503 thoughts on “The Way of the Livingness – What it is and What it Means to Me”

1. Religions by and large, have a way to place restrictions to our choices based on their dogmas. It is you against the dogmas. So, if you go against them you are against God. The Way of The Livingness is different. There are no dogmas to start with. Nothing goes against God and your choices are your privilege even if they go against your own evolution and well-being.

2. The Way of the Livingness shows us that there is more to the way than we have been living. And deep down, humanity knows that there is more to life…enter The Way of the Livingness.

3. One of the many great realizations I have come to and experience through The Way of The Livingness is that as we are we are always saying ‘yes’ to a quality of energy, be it to align to the love we are of all else we are not. From here we the choices we make reflect the quality of which we are saying ‘yes’ to. Our relationship with our bodies highlights the truth of everything what we are saying ‘yes’ at every moment be it with food, emotions and the way we relate, respond or react to others and the world we are in. Very empowering to know and feel that our true divine power can be lived whenever we will it so.

4. Thank you Vanessa, A great reminder to be kind to myself today after over doing it yesterday. It’s not that i am looking to do less today but to stay more connected to myself and honour myself – and thus others – in all that I do.

5. “You can’t unknow what you already know”. Love this Vanessa. Very true. But we put a great deal of effort into trying to unknow what we already know, even though we know so well, inside out what we know.

6. It is very exposing to admit that we actually choose to change the way we feel because we do not want to deal with the tension in life or our disconnection to our innermost.

7. I love it Vanessa, ‘I just take it back to evolving’, when all of life is looked at in this way, everything we do can be an offering point of evolution.

8. I can relate to this: ‘When I place my hands on another person as a practitioner in a healing course and connect to my breath, I feel an expansiveness in me that lets me feel the truth that we are all connected.’

9. A supportive and practical blog Vanessa. I love how you have seen sugar to be a choice to mask what you are not wanting to feel or be aware of and no longer giving yourself a hard time over it.

   1. It is amazing how freeing it is to be honest about why and where our choices are coming from.

10. “You can’t unknow what you already know.” Very true, however we are very good at pretending we don’t know, or numbing ourselves in order to not feel what we know.

11. “Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.” a great statement Vanessa, thank you. When I feel into those words I can feel the warmth in my body expand with a deep knowingness of their truth.

12. I love the reminder a desire to eat sugar may be because of a lack of sweetness in my interaction, beautiful.

    1. I tend to forget this one too and ask myself whether I was tired or didn’t want to feel something/be aware of something or didn’t want to drop into stillness.

13. Connecting with the divine within all of us, is connecting with the all, I agree nothing better than that.

14. ” Because I know I am Divine; that I come from something beautiful and magical. I know this because I feel it, and have felt it at every Universal Medicine healing course I have attended.” So beautiful Vanessa. Not only are we all sons of God, but gods, – every single one of us – as presented recently in a Universal Medicine event. We all come from the Divine.

15. Beautiful Vanessa, to look in a way that is loving, supportive and open to yourself is our way of growing. Beating up is a simple game of avoiding that (giving space to you to learn).. A rich deeply supportive blog to give an understanding of how this practically looks like — with the quality of love.

16. Thank you Vanessa for reminding us that Universal Medicine events are great opportunity for us to reconnect with truth, joy, love, harmony and stillness, but these qualities are never limited and actually available anywhere, and it is something we can live our every day from and with.

17. When we are open to reconnect to all that we are within, the love we are in essence, we discover all that we had settled for, had accepted as being ‘OK’ or seemed ‘normal’ by societies standards, is actually a gross reduction of our true potential, our Soulfulness, our true way of being. Once we re-connect to this truth, to our bodies and being, we realise this this is everything, this is truly living.

18. ‘Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.’ Beautifully said and very true Vanessa, to express and live with this truth brings a quality to our movements, it seems crazy to choose anything else?

19. The Way of The Livingness is a path of learning and evolving, where everything is an opportunity to grow and understand my human condition while I hold divinity within me.

20. Feeling the connection to our own divinity, learning to walk in that and make choices in our daily life to reflect that inner knowingness, is to me what The Way of The Livingness is and means.

21. ” You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple. ” This is so true no matter how many times we fool ourselves we always come back to what we know and what we know is truth, simple.

22. That saying of saying no to sugar because I am sweet enough is actually bang on the money I think. The daily sugar cravings I had, lessened when I brought more sweetness into my life.

    1. I can second that Sarah. I now rarely ever have a sugar craving, in fact I can’t remember the last one I had. I only just relaised now, that this is something for me to deeply appreciate as sugar was something I was very addicted to.

23. The Way of The Livingness is not just another religion. It is one that allows us to establish a very different relationship with it, one that confirms us in our divine essence and that supports us in very down to earth ways to live our divinity.

24. I love your attitude towards life – keep looking forward and don’t get caught up in what you’ve done in the past. So many of us do that. But looking at the choices we’ve made a lessons, as opposed to opportunities to give ourselves a hard time, is a simple and great way to go about life.

    1. I agree Nick. I could say there are no such thing as mistakes as everything in life is a learning offering us opportunity after opportunity to grow. I know in the past I have made mistakes, we all have and I have called them mistakes but at the same time using this word made me feel I had done something wrong. Coming to see and understand the word mistake as a learning has given me a whole new meaning in life and not something to give myself a hard time with.

       1. Mistake could be my-stake – staking your claim about learning something and not using it to beat ourselves up.

25. The words themselves are so clear The Way of The Livingness – simply states what it is how to live, and one is truly alive… And what this means and reflects in everything.

26. “It has taken dedication and practice. But I am worth it!” i love this line Vanessa, as I am looking at my self worth issues your article is so conforming that I am worth it too, as we all are. thank you.

27. Making it about the next step is beautiful and really helps me to let go of the overwhelm I create when I feel like I need to change ‘everything’. There is always another step to take.

28. Not that long ago I had sugar too, and you are right Vanessa it sucks, and my body is still releasing the poison of it in the form of skin rashes, I knew sugar made me racey but until it showed up in my body I was not truly willing to accept what sugar did. I didn’t beat myself up, I have been honest in accepting that it was the sugar that caused the rashes and I am allowing my body to heal. I now have a marker in my body that I am not willing to go to again and the desire for sugar is loosing it’s hold. I also have a deeper understanding of why I wanted sugar when my life is so amazing and so much more enjoyable than any of my last 60 odd years.

29. I love what you’ve shared about how much you love your life and I feel the same most days. Yes there are blimps and I dive into behaviours, negative thought spirals and mini meringues. But the more I claim and appreciate how I feel and how this love within does not punish or berate for the blimps the more I value this love and feel that the choices to be unaware arn’t worth making or continuing.

30. It is so important not to beat ourselves up when things go astray but to learn from it and move forward expanding the things we cannot unknow.

31. Your way of the livingness is beautifully explained, and I love the way you say ” You can’t unknow what you already know, simple ”
    Accepting what we all already know then life is simple.

32. Avoiding our physicality is also a rejection of our divinity and beingness, in effect, we are saying our physicality is all there is. Our inside and outside are a whole team, what we honour within us is naturally too honoured outside of us.

33. We cannot deny there are repercussions and a ripple effect to every choice that we make that affects ourselves and others equally both in the short and long term.

34. I agree wholeheartedly Vanessa, there is nothing so sweet, so rich, so powerful as when we can really feel all of who we are. It’s always there waiting for us, and when can feel it and embrace it without reservation or limitation – wow. It’s amazing.

