at this metaphor Bianca. You sum up the feeling of observing life so sweetly and delicately too. Reading along I got the feeling of how the ‘normal’ way we live is like stepping in super gooey tar, getting more and more sticky and covered in dirt with every move we make, to the point where we become stuck like in quicksand. Wow – to know this is just a matter of choice, now I feel inspired to live that featherlightness in me.

     1. Great analogy Joseph — and great visual too of what actualy is happening all the time to us energetically! If only we would let ourselves truly see…

411. Truly powerful and inspiring Bianca on the power of observation. Hurts react, love observes.

412. The delicateness of how you describe this interaction captures a crystal-clear moment, offering vast understanding of the way to navigate potential difficult interactions…”surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of…” Brilliant Bianca.

413. I have a whole new appreciation for the power of surrender after reading this Bianca. Surrender = alchemy.

414. Since reading your blog last week Bianca, I have seen so many feathers – of all shapes and sizes, and yet I feel they all come with the same message: surrender. It reminds me of each one of us… we as human beings come in all shapes and sizes and yet at our core, our very essence is the same: love.

415. Gorgeous to read how in staying surrendered, understanding and appreciation appears so naturally.

416. Thank you Bianca for this beautiful lesson on surrendering, while reading it I could feel how much I could connect to what you were describing. I am taking this into my day(s).

417. We are so sensitive and crave intimacy yet it can bring up so much for us when we are presented with a situation where we can deepen our level of intimacy with another – I am not talking about sexual activity although if we choose to, intimacy can be part of this too.

418. Thank you Bianca for expressing what happened for you and is possible for us all when we surrender and allow our love to emerge as it did at your dinner table! It melted any resistance that was there and that in itself is such a marker for what is possible when we allow the feather to be our mentor for surrendering…

419. I love the way you use the feather supported by the wind to describe surrender. It also suggests to me the delicate way we can be in the world when we are surrendered, without heaviness or imposition or harm.

420. Many of us listen and react, but when we take time to understand what is truly being expressed, it makes a huge difference to what we hear and how we respond. We all express in different ways and it’s easy to misunderstand, but feeling at a deeper level helps bring true understanding.

421. By changing just a few words……..’In our surrender we become one with God, no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements, trusting completely that we will be taken care of in our lives’.

422. Bianca I have just re read your blog and found it breath taking. What really stood out for me is how everything is taken care of when we surrender to the all that we are. When we stop interjecting, protesting and basically resisting the all that we already are then we become the flow within the flow and are taken effortlessly through our days. This is how life is meant to be, the struggle that we have made life is not natural.

423. “Have you ever observed how a feather floats through the sky, so smoothly and with grace, no matter what is going on around it” What a lovely observation and reflection Bianca. Nature offers this inspiration for us on a day by day and moment to moment basis. Before reading this blog just now I could feel a tension with a project that I have, reading the first line I am inspired to surrender to the process within this project and allow for flow.

424. What I have recently been experimenting with is feeling when I go into drive and motion, when I get stimulated and leave myself behind, and instead bring myself back with a focus on me and what I am doing right now – allowing myself space to be me and surrender.
     As I do this, the underlying anxiousness has started to rise up, as it has been this anxiousness that was the force behind the drive I have in life – an anxiousness based on not feeling enough or being good enough, and so therefor having to drive to prove myself and get recognition. And so as the drive is slowly decreasing, the anxiousness is becoming more apparent as my coping mechanism for not feeling enough is no longer being allowed to play out. I have started to wake in a panic in the middle of the night that I overslept, or dreaming about making mistakes at work that I actually feel anxious about when I wake up, even though they where only a dream. I can see in my life this constant drive, and my struggles with anxiousness, and my need for sugar are all linked together, for you cannot be constantly anxious and driven without the fuel to maintain it, and so sugar is needed. I have began to realise how important surrender is in our lives, and how so many people lack it and instead like I have, live in constant motion.

425. Bianca, the wisdom that Natalie Benhayon shares is truly remarkable yet is done with such simplicity and normality. From the analogy of surrendering like a feather to thousands more. The support is deeply empowering.

426. Beautiful, Bianca. We have the choice in any given situation to react or not, to take things personally or observe what is really going on. This blog confirms the power of surrender, to the bigger picture and our intrinsic inner knowing.

427. Thank you Bianca, since first reading this blog I have been remembering the analogy of being ‘like a feather’ in situations when I would otherwise have not held myself in the same way and have found it makes a difference to my response as I feel space is created.

428. The warmth of your connection is deeply felt, Bianca. Often in my daily life I underestimate the power of such a connection, that it doesn’t know the boundaries of time or physicality. I can feel the warmth and steadiness of your connection here, in a different country at a different point in time. Maybe the way we perceive time and physical borders is not the whole truth.

429. I look at many of my interactions and can see that same unsureness where I have friends who will use humour to deflect away the possibility of having a deeper more meaningful conversation, scared of taking it deeper, being more intimate in how we interact. Yet it is in the intimacy that the gold of life is found, and it makes me think I want to go there with everyone I meet much more than I have to this point.

430. A while back I was at a meeting with a group of men and a little white feather floated down in the room from somewhere and stuck to my shoulder, maybe this was telling me to just surrender and just be me.

431. I like the analogy of the feather being in union with the wind, which supports its movements and lives a reflection to its lightness. This reminds me we are all one.

432. Surrendering and appreciation are key in changing relationships world wide – relationships within ourselves and with others.

433. These words are gorgeous Bianca… “I was filled with appreciation for my choice to remain like the feather – surrendered to the exquisite love that surrounds us all and to the solid, unwavering wisdom that comes from our inner connection.” I keep reading them over and over… and they feel absolutely exquisite. Thank you for your inspiration.

434. There is grace in the capacity to observe and not absorb and there is gracefulness in the way a feather floats and moves. Being with another in grace allows them to see the larger picture.

435. Bianca- such a beautiful experience of how to truly observe and not absorb and hold the other person from a place of love and equality. Very inspiring.

436. I have recently been looking at the lack of surrender in my life and beginning to make some changes to bring more space into my life. What I realised is that it is so normal and accepted to live constantly in motion, driven from one thing to the next. The lack of surrender on a world wide scale is huge and it’s like a high speed train with no brakes

437. When we are very open, at times there can be backlash from those around us as they then realise how open they are, which can be a painful experience. Once we have a bit of practice with that level of openness, we can then manage to stay as the author, with that openness and read what is truly happening. Beautifully done – even doing this once in our life is transformative.

438. A beautiful reminder Bianca that all we need to do is hold steady in the love that we are and everything else will be taken care of. The way we can do this is to let go of control, stay open, not to go into an ounce of reaction and in this surrendered state we know exactly what is needed to be said or done.

439. It is amazing when we have those defining moments. Something that may previously have felt quite difficult to deal with can suddenly become very clear when we realise that we do not have to take on other peoples stuff, but can remain true to ourselves and what we feel.

440. Breaking down the pictures we have of surrendering and what that looks like in our lives exposes how we can assume it is the same as being weak. The deeper I go into what feels true in my body, in my choices and in my life and trust that, the more I am able to surrender and love everything that is playing out in life. Surrendering keeps my heart open and does not ask others to be anything other than who they truly are. Surrendering is not weakness but a confirming and appreciating ‘strength’, surrendering is ‘Knowing’ we are more.

441. This is beautiful to be pointed to and see the truth that is in surrendering. I feel the beauty of the holding quality there is when we are surrendered, and is just a choice to be so. To let go of control and see that we are all equal and all come from love.

442. It is so beautiful Bianca how you staying steady with yourself supported the whole family to surrender to a deeper relationship with each other. This shows the power one person can have. Thanks for a very inspirational blog

443. It is so liberating when you finally understand that it is never personal when a person attacks you. You do not react, and can remain connected and loving with the person which is the very thing they need.

444. Thank you Bianca – it can be easy to play the victim when we feel hurt but your blog shows that we needn’t be hurt if we take responsibility for our own way of being.

445. Bianca, you were “grounding a new level of connection and way to relate” not just for your family but for other people as well for when one of us is able to surrender our need for reaction it has a powerful effect on others. It shows them a whole new way of relating which we all deep down know and long for but rarely come across. Such an experience therefore has a deep effect on people and may inspire them to make a true connection with other people they know.

446. Bianca how you describe this here is super helpful in being able to catch our own reactions and becoming aware of the underlying hurts and beliefs that keep us trapped in their train. The detail of how a reaction can be, the hurts and the stories we tell ourselves will be different for all of us: “In the past, I would have had my own reaction and I would have been very hurt, closing my heart and stepping away from the love I was naturally feeling. This hurt and shutdown would stop me from being able to observe and detach from the situation. I would go into doubt and let thoughts flood my head with the flavour of “Nobody wants me,” or “What I am expressing is too much.”

447. I have had so many pictures of what surrender is, looks like and feels like. I really appreciate this analogy of it being like a feather because it confirms there is movement in surrender and also stillness.

448. This has given me a whole new level of appreciation of feathers, and also reminds me of the beauty and reflection that nature is constantly offering us.

449. To be able to know that this surrender to your inner heart will be absolutely supported, that what is necessary will come, that the love you live carries no doubt is a great treasure. There is no need in this – no need for anxiousness, worry drama or tension, no need for identification, just this oneness and equality.

450. ‘Being like a feather’ will only come into being when supported by a body that moves like a feather. Surrendering like a feather is not possible in a body that moves like a brick.

451. I have read this blog a number of times and connected to this delicate image of the floating feather and felt the absolute surrender. It is a beautiful reminder to me and point to check in to feel how near or far I am from this lack of control and surrender. Thank you again Bianca.

452. This blog reminded me of a situation at work yesterday when a man phoned up and got through to the wrong department and started the conversation swearing at me, instantly I spoke to him very calmly about his bad language and how it was inappropriate, and we ended up having quite a long conversation. What stood out for me is that I would have usually been too embarrassed and hurt to say anything and then held that against him for days, but this time was different as I did not take it personally and I was not worried about his reaction.

453. This blog is such a beautiful reminder of the grace that is offered when we hold true to our innate knowing through being open and surrendered. Thank you Bianca.

454. How beautiful and so solid and true what an amazing inspiration to feel and live like a feather i love your analogy Bianca thank you something I can really feel and relate to and a gift to share for everyone.

455. I have previously reacted to reactions automatically, it felt so quick that it was automatic, but I am learning it’s not automatic, we have a choice in that moment to not react. I love what you write here about holding love instead, ‘I was bathed in the holding quality of love from my inner connection and so I remained like the feather – surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.’ This shows there’s nothing needed in that situation, other than simply to be, and everyone feels it. It is a beautiful acceptance of ourselves and others.

456. Bianca it’s great how you didn’t react to your family member but paused to read what was going on underneath. If we react it causes further reaction in them as all they can feel is their hurt but when we bring such understanding to a relationship it helps the other person surrender too.

457. What you have described, Bianca, is the greatest gift we can give to ourselves, to be “surrendered to the exquisite love that surrounds us all and to the solid, unwavering wisdom that comes from our inner connection.” All hurts and fears melt into insignificance when the power of our inner heart holds sway.

458. Thank you for this lovely blog – the analogy is so fitting and so easy to understand. I am working on creating space and surrender and what you have described shows me a very easy to understand example – and also shows how I do not live like that feather – in fact feeling what it would be like to surrender that deeply just shows me the level of tension and control in my body.

459. In the moments that I have been able to completely let go and surrender all control, as does a feather, I have felt more amazing, safe, trusting and expansive and one with all than at any other time. You so beautifully and clearly outline the trick to maintaining a state of surrender is to not react to others, to observe and not react. Thank you for such an inspiring reminder.

460. As a child we often repeated this saying ‘slings and arrows may break my bones, but words will never hurt me’ of course they did at the time, we just didn’t admit it. And it’s only now I understand the true meaning of this saying. In fact words can be used as slings and arrows, maybe not intentionally, but in reaction to a felt hurt or unhealed emotion. To be like a feather and let words touch and gently float away is a beautiful analogy to guide us in life, as it allows us to stay true to ourselves and still hold the other in love.

461. Observing ourselves as well as the other person is the key message. Not only their reaction to something we said, but also what that triggers in us. This is the pivotal moment of choice. When we Connect with the person and not the words spoken and allow space to be, surrender is possible.

462. Hey Bianca, it feels so simple what you share during the reaction of your family members. You just choose to stay connected with the warm feeling in your heart, not letting any disturbing thought creep in, And the consequence is that you hold your enrire family in absolute love. This is amazing.

463. I love it how you describe it when you surrender Bianca: “In this surrender, I was moving and expressing as my inner connection impulsed me to be.” It is such a good reminder for me that life is easy and not complicate.