35. “You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.” I love this and you can’t unreel what you have felt, and this is what makes the dedication to unpeeling the layers such a commitment to love.

36. When we notice we have made a choice that does not support us and make a different choice in the next moment this is a start. Then we have to bring awareness to which energy we were aligned with when we made the choice. Are we making a choice from divinity or the astral energy. If it is from the astral then the next choice even though it may seem to be better then the last will be from creation so no different really the previous choice.

37. Love comes from a self-loving way of living, and self-love is the simplest way to get to be love, then this way of living, as presented by The Way of The Livingness, is sharing equally with everyone who is open to feel this level of truth even if it is not lived. So no critique, judgment or reaction is ever required as everyone has the free will to experience life at their own pace.

38. I was at a community gathering last night and had a sugary drink which was enough to make me feel like I had a hangover when I woke up this morning. Never again he says.

39. Yes, I agree, The Way of The Livingness gives us an opportunity to feel what it means to ‘live the love that we are’. Once felt this does change the whole course of ones life, as we begin to realise that we have lived most of this life with out doing just this. So life must change, as we begin to ‘live the love we are’.

40. I had sugar yesterday and I am kicking myself because I just feel dull today, humble and quite cross with myself. I was arrogant and I simply just wanted it. Looking back now I can see it as a really familiar pattern of wanting to dull myself by making myself racy. I was really tired and should simply have gone to bed. Looking back on it with very raw eyes, there were so many things that were different from the afternoon to last night. Today is a new day and I have the experience of yesterday and previous experiences with sugar to feed my choices for today and I can see it starts from the morning and becomes a cycle, it is not one day that ended up with me eating sugar again, it is a momentum that I hadn’t stopped. Being open to being aware is what gives us a choice again. Thank you Vanessa for the inspiration this morning.

41. “Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING”. It is our responsibility to be all that we are and being in connection with our essence to the best of our ability is a be step towards returning to this connection to Divinity.

42. Living The Way of The Livingness is a responsibility and absolute joy, it takes practice and I’m not perfect, I have many old patterns, momentums and behaviours that I need to change but I have touched on how simple, joyful and fun life can be when we commit to living from the stillness which is in each and every one of us.

43. When my interactions with others reflect to me what you call ‘a lack of sweetness’ then for sure my inner dialogue is not ‘sweet’ but more of the beating up kind of thoughts and I critique myself. When I am present with myself, connected to my loveliness my sweetness is there for everybody to see and feel. It is that simple.

44. The esoteric pathway of resurrection always starts with a movement towards love first. It is that movement that creates the awareness and in time foundation that gives one the impetus to renounce that which is not true, and does not serve the connection one has rediscovered.

45. I find it amazing how we seem to know exactly what we need to do to ourselves to stop us from stepping up and evolving. We know the right foods and ways to talk to ourselves that make us feel less. Through The Way of The Livingness I have gradually allowed myself to feel this game I play and how this not only affects me and how I am but it has a knock on effect with the people around me. Playing the game of choosing to be less when I can feel I am being asked to be more, gets exposed the more I bring The Way of The Livingness into every single part of my life, a way that it asks me to be honest loving caring and willing to take the next step.

46. I’ve read this blog Vanessa a few times only today as I read; ‘And now I feel this love and joyfulness in my every day, not only at a Universal Medicine course but everywhere’, I felt tears in my eyes as the same transformation has occurred for me. When I first started attending Universal Medicine courses, I would feel the love and expansiveness within my body, it was so vastly different to what I was used to but it would fade after a course. Now, I feel this love, not all of the time but whenever I stop and connect the feeling is right there. It’s a beautiful way to live as it takes out all the stress and drama from life and brings it back to the simplicity of the quality of our movements and expression.

47. ‘A lack of sweetness in my interactions’ I realise how often I don’t want to feel the way I have been with others which has not been so great, so often we blame another but how often are we honest about our part of lovelessness in our conversations and interactions?

48. Well shared Vanessa -I too have found that The Way Of The Livingness is simply a way of finding tools that help me feel amazing a lot of the time. It’s sort of an experiment with myself to see what allows me to be more of me with the world.

49. It is so amazing to find something that turned my life around and all I needed to do is trust myself, that I know exactly what to do in any situation.

    This is how I was when I was a young child.

    Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine has been presenting a way of living, that allowed me to remember the amazingness that I felt as a child. And by living this way I inspire others to return to this place.

50. The state of being where one has a thousand conversations, tasks, and chores going on in your head is so familiar to me. I am aware of the destructive nature of it and yet quite often get caught in its momentum especially when, say, a number of things have broken down at around the same time: the arm has fallen off your glasses, the dishwasher has gone on strike, the watch band has fallen off, the chimney on the old log burner has got a hole – and suddenly the work ‘load’ of your job has increased. This is the time I just need to definitely surrender to my beautiful essence,and put one foot in front of the other, deliberately and lovingly. The space is always there.

    1. ‘This is the time I just need to definitely surrender to my beautiful essence,and put one foot in front of the other, deliberately and lovingly.’ The difference is so huge when we simply connect to feeling the way we are walking and taking every step, it is like a stabilising mechanism that takes us straight out of our heads and back into our body where the work load feels like it has reduced in size.

    2. Yes Lyndy, I find this to be true – when there is so much going on at one time, the only place to be, is surrendered to the innermost essence and then it is possible to be focused and in consciousness presence with whatever is there to be dealt with. It is as if time just stops and this vast space is available to move in. Refining of this is work in progress!

51. Working on myself so I can support others – something I am learning in fits and starts.

52. I recall Serge Benhayon once commenting that the ‘soul is practical’. And that’s exactly what I love about The Way of The Livingness – it is so, so practical and designed to be implemented in our daily lives, in all their aspects.

53. How gorgeous to cherish your relationship with yourself and how you live as you do.

54. “This is The Way of The Livingness for me, and what it means to me –EVERYTHING.” You have summed this up beautifully and all the examples that you bring describe this everything in its simplicity of everyday life.

55. The Way of The livingness gives me a sense of purpose to live life in a way that is non harming for me and everyone else that lives on this planet. I have never until recently felt a sense of purpose and to live in a way that is non harming makes so much sense to me, imagine what the world would look like and be like if we were to all adopt this way of living.

56. “Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.” Absolute true yet we manage to find so many ways to make sure we are not Divine even though we can’t un-know what we already know,

57. It is a simple concept that every part of our life, every small part of our life matters and it is a blessing to be able to not just understand this but to be able to live it.

    1. I love what you have written here Christoph, as it brings in total responsibility and accountability for our actions.

58. It is so true Vanessa, and in every experience I have had where I have felt the grace of true love coming from my inner-heart, I have wanted to share this with everyone, not in words or actions and certainly not in trying to change or convert anyone, but simply by walking and talking and listening, being and living.

59. When I am brushing my teeth, and I wander off (sometimes metaphorically and sometimes physically!) your words of wisdom come back to me and I return to the simple activity of brushing my teeth and being present with that. This shows me the power of our true expression and how important it is to not hold back sharing our truth and wisdom as it can support another in many ways. Reading through these many blogs, has supported me to live a life much more connected to me and to the Divine.

60. There is true power in being able to observe our choices, understand why we made them and then change the energy that lead to those choice if they are not serving us.

61. The moment we stop looking outside of ourselves for recognition and acceptance from others is the moment our life changes forever. Whether we consciously know it or not we come from the divine and when we turn inwards we very quickly get to know this and feel how tangible this connection is. We then have a choice as to how we want to live with that connection, that is do we want it as a steady consistency in our lives or do we want to dip in and out when it suits us. It is entirely up to us. The Way of the Livingness supports us to make it a consistent choice to live our divinity on earth.

62. “You can’t unknow what you already know.” – as true as this is it is bewildering how good we are at ‘not knowing’ anyway, ie making ourselves unaware of what we actually know.

    1. I found I actually can ‘unknow’ something or at least completely lose awareness that I know and even awareness that the fact exist and even that there is such a thing as awareness.

63. Thank you Vanessa, what you have expressed here is to be deeply appreciated and confirmed, as it is so true;
    “Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.”

64. The Way of The Livingness allows a deep contentment and relationship with myself and others and the all around us connecting to the flow and rhythms of life in its highest integrity and is ever evolving and expanding. Saying that its beauty is its simplicity and joy in our everyday as you share with a realness and love.

65. It is a constant learning for me too, to notice the little things that take me away from feeling the beautiful quality of stillness I have inside. The Way of The Livingness supports me every step of the way in re-claiming who I truly am, so that I can share it joyfully with the world.

66. It is crazy really that we put soo much effort into not being the full amazing beings that we naturally are. The moment we embrace ourselves with the love that we are life flows more and the struggle goes – not saying there are no challenges because there are, they just do not seem so overwhelming when we stay with ourselves and choose to feel them in full and so understand what is going on rather than simply reacting. Of course without perfection, as we are here to learn.

67. This statement says it all …”Why would I put all this effort in? Because I know I am Divine; that I come from something beautiful and magical. I know this because I feel it…” Living in a way that conforms this feeling and quality is everything about The Way of The Livingness. Beautiful Vanessa, thank you for confirming this in your blog!

68. The Way of The Livingness is a way of living that confirms who I truly am, my divinity and the power we all are capable of when we live life in full.

69. I love this, Vanessa – “Why would I put all this effort in? Because I know I am Divine; that I come from something beautiful and magical. I know this because I feel it”. For such a long time I did not allow myself to feel my sacredness, because I was so determined to hold on to a hurt that kept me hardened in protection. But now that I have let that go, all I can feel is the pure divinity I come from, that has been there all along.

70. The Way of The Livingness puts us in the drivers seat, no longer reliant on ‘google’ for our answers on health and well being. The Way of The Livingness is a livingness that gives our bodies their voice back so we can truly hear the messages it is continuously giving us.

71. What I love about The Way of The Livingness is that it is indeed a livingness, a way to live life that is based on the body, the heart and not the mind. From here I’ve certainly found the quality I feel in myself and the ripple effect throughout my life to be something that I value deeply.

    1. Yes I agree and the scary part is how much time I spend and have spent in my mind. It is like I want to figure everything out rather than allow my body to respond to what is before me. And its exhausting trying to figure things out in the head.

72. I love the simplicity in your sharing. To master a simple action like brushing the teeth you would think, why and everybody can do it, but to do it with concsious presence is a different story and huge in its effect, as it means that you have mastered much more than brushing your teeth.

73. Wow being able to know we are divine changes life beyond measure. Coming to accept this and live this as a truth is gorgeous. No matter how many mistakes etc are made I cannot deny this. Thank God for the support of Universal Medicine who have supported me with my choice to reconnect with this knowing; and the continued support I get for living this in a world that tries to deny their divinity.

74. “Because I know I am Divine; that I come from something beautiful and magical. I know this because I feel it, and have felt it at every Universal Medicine healing course I have attended.” This is gorgeous to read Vanessa. My work in progress is to take this amazing feeling into my every day – a choice I know.

    1. Sueq2012 this is amazing because this morning reading this blog again that is what caught my attention too.
       “I know I am Divine; that I come from something beautiful and magical. I know this because I feel it, and have felt it at every Universal Medicine healing course I have attended.”
       And like you I am exploring the fact that I am all ready divine, I don’t have to attain it. And what does this feel like in my body, well the word I would use is exquisite and to take this feeling with me wherever I go so that everyone gets to feel and remember what it is like to have the flow of God and the universe through our bodies again.

75. I love the way you have taken one simple task like brushing your teeth and used it to practise being present with what you are doing; it is beautiful and so very natural to just keep returning to the body, a body that always loves being lived in rather than lugged around.

    1. Yes, Gabriele, having lugged around my body for most of my life, it is such a joy to live in a quality of stillness that is constantly deepening.

76. This is great example of how you totally felt the sugar was not working for you but you could see that it wasn’t just about eating the sugar, that there was a deeper level to why you reached for it. Love how you were super honest and didn’t beat yourself up. Keep taking the next step after each other and building on the next choice.

77. The more I live by listening to my body and feel it’s natural rhythm, the deeper my connection to me. This connection to myself is difficult to describe but it feels very solid and confirming. I can actually feel the difference now between when I’m doing something automatically and when I’m doing something with me, the quality is not the same. Now for me it’s accepting this quality I can feel in my body and allow myself to fully integrate it as being very much part of who I am. Sometimes when I feel so beautiful I can also feel there is a part of me that wants to sabotage everything as there is an old program running within me that cannot believe life can be so simple and gorgeous and that life is about struggling and being unhappy.

78. I like the phrase “You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.” as that is actually what we are doing a lot in saying I do not know but in fact we do know only we do not want to take our responsibility for that and that should actually then be our honest answer in this case.

79. In the big picture of evolution, every step and every process is crucial. Sometimes we can get stuck on the details and the processes without remembering what the big picture is. What stops us is an ideal picture of what evolution looks like. But evolution is not in a picture, it is our every moment of un-doing many archaic and unsupportive patterns, and to unravel these, we have to go through them again with our free-will in choosing until this choice becomes so embodied that it becomes our natural (again), and we become more and more free to choose love and evolution is then simply natural. And we do not only do this for ourselves, every choice embodied is affecting every single person in this world, especially in your group consciousness, and every choice from this group also affects your choice, and therefore responsibility is always key.

80. There is a word you have used Heather…simple and how life becomes more simple when we connect to who we are.

81. Vanessa like you I don’t beat myself if I eat some sugar or salt, now I a know I am constantly working on learning and evolving, so I too keep looking at my movements my choices, to see what could have lead me to eat this way. Forever learning, forever unfolding, no perfection required.

82. What is it about our food that has us addicted to things tasting sweet? Could it be that food dull our sensitivity so we cannot feel as much in our body? So overeating is very similar to eating sugar as the excess turns into fats and is stored to be used if we require energy. Could it be that we feel we are going to miss out or even starve? If we take a long hard look at our thought process this seemingly does not make sense, as we are all intelligent beings. When our body is listened to and not our mind, the way in which we eat changes so our body is supported and our food becomes more nourishing

83. Practicing our mind being with our movements is definitely been a challenge from my experience and as I am working on deepening this currently it was great to re-read this again. I feel the challenge lessens the more I appreciate the moments of union between the movements and the mind.

84. So true Shirley-Ann I can relate to your expansion of self.

85. “But the great thing is, as I have learned, there is no need to beat myself up for the sugar choice; I just feel it, look for what I was trying to not feel – my tiredness, a lack of sweetness in my interactions, an excessive drive or push in the day – and acknowledge whatever happened and move on to the next moment.” This is awesome loving wisdom. So often I go into beating myself up for what has happened. This way feels so much more loving and accepting of yourself.

86. ‘But when I felt this love and connection, I wanted to feel it again, and again, and again.’ The love, connection and way my body feels after a Universal Medicine course is worth coming back for but what is greater is the more I live it for myself the more this feeling becomes my new normal.