464. Beautiful Bianca, reading your blog again reminds me to be like a feather. I just went into reaction with my family so reading your blog again was great timing. I am still learning to observe and not absorb. This is a great tool to master so I do not perpetuate hurtful behaviours.

465. When I now see a feather, I will know the deeper message to surrender, letting go of any sense of control, feeling in my body the delicate message the feather is delivering

466. “In this surrender it becomes one with the wind, no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements, trusting completely that it will be taken care of in its movements and when it stops.” This description of surrender completely diminishes the need to get any where, be anything just knowing we are impulsed by The Plan that is in place and we are naturally part of it

467. “Observe and not absorb” is such a powerful tool that Serge Benhayon has taught and one that I am constantly reminding myself of. When I have a hurt that hasn’t been healed, I find that I am an open vessel to absorb energy of others. What I find useful is to notice when I am reacting and then to have a deeper look at why I am reacting to see what is underneath that needs to be healed. This way I begin to seal the cracks in which I allow energy that is outside of me to flow through me.

     1. This is great Donna, I agree to “Observe and not absorb” is an invaluable tool. I find it is exhausting when I have absorbed situations and emotions. “Observe and not absorb” I reckon this is the key to healing our epidemic exhaustion rate and it would be absolutely amazing if we all used this tool when we interact and work together. It can bring harmony to all our relationships for sure.

468. “When my family member spoke, I was able to observe what was going on and support myself to not take the words personally, but to feel and look deeper at what was happening before my eyes.”. This is a beautiful inspiration for me. I can feel how this is actually True, yet I hardly experience or experienced it myself in live, both on the receiving as expressing end. I’ve always taken a lot of what was directed at me very personal, allthough with a few different experiences now I can see how tiring and exhausting this actually is. And it’s a choice. Life become so much simpler and easier when connected to what’s actually going on in front of me. It is ONLY when connected and allowing myself to feel what’s going on, that l’m able to stay in the observation, rather than taking it personal in one way or another.

469. “In this surrender it becomes one with the wind, no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements, trusting completely that it will be taken care of in its movements and when it stops.” Love these lines, Bianca, I can feel the trust that comes up when one can truly surrender. I have been working on learning to surrender for a while now, but coming to see that it is not about ‘trying’ to surrender but just allowing myself to truly let go and trusting that all will be taken care of. Being one with the wind as such, is the key to the allowing, letting go of all hint of trying. It feels so beautiful to feel I can become part of nature’s grand symphony, I have always been so drawn to nature. What magical messages nature can give us. Whenever I see a feather floating in the air, I will always now equate it with surrender.

470. “In this surrender it becomes one with the wind, no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements, trusting completely that it will be taken care of in its movements and when it stops.” This is a way to let go of the tight grip we like to have on life as we try to control situations to go our way. We must acknowledge the arrogance in this choice. We seem to think we know better. A feather is never in it’s own way it surrenders to the way.

471. This blog allows us to realise the benefits if indeed we become like the feather and surrender to the events that unfold for us, as we give our absolute trust in God to lead the way. It works sensationally for me.

472. I find this very pertinent to my own life…”I would retreat into a corner of my heart and tentatively wait for someone to give me a sign that it was safe to come out again.
     This time was very different. It was a defining moment in my learning of how to observe and not absorb.” This is an awesome tool to apply to all of life’s situations.

473. Every moment that I choose to become gentle and surrender more to life, life has a way of opening up for me. It is Divine.This is what feathers reflect for me.

474. A feather does surrender with such grace…I wonder why we resist so?

475. So wonderful to read the analogy for surrendering like a feather, you can’t deny the way they float, effortlessly to where ever they land.Bringing this into reality of how we can be in our life and stay surrendered by observing and not absorbing is massive and a game changer. One that Serge Benhayon has been sharing for over 16 years. To practice this on a moment to moment basis and not go into reaction but to surrender to the Love that we are is one worth dedicating our way of living too. I too am enormously appreciative for the inspiration that Serge and Natalie Benhayon share with humanity endlessly.

476. “There is not a speck of control as it silkily glides through the air and surrenders to the wind, letting it guide its movements”. What a beautiful description and way to move through life.

477. “I would retreat into a corner of my heart and tentatively wait for someone to give me a sign that it was safe to come out again” – this has been a very common way for me in the past. Yet what you have offered and shared in this blog is incredible. We offer evolution when we read others reactions and stay with the love we have for them. When we react, we offer nothing more than another cycle of the same thing only to be repeated again until we make a different choice.

478. Observing life rather than absorbing is a teaching that can change a lot of life’s ills. Absorbing the upsets of others brings ills to our own bodies that do not belong to us. When you add TV into this mix, and we absorb either the “fake” dramas that are shown, or those of reality TV, we are bringing dramas to our own world that were never meant to be there.

479. This is very beautiful Bianca. How often in those moments when someone is triggered, is it easy to just jump in and react. But really this would be one persons hurt communicating with the other persons hurt. What you have shown in your article is that we do not need to communicate in this way and in fact we can communicate with each other bringing a great deal of understanding to each other. When we stop communicating through our hurts we also eliminate the judgment that comes in and then the looking for justification in behaviours afterwards. The beautiful thing about observing without absorbing is that it highlights the part we each play in how we communicate and what we each bring to those moments. Really it’s all about responsibility. We then begin to understand that when we are reacting to something, we are affecting others and when we take on that which does not belong to us (the hurt of others) we actually hurt ourselves – none of which is of benefit to anyone.

480. Yes Marika, that is so true, the feeling of a floating feather is very tangible, so very supportive. I feel I can connect to that as well.

481. I love this analogy Bianca. A feather is a beautiful refelction whether it is there in front of us to see, or just an image of how we can be when we surrender to who we truly are. I am finding that the more that I do this, the lighter I feel in my body and nothing gets in the way of that, leaving room for a deeper expression of who I am.

482. There is an enormous amount of power in surrender, especially when we surrender to our inner heart.

483. I had a lesson in surrender today – no plans, but I knew what needed to be done. The support I received has given me a whole new awareness of what surrender can allow for.

484. I have seen the most amazing facilitators in action dealing with hostile and tricky questions with such ease as they surrender, there is no need to fight or be right or have the answer but there is a surrendering to what ever is needed next.

485. ‘I felt exquisitely beautiful, very open with people and able to understand life with ease.
     In this surrender, I was moving and expressing as my inner connection impulsed me to be. It was very freeing – I felt safe and supported and there was a confidence within my body that I would naturally know what to do next.’
     Moving from our body, our inner connection opens ups spaciousness in life that allows everything to flow.

486. Whenever any heavy feelings start to creep in I now have the perfect weapon – to be like a feather!

487. Wow, beautiful Bianca, an awesome example of what is possible when we surrender our own need to control, and not to react and enter into an well-worn dynamic, but rather allow the space for greater understanding and a new way to be. Thank you.

488. Such a beautiful lesson you have shared Bianca. I can’t remember the last time I saw a feather floating in the sky which made me consider that I do not spend enough time observing nature in full awareness and that, as a consequence, I am missing out ‘big time’. Don’t get me wrong, I love nature but I so easily slip into my old habit of taking things for granted instead of looking with fresh eyes each and every day.

489. I am feeling that control is the opposite of surrender and when I am in control it is impossible for me to surrender to the love I have within. Some beautiful reflections for me to work on-Thank you, Bianca.

490. Beautifully inspiring Bianca, I am discovering that the less I react to something the less affect the whole issue has, and it allows space for the other to feel what was said in the first place, whereas if I react all I am doing is feeding the cycle.

491. This is a great example Bianca of how holding the other person in love and not in reaction to their emotion can heal and allow the space for others to feel and let go. Gorgeous.

492. From this I can feel how when we surrender there is a clear sense of order to the way a natural rhythm divinely orchestrates all that is in accordance to it – which is everything apart from mankind!

493. It is so beautiful reading of your surrender to your inner connection. The quality of it feels absolutely divine.

494. Given that everything is energy and energy is always flowing through us, when we surrender, our body is ready to receive the energy of the universe to flow through it. With this comes an inner wisdom, a knowing and deep love for all. Individuality is lost and there is a return to brotherhood.

495. Bianca what a moment to appreciate the reflection you gave your family member, I’m sure it was felt by all around the table as an expression of the love you hold and testament to ‘ observing and not adsorbing.’ Such a simple knowing…

496. Sometimes I can react really strongly to a situation and hold onto an issue. When I choose to surrender and listen to my innermost over the complication in my head, it feels simple and light.

497. “I have enormous appreciation for Serge Benhayon and his teachings of the Ageless Wisdom. Without them I would not have re-connected to the truth of how to “Observe and not absorb.”” Essential education for us all but so far no-one else has presented it or empowered us to embody this wisdom like Serge Benhayon has and does so successfully, because it is a living truth he embodies everyday. Learning to observe and not absorb arises from a steadfast connection to our stillness, our lightness and our love, all of which produce a quality of spaciousness, openness and safety that allows us and others space to look at our behaviours without judgment or blame, offering us the opportunity to make a different choice. A precious quality that we can all master, as has Serge so that we can establish a new awareness in our world.

498. It is gorgeous, Bianca, how you describe not reacting to your family member. By staying surrendered and open you were able to realise that they were reacting from a hurt, so you did not take it personally and react. A beautiful sharing, thank you.

499. This is so lovely that each time I have read your words I can truly feel the wonderful feeling of weightlessness and freedom of being like a feather. To live this way would be wonderful, no stress or pressure just as beautiful harmony.

500. I usually see white feathers as I go about my day, but yesterday I saw a small black one being tossed lightly along the pavement – it gave me pause for thought – was it a warning or a confirmation. I was not feeling particularly well at the time, and my thoughts were a little black as a result, and it reminded me that all is not well in the world but I needn’t let myself go under, but to stay steady and allow, ‘knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.’

501. The way we move in the world is so important – it defines the quality in which we express, and what is interesting is everyone is super sensitive whether they like to say it or not, so these movements are shared and felt, causing a ripple effect that we can only imagine.

502. ” there is no speck of control as it silkily glides through the air and surrenders to…” It is a great example to get reminded of how amazing it would feel to let go of control and surrender to the breath of God and the movements of the universe.

503. Letting go of my walls of protection and expressing from the love and tenderness I am made of allows any hardness or complicated issues inside melt away.

504. Given our physicality and mass, it’s interesting to be able to also experience ourselves as light as a feather. The feather speaks of our soulful, divine selves: the part of us that is, quite literally and metaphorically, light. How ‘de-light-full’ to be reminded of the reality of our dual natures, that we are both heaven and earth, on earth.

505. At a recent Universal Medicine event we learnt how by making movement about quality first, we can defeat energies that seek to deter us from our path, such as unwanted thoughts. This article reminds me of this. With it’s very strong visual of the feather in motion it captures the essence of what was presented – and is a very useful and powerful reminder.

506. Bringing our understanding to others is so powerful and lets us be vulnerable and open with people yet remain in our strength and unwavering love. It truly healing for us and for others and supports the process of surrendering like a feather.

507. The moment where you describe connecting with the one in reaction, looking into their eyes and silently conveying love, is such a tender moment. It really encapsulates the power of surrender and non-reactivity, and how that allows the opportunity for the reactor to sort through the hurts they are feeling.

508. We have a lot of ideals around families and this often includes the belief we shouldn’t rock the boat or that we need to be liked in order to be accepted into the fold. This article demonstrates how one can both say what needs to be said and still engender love and respect.

509. I really enjoyed your commitment to evolution despite the discomfort that came up Bianca. This is in and of itself evolutionary and sharing it even more so.

510. It seems surrender can take many forms and play out in different contexts but the consistent themes are trust and love. If be trust we will be held, we can let go.

511. Learning not to react to other’s reactions is a tricky thing to master. Thank you Bianca for showing us how, step-by-step, to respond to reaction from others. Connecting to ourselves, and remaining connected no matter what, is key.

512. Just gorgeous Bianca – like feather. But powerful too – also like a feather. Put lots of feather moments together and you can fly.

513. When we stop fighting others we have more energy. When we stop fighting ourselves, are like a feather, we have enormously more power, energy and the ability to see and feel what is truly going on. Worth considering.

514. Thank you for sharing this poignant moment, the split second when we have a choice between reaction and surrender, between the old familiar path of coming from our hurts or the love we truly are.

515. The power of this blog is palpable. I have come back to read this this morning after a challenging morning and have felt my body just let go as soon as I started to read it. Thank you.

516. “I held my family member in absolute love, remembering the gorgeous, tender, precious, loving being they naturally are.”

     And to hold another in their essence, especially when they are expressing from their protection, another precious gem to be nurtured in expression.

517. “As I sat, I registered an exquisite open feeling in my body; thoughts did try to enter of “How dare they say that!” but I kept saying no to those and kept coming back to the feeling of warmth that was expanding from my heart.”