87. I’ve had cravings for something sweet and remembered what you’d written about lack of sweetness in interactions. I then also had a day where I really felt my sweetness and realised how much your writing made sense. Like total sense in what I felt and realised that to not have these cravings is to reconnect with me and bring this loveliness to myself and all I meet. When this connection is missing we miss it and I know I feel to make up for it with sugar. Sugar cravings aren’t there mysteriously now.

88. Reading this blog today, I am feeling the result of my choices yesterday that have left my body feeling nothing like as light and amazing as it felt yesterday and what is lovely is how I am instantly reminded to simply check in with my body and feel whatever it is that I didn’t want to feel yesterday and move on. No self bashing needed and as I have done so, I have felt my body surrender and drop some of the tension I was holding.

89. It’s such a great thing to look at honestly why we indulge in sugar or other food types we don’t need as you have done here Vanessa and be really honest about the effect of the choice to do so.

90. It is fascinating how something so common and in most foods actually takes us away from ourselves. I know for me the knock on effects sugar can have and find it very addictive – if I have a little I want and crave more so it is definitely like a drug, in my experience, worse than an illegal drug because it is somehow acceptable. It is interesting to see how many sweets and sugary things people eat throughout the day just to get them through yet it is considered normal. So the question here is how far gone are we to need all this sugar to keep us going? Especially when as you say and I know we feel so much better, clearer, brighter when we do not have sugar.

91. Living The Way of The Livingness is very liberating and joyful and it forever evolves and expands, there is no end to it.

92. I was just pondering on why, after having often felt my divinity and the absolute beautiful depth of stillness that comes with that, why I would choose anything else. This may be just scratching the surface here but one thing that came to me is that we generally only feel great in short bursts because the ‘feeling great’ is coming from something outside of us. So if we then feel amazing when in connection to the inside of us, which I too was presented with by Universal Medicine, we can’t sustain it because we have now experience of being able to hold that connection. Our experience to that point has just been moments of feeling great or happy etc. So what The Way of The Livingness offers us are tools and techniques to help us to practice holding our connection and getting used to feeling amazing more than for just a few moments at a time here and there. Gradually we realise, as you have Vanessa, that we are being able to accept and stay with this feeling for much longer periods of time until it becomes our normal way of being. At this point, any time we choose anything else sticks out like a sore thumb. It’s miraculous to me.

93. Thanks, Vanessa. I love how you bring our connection to Divinity into everyday life, as something simple and natural, and not a big deal at all once we re-connect to how it feels in the body.

94. Considering the consequences of sugar on us, we can only say that sugar is not a ‘sweet’ option at all.

95. The problem with shame or guilt or being hard on oneself is that it stops one from being able to truly assess what happened, and thus distracts one from being able to understand what true action is required to remedy the situation or make sure it does not happen again. Sure, such feelings arise because one feels responsible for what they have done,but true responsibility is about putting into action that which ensures such a situation does not happen again, not necessarily about never making a mistake or causing harm, and if one is plagued by self judgement, then one’s assessment of what is required moving forward will be severely diminished. In other words, you stuffed up. Fine, acknowledge it, allow yourself to feel the unfortunate consequences of what happened as a result to yourself and others, deal with the practical ramifications as best as you can, and then learn from it so it does not happen again. The last bit is the most important bit, and where true responsibility is put into action.

    1. Well said Adam

96. Many might think the phrase “connection with Divinity” to be somewhat airy fairy, but once you have experienced it, nothing could be more real. The Gentle Breath Meditation is a great way to start on the path to practical living with Divinity.

    1. I totally agree, Heather. The sacredness that resides within us is something tangible and powerful once we re-connect to it. And when we do, we realise that it has been there all along.

97. Isn’t it truly something when we can genuinely say that our lives have been transformed by the way we live. That we can feel fantastic most of the time, just saying that goes against the current trend where people are struggling with health issues and I read an article that 70%of people don’t like the job they are doing if this is the case is it any wonder that people look for outside stimulation to give them a boost to their life.
    Learning to live within myself has been the most life changing and rewarding turn around in my life. The Way of The Livingness actually does work if I commit all of me to living in a way that is harmless.

98. The Way of The Livingness to me is my living connection to God and the Universe.

99. I could relate to the point that taking responsibility for choices is about connection. On a physical level you can take responsibility by getting enough sleep, eating well etc and you will feel good in your body. However doing my gentle exercise routine this morning, I really appreciated that although my body was feeling more free and supple, it was the warmth of doing something loving for myself and the feeling of my connection through my body to something so much bigger than me is what felt important.

100. “Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.” Hear, hear, Vanessa. Once we feel this re-connection as you say, it changes your life forever, because you realise that everything you have longed for all your life has been there all along, and that you are the beholder of a love that is purely divine.

101. How often do we eat sugar and not appreciate its real effect, putting the ensuing anxiousness down to job stress or a relationship issue. Learning how to observe the effects of the foods we eat goes a long way to supporting our health and well being, we begin to realise that foods that we class as a ‘treat’ or perfectly safe to consume are really poisons.

102. Love what you share here, Living is everything that is truly important to get to grips with as human beings. Living in a way that is one with our true purpose and divinity. Living in harmony and giving ourselves the opportunity to learn everyday is truly magnificent. It is everything.

103. Learning to understand that our food choices are preceeded by the quality of energy we have been choosing makes it all the more easier to take a couple of steps back to see what leads to eating a food that we know will lessen our quality.

     1. Absolutely Vicky. If this were to be fully understood and embraced it would absolutely revolutionise dieting!

104. When we feel the love and connection that is possible in our bodies we have established a marker and want to feel that again because it has become a marker for us, a marker to check against if we are still on the same page or not as the minimum quality of life we will accept from now on and to use this as a stepping stone to even more love; actually to grow and evolve from.

     1. I couldn’t agree more that our ‘minimum marker’ is a stepping stone to develop more love. Once you have that marker it is the baseline below which you will not drop. The reaction to sugar in this blog is great example to show us how awful it feels to drop below this baseline and really appreciate the loveliness we can feel.

        1. Indeed Fiona, once we have that marker in our body, which is actually a level of love or loveliness, and whenever we drop below that marker it is felt in whole our being with that an intensity that will help us to remind us of our choices and to return to this lovelines we are talking about which is then a new marker to step from.

105. Food is another way to dismiss who we truly are, not wanting to feel what is going on around us; there are so many different ways we can use food. To make that choice to be aware of ourselves and our body and how this is constantly changing is a choice that needs to be made every second of every day. I’ve been working on this and the more you do this the more powerful you really are.

106. It is truly beautiful to have mastered one simple thing. This lays the foundation for more of the same, and so on from there, if the evolutionary path is pursued.

107. As you expressed regarding your sugar ‘lapse’ Vanessa there was no judgement. And so it is with The Way of The Livingness. Plenty of challenges, and stumbles, but no recrimination.

108. All food has a physiological impact on our body; we are so clever at using it to self-medicate. It is a masterful distraction for anything we need it to be. Learning to use it to support our bodies to work is something I have still mastering.

109. The Way of The Livingness is the only way to live a life that is in true relationship with ourselves and one another, and therefore the only true way towards true health and well-being.

110. I love how you show that truly responsibility can be about our connection – with our divinity and how we bring this to our everyday and every way, something that is deeply enriching for all and not a burden to carry.

111. What a gorgeous way of living to be able to say most of your days feel amazing, and if they are not amazing you are in a habit of observing and reflecting on your own choices that led to it and looking to make the necessary changes. What a joyful, empowered and responsible way to live.

     1. Yes, some of the ‘not amazing’ part is a pointer to even more amazingness ;).

112. The Way of The Livingness is the simplest yet profound and available for all people on the planet.
     Everyone can benefit for themselves and humanity using basic understanding of our body, learning to listen to it and tenderly nurturing it as the most precious thing made of Divine particles.

     1. Hello Elena, as you say that our bodies are made of divine particles, the same that are all around in the universe. Therefore, once we connect to this reality and truly feel what this is in our bodies, we can connect to the love that the universe actually is and is made of.

113. The Way of The Livingness is a way of living life that is sacred, clear, uncomplicated, harmonious…connected to one’s inner most. But most of all it is about Humanity and the amazing service we can all bring by living a True life.

114. The Way of The Livingness, has come to mean everything to me too Vanessa. It has offered me the opportunity to see truth about life on a scale I had never let myself see before.

115. “Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING” – we may even go a step further and honour the divinity everyone is no matter how much it is veiled by choices, behaviours and demeanour that don´t reflect that divinity by lack of lived connection.

116. The Way of The Livingness gives understanding to how and why the world is the way it is and thereby gives purpose and direction as how to live with loving integrity within the world.

117. There is a knowing that is not able to be not known once you have felt the expansiveness within. That expansiveness is available equally to each and every one of us.

118. “You can’t unknow what you already know.” Awareness is a great tool and is ever refining and unfolding more of what is true. We can also only see or know what we are prepared or have chosen too.

119. The Way of The Livingness shows one the Way home… simple, practical and natural.

120. Yesterday I ate a piece of gluten free, dairy free and sugar free cake. I knew I shouldn’t have but I did. The little person who made the cake then clocked how grumpy I got half an hour later – this is one of the effects cake has on me. He was very cute and whispered to my housemate “She’s a bit grumpy because she ate cake”. Yes there is my learning in there, but I also realised what a great reflection that is for another to see and clock the impact cake has on someone. I don’t need to go around reflecting that but it was great to be honest and open about it and not pretend that this doesn’t happen.

121. Thank you for sharing Vanessa, it is so easy when we make a silly choice to then beat ourselves up over it rather than ask ok what was going on and what led me to that choice. The moment I do that it clears otherwise I hang onto it and just want to make things better – but there is such a vast difference between better and truth or love.

122. “when I felt this love and connection, I wanted to feel it again, and again, and again.” Vanessa what this shows is how natural and all encompassing the Way of the Livingness is. It shows what life can be like and since I have made the choice to feel and live the values of truth and love in my life I certainly have felt part of the whole and that there is a real purpose to live that not only for the joy it brings me but in the inspiration it offers everyone. We should all be free to choose love.

123. This is a great blog Vanessa because it helps us all reconnect to the beauty that lies within each and everyone of us.
     And I appreciate how you bring understanding to what you do and don’t as you say beat your self up on the choices you make in the day. Just to look at them and ask ourselves the question of why is it we would do something to take us away from our innate beauty, and to understand we have a perfect right to be in our sweetness because that is who we truly are. We are so held back and controlled by our spirit and to understand that it doesn’t want to return to the divine we all come from because then it has no control or power over the body it has to return to the soul and that is the constant battle we fight with every breath we take.

124. The Way of The Livingness for me is about reconnecting to my body and trusting its innate wisdom.

125. ‘I look in the mirror and I like what I see.’ For many years I hated looking in the mirror because it reflected back to me the utter disregard I was in. I didn’t like it but I didn’t know how to change it, my skin looked grey and dull which was a reflection of what I felt within. Since then, I have committed to looking after myself and honour what my body is telling me and the difference what I now get when I look into my eyes is quite frankly exquisite.

126. I love your absoluteness Vanessa, and your understanding of yourself when you are not in your absoluteness. Accepting and embracing our divine connection can come with a huge amount of resistance, and we can make choices that do not support us in it simply because we are resisting it. As you say, there is no use beating ourselves up for this. Just take the next step and get on with it.

127. How you describe feeling your joy in the practical day-to-day, thanks to The Livingness, is certainly a recipe for living medicine.

128. It’s amazing when we stop to listen and honour what our body tells us how making different choices then affects our lives, and that in turn affects everyone we meet. Regarding food – if I go for what me eyes see in the shop or on the plate, I can be fooled into eating something that doesn’t serve me.

129. Since choosing The Way of Livingness as my way of living, I now feel true purpose in and to my life.

130. “I look in the mirror and I like what I see” – love this line Vanessa, and which might sound funny to some, though how many times do we actually stop and take a really good look at ourselves, let alone liking, even loving or adoring what we see.. ??!! Living a life in rush simply doesn’t allow for any space or real appreciation.

131. The Way of The Livingness and what it means is simply living who we really are with the knowing from within us all and has brought a joy to my heart ” This realisation had allowed a strength and dedication to life that fed the purpose of why I am on this planet.” and this means everything and allows a deep connection and contentment within.

132. Inspiring and understanding, this a beautiful article that opens me up to the big picture whilst not leaving myself behind feeling I should be anything more than I am.

133. The learning you describe Vanessa is so relevant to the quality of your everyday life, the lived experience in the body that builds and grows as we understand The Way of The Livingness more deeply. Making those different choices, like what we eat on a daily basis, helps us to learn and reflects to us that everything matters. I love your quote..”Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.” So true.

134. I totally agree Vanessa, nothing else in life even casts a shadow like divinity! Adding to what you have shared about sugar, I would like to share that after giving up sugar over 30 years ago, and then slowing eliminating all sweet things from my diet including all fruits and a lot of sweet vegetables, now my sugar comes from over eating, which turns into fat or carbohydrates that are only simple sugars. So by over eating I still get the racy feeling from sugar then the drop from that fix it is worse than any drug. This has been a long and slow learning curve, and it is continuing to unfold as what I eat or over eat, which cannot be hidden from what is felt by my body.

135. Since choosing The Way of The Livingness as my way of living life I no longer feel alone.

136. I love The Way of The Livingness because for me, it is a religion that has offered very practical ways of turning my life around from one of dysfunction and purposelessness, to one of living life to the fullest and serving humanity at the highest level.

137. Unfortunately as a human race we do not understand what true vitality is actually available to us, simple by virtue of the fact that we don’t even give the body a chance to operate unhindered of all the various obstructions we place in its way.

     1. It is unfortunate, and for as long as we ignore the voice of our bodies we will continue to suffer the consequences. We have all been there, yet to know there can be another way and it is up to us and the choices we make is the inspiration The Way of The Livingness offers.

138. ‘You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.’ This is so true Vanessa. We can only cast veils and blinds over the Light of truth that we already know, and, we have to keep on choosing to cast those veils, otherwise the Light o truth would be loudly with us. Ignorance of our truth means just that – that we are ignoring what is there to be seen and known.

     1. This is a brilliant explanation of the effort we have to put in to not feel what we naturally feel all the time. Yes this is insane as we exhaust ourselves resisting everything we deeply yearn for – connection, unity and love.

139. Feeling the deep connection that expanded my awareness this was life changing, and ‘from the moment I felt this at my very first course, I couldn’t go back to thinking otherwise’

140. “Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.”
     Thank you Vanessa, this is something to deeply understand, cherish and appreciate and then live our lives accordingly.