     This is a profound awareness Bianca. To choose to feel the warmth in your heart instead of hardening your body in defence from focusing on the indignation from the words what were thrown at you…. WOW, this is something for us all to learn.

518. It is true, we can be surrendered and connected to our grace no matter what is going on around us. We mistakenly believe that we are at the mercy of other people’s emotions, attitudes and reactions when in fact this is not true at all. Maintaining a solid connection with ourselves wherever we go is a constant that is our greatest strength. We can choose the quality in which we bring ourselves to life and let energy simply pass through us, not holding onto it, with our own awareness and therefore understanding of all that happens.

519. This week, I have been reflecting on moments such as these Bianca and I really enjoyed reading your experience here. So often, I find myself in a similar such moment with a family member and my natural response is to point something out to them, from a place of ‘holding myself’ but this then creates defence and reaction in them. I have pondering, knowing there is another way I can respond that will hold them to feel what they need to feel without me interfering or hardening. You brought a depth of understanding and presence to them in that moment, without needing to say anything, and this love melted away the tension. Amazing and I can’t wait to try this out, for I know the next opportunity will be just around the corner.

520. I have never heard this feather example before, it creates a great sense of understand about the word surrender.

521. The movement of a feather… There’s allready so much in these few words. To me the word movement stands out. I’m noticing more and more the movement of people and things around me. Today I watched a man cutting meat and the way he was with the lamb, tenderly cutting the lamb was a Joy to watch. It wasn’t simply cutting, it was if this man was ‘with the lamb’. The moment he was cutting, it was like if he was in a different world, a different space, a different movement. Beautiful to watch and appreciate. When I said it to him, he smiled and I could feel how he felt met. Movement… Everything’s movement. And we all have our own unique qualities in moving.

522. With an open heart you can see beyond what is being presented. It is a gateway to the soul.

523. Gorgeous Bianca, this is tangible. Relationships is not about need or fullfillment – but actually evolution. And is it is always a deepening love, that never ends. If this is understood, then we would change the whole purpose of relationships and find the true worth in them – like you have been inspired by Bianca. So we can live the love we are with everyone and everything.

524. How you describe your day “as surrendered as a feather” is very beautiful. Bianca I appreciate your offering us all a reflection of who we truly are, sharing with us a reality that is real for us to choose in every moment of the day. I for one choose to surrender to the symphony of my inner connection and be one with the wisdom of the universe.

525. “I was filled with appreciation for my choice to remain like the feather – surrendered to the exquisite love that surrounds us all and to the solid, unwavering wisdom that comes from our inner connection.” Thank you for sharing this with us Bianca. How amazing if we learn to observe and not react? What this offers everybody is to connect deeper with another.

526. I love this blog. I have spent the week being reminded of it every day, the wind blowing a large white sheet of polythene across the road when driving, lifting it safely onto the pavement just before my car ran over it, fluffy white feathers in the grass around me when I walk the dog. All these graceful symbols there to remind me to stay with my loveliness and respond to what is asked for in the moment, no agenda, no resentment, no problem.

527. I can see that living in surrender allows us to let go of any attachment to people behaving or being a certain way. This then allows us to appreciate others for who they truly are.

528. It is truly amazing to be able to observe where others are coming from and to not take it personally. It stops the downward spiral of reactions and hurts. For when we truly observe we will first see who the person is in their essence and only then the energy they have call in and why.

529. Firstly I can only say hear hear to your appreciation of Serge and Natalie Benhayon for they are forever a true role model and the greatest inspiration. But you have inspired me too Bianca as through your blog I can feel the invitation to surrender more deeply.

     1. Well said Carolien, I enjoin you in this appreciation of Serge and Natalie Benhayon, and of Bianca as well. The inspiration we are receiving from so many divine sources now is absolutely worth cherishing.

530. “It was very freeing – I felt safe and supported and there was a confidence within my body that I would naturally know what to do next.” I can relate to feeling like this and it is the most beautiful feeling I know – knowing that I will know what to do next. Your blog is great in that it shows me how to not step out of the surrender when what is being asked is a little challenging or results in reaction from others. Thank you Bianca.

531. This is something I am practicing and getting the hang of more and more – ” I was able to observe what was going on and support myself to not take the words personally, but to feel and look deeper at what was happening before my eyes.” When I succeed I can often see what is really going on and respond very differently than when in reaction to something I may have taken personally. Family is a great practice ground for that …

532. When we surrender to that inner-wisdom our love is only there because we have chosen our inner-wisdom and it never lets us down.

533. A beautiful analogy Bianca, being able to have this level of self command and remain in the flow of what took place without reaction is gorgeous to read… easy to imagine the alternative if you had done what you used to do, ruining the evening for all involved no doubt.

534. As I am letting go of control especially of my family, I can feel how forceful and oppressive that was for us all. Offering openness and intimacy feels very different, observing people around me and letting them be, without judgement gives me the feeling of ‘ as light as a feather’ inside.

535. It is profound, the magic that can happen as we let go of controlling situations.

536. A feather has no self and is ready, wherever it arrives – it did not float against the tide. This works in real life as well.

     1. I like that Christoph – “A feather has no self”.

537. Reading your words, Bianca has brought a new level of delicacy to my understanding of surrender – with a feather comes such a simple and yet exquisite lightness of design and for me this allows me to feel that surrender can come with such an effortlessness when we allow ourselves to let go and trust. There is no outside force just a natural unfolding and allowing.

538. Staying open and connected with ourselves is our greatest strength, and gives another the opportunity to have a stop moment, when we do not enjoin or sympathise with the hurt they are reacting to. The more we hold ourselves with love, the more we can honour another in the same way.

539. Wow Bianca, this is so beautiful to re-read. ‘They looked tentatively into my eyes and I met them with a fullness of love and understanding that melted their hesitancy away.’ how amazing and supportive this must have been for your family member, I can feel how in society it is so common for us to react to what someone else says and to take it personally rather than seeing that it is their hurt and to have understanding around this, from what you have written I can feel how important it is to stay surrendered and that if we do then we have the wisdom and understanding of what is truly going on.

     1. A beautiful response Rebecca – it is amazing as we feel the support we can offer people when we allow them to be all that they are and to have the space to unfold. As you say when we react and taking things personally we further cement these feelings of rejection and hardness not only into ourselves but are offering this as a reflection to society as a whole. To allow ourselves to feel the lightness of a feather is to let go of all this control and surrender to whatever we are offered with acceptance and a lightness of heart.

540. I’m starting to get what Serge Benhayon means when he says that our best form of protection is an open heart. Hurts simply melt away. And true intimacy with each other, which we most crave, is offered.

541. When we truly learn to observe, we get to see everything.

542. Lovely Bianca you wrote: “I felt safe and supported and there was a confidence within my body that I would naturally know what to do next.” This is indeed a very freeing feeling and I am wondering why most of us not living like this?

543. Allowing ourselves to just be. Allows God’s love to work through us.

544. ‘There is not a speck of control’ but such strength in the grace and surrender with which a feather lets itself float – and an incredible sense of freedom when I let my shoulders drop and submit to being a feather in life.

545. “Trusting completely that it will be taken care of in its movements and when it stops.” That for me is key to surrender to the greater whole we are part of, to trust that we are taken care for by the beholder, our father. The analogy of the feather in the wind is indeed a great reminder for me to understand that trusting that I am held and taken care for in any step that I will take in my evolvement as long as I will let God be my guide in life in whatever he asks of me.

546. It can seem difficult to be at ease in life with so many ‘problems’ that we face. Yet what your words convey Bianca is that this is not true, that life and our every moment is simply a matter of choice. It is actually easy and very possible for us to live with gentleness, appreciation, and true grace. Thank you for this ageless wisdom that tickles us out of our these old, heavy and reactive ways.

547. I love feeling from this defining moment for you and your family, that through your steadiness of surrender you were able to ground a new level of intimacy that was felt by you all, and in sharing this, showing what is possible when we choose our connection before all else.

548. This is so beautiful to read Bianca. I have struggled with the concept of ‘observe and don’t absorb” and swim like a fish in the ocean and don’t get wet. I use to drown. Surrender is so lovely to introduce to my way now and compassion has given me the grace to allow others to be where they are. Including myself.

549. You offer such a beautiful example of the power in observing, rather than absorbing ….. it’s our penchant for individuality that has caused humanity so many problems. Through observing, in connection with ourselves, we are open to the truth and feeling how everyone is affected, with understanding we have the opportunity to grow and bring others along with us. There is a beautiful spaciousness inviting open-ness and harmonious movement.

550. ‘In this surrender it becomes one with the wind, no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements, trusting completely that it will be taken care of in its movements and when it stops.’ – like the feather in the wind, when we allow ourselves to surrender to our inner connection, we are honouring the wisdom of our body and our connection to the All to guide us, knowing that ‘what we are to do next is already taken care of’. Feeling the beauty in this, I can deeply appreciate the futility and stupidity in trying to use ‘control’, when we have universal wisdom right at our finger tips.

551. For me currently this is a great reminder to stay with our inner connection to support us with what we feel as opposed to choosing to try to avoid what is to be felt and in so doing losing our connection.

552. “In this surrender it becomes one with the wind, no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements, trusting completely that it will be taken care of in its movements and when it stops.” I love this description of a feather surrendering to the wind, Cherise, so beautiful. My whole body just sings to me when I read that. This is a feeling that I have just had a glimpse of occasionally, but I would love to make it a very big part of my life from now on. When we can truly surrender, then we become part of the All, we have access to so much more intelligence, by staying connected to this, then we know what needs to be done, there is no need to be going up into the head to try to work out what to do. How much more simple life can be when we learn to live like that. Surrender and trust, two very big words for me, so powerful.

553. Coming back to this blog today again, made me realise that I had a similar profound moment today. I’ve always found it very difficult in groups with a lot of people. Looking back to my past, I’ve always checked out. Today I chose different. I connected to (the left part of my) my body, felt me and chose to feel everything around me. Including the tensions that were there. What I felt was exquisite. I felt so held, so feather light, so tender, so delicate. For me a definite new step in accepting that I do have the choice to be with me, where ever I am.

554. One of the great awareness shared Bianca is the understanding you have for how the other person was feeling. When we loose our connection to observing and feel hurt we loose our connection to what another is feeling. The way you stayed surrendered to your knowing supported another to trust that it was safe to be seen and stay with their uncomfortable moment. With that a new moment of intimacy and connection was shared. These are such valuable moments in life and can re-set old relationship patterns opening up for great truth and love.

555. Allowing the space in that moment when another reacts gives us the opportunity to observe and it
     changes everything. ‘ I held my family member in absolute love, remembering the gorgeous, tender, precious, loving being they naturally are.’ Everyone feels able to express in there fullness when we don’t react, a lovely sharing.

556. “There is not a speck of control” in surrender. This is a great reminder to keep coming back to. As soon as we feel an ounce of ownership or wanting something to be a certain way, we are no longer in surrender.

557. The interplay between us and the world we inhabit, including everyone in it, is much more within our control that we are usually taught to believe. As you have beautifully demonstrated here Bianca, we have the ability within each of us to shape the next moment by the way we choose to respond to what is being presented to us.

558. The art of surrender assumes there is a greater world of energy at play than most acknowledge now. Surrender is not giving up, or hoping for the best, but on the contrary it is knowing that through self connection there is also a connection to the all, and with that there can be surrender.

559. ‘In this surrender it becomes one with the wind, no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements.’ I love this line. All too often we want to be recognised as an individual, for doing good work or even doing bad things – anything to get attention. But what if we were to admit that we were an integral part of a grandness that was so amazing and forever expanding? Wouldn’t we then choose to drop the trying to be separate and choose to join this grand symphony?

560. To be able to hold another in such love as you did, Bianca, is so beautiful and healing for all. Reaction is one of our quickest and most destructive ways to respond to another as we are making a choice to cut ourselves off from others and they no longer get to see or feel the truth that a situation maybe presenting. To not react is something that I am lovingly working on.

561. The image of the feather is so very powerful – and I know there are many moments in my life where I have chosen this surrender over the hardness or the fight and still many where I have not. Sharing stories like this where we can tentatively feel the difference and transformation in one relationship help us to see that it is possible in all.

562. It is very healthy indeed to consider the bigger part we play for the greater whole.

563. Bianca I feel that there is a step before ‘being like a feather’ and that is to notice what prevents us from being like a feather or as I have discovered in myself, what causes me to be ‘like a hammer’.

564. I love the imagery of a feather floating through the air – the smoothness and grace – such a fitting analogy for surrender. Thank you Bianca, through reading your blog I gained a greater understanding of what surrender is all about and actually felt my arms – which so often are held a little (or a lot) tense, in order to push through or steel myself against what may come my way – soften and relax. My shoulders dropped and my chest felt lighter and more open 🙂

565. This blog really reminds me that the more loving and accepting we are with ourselves, allowing ourselves to surrender to our inner-connection, the more love and understanding we have for others.