141. The Way Of The Livingness (TWOTL) is utmost simple but very rich in expression considering every aspect of life. There is no limit to the refinement and deppening in quality we can bring to every area in life. Someone just shared how she can treat herself with increasing preciousness as her body consistently shows her that there is more to honour, enjoy, and nurture. Just using preciousness as an example, TWOTL is a way of living that fully recognises the preciousness we are by essence, and treats everyone with the deepest appreciation in honour of that preciousness. If we were only focusing on and practising preciousness we would transform ourselves and the way of living collectively.

142. It is interesting isn’t it how we can be going along feeling pretty awesome for a while, and then, as in your example eat sugar, or do something that completely sabotages it… Seeing this is great though, as it offers opportunity to question why we do this and recognise when it starts to happens the next time.

143. “Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING”. What amazing wisdom to read as I step into an interview after having something sweet to eat. My anxiousness has melted away simply reading your words and recognising the truth you share. Yes it does suck when we know we’ve sabotaged ourselves but it’s never to late to make a wise choice.

144. The Way of The Livingness has simply transformed my life. The practical down to earth tools as well as its profound teachings has turned life on its head. I now look at life with a different eye and have greater understanding of myself and the world in a way that I did not have before… it really answers every question about life that we seek.

145. I really enjoyed reading this blog. It was so relatable as we have all had great days and days that aren’t so great due to what we have thought, done, eaten etc. As has been shared on this blog, the contrast between the energies of soul and spirit are stark. Yet before Universal Medicine, no one had ever explained them or asked me to feel the difference in way the two choices feel. This should be the basics of life, like 1+1=2. Life just doesn’t make sense until you have this understanding.

146. This is lovely, to practice observing our choices rather than judging ourselves or ignoring them. There is so much power in honouring what we feel when we make a certain choice, it is our only way we can refine the choices that do not support us and appreciate choices that do.

147. We have daily choices we make which we may not even register as choices because they become our normal every day routine. But they definitely affect our lives much more than we may be aware. Once we experience the feeling you describe Vanessa, of our connection to ourselves and feel this love and joyfulness, we want it in our every day and everywhere.

148. The Way of The Livingness for me is being love – it’s been about knowledge for so long, but now I am truly taking the steps to making it about love and living love, instead of knowledge from my head.

149. how important not to beat ourselves up over the 5% imperfection and instead always see things as learning.

150. “I just take it back to evolving, as in what is my next way to develop so I am living more my true self in every step”. What I feel in your sharing here Vanessa is that we can take life back to this simplicity in learning how to develop and what our next step is, one where we are not critical but willing to learn, to grow and to unfold to what is next knowing we are forever students.

151. A timely read- in a moment where I am confronted with a challenging situation to read the line- ‘what is my next way to develop so I am living more of me?’. This puts into perspective that there is no right or wrong just a way of being with yourself that either lets out more of you or doesn’t.

152. I love how you have not taken your mistakes too seriously, and allowed yourself the grace of learning. It shows to me a powerful respect for yourself that you are not willing to de-base.

153. ‘You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.’ and it takes a lot of effort to pretend we don’t know what we already know inside out – hence seeking things like food and behaviours that reduce our conscious awareness in the first place. It is very settling to allow ourselves to simply live what we know.

154. I used to dismiss little things as unimportant but have come to know that everything really is connected and every single thing we think and do really does matter.

155. A beautiful sharing and knowing Vanessa “Because I know I am Divine; that I come from something beautiful and magical. I know this because I feel it, and have felt it at every Universal Medicine healing course I have attended.” The Way of The Livingness allows our true connection to divinity and there is nothing that compares to this. Well said.

156. I find that how I choose to move my body and the posture that I hold myself in has a huge impact on the way that I feel and the kind of thoughts that I have – the quality that I choose in those movements feeds back to the quality that my mind then works in too.

     1. A really practical example of the choices we have in our every moment to work with our connection to ourselves or to resist it.

157. It’s great to notice the immediate impact that certain choices have on how we feel. Once we have a marker in our bodies of how beautiful certain choices allow us to feel, you can’t unlearn them. They are forever there as a reminder so that we know when we are selling ourselves short.

158. Vanessa how you have expressed what The Way of The Livingness is for you is super gorgeous. It’s practical, relateable, not hard or self bashing but honouring of you and where you are at. At the foundation of it all is a connection to a stupendous love that is so yummy that all we need to be doing is choosing to feel it as often as we can and when we can’t to just be honest about why we can’t or didn’t want to. Thank you.

159. I love Vanessa how you could read into why you had chosen to indulge in the sugar, felt the consequences and chose to come back to that awesome feeling in your body. The connection to your divinity. And I wholeheartedly agree with the feeling you express “the truth that we are all connected. Science says it, I feel it and once I felt this, …… I couldn’t go back to thinking otherwise. You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.”

160. Through our life we have the opportunity to not only reconnect to the divinity that we are and that we know, but we can also deepen this so that life is all about this in our every moment. it’s a very beautiful process when we are willing to open ourselves explore life and ourself in the world and our relationship to God.

161. ‘…when I felt this love and connection, I wanted to feel it again, and again, and again.’ – I can so relate to this Vanessa, to be held in true love is an amazing feeling and really beyond words. What it enables us to feel is that we ARE love. It is so so far from the so called romantic ‘love’ that most of us have had an image of. Love just IS and does not need anything.

162. A pretty incredible transformation going from not owning a mirror for 7 years to liking what you see. So many people just exist with that level of self loathing and accept it as normal which is a tragic waste.

163. Like how you shared about the interview situation, Vanessa. I too am finding that the more I stay connected to my body and what I am feeling, the more confident I feel in the world just being myself – can’t go wrong really!

164. The Way of The Livingness is the living way back home.

165. This is so interesting Vanessa because I observed something similar a few days ago when I ate something salty. I used to like a lot of salt in my diet, but hadn’t realised how it overpowered other tastes so much, and could feel how it was making me thirsty. It felt there had been an imbalance in my body. I had not had much salt recently and like you, I noticed a difference how I felt afterwards. I became really racy after the meal and noticed very busy thoughts in my mind. It confirms to me that we are the sum of all our choices and how different the body can feel when we eat different foods.

166. Being present with what you are doing in every moment is something I am still working on and have noticed just how awful it feels when I get caught in thoughts of what has happened or what may happen.

167. For me what really stands out is that when our life is full of purpose if we do something that drops or dulls us from that purpose then we feel really rubbish, yet before when my life was full of dullness sugar would take me away from the dull feeling and felt better than the emptiness I felt. It’s a real level of appreciation that as we are more loving and deeply caring with ourselves that we notice we get effects by different foods, conversations or things that we do. What I love in what you shared is about treasuring that amazing divinity that we all naturally are.

168. “The Way of The Livingness – What it is and What it Means to Me” I have never taken the time to reflect on and put words to but simply feeling the enormity and meaningfulness, the purpose and order, the harmony and trueness, the simplicity and common sense, the equality and validity – everything in me recognises it as ‘The Way’ that makes sense on every level and aspect of life.

169. Our bodies are amazingly resultant! We can abuse the body’s especially when we are young without lasting effects. The T-shirt ‘I don’t have a drinking problem! I drink, get drunk, fall down, repeat. No problem’ Time and tide with this kind of abuse will leave its marks. What a far cry from our youth because of changes we make that chose a different way to live respecting the vessel we call home. When we fall off the wagon of today because we had a sugar craving that the hand and mouth for a short moment were in charge like mischievous children. The momentary laps are no reason to beat ourselves up over.