566. Awesome Bianca, with your analogy of the feather, I got to recognise the link between surrender and trust. There is no need for control when there is trust.

567. Living like the feather does not take effort or a trying – it is just a choice to let go and trust that we are part of something much, much bigger than our own ideas of how things should be.

568. What a gorgeous analogy – the feather and it’s relationship with the breeze, both contain an intelligence that comes from being part of the whole, no thought required, just a surrender to what is needed in that moment and this is what each one of us have the capability of doing – when we let go of the need to be individual and separate.

569. I love this analogy with a feather and your ability to feel exquisitely beautiful, very open with people and able to understand life with ease. This is an amazing gift and so simple to feel the flow and grace you are sharing with us thank you Bianca for this beautiful sharing of surrendering.

570. It’s as if the Universe, or God, is asking us to open the door of our hearts and connect to the love that is already there, then all our movements, which include our expression, can be in the silkiness you speak of Bianca, and the whole of our lives then floats like a feather, in unison with the true flow of life. The more we allow the door to open the easier it will be to not only let people in, but to hold our own love for ourselves which is the greatest foundation for everybody to stand on.

571. Thank you, Bianca. I can feel my body relax reading this blog as it reminds me to let go, to not hold so tightly, to surrender, enjoying the feeling of loveliness with every breath and the harmonious flow of just being me.

572. I can feel how much I resist ‘being like a feather’. The temptation is to go into drive and bulldoze my way through life. When I do manage to surrender to my body and rest in that place of trust it feels amazing, and I feel I could stay that way forever, but then I allow life to take over again and make the ‘doing’ more important that the ‘being’. This blog is a beautiful reminder of how surrender is possible all the time. Thank you for the inspiration.

573. It can be easy to look at a feather in the wind and see it as helpless, not in “control” of its own destiny. Yet as you describe it the feather is at one with the wind and fully surrendered to what will happen. It’s a great analogy especially when we consider this in our daily lives, looking if we go into a “reaction” about the way someone responds to us or if we are surrendered and can see clearly what is going on. There is a freedom now when I look at a feather observing a surrender in it and in the same way that we perceive many other qualities as weak, such as preciousness and tenderness, the truth is they are actually our greatest strengths.

574. This blog brings us back to the spherical way of life, where everything is known and felt through the body that en-houses the spirit who is travelling back to the soul.

575. When we cannot let go of our past hurts, they follow us into all our relationships and taint our ability to trust and express freely. Allowing ourselves to feel what is truly there opens up a level of communication that deepens the relationship, allowing an honesty of connection that brings joy.

576. “I was filled with appreciation for my choice to remain like the feather – surrendered to the exquisite love that surrounds us all and to the solid, unwavering wisdom that comes from our inner connection.” This is beautiful and I can relate to having these moments with my family, it is beautiful when we are able to hold our selves, to observe and not absorb. It creates a beautiful opening for everyone to go deep and be honest and allow the vulnerability to be shared and not shut down. More and more when I am with family and friends they have been allowing them selves to open up and feel it’s safe to show their feelings, without being judged.

577. Today is ‘be like a feather day’ – inspired by this article, thank you, Bianca.

578. To feel like a feather feeling surrounded by love is like a medicine against emotional attacks.

579. Your analogy also reminds me of a baby who is deeply content in themselves, just as happy to be carried from one place to the next with it’s mother, engage with a stranger, curious about whatever is around them… going with the flow of things. To be like a feather requires this deeper contentment from within, as then there is no need to control or manipulate anything outside of us to adjust our ‘fall’.

580. Beautiful Bianca thank you, the analogy is a great reminder to accept everything, no matter what, which is completely different to condoning it. To be like a feather I have found requires a level of acceptance of people, choices and the way things are that I have to work on constantly.

581. It is such a beautiful analogy Bianca, as I can feel how held and supported we are when we surrender to the all and the bigger picture. I notice when I do react personally then I feel heavy and burdened by the situation and alone in having to deal with the perceived attack. As you describe with such clarity, when we take our understanding deeper and wider there is an allowing space that is created where nothing needs to be done necessarily than being present with what is.

582. This is a beautiful reminder of how the relationship we have with ourselves, such as deepening and confirming self love, is a valid practice, as it hold one with so much understanding and support when in the face of any agitation or difficult interactions.

583. Surrender is such a beautiful feeling in the body. It makes me wonder why I would choose anything other than this.

584. Learning to observe and not absorb is a priceless and valuable learning that can be exercised in every part of our lives. It would help with not taking things personally. Imagine if this was taught in school? I feel there would not be the same angst and tension that many experience now… and instead a confidence to know how to be in a situation when someone is attacking from their hurts. Love the feather analogy Bianca.

585. Thank you Bianca for reminding us that it is the way that we are living that dictates how we are then able to respond to another in the face of a reaction or an attack directed at us.

586. ‘I did not react and I realised what we were talking about had triggered an old hurt. The retaliation I felt in the comment was because this person was feeling vulnerable as the conversation went deeper, asking us all to go to another level of intimacy with one another.’ ….. I know for myself, when I am ‘shut down’ my immediate response is to feel hurt and it’s something I am working on. As you so beautifully share, when we get ourselves out of the way, we can discern so clearly what is really going on, it’s not about US as individuals, when people react it’s always coming from a hurt that they have so to take it personally just inflames the situation or closes the door on the opportunity for everyone to evolve further.

587. There is so much to relate to in your blog Bianca, especially how you express the natural connection to surrender once we do re-connect to our inner-most!
     Surrendered and surrounded by ‘super’ natural solid support with no “sympathy” and then allowing the feeling of how amazing this is with no need to “shutdown, which would stop us from being able to observe and detach from a situation.” Other wise as you state “I would retreat into a corner of my heart and tentatively wait for someone to give me a sign that it was safe to come out again.” Hiding in a “corner of my heart” is so simple to evolve from once the choice is made to be reconnected to our inner-most.

588. I have noticed that when my awareness expands, in the first few days or even weeks I become much more reactive as it takes some time to get used to what I was newly able to perceive. In many cases it was the depth of what I noticed that I didn’t notice before.

589. Bianca, I just have such a gorgeous feeling of exquisiteness when I read your blog, and feel what you offer us. How when we surrender more to the love we are, no matter what we faced with, we offer something different love to ourselves and the world, there is no trying or wanting anything to be other than the love we are, and in that we hold ourselves and everybody.

590. ln this day and age to be able to admit this is a great blessing in ones life..”l was totally surrendered to my inner connection, the solid, grounded wisdom that lives within, observing all that was happening around me.”
     What you are doing to achieve this state of being is golden.

591. Absolutely loved reading your beautiful sharing, Bianca, so tender and enormously inspiring.
     What I am feeling so strongly is the importance of getting myself out of the way, not taking things personally, just allowing the surrender in my body and allowing the love that I am to support and guide me. The way you held your family member, bathed them in your love, was gorgeous. I felt like I was at the table with you. Love has the power to dissipate the most intense emotions. Thank you.

592. ‘I kept saying no to those and kept coming back to the feeling of warmth that was expanding from my heart.’
     This is a game changer and such an important movement – to be aware of our body and continually make the choice to feel the wisdom within in any given situation. There is so much that can easily take us out of this, take us away from our essence and it is very tempting to get swept away by another emotions or sympathy or excitement, but it actually serves no one. Thank you for sharing your experience Bianca – just proves that we are at our most loving and supportive state when we are connected with ourselves first.

593. I hadn’t heard the analogy of the feather before, it’s so lovely and makes simple sense. I’ve been experimenting with surrender and can feel an old belief come in that wants surrender to be a ‘giving up’ movement. What the feather symbolises is magic because the feather is still so included and engaged with the wind, there is trust, openness and Joy as it dances – it is not given up and letting life and it’s circumstances rule it. I feel this is the difference between observing and absorbing.

     1. Rachael, like you I have not heard this analogy of the feather before: it feels so profound, so basic.

        I truly identity with your words, “I’ve been experimenting with surrender and can feel an old belief come in that wants surrender to be a ‘giving up’ movement. What the feather symbolises is magic because the feather is still so included and engaged with the wind, there is trust, openness and Joy as it dances – it is not given up and letting life and it’s circumstances rule it.” I feel that I am resistant to’giving up’ as I currently see this as a weakness on my part. Occasionally when I have (too frequently) reacted in anger, I have received the words, ‘chopping off my nose to spite my face’.

        Thank you Rachael and Bianca, you have both offered me such loving support. I feel now a greater awareness to support me in lowering my own resistance.

        I just love the feather! ❤

594. Beautiful Bianca to read of a woman so surrendered to her true self, to the love within, and no matter what outer agitation occurs you stay with that love. What unfolded next is the power of love in family and community.

595. ‘There is not a speck of control as it silkily glides through the air and surrenders to the wind, letting it guide its movements.’ A pretty beautiful quote here as I visualise the ease with which the feather lowers itself to the ground. Nature – such a pure reflection.

596. Your example shows the power of observation and holding another in love. You simply cannot deny you are love too when you are held in this way and the rest simply melts. A true miracle. Also great to witness how life is not about us as an individual, but about us together and deepening our connections and relationships.

597. Nature reflects us exactly what we need to see and feel. I love feathers, finding them makes me feel very taken care of, supported and they almost always bring a smile to my face. I love your analogy with the feather and surrendering and will take it into my day.

598. It’s actually amazing what the power of connecting to your inner heart can actually do. What could easily have turned into a hostile argument or worse still, hostile silence for the rest of the evening was completely turned around by you just meeting the other person in love. Not an ounce of victim stuff was allowed in, instead pure love, understanding and compassion. This has got to be worth practicing.

599. To ‘Observe and not absorb’, these words offer so much if truly lived. To observe or ‘read’ in any situation opens up the space to truly understand and feel very naturally how to respond.

600. Bianca, what a truly amazing example of what it feels like to surrender. I have to say I don’t believe I have ever experienced that level of ‘observe and not absorb’, always only dipping my toes in so far before falling into the comfortable trap of being reactive myself. You’ve totally inspired me to give this a go, for why on earth would I not want to choose that?

601. ‘I felt exquisitely beautiful, very open with people and able to understand life with ease.’ This is a great claiming of how you felt Bianca. Understanding life with ease would have to be one of the biggest things we avoid that in turn keeps us in the ‘struggle of life’.

602. Bianca what you’ve written is such a beautiful way to live. ‘I felt safe and supported and there was a confidence within my body that I would naturally know what to do next.’ Though I’ve only felt this momentarily, I’ve felt it enough to know this could be a normal way of life if I so choose – as much of an equal choice as choosing to poison my life with anxiety or complication. The responsibility lies with me.

603. “I would retreat into a corner of my heart and tentatively wait for someone to give me a sign that it was safe to come out again.”…what a power-full line (amongst many). So many times I have sat in this corner, tentatively waiting to come out again, always handing over my power to the outside, letting them guide and shape what I say and do. I too am working on connection and surrender – which can be challenging for a person who has relied on control for many years (possibly lifetimes). The image of the feather is a great one, thank you.

604. There is an ease and beauty when we surrender to the natural rhythm of life. I love how nature continually reflects the truth of what is possible when we surrender to who we are. Like a feather we do not disturb the natural harmony of life we bless it with our graciousness.

605. What becomes so very clear when reading your words Bianca is that no discussion, no argument, no reaction is worth giving up the lightness and tenderness that we feel when we are in connection with ourself and thus others.

606. This was so gorgeous to read Bianca, the love and grace you hold clearly felt. Observing in a possible reactive situation rather than react based on our own hurts brings a deeper understanding. This offers others by reflection the choice to come back to themselves. It is truly supportive to feel this steadiness and beholding love from each other.

607. ‘In this surrender it becomes one with the wind, no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements, trusting completely that it will be taken care of in its movements and when it stops’ Like the wind there is much happening around us energetically, and the feather floating brings in awareness of the enormity of what is there and how we can bring stillness and space to this. When we do not trust and resist, there feels to be a futility to this. When we allow ourselves to flow there is a beauty, a quality of gentleness and holding that is shared everywhere and only the love exists.

608. Thank you Bianca for sharing with us such a beautiful experience of true surrender, knowing that you are deeply held in every moment and that the wisdom was there to enable you to observe and not absorb, a powerfully tender reflection for your family.

609. One moment of surrender usually inspires many more, inside myself and all around me.

610. Your image of the feather gliding through the day really illustrates the delicateness and actually how supported we are in that. I have noticed that there is no knocking into anything, but an ease of the path simply being navigated and trusted.

611. What great and practical example to offer us. Hurts are such a challenge, they rear their heads when we least expect them and the reaction can be faster than the awareness. I really appreciate how you built an awareness around fragility and practiced it and how it supported not just you but the whole family in that moment to be more aware in a moment of potential reaction.

612. This is a beautiful sharing, “I held my family member in absolute love, remembering the gorgeous, tender, precious, loving being they naturally are.” You show through your example how it is possible to melt another when they are in reaction and how discussion can be more intimate and tender as a result.

613. Wow Bianca – I have so much appreciation for you sharing your day surrendering to the qualities that are like a feather. Such a beautiful description that reading this supports a knowing in me that this is the choice I can make to glide through the day with no resistance to what presents.

614. There is a beautiful order to the way things happen naturally around us – it is strange that we have been existing in opposition to this for so long and to our own detriment.

615. When I surrender at work to what is there to be done the space opens up as the focus remains on the quality rather than the quantity. In this I find that everything still gets completed, but in a timing that is true and not forced.

616. I so much can relate to the feeling like a feather, the being surrounded of love. It is so beautiful how you changed your behaviour and stayed steady despite being attacked.

617. How delicately powerful we can be when we let us surrender into Love.

618. In reading this blog I really wanted to consider how it is to live in reaction, for up until now I have seen the idea of absorbing life to be only found in extreme examples, yet absorbing life can come in very subtle forms where we are swayed to act in ways that are not how we would really like to. This calibrating is something I have found can be flicked like a switch and a choice can be made to observe life and completely change our perspective. This for me is a remarkable thing to experience. An example of this came the other night when I was struggling with changing a battery in a smoke detector, I had one failed attempt at opening it and so took a break and approached the situation with simple purpose and no emotion. The result was a smoothly released detector, much like a feather floating in the wind.

619. Surrendering is opening to let more love in and the understanding that we are more. Thank you Bianca for sharing.

620. Reading the energy of your words Bianca I could feel the freedom to live as light as a feather and just how and what that would mean. Just the analogy of a feather and the fact that it could not take on or absorb matter by the way it is constructed for flight and therefore, if we lived in this way the absolute joy and weightlessness we would feel everyday, therefore not weighed down by the problems and emotions of life. An absolutely divine sharing Bianca!

621. Wow Bianca. Your new marker made me feel inspired and still. Wonderful how you said no to the thoughts that kicked in and in that kept saying yes to the Love inside you. I can see how I can still go into judgements when these thoughts kick in and pay attention to them rather than observing them and choose going back to my heart. Thank you for the inspiration. How Amazing would it be if this is the ‘normal’ way to respond to emotions coming at us? That would be a complete turn-around in the world

622. We often fight being ‘one with the wind’ but individuality is overrated and hard work.
     Feeling aligned with the universal flow is so much more natural.

623. What a blessing and healing for your family member Bianca.

624. “surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.” This reminds us that when we surrender to our essence we are totally held, loved and all the wisdom in the world is available to us.

625. Bianca thank you. This is so delicious to feel and read how by staying with your connection, you were able to understand the reaction from your family member and in the understanding, give them the space and grace to feel any hurt and be held in love by you. Very gorgeous.

626. Surrender feels like movement in stillness, just like a feather.. Stillness is all there is when we let go of pushing ourselves to do or be something.

627. This is a message from the angels Bianca. Thank you for catching like a feather: ‘I held my family member in absolute love, remembering the gorgeous, tender, precious, loving being they naturally are.’ This is reality, the reality of heaven beginning to be lived on earth.

628. What a divine blog Bianca. If only we would all practice this all the time: ‘I was bathed in the holding quality of love from my inner connection and so I remained like the feather – surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.’ A whole new way of life.

629. Last week almost everywhere I went I encountered tiny, light and fluffy, and some bigger, pigeon feathers, even in places I have never seen them before. And driving in the country I came across about 50 of the birds themselves perched on a telephone wire.They all felt like a blessing to me. Each time I saw these I had been involved in situations with a lot of people and the way I had connected with them and what had been openly discussed and resolved had felt amazing. The feathers and the birds themselves, each time made me feel like we are all in this together and there is always a way especially when we stay open and steady and allow the space to work in harmony together. Your beautiful blog reminded me of this.

630. Once we understand that so many of our communications with each other are from reaction, it becomes easier to listen with greater understanding and awareness, to appreciate the delicate nature we all have, and how easily we can be knocked off balance by the energy driving us. To be able to surrender and feel what is there at a deeper level, what is truly being communicated, is a less emotional way to live and therefore less imposing and less draining.

631. This is gorgeous Bianca and what a beautiful reflection to take into the day. “I held my family member in absolute love, remembering the gorgeous, tender, precious, loving being they naturally are”. This is something that we all have the abiltiy to do, we simply have to choose to remember that we all have this feather like quality and have the potential to offer this to anyone that we encounter who may not always like or agree with what we are saying. Thankyou for sharing your experience.

632. I love your analogy of a feather Bianca- light, no control, going with the universal flow, being transparent.
     Your blog has allowed me to ponder on this more deeply – to observe and not absorb in a real life situation.

633. “There is not a speck of control as it silkily glides through the air and surrenders to the wind, letting it guide its movements.” This is the most beautiful description of a floating feather I have ever seen. The lack of control is a strong reflection for me as I often find myself going into control rather than surrender, particularly when I feel under pressure.

634. Such a beautiful blog, I also read it yesterday and it stayed with me the whole time. Letting go of our defences and also the need to defend, but to just be and holding people in love. This is what true understanding is all about.

635. It is through surrender that we have the opportunity to go deeper with our own inner connection as well as our connection with others. Any resistance we have to surrender can be felt in the body as a hardening or contraction of some kind. If we stay with our body we have the opportunity to register exactly what is going on for us and can then choose to surrender like the feather.

636. Thanks Bianca for the beautiful reminder that it in surrender that we have the opportunity to allow our bodies to open as we can then hold steady in the love that we are for ourselves and for others. When we are able to do this, miracles can happen as you have shared with your experience at the dinner table.

637. “I was bathed in the holding quality of love from my inner connection and so I remained like the feather – surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.” This is beautiful Bianca, and your last few words ‘knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of’ really reminded me that all we have to do is surrender to the love that we know we are and what will unfold is already there waiting for us….we don’t have to do anything…a beautiful reminder to start my day with.

638. Thank you Bianca, how utterly important in life is it to not react so our every movements has not an once of emotion, as you described this is how we are totally there for others.

639. The wisdom and poetry of your blog Bianca is absolutely exquisite

640. The grace that is felt when a feather falls from the sky is exquisitely touching (from a recent experience). It reminds me of the stillness and motion that exists inside me and within each and every human being and to surrender to the divine plan as there is so much more going on.

641. Feeling your surrender in this situation is a great example to observe Bianca, and it was because of the holding love and inspiration you felt from what Natalie Benhayon presented that you were able to hold the same surrender to yourself and apply it at home. We have patterns and behaviours with our families we can re-imprint with love instead of emotional reactions and everyone feels it.

642. Thank you for sharing this awesome lesson in observing and reading a situation and how by not absorbing the emotion of the comment you were able to hold the other person in love and allow them to come back to themselves and go to a deeper level of intimacy.

643. I felt very inspired by your blog this morning. It allowed me to appreciate the tenderness that I am in my body and how living that strengthens my connection and gives me a more solid base to work from.

     1. This is so true for me also Elaine, this blog is spot on for my life right now and as Bianca says, “I held my family member in absolute love, remembering the gorgeous, tender, precious, loving being they naturally are.” This goes for all people in our lives.

644. Sharing what it feels like to be surrendered and how this supports with everyday living in a practical sense is super supportive. To be aware that we are living in reaction to life in the first place is enormous but to also know that there is a different way where response (not reaction) to any given situation is possible through holding steady, is a revelation!

     1. Totally agree Michelle. A revelation indeed. And the crazy thing is – it could be super simple if we just chose it. It’s not reserved for certain people, we each have this opportunity!

     2. This is so revealing what you say here Michelle. lt took some time for me to realise l was living in reaction to life. l call that survival mode. This was a revelation to me also…”I was bathed in the holding quality of love from my inner connection and so I remained like the feather – surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.” l am learning consistency in living this way.

645. Your analogy of surrender being like a feather, to allow it to be effortless, light, gentle, no push or pressure for it to move or be a certain way. Just like you said about your family member – “I held my family member in absolute love, remembering the gorgeous, tender, precious, loving being they naturally are.” There does not feel that there was any judgement, just love and understanding, very beautiful and inspiring.

     1. This is awesome Raegan, an important reminder for all. How we hold others. To hold them in this quality of regard is to enable all to feel the joy and harmony of what is described in this blog..”l felt exquisitely beautiful, very open with people and able to understand life with ease.”

646. I used to think surrendering was all about giving in or giving up. I would resist it as it had a sense of heaviness to it and a sense of loss of control. To truly surrender is none of these things. As you have shown Bianca, when we trust in our innate wisdom and are impulsed from there our surrender can be as light as a feather. There is no reaction then but a holding of ourselves and others in love.

647. What I find wonderful is how this debunks and redefines the word ‘surrender’. It was the word “freeing” that highlights this. So often we consider the word surrender to be a giving up, a giving in. But here the feeling of handing oneself over is not indeed to the enemy, but to the rhythm of our Soul, to the love of God, a space that is still and observant. “In this surrender, I was moving and expressing as my inner connection impulsed me to be. It was very freeing – I felt safe and supported and there was a confidence within my body that I would naturally know what to do next.”

648. The message in this blog may appear simple but it is very profound and has stayed with me since I first read it. Thank you Bianca.

649. I love how you were able to say ‘no’ to the thoughts that came in, and instead choose to remain expanded and connected to love. I find that if I entertain the negative thoughts that want to come in it can very quickly put me on a downward spiral and change my whole day. Being discerning and conscious in each moment is something I am still learning to do.

650. Profound Bianca. The question is often asked ‘how can I change the world?’ – and this is precisely how.

651. I must admit I hold back from expressing at times for fear of how others might react. Your blog is inspiring Bianca because its a clear example of how you can be direct and honest, and still hold steady and not lose yourself in an emotional reaction. I can see it would have to come from a way of living over time that becomes a foundation you can call upon in those moments. Not something that you can just pull out of the bag in an instance.

652. Thank you, Bianca, this is such a powerful blog. The choice to surrender and not be dominated by our usual defences is a life changing moment, as we get to feel that there is nothing more powerful than our own choices. When we are no longer a victim in life, we see more clearly and can feel what is truly needed.

653. Your blog has left me with a great image of being like a feather. Very apt. I enjoyed reading how you were able to express truth but not go into reaction with your family member. You have clearly demonstrated that expressing with a loving intention, and how you choose to react (or not) can bring harmony as opposed to conflict and argument.

654. Bianca, this is so gorgeous to read, ‘Have you ever observed how a feather floats through the sky, so smoothly and with grace, no matter what is going on around it.’ I love this and will experiment with being like a feather; surrendered and unaffected by what is going on around me.

655. “I was bathed in the holding quality of love from my inner connection and so I remained like the feather – surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.” This is the key. Surrender and letting go of any need to control what happens next is when we allow the natural flow and order of life to be expressed, even in the most challenging of situations. This is very inspiring for me as this is an area of my life I am working on at the moment. I love the feather analogy – very supportive, thank you for sharing.

656. “I felt exquisitely beautiful, very open with people and able to understand life with ease.” Such a beautiful way to move in life. No fight or struggle, simply open understanding and love.

657. To observe and not absorb is something that I too have been carrying with me, thanks to the inspiration shared by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. The experience shared here about the family dinner table, a typical setting for us to take things on, get emotional, get caught up ect – sets a whole new tone and opportunity for how we do not have to take things on but rather hold everyone in appreciation for who they are and not get sucked into anything. Ultimately, this creates and sets a more loving, deepening and open relationship with all.

658. How exquisite Bianca, that you held yourself, and remained as a feather allowing your expression to expand which served everyone in that loving connection. Once again a loving, and beautiful reflection from God on how to live, love and breath in the world, and how we can support others by allowing the flow of life to come to us if we surrender to it.

659. Conversely, it is hugely draining to live life always needing a mission to keep one activated and engaged in life.

660. I just feel this is the most amazing and precious moment, “They looked tentatively into my eyes and I met them with a fullness of love and understanding that melted their hesitancy away.” What a healing gift this is, to hold steady in your love and provide space to allow others to return, to themselves and to you, to not be judged or blamed, but understood and accepted.

661. I totally understand the breakthrough it is when we do not react to another but instead, hold ourselves and feel what is true for us. It is a real moment of claiming something very needed for ourselves. It also supports, as your example so beautifully shows the powerful effect it has on another.