170. When we observe life we are no longer caught up in the chasms, chaos and complexity of life and nor are we prisoners of emotional reactions of ourselves or others – we are afforded clear sight and the opportunity to respond wisely..

171. It is important to appreciate that before The Way of The Livingness, we did not have such precise awareness of our movements and their effect on our bodies or our ability to read and understand our choices and their consequences in ill or true health.

172. “Why would I put all this effort in? Because I know I am Divine; that I come from something beautiful and magical.” The teachings of Universal Medicine make this a core principle of its message, that we all are without exception Divine and encourages everyone to claim it to the max, as you have so beautifully done Vanessa. It may seem so simple, but everything in our world is configured for us to not know this immutable truth, but once reminded then it’s worth every ounce of effort it takes to return to our truth.

173. I too love The Way of The Livingness. It is the only religion I know that gives you practical, very useful tools and ways to live your divinity on earth and presents that we are all equal Son’s of God.

174. I love this Vanessa – there have been many seemingly small tasks in daily life that appeared would be simple to master, but have been very challenging, as my mind was so used to being ‘the master in charge’ with no room for changing the way of how I moved or even aware of being in conscious presence with my body.
     “This has been a challenging task to learn to master but I realised the other night that I have mastered brushing my teeth and feeling my teeth instead of planning a meal, beating myself up for what I hadn’t done etc. It has taken dedication and practice. But I am worth it!”

     1. I agree – it is often like training a new muscle, learning to bring more awareness and connection and honesty into our days, to feel the fact that the sugar has affected us rather than being so shut off or driven that we don’t even notice.

175. “This has been a challenging task to learn to master but I realised the other night that I have mastered brushing my teeth and feeling my teeth instead of planning a meal, beating myself up for what I hadn’t done etc” – what reality Vanessa how we can be thinking of something else to distract from the job at hand. When there is the focus on doing one thing at a time, there is presence, and where there is presence there is the feeling of joy. Maybe we’re multi-tasking with so many things and not present because we don’t want to feel that we’re not feeling joy.

176. One of the greatest liberations in life is to become the observer, the one coming from true Love. AS you say Vanessa:’ But the great thing is, as I have learned, there is no need to beat myself up for the sugar choice; I just feel it, look for what I was trying to not feel – my tiredness, a lack of sweetness in my interactions, an excessive drive or push in the day – and acknowledge whatever happened and move on to the next moment.’ Our willingness to observe is our ‘clue’ out of the labyrinth of the loveless mind.

177. I wonder if the anxiety was already there but it was amplified by the sugar?

178. Thank you Vanessa for a simply beautiful sharing of you, I love how you no longer beat yourself up but realise the responsibility you have to make different choices allowing yourself to learn and evolve along the way.

179. Love your sharing here Vanessa, it blows the currently accepted meaning of responsibility as a weighty task out of the water. You bring it all back to the simplicity of loving and accepting yourself and how can that not flow out to others and all that you do. I can certainly feel this in your words and it brings me to a deeper level of appreciation of my own similar choices. As you say you cant unknow what you now know, your divinity, and what a blessing that is to the world and all of us.

     1. Yes, for some reason it is easy to bring in complication and hard to be simple and to live accordingly, surprisingly hard.

180. Just having had some sugar yesterday, I can feel how the connection I have with my body is not the same and there is a raciness that is not normally there and you are right it does suck Vanessa I have sat to write a comment and my body is in a vibration that is not normally there, and I am easily distracted, It is never worth the taste in my for the busyness I now feel.

181. The Way of The Livingness: a way of living that supports me to accept and live the beautiful, tender, powerful, innocent etc. man I am in the knowing that I will forever evolve to a grander version of me. Deeply appreciating both versions!

182. When we know we know, and I totally remember the day when I attended my course for Universal Medicine healing course and ever since everything after that I can’t deny what I feel inside. What I have noticed is the more I work on allowing this in my everyday, the more this deepens and when I return to a course everything is confirmed and the power that we are is magnified.

183. What a gem of a statement… “You can’t unknow what you already know…” The approach to learning something is much more at ease instead of the pressure of trying or to prove…

184. Beautiful Vanessa. There is NOTHING greater than our connection with Divinity, absolutely nothing.

185. Jane I can say the same, The Way of The Livingness is everything to me too, i feel so much purposeful and powerful, I am forever learning without judgement , and feel completely supported by Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and by God. What an awesome life it is.

186. It interesting how we can hide from a mirror, as mirror is a reflection of where we truly are at, as we get reflected back ourselves. There was a period where I used to avoid a mirror,I use to hind behind baggy cloths, It was a time in my life when I was feeling very low. I just did not want to feel where I was at. Now I love looking into the mirror, seeing my smile and spark, such an awesome way to start the day, I have had to work on this, by allowing myself to feel what needed to be felt and worked on claiming my true self back.

187. i agree, nothing compares to you with your connection to Divinity. – and the more we choose it, the greater life becomes, as our Divinity is the birthright of all.

188. It is when we stop playing the game of punishing or beating ourselves up for the choices we have made that we can truly evolve. True responsibility is to love ourselves no matter what and from there the quality of our movements and choices will change.

189. Everything we do or don’t do is a result of something we have or haven’t done before, and to see our behaviour as ‘bad’ is only going to drain our energy and leave us tired, and as you say, the craving for sweet things is a symptom of tiredness, so perhaps when we eat sugary foods, instead of beating ourselves up, we can use the ‘signal’ to encourage us to explore what was making us tired in the first place.

190. I can see how I choose sugar or things to dull me when I am faced with the enormity of how amazing things are. It is as if I fee the tension of that – and so the quickest way to play a game with myself is to go and eat something that numbs me. A crazy game but the more I openly talk about it and feel my body all the time – the more I see it for what it is. Just a way to self-sabotage.

191. Beautiful sharing Vanessa- with honesty, simplicity, & truth. It was a joy to read, and enjoyed reading the practical tips on what it means to be in The Livingness.

192. ‘You can’t unknow what you already know.’ And yet we make so much effort and resources into so many different ways of trying to avoid this.

193. Beautifully simple and yet totally profound – no mystery, nothing hidden or out of reach – the divinity you are is always accessible through the way you live and for me this has become my marker to guide me. Every choice I made in life is either a step closer to, or further away from, this feeling of amazing joy, connection and love I have come to know through The Way of The Livingness. Much like the game I played as a child where you would be trying to find something in the room and as you moved around someone would tell you if you were getting warmer or colder – only the something is a quality within me that I can connect to or not in every movement, and it truly is a warmth, a love, a feeling that guides me in every moment. Therefore my life is never dictated to me, nor do I follow anyone else’s path – I feel out my own based on what brings me in even closer connection to this warmth; always grateful for the support of those around me when I begin to stray and choose to walk further away from that connection.

     1. And when we take it step by step there is nothing overwhelming about our choices.

194. I have not had one nano second of boredom since living The Way of The Livingness because there is always so much to learn, share and enjoy in each moment.

195. There is nothing in this world that compares to the immense love that divinity holds for us and which is equally within us, so it makes complete sense that that grandness is unparalleled when embraced and lived – “Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.”

     1. Rosanna I fully agree with you, there is nothing indeed that does compare, its like the gold that never runs out and is full of warmth in a way that puts everything else in perspective.

196. Often I have found myself making choices to build the quality of my livingness but when I get to a certain place I often struggle to accept the awesomeness of where I have got to. The immediate impulse is to sabotage this feeling by dulling with food, or making myself feel racy so as not to feel also everything that needs to be felt in the new awareness that comes with this. As you say Vanessa rather than self bashing it is important to clock what I am doing and why. For me it boils down to a hesitancy to step up to that responsibility that I have called for and have been given – no – not responsible to make the choice to reject it granted. However by keeping things simple and bringing things back to the moment I find that notwithstanding I am still able to build, grow and expand and eventually move beyond that point of rejection.