662. Being made aware to Observe and not absorb is another great gift, although I am no master of this yet and still react at times, it so amazing to know that this is only a matter of choice and not a done thing.

663. What a gorgeous blog Bianca, so powerful and wise. The analogy you use is exquisite and emanates a very deep feeling of appreciation in me for you. I just love what you have written here;
     “I was filled with appreciation for my choice to remain like the feather – surrendered to the exquisite love that surrounds us all and to the solid, unwavering wisdom that comes from our inner connection”.

664. That is a beautiful analogy – thank you, Bianca, for sharing it. The effortlessness of it, knowing full well and trusting that it is going to land somewhere gently – not controlling or forcing where it is heading, wherever it is going to land, it will still be a feather, light and delicate. And what stood out for me is that that quality of you staying connected with yourself in observing others, was already there with you well before the gathering, and what you did was to simply keep choosing, keep confirming it in you, and in others, which was felt and recognized by them as well. Gorgeous.

665. Becoming one with the All is surrendering to the Grace of God. To feel this if for but a moment is Truth in action.

666. Our life changes when we move like a feather, as if there is no boundary between us and the world. When we do so harmoniously, it then allows us to truly read what is happening as Bianca writes so well.

667. Feathers offer us so much from its simplicity. It holds true grace, playfulness and surrender much admired qualities for us all to enjoy.

668. The way you describe this Bianca is so tangible in every word, they themselves seem to gently descend and nestle on the page right in front of my eyes. What a contrast with the intensity that very physically seems to latch on and attach itself to people’s words and actions. Just this morning I had an example of this in my life, and got sucked into the emotion and the event. This intensity of reaction is definitely not the real you and me.

669. Bianca what you have shared and your expression are simply divine. The beautiful analogy of the feather is perfect and came 2 minutes after a phone call to work, which left me considering how I could ‘control a situation’. I am now left with the clarity that the only way to truly control a situation is to let it go.

670. Surrender, go with the flow, allow what is to take place to take place with no hesitation, and open up to others – feel the love, let in the love, be the love that we all are.

671. “They looked tentatively into my eyes and I met them with a fullness of love and understanding that melted their hesitancy away.” The solid inner connection, the grounded wisdom you speak of Bianca is expressed through the movement in your body and the depth of your eyes, to the point where everyone & everything knows what to do next.

672. Bianca this is gorgeous to read and feel. holding people in love whilst they are evolving so that they can come back to a deeper awareness of love is just amazing. I’m so inspired by what you’ve written.

673. When we react to another’s reaction, we cement them in that whereas when we bring understanding, there is the space created for them to bring that same understanding to themselves.

674. Bianca, I can totally relate to the way of reacting to hurts that you write of – “…I would retreat into a corner of my heart and tentatively wait for someone to give me a sign that it was safe to come out again.”. It is such a common response when we are spoken to harshly or a hurtful comment comes our way, we retreat, we feel unsafe, and the walls go up and we will only tentatively begin to dismantle our protection when others prove they can be trusted. And here-in lies the game – we actually get quite attached to our protection, and it taints the way we view the world, always a little tentative, waiting for the next “attack” so we are never fully open, nor do we allow ourselves to experience the surrender that you have so beautifully described. The game is that when we live life this way, all our protections are bouncing off each other, leading to more reactions and more misunderstandings…it is only when we let go of protection that we get to see the world as it truly is, and from this point we can bring understanding to the reactions of others and this understanding affords them the space to let go of their own hurts and protections. Super inspiring!

675. Thank you for sharing the analogy of the feather Bianca, it gives a beautiful picture of what surrender feels like. It is so easy to go into hurts, reactions and old patterns of behavior, particularly with family. Often everyone involved wants to change but it feels like you can’t and that you are stuck. Surrendering to what is there and going beyond the hurts offers a way forward in these situations without the reaction.

676. Thank-you Bianca for this lovely inspiring blog on how remaining surrendered and connected to the love you could feel it allowed your family relationship to go deeper. All because you chose to remain open hearted and therefore were able to see behind their reaction to the hurt they were feeling and not take it personally. A wonderful example of observing and not absorbing.

677. I could feel just how intently I was reading and feeling this and I find it super inspiring. Allowing the space for another to be in reaction and still be held in love by us offers great healing for all.

678. It is gorgeous reading not only how wonderful you felt Bianca when you lived your day surrendered like a feather gliding in the wind, and how steady you managed to remain when someone snapped at you, but also the amazing impact you had on your family member because you were able to surrender, so instead of reacting and closing down to a hurtful situation, you could simply observe, understand and carry one being loving. It shows that this quality is well worth developing and deepening.

679. Thank you Bianca for this inspiring and loving blog. I have been working on learning to observer and not absorb which has been proving to be more difficult than I realise because I can go into reaction before I have time to think about it. So it really shows I was already in reaction before I enter a room or a conversation. Your example of the feather is beautiful and reminds me to move from the moment I wake up in the mornings to be like a feather, unimposing, gentle and in surrender, than I am than more able to observe life instead of absorbing it and react. To flow through my day as light as a feather. I feel lighter already by just reading your blog Bianca.

680. As I read this blog I could relate to many situations where I have reacted and not held people with this level of understanding, when you react everyone walks away hurt. What you have shared is inspirational and supports me going forward with learning how to observe situations and allow people to be.

681. I am learning more and more how surrender is a natural movement for us, of Divine truth, as we return to being with the All that we are.

682. Love your blog Bianca! Observing our behaviour and reactions can give us a lot of understanding into the energy that has played out in life, why we feel hurt and why we react. Its amazing and quite possible to live in this way that completely lets go of self importance and seeks to live in the greater surrender, like you shared “with the warmth of your heart expanding”.

683. wow, what a difference taking the time and making the space to read the situation makes. The choice to observe and not absorb is a miraculous one in so that it offers a lot for another and so much more awareness of oneself and others. How awesome to take the time to understand and not get angry back. blown away by the example you have shared of surrendering to your love, gorgeous.

684. Staying connected to our open and loving heart, trusting that whatever is needed will come is healing for all around us and also for ourselves. It truly is a new marker of what is possible when you surrender in these moments and allow the space for the shift that is needed to take place. A Beautiful sharing that relates to the experiences we all have in our livingness.

685. Bianca a very inspiring piece. I really appreciate your decision, dedication and care of putting it all together and build up this very beautiful, simple and powerful blog. I read it in the morning and hold me for the rest of the day; a day that can be seen as challenging: rough,rainy, developing city full of harshness and dirt everywhere. It expanded within me and was a great support and confirmation. Much Love

686. The other thing I felt to mention in what you have shared Bianca, is how you have so beautifully broken the image that surrendering is a disempowerment. As you have presented, surrendering is not about giving your power away to another, but it is about allowing your true strength and delicateness to come out. Further to that, many people might see surrendering as equating with submitting – but the latter is about giving your power away and essentially giving yourself up to an imposing force. But there is nothing of submission in surrendering to our true power. Surrendering to our true essence is empowering and deeply transforming as you have so beautifully shared in your blog above. Thank you!

687. I love the sense of surrender to a deep inner-connection that you convey here Bianca and how you chose to stay with this when challenged by something that normally would have triggered a hurt and emotional reaction. And gorgeous how that choice to stay connected then supported the family member to connect back with themselves.

688. Wow, what a gorgeous and inspiring sharing Bianca! Thank you! The interaction that you shared with your family is a classic example of how things can turn at a dinner table or other occasion. Something is said that triggers a hurt in another and then we can feel the tension as the emotions run high. But with how you were in that situation, and how you handled it by not taking it personally and by holding yourself and the other in the warmth, allowed for the whole situation to be diffused. It is so important that we don’t get caught up in situations, and that instead we allow ourselves to see more of what is actually going on and bringing the understanding to ourselves and the other. Something we can all be inspired by.

689. Bianca this is an amazingly beautiful and inspiring blog and one I can deeply relate to. I expect many if not all of have experienced that reaction of others and in fact at times react ourselves so that we energetically if not out rightly shut others up and attempt to cut off their expression. Recently I have been at the receiving end of that quite a bit. When it happens a few times I can sometimes observe and not personalise, but when it happens a lot I do at time tip into the hurts and reactions you have described. It is so very freeing and touching to read your detailed description of how you were able to surrender, observe and not absorb and stay in and hold yourself and the others in love. I will bookmark your blog to read a few more times!

690. I love this analogy Bianca, to see ourselves in this light, who like the feather can be open to move on the wind and surrender to where it takes us. What a beautiful and open way to be and what an opportunity to truly observe not only ourselves, but our family and others. It projects no ideals or beliefs, simply an allowing for everyone (ones self included) to be where they are at. I could feel by being this way you offered your family member a chance to just be with what they felt and not go into further reaction and hurt and through doing so offered a much deeper level of intimacy between you.

691. I felt very held and surrendered just reading your blog – what a delightful piece of writing and an exquisitely insightful life experience you are sharing with us. I had a glimpse of what the world could look like if we were less reactive in this world. The metaphor of the feather is just magic – I fight surrender so often as control and drive are 2 ways I have lived my life for many years (possibly lifetimes). But I love it when I do and the feather is a lovely way to see surrender and a reminder to let it happen more and more.

     1. I too can relate to what you have said Sarah – it was deeply surrendering to read Bianca’s blog, and at the same time it allowed me to see how much I do still allow the control and drive that you have described to rule my life as well. Old patterns that are no longer of use, take a little bit of work to ditch and move on from, and in addition to time, the other ingredient that is needed is consistency….so the more we can bring awareness to it and work on it little bit by little bit, the more we can do this regularly and consistently, the more easily these things then fall away so that more of the surrender can unfold itself.

692. A Lesson in Surrender – Be like a Feather…this is exquisite Bianca. From someone who has held back from letting go and surrendering this blog is a treasure. When we are in a surrendered way of being life certainly becomes easier to deal with, as we can observe far more in this state and take on less.

693. Correlating the beautiful analogy of the floating feather with living from observing and not absorbing brings the saying ‘observe and not absorb’ into a practical understanding.

694. Thank you for sharing how you found a way to release yourself from the familiar dynamics that can play out in our households everyday.

695. When we surrender to our connection to Soul, to our essence within, our awareness and understanding of ourselves and the world around us expands so we are able to respond with the absolute Love that we are connected to. With this it is the power of Love that moves us, as it moves through us in order to reflect the truth of who we are in every moment.

696. Beautiful Bianca, I would say that each and every one of us can relate to that feeling of wanting to shut down or protect ourselves when we sense another’s reaction; but what this really does is send two people into their old held hurts and then there is no true evolution or way forward presented. What you have experienced, through surrender, on the other hand shows us the power and responsibility of staying true to ourselves and solid in our love so that no matter what there is always a point of love and further surrender on offer to deepen to.

697. Beautifully written blog Bianca, I will never look at a feather in the same way again. I had not heard that analogy before. I love what you have shared here about how we have a choice in every moment to react to situations or deepen the love we are and let others feel that love. Thank you.

     1. Great point Judy, we certainly do have a choice to be loving or to react. It feels so much more loving and amazing to not react but at times I feel like I go into autopilot and react before I have allowed myself time to observe. The great thing is I now just nominate my reactions and explain to the other person what just happened and this also feels very supportive. So, to not beat ourselves up if we do go into reaction but to be honest and express what just happened and learn from it. So, every situation provides us with an opportunity to learn and grow, even our reactive ones.

698. I’ve noticed in our communications together hurts or reactions can come up, but what hurts one, or causes a reaction in another is different. We think we all think the same, but we all have our points that trigger us, and they are seemingly quite unique. So having said that, if we are at the mercy of other’s reactions, we will be like a cork on the ocean, rather than a feather in the sky.

699. Life only becomes a struggle when we resist what is there for us to experience. What a beautiful blog to remind us to surrender and be tender just like a feather. To let life flow and embrace every opportunity to grow. Thank you Bianca!

     1. Beautifully said Annelies, Thank you for your inspiring words.

700. Communication is so often disrupted by the reaction of one or more people involved and I can easily find myself trying to justify my position and this just entrenches things further. It’s a real challenge to learn to observe and not absorb but, as you have shown in your blog Bianca, the outcomes are very different. I like the analogy of a feather floating through the air with surrender. This is a picture I can carry with me as I continue to work on surrendering and allowing my body to lead the way, especially when I am in difficult circumstances. Thank you!

701. Thank you for sharing, through your lived experience, how there is in fact great power in surrender. As surrendering to truth and love we surrender to who we are in essence, who we ALL are. Holding ourselves true to this not only guides us through our day but allows us to be a true reflection of love where ever we are, one that offers guidance for others to return back to the truth and love of who they are.

702. It is remarkable when we can stay detached and not absorb the emotion of a situation. I have experienced many situations like Bianca describes, and have experienced both staying open and being in reaction. The former is a much more powerful way to express and much more healing for all concerned.

703. Thank you Bianca I had never considered that holding myself and a space was to surrender which then leads to being able to simply observe a situation with no need for it be any particular way leading to feeling affected from what is going on. Awesome! I love seeing the way a feather floats through the air so can hold this analogy very easily – thank you.

704. Love it ,’Be like a Feather,’ I will remember that.

     1. “Be like a Feather” sounds like a great name for a song, Jenny.

705. Lately I have been seeing a lot of dropping leaves (autumn has belatedly arrived). They have been capturing my attention, unusually and powerfully – the way they fall represents a level of surrender that I can sense is possible, more than possible in this life. They are showing me that we can let go, just as the leaf releases itself from is branch. We can allow ourselves to be moved by life, to land precisely where we need to be, uncalculated. This is great medicine for a life lived in anxious control.

     1. Absolutely blessed by your words Rachel! What greater order is there, if the leaf lands where it needs to be, and we can also be the same way? Uncalculated, I like that. But never the less powerful, and amazing.

706. It is very powerful when in any given situation we don’t react, but just observe and feel what is going on, without any need to fix or change anything.

707. A beautiful testimony to the power of true observation. There is such a tendency there to ‘absorb’ life by going into the reaction and emotions of these situations before us. I have done that so much in the past and just like you I now realise it is far wiser and more loving to simply observe it

708. I was reading this blog on my mobile phone and I described the content to the person I was with and they said ‘wouldn’t it be nice if the whole world behaved like that?’ and wouldn’t it just? It would be a very different place if we all lived without reacting and by holding others with love. I’m deeply inspired by your experience and learning. Thank you for sharing.

709. It was only yesterday that I observed myself react to someone’s subtlety undermining comment, I saw myself say something along the lines of ‘what ever, that’s not true’. In that moment I realized that often I will speak up as if I’m standing up for myself but it’s not actually this at all and it’s actually a fight back or a ‘fight’ for truth. After the comment I felt the sadness in my body and the frustration and anger in my comment at ‘how dare they say that’. Reading this today I see the way forward, I see that I reacted quicker than I could think, the words just flying out of my mouth and that this happened because I was not surrendered and observing everything before feeling what is needed to respond or just sit and be. I see that surrender is a way of living in everything and not just something we turn on when we need to observe a sticky situation, it has to be constantly on.

     1. This is a great sharing Danielle as I can relate to what you share here. There have been times where I think I have been calling things to account but I have actually been in total reaction and so adding to it. It can be in conversations or also just in your thoughts. I watched a movie recently that I thought was very inappropriate for its intended audience. They way I thought about it was all in reaction- not observing what was truly going on.

710. Bianca, what you have shared is so timely for me. To not go into a reaction but to surrender to the moment by observing and not absorbing is so powerful and a confirmation for me about what is possible. Thank you.

711. I love the analogy with the feather, there is such a grace in how feathers flow through the sky and how they touch the ground. It is a great way to understand what surrendering is and let my body feel like a feather. Thank you.

712. The word surrender in the context of this blog is such a lovely word. Surrendering to not going into protection or surrendering to the magnificence of the light of the soul. There is great power in surrendering.

713. Well doesn’t the analogy of being a feather in the wind take away any control we may think we need in our lives.

714. I have to say the quality you describe in relating to your family is inspirational and truly a new marker for what we could offer the people with live with and have grown up with.

715. When we stay with love, all that is not love soon leaves. This may take moments or many lifetimes, it does not matter how long. What matters is that we are divinely designed to pull back to love regardless of the resistance we may put in place to delay it.

716. Bianca, imagine if parents, teachers, partners, friends, children, grandparents. . . everyone in every type of relationship brought this wisdom into their relationships? It would change the world.

717. This is such an inspiring blog – thank you Bianca. Feathers have no designs on where they will land or how they will move, they are designed to help birds fly and remind us all how to do the same.

718. Gorgeous sharing Bianca…revealing the power of Love, and when we hold that quality within us and reflect it for all to feel, it offers others another choice – they can stay in their reaction or be the love they naturally and innately are instead.

719. This is truly an inspiring and beautiful sharing. I love that you were able to hold the other member of your family and in that moment re-write the future for all of you and your future interactions. Today I needed to read this – perhaps I am more in surrender than I realised, that this loving gift came my way. Thank you Bianca.

720. I love the way you didn’t have to say anything more Bianca, but just let yourself surrender to the love and in doing so not become involved with any reaction, how it all happened through you holding everyone in that loving energy. The power of our particle connections! We cannot but feel energy.

721. The feather is a great analogy of ‘observe not absorb’… beautiful in its simplicity but profound and very powerful – thank you for your inspiration Bianca.

722. It’s beautiful to feel how with your simple and loving holding of the situation in that moment Barbara that it helped dissolve any ongoing reaction in the other and helped them to feel they could trust, surrender and go deeper with the intimacy.

723. ‘I would retreat into a corner of my heart and tentatively wait for someone to give me a sign that it was safe to come out again.’ Bianca I totally relate to this description of how you may have reacted in the past as I have done this often. What inspires me most is how surrendering allowed you the space to observe your own thoughts that jumped in and the other person too, which then allowed them the space to do the same. It shows the potential to transform our relationships everywhere, especially at home and at work, if we speak from our hearts fully and are able to maintain an observational perspective when a ‘left field’ reaction occurs.

724. Bianca the way you describe ‘holding your family’ member in love and how this diffused their protective reaction is profoundly beautiful and healing. It illustrates what surrendering like a feather can bring and is inspiring.

725. Equating surrender to the nature of a feather calls forth an opening of our hearts allowing any controlling behaviours to naturally dissolve.

726. The tension dissipates so beautifully when we allow ourselves to surrender to the power of our own connection. Tension and anxiety from situations we are experiencing, only adds stress to the body, surrender allows our light to be expressed in full. It feels glorious, thank you for the beautiful reminder Bianca.

727. I love how you held your family member in love and continued to see their essence rather then allow their behavior to affect you. This is how we need to be in all relationships as this supports the other person to come out of their reaction and re-connect with love which was shown so beautifully in your example.

728. This is an awesome blog Bianca, I love the analogy of the feather it is such a great reminder of how important it is to stay surrendered and how this impacts on our selves and our relationships. Thank you for the inspiring blog.

729. In the past I would have seen surrender as being a weakness, now I see this as a strength which you have further confirmed in what you have shared. Plus what is possible to heal and hold when we don’t immediately go into reaction. Thanks.

730. I loved this blog Bianca, and I feel inspired by your analogy, especially taking heart in – “I was bathed in the holding quality of love from my inner connection and so I remained like the feather – surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.” – that -” knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.” is huge for me, it takes the anxiousness and tension out of my body just reading it – oh to let go and and trust this divine existence does hold and support me.

731. Beautiful Bianca, as I read this blog and felt you hold your family member in love as they reacted I felt the enormous grace that comes with that — and the choice. That we do in actual fact have the power to say no to shutting off and retreating in what would be another reaction keeping love out and adding therefore to humanity’s collective pain. Such a powerful example of how we can truly heal ourselves and others with our loving and graceful way.

732. What a great lesson Bianca, thank you for sharing. I find the way I have been living and moving affects the way I am with others and whether or not I react. It brings the responsibility firmly back to me and allows me to observe and understand life far more rather than simply reacting to almost everything.

733. Thank you so much for writing this in such a feather-light and clear way. I could just feel how your dinner transformed from a potential emotional messy family dinner talk to a deepening intimate connection between all members around the table. I spontaneous picked up a feather I have laying in my room and put it next to my laptop. A reminder for today to keep all feather light and experience myself how it feels to be a feather for a day – or two 😉

734. Gorgeous blog Bianca Barban – Feathers have always been of great significance to me – True Magic of God moments to be appreciated for the joy and confirmation they bring, always in the most unexpected of places, symbolising all is well, on track or a knowing that stepping out of a comfort zone to do something very differently was a true step. From reading this today, I have another perspective to appreciate when seeing a feather dancing around in the air, being one with all.
     “In this surrender it becomes one with the wind, no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements, trusting completely that it will be taken care of in its movements and when it stops”.

735. What a great analogy for surrender the feather blowing in the wind is. I can see it is exactly like that, knowing that were we are blown to is the right way is so strong when we are connected to the true energy of the soul. It is beautiful to read how this energy can be transforming a situation that could have escalated in a fight or argument, knowing that the love you felt in you is in everyone and that it is just a reaction, not for you to go into reaction also. Beautiful to read, and very inspiring to come to see what surrender truly is.

736. The analogy of the feather reminded me of how surrendering embraces a trust that everything will be ok – not in the sense that we can do anything we want and we will be ok (because trusting does not mean we can be irresponsible in our choices) – but in the sense that we trust and surrender to our inner heart and the natural wisdom within… trusting that we will know exactly what to say and what to do in any situation instead of trying to control it.

737. Thank you Bianca, I love this s powerful analogy of being like a feather in our daily life. The difference can be clearly felt between closing down in emotional reaction, resulting in hardening in our body rather than open and free to move and express in this feather-light way. Thanks to being deeply inspired by Serge Benhayon’s presentations, I have experienced similar changes in my life that confirm the choice to observe rather than absorb has been a doorway to deeper intimacy and understanding with myself, family and people in general.

738. I agree Bianca the feather is a superbly precise symbol for surrender, as something so delicate has no need for control or force for it simply is in the purity of its true nature.

739. What a beautiful analogy of the feather Bianca. Reading it I could sense the lightness and the freedom of what it feels like to surrender to what is naturally next, compared to the heaviness of the control that we often use to attempt to make life the way we want it, or think it should be. These two feelings are worlds apart, but only one offers the opportunity of true healing.

740. It is amazing when we have these periods of grace. They show us what is possible and let the parts of us that are not quite as grace-full come out to be dealt with. The latter is often not very graceful but it is a great opportunity to have more and more moments of grace and expression.

741. This is so beautiful Bianca, being able to hold yourself as you did all day feels like it enabled you to remain the observer and not absorb the remark from your family member. What you have described is the exact way of being to ensure this happens, so that we don’t get caught up in the thoughts that do come in and want to take us down a reactive path. I felt very inspired by your blog, thank you.

742. The appreciation you have expressed here Bianca is magnificent to feel. In sharing your defining moment I can feel what is possible when the choice to observe is made, and I can appreciate that it is not something that necessarily happens first time every time, but something I can continue practising.

743. This is very beautiful, what I could also feel and appreciate in your description of both the feather in surrender and your own choice to stay with feeling open and your expanding warmth, is how totally allowing they are and as a consequence how completely unimposing. The emotion/reaction from your family member simply had nothing to fight against. Such is the power of surrender in our own bodies but what you’ve clearly shown also is how gently transformative it is for others.

744. To be able to meet another in the midst of their angst and hold oneself in love is a great testament to a way of living. Without a solid foundation, that reactive snowball cannot be stopped, even if we appears calm or unmoved on the outside. This is an inspiring moment to share.

745. I learnt so much from reading this blog, it was perhaps stuff I already knew but your words helped consolidate my understanding. The importance of surrender and letting things flow without going into reaction is definitely something to master. So often I may react to something a little uncomfortable which may start a nuclear reaction within the family unit instead of taking the feather approach.

746. “To observe and not absorb”, this is definitely a beautiful thing Serge shared, I have found it really life changing for me, especially when I am around my family as I use to get caught in all the emotions and dramas at play. Now I am able to still be with my family and enjoy being with them, without getting caught up in their emotions. I am able to just observe and not absorb and allow the what ever needs to unfold, unfold. It is so freeing on my self and my body.

747. This is beautiful Bianca. How amazing for your whole family that you took the time to expand in love instead of react. I can feel how profoundly healing this is, not only for your family but also for everyone who reads this blog.

748. There is a silky feather like energy through out this entire blog, Bianca! “surrendered to the exquisite love that surrounds us all”…….I am melting …..thank you!

749. What you describe in your not reacting and commitment to being aligned to your soul in a time of aggression coming at you, is pure alchemy what followed after you not reacting was a true healing that is so beautiful and simple it is breathtaking.

750. I have the image of trees or grass for surrender as there is not an ounce of resistance in them as they get moved by the wind, even if they wind topples them to the ground as I witnessed a few years ago with mighty oaks surrendering and falling in seconds to the mighty wind around them. I love what you have shared and are recently experiencing similar moments of being able to observe others rather than go into reaction – which is pretty much a miracle for me!

751. Gorgeous analogy of the feather to take with us during our day in the world..feels like harmlessness.

752. To not take things personally but also do not shy away from connection, conversations and interaction lead us to a foundation of self-love from where it is more easy to understand what is going on, specially in others when they are in emotions. This is a blessing for us and the other, who can then easily let go of the hurt and re-connect to the love he/she is naturally.

753. ‘I was bathed in the holding quality of love from my inner connection and so I remained like the feather – surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.’ When we truly surrender anxiety is banished because we can feel what is required. Thank you for sharing this lived example of letting go of controlling outcomes and the growing intimacy that this allowed. I share your enormous appreciation of Serge and Natalie Benhayon for all that they present and inspire humanity with and I love that you also appreciated your own choices which feels like a deeper confirmation of the connection you have with yourself and thus to humanity.

754. This is a lovely definition of what surrender is Bianca and truly supportive. I also really appreciate the confirmation of what it is like to not react to another’s reaction but to hold steady in the knowing we have when we are in that state and how this truly supports another to get past their hurts too.

755. “Observe and not absorb” – This is an incredibly simple yet totally groundbreaking principle. It changes everything – the way we are with others, with ourselves and in every situation in life. I have noticed that when I observe the world rather than absorb all of its problems and issues I feel lighter and much more able to listen and support where needed. When we absorb we get caught up in emotions, sympathy or in reaction, and this can have a poisonous effect on us which in turn means we lessen ourselves down to the level of that issue.

756. Superb article Bianca thank you. I love this sentence “I was bathed in the holding quality of love from my inner connection and so I remained like the feather – surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.” What a gift to offer us, the knowing that our future is taken care of, all we need to do is trust and stay with the love inside us, the graceful feather that never worries about where the wind is taking it. I too share your deep appreciation of Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon as they continually up the game in the re-connection stakes, empowering humanity to take back our power of surrender and trust in the immense love within, because when we honour and surrender to it, it will never fail us.

757. I love this analogy with a feather, so delicate and light. This so fits the feeling of being able to stay in love as we interact with others. At the same time we are steady and solid in ourselves when we don’t absorb but observe the situation. Thank you for this blog Bianca, I can feel that it confirms me and inspires at the same time.

758. This is a beautiful blog Bianca with so much wisdom and simplicity offering a great support by example to observe and not absorb. This is something I am learning and have always found difficult but your analogy of remaining light as a feather is so beautiful and relatable to I will keep this with me always thank you.

     1. I too have found it difficult, and so I can understand why it was such a big moment for Bianca – and I’m grateful for her sharing of it!

759. I had assumed I had never felt this was – like a feather surrendered – but as soon as I read these words “Have you ever observed how a feather floats through the sky, so smoothly and with grace, no matter what is going on around it.” I know I have on many occasions – just goes to show how old patterns of negative thoughts can lead us astray – and how and what we actaully feel in the body is very different to this – the key for me is to always check in and listen to the body first.

760. Bianca, this is really gorgeous to read, thank you for sharing the anology of the feather and surrender. It is very beautiful how you did not react at your family dinner and instead stayed with your love and held your family member in love and allowed them to go deeper, I can feel how it is so common to get hurt or angry by what someone says to us rather than there being an understanding and knowing that there is a hurt there and not to take it personally. Yesterday a car driver got very angry with me for not really any reason, I used to really react and be aggressive back or I would feel my heart racing and i would be upset, but I stayed loving and present and did not allow the thoughts in and so did not react and simply carried on with my journey understanding that it was their hurt/issue and not to take it personally.

761. I enjoy observing how one moment leads to the next and one choice leads to the next. The trickiest part is to observe the moment I take a choice and to really empower myself to consciously choose. And in the end I must humbly say: The choice I have is: to observe what is already there.

762. It’s true Natalie Benhayon is an amazing inspiration for people across the world, young and old, each and every day. She lives for humanity.

763. Bianca what a beautiful reflection, i didn’t know that a feather was about surrender but it makes perfect sense and your description fits so well with what a feather does, no control just trusting nature to take it where it needs to be. Like the feather, in your surrender you were able to see and understand what it was going on behind your family member’s reaction and stay still and let love be your guide.

764. Thank you Bianca for sharing this. It confirms a recent experience similar to what you’ve shared in that when we hold onto that quality from within us and just be with it in whatever way the body feels to move to hold such a quality it allows others to do the same. It reflects that the hurts we hold onto are not us and that we don’t need them as we believe we do while holding on. It’s like showing a fish it can swim while its on the beach claiming that it can’t.

765. This is exquisite Bianca. Thank you for sharing the beautiful, tender moment you experienced with your family and such a powerful example of the power of surrender.

766. ‘Be like a feather’ a beautiful analogy. Thank you Bianca. A powerful lesson on surrender and one I can relate to. When something is said to us that jars, we can descend into self doubt, want to lash out or we can stay with ourselves, know who we are and not react. I’m learning more and more not to take things personally, but see these experiences as opportunities to evolve.

     1. Thanks for expanding this kehinde2012, I can feel the enormous grace that’s there to be embodied by accepting this — not to take things personally, to observe and know that we are here to evolve and here to reflect one more unique piece of God’s enormous love.

     2. Well said, Kehinde. With that observation comes a sense of space which allows us to see the whole picture, and thus makes way for understanding. Sometimes it feels like an impossible task, but it really is more about letting go and surrendering to yourself.

767. Something that I always remind myself of, and this blog has equally confirmed, is how we can surrender our bodies to the soul’s light within us, and yet still feel the tensions of life, of relationships, of other people’s personal conflicts. How, surrendering does not mean a perfect life, it does mean the end of uncomfortable situations. Quite simply it does not mean the end of tension. Surrendering is a life long education in the science of light and energy and relationships. Thank you Bianca for a lovely blog.

768. I really enjoyed reading this blog and could feel the surrender within my own body as I was reading, and it occurred to me that we have become so used to living with tension within our bodies daily due to reactions and our thoughts winding us up and refusing to let those thoughts drop – is it any wonder that as soon as we get home relief is sought after.

     1. Yes Julie… We have made living with tension and the apprehension of what’s next our normal way. I’ve been realising this at a much deeper level lately as I can feel my body does not get pulled to tension willingly, it is something I choose because it’s been a familiar default. When I let myself surrender my body expands in full joy, and even though it’s not been how I’ve lived for much of my life, my body knows this and it feels so so normal. It’s a continuous work in progress to keep coming back to this and embodying it as my way.

     2. Very true Julie, I’ve been noticing a lot recently how much tension I can hold onto during the day and how it’s only when I get home that I start to drop the hardness and protection from the day – how tiring that is! I’m realising how holding myself in that does not actually protect me from anything, in fact it is just harming myself more. How lovely it is to be like the feather, so light and unaffected by what is going on around it – an inspiration for sure!

769. Feathers have always been an inspiration for me Bianca, particularly if I saw them gently floating to the ground from the sky and the owner of those feathers was no where to be seen. Just appearing when either a confirmation was asked for or when I’m walking and connected to all of me those magical/inspirational moments I come across a feather that brings an inner smile so big I just know that the wisdom of God is at play here. I feel Your words “I was bathed in a holding quality” they do just that hold my attention in their magic of just appearing as from out of ‘no where’. To surrender and be like a feather shares with others that same joy, observing, inspiring and connecting to all in the gentleness and wisdom that lies therein. A gorgeous gem of a blog to wake up to this morning – thank you Bianca. A little white feather moment.

770. There is such a difference between the absolute surrender as described in this blog, to the fear driven defence that is so often the counter when someone speaks to us sharply, or behaves in a way that we feel attacked. When we counter with a defence… we are still at war. If we stay with the love we naturally are, that war just cannot hold, and there is no alternative than to melt back into our more natural state.

     1. ‘When we counter with a defence… we are still at war.’ This is why the victim mentality doesn’t offer a true healing / release from the dynamic it belongs to.

771. As the storm of the world rages around us to be the green reed that has a firm foundation and moves as one with the wind without effect on its self is the acceptance just to be. You presented the way we can all make a change in the world that just requires us to be who we have always been, love to our self and all others.

772. Bianca, amazing, beautiful and timely blog, this very same situation just occurred with me last night, in conversation with a family member… It was exactly how you described and the situation took the understanding of ‘observing and not absorbing’ to a deeper place. When this happened, there was no platform for any heated discussion/argument to go, and the agitation attempting, and wanting to ignite a ‘fight’ fizzled out… It had no where to go. It was quite an incredible thing to observe, confirming that All is energy and everything is a choice. When you choose to stay WITH love, WITH your body and not defend, protect, prove, but remain open to be seen, nothing can penetrate to hurt. I’ve realised going into protection is what hurts us the most.

     1. So true Johanne… protection is a hardness in our bodies that harms us way more than anyone else, and the illusion is that we ‘think’ we are protecting ourselves but the hurt can still come through – and our bodies will show us the extent of our damaging choices…always.

     2. Great point johannebrown17 – when there is no reaction back and only an understanding and observation from a place of love, there is nothing for a fight to build on.

773. This lived way of exquisite connection allows us to see and feel the true person and hold them in this truth. In the past we were so used to holding them in the hurt that they caused until they had made up for it or showed that they had changed. Not anymore though. There is no reason to do this. We can live from this moment, holding ourselves in love, staying connected, without need of protection because we are held in everything we need, and understand exactly what is going on. This does not mean we accept abuse in any form, it just means that we no longer listen to the thoughts that create drama, we have the thoughts that align with our hearts.

774. This experience was beautiful to read, Bianca, as I too have felt this level of surrender being as light as a feather. I had not heard it described like this though, so I very much appreciate what you have shared here. To hold this feather-like quality in the face of adversity is inspiring and something I am currently working with. The healing that can come from simply holding ourselves in this delicateness is extraordinary for everyone involved.

775. Surrendering to life means to live with the knowing that we are taken care of. This is a very different way of life as most of us were brought up with. Growing up is normally a process of finding ones place in society and putting effort into developing our own personal pursuits. To surrender is accepting the fact that we are part of a whole and that we live in the rhythm of an universal order we just have to go with, like the feather in the wind and not go against it by seeking individuality.

     1. I’ve been pondering on how much we’ve been conditioned to approach life with the exact opposite belief and perception — that at a deep level we are not taken care of and hence we will be hung up to dry unless we brace up and do it all alone. And hence we have a collective human race that feels separate and we live with this deep inner ache because this separation is foreign to who we truly are. When we let ourselves surrender to the arms of our soul and live our days with this love, all we can see is our own brothers, our fellow kin who need this reflection of deep surrender to love so that they can slowly let go of all the pain of holding on in their own time too.

776. Very poignantly timed for me, Bianca – thank you.

777. Bianca, I love how you have shown how when you were fully surrendered and feeling the beautiful self that you are, that you were able to not be in reaction to the request that you stop talking when your family member reacted to something you had said. Wonderful that you were able to observe and understand that you had triggered an old hurt in that person, and that it was not a personal attack on you. It is great how we develop understanding of what is going on in situations when we are able to just observe and not absorb as Serge Benhayon has shown us. How beautiful that you were able to build to a far more intimate conversation with your family when you simply held yourself as love and held that love for them all equally.

778. There is such power and strength in choosing to observe and not absorb. This comes with a true understanding, allowing and acceptance of others.

779. This is beautiful Bianca. To be like a feather. I could feel the gentle flow of life as I was reading your blog that we feel when we surrender to our innate love and steadiness.

780. Such a beautiful blog, thank you Bianca. I just love how you expressed all that you have shared here, so much love, so much wisdom. I love how you describe how you felt when you surrendered in the way that a feather will float in the wind,. “In this surrender, I was moving and expressing as my inner connection impulsed me to be. It was very freeing – I felt safe and supported and there was a confidence within my body that I would naturally know what to do next”. And this is how Natalie Benhayon presented what true surrender is like, thank you for sharing this analogy, it is such a beautiful way of feeling what true surrender is. It will help me enormously in my endeavour to fully understand how to surrender which is something that I am really working on now in my life. How much more simple this way of living can be, learning to be fully trusting of being guided by my body as to what to do next. And such a confirmation for you in your interaction within your family at the dinner table.

781. The analogy to be like a feature in the wind does make sense to me Bianca and thank you for bringing that to me. Just to go with the flow, as a father does not resist an does not has an ounce of investment in any outcome or whatsoever but will only do what is needed, no self involved. I will take this with me in my day.

782. Thank you Bianca for reminding me to surrender to the all as a feather does – just being what it is and allowing that which is to be to be. I find your blog so very inspiring, reminding me to not anticipate ‘a hail storm’ or such, but just surrender to the love. Beautiful.

     1. A feather does not let a fierce wind upset the grace of its movements.

        1. How glorious Liane!

        2. Just what I needed to be reminded of Liane this morning… thank you

        3. Beautifully said!

783. A lovely analogy Bianca showing us how simple it is to stay out of dilemmas and hold the love that we know we all are intrinsically. Often no need to say anything but just let the feather fall as it surrenders to love.

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