197. ‘I look in the mirror and I like what I see.’ This is lovely Vanessa – a moment of celebration and appreciation of who you are.

198. “You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.” this line really stood out to me, its like we know so much and yet we can often try to deny and burry what we know. In doing so we only kid ourselves and then we are left in the tension of knowing but not living that knowingness. It’s no wonder life gets to us and we are often irritated and grumpy instead of appreciating the opportunity we have every day to evolve and grow.

199. I agree Vanessa that once we connect to the fact that we are divine and we feel this as a real tangible reality in our bodies, then nothing else comes close to this feeling and it is very easy to free ourselves of the self-sabotaging or self-harming behaviours. For me it is only when I have disconnected from or am denying my divinity in some way, that those old destructive behaviours come waltzing back in and look more attractive!

     1. We are divine, that needs repeating because it is an extraordinary fact and one that we all work tirelessly to forget.

        1. Indeed it is hard endless work to deny who we are and it also makes us very tired.

200. When you start feeling the vibrancy of a life lived from true purpose and commitment then to live any other way makes no sense. The difficulty in choosing the truth consistently shows the lengths we have gone to in the past to avoid the truth, but ultimately no reason on earth will hold up to justify choosing any less than the fullness of who we truly are.

201. The mirror never lies, or should that be, the ease with which we can look in the mirror is the measure of the ease with ourself, with how much we love ourself. Full self-acceptance is, I have found, the only path to not making the bad choices, be they sugar or anything else that stands out as not being very caring.

202. I wonder how many people suffer from anxiousness and do not realise that it is because of their sugar intake. I know when I eat it I lose my steadiness and ease and really don’t feel like myself. If sugar is a daily habit then it is likely that people do not know any different, and therefore believe that the anxiousness is normal. for them. Behavioural problems from this can take people off into therapy for years to try to deal with it, when all the while it is the sugar that is driving it all. I love your honesty here – “Today I feel anxious because I had sugar”. It’s honest, it’s real and it doesn’t allow for any other interpretations or creations.

203. Throwing confetti at the end of a marriage ceremony is like many, including me, as to how we live our lives. We do something outside of our self to enjoy the moment… but who cleans up the mess we leave behind?

204. Once one feels the connection to one’s divinity, then one only wants to deepen that connection and changes to achieve this; that previously would have seemed impossible, now become feasible and are made.

205. No use trying to berate ourselves for the consequences of a wrong choice – far better to appreciate and confirm the connection we hold to the truth of us inside first and foremost, and as living that unfolds so too do the ill-impulsed choices to step away from that connection drop away and gain no purchase.

206. Love how you bring equalness into the equation, for only in equalness do we bring true connection with others and ourselves..

     1. We are all naturally equal but look at what we have done with our inherent equality, there is not a speck of evidence to allude to its existence. We have squandered so much.

207. True we know what is true for our bodies and even the ‘beating ourselves up for the wrong choices’ is yet another form of distraction or creating an issue to further blind ourselves to the awareness we could otherwise bring to the situation and the next choice for evolution on offer.

208. “I feel an expansiveness in me that lets me feel the truth that we are all connected. Science says it, I feel it, and once I felt this at my very first course, I couldn’t go back to thinking otherwise.” We meet a deep and unquestionable knowing in the Universal Medicine courses and so we are presented with the choice to respond to the truth even when it shakes the very foundations of all the paradigms we have built our lives on. Once truly felt there is no going back.

209. We can choose to hold ourselves ransom to a set of ideals and beliefs, which aren’t even ours, and feel guilty when we fall short, or we can live in connection with our inner heart where there is no judgment, just awareness, honesty, learning and evolution. Just as you share, Vanessa, it’s a very beautiful way to live, knowing that we are already divine and bringing our magnificence into each and every moment, to the best of our ability.

210. What I love about your blog, Vanessa, is how you normalise ‘making mistakes’ – when we do things that we know are not supportive. The love that you show yourself, which is in turn supporting you to learn from the situation is very inspiring. In so doing, you gain insight as to what led to you making that choice to eat sugar, so you’re then more able to avoid the same choice next time around.

211. It is extraordinary to be able to say “I feel great 90% of the time”, especially when due to the increased awareness, care and dedication to the quality of how you live aand express in the world, your standard of what you find acceptable has increased enormously. The world needs to pay attention to such comments that completely buck the trend.

212. I heard an expression a while back that the way you move your arms in your home, can change the way a butterfly moves its wings across the globe… actually I don’t think I got that right but hopefully you know what I mean. When I heard that, I was in disbelief, how can what I do in my home, really affect someone or something else across the globe. Seriously – could that really be possible??? I really doubted it.

     But since coming to the work of Universal Medicine, The Way of The Livingness, as presented by Serge Benhayon, I am beginning to feel that might actually be possible. I am beginning to re-connect to the fact that we are actually all connected and what goes on in one part of the world, actually does have an effect on another. It is part of Energetic Responsibility when we realise we are part of the whole – to look at what quality of energy we are in, and bringing to the world as to what energy we do our actions in.

213. Gorgeous approach to life in allowing things to come up and be dealt with step by step in the way you live – truly evolving.

214. ‘I had lots of friends, a job, a partner, my health was ok. But when I felt this love and connection, I wanted to feel it again, and again, and again.’ This describes exactly how I felt Vanessa when I first felt this love which was the ultimate well-being. A friend recommended I go and see this practitioner called Serge Benhayon and I went ‘yes’ on the spot – I had been having trouble with absorbing energy from others. Feeling those hands gently placed on my back my whole body and being melted into the most glorious timeless and universal Love. I was an ocean of Love and Light, bathing in true essence. After that, there was no way I could go back to my old ‘satisfactions’.

215. ‘You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.’
     Yes, but we can use many methods of distraction and denial to dull the awareness of what we know to be true. We, as a humanity have become masters of distraction which has led us further into mental intellectual knowledge being our honoured source of intelligence over and above the wisdom of what we already know within.

216. We think of a religion being something that is sacred and special, beyond this realm of life and for most, is so grand and distant that it is largely unreal. What you describe here Vanessa brings all of that potential grandness into everyday life in a practical and accessible way. To understand a connection and relationship with God as something that can be felt in our movements, from the way my fingers move on the keyboard, to the quality of my breath, to the way I walk to the shops… THAT is beautiful!

217. Beautiul, Vanessa showing us the way to love in a very simple way as The Way of The Livingness presents us. Knowingly that we are already everything – yet we are on our return of living it in full.. Hence, because of our losts way(s), we needed a reminder and a call/purpose to act on, to now change what we need to change in order to re-unite with all that is inside.

218. It is so awesome to appreciate how incredible your life is Vanessa and how many people in our society feel the way you do about life? You are showing us a beautiful example of how our choices affect us and how you choose to live is a result of how you feel.

219. Today I felt anxious because I had sugar…I love your opening line and it says a lot. 5 years ago I was anxious all the time, but I had no idea I was even anxious. Nowadays and with The Way of The Livingness, I’m far more in connection with my body and I can recognise what anxiousness feels like. And I can recognise that what I eat, do, how I sleep, interact with others etc, all impacts my body. Previously it was as though I was just wandering around in this body, now I’m actually present in it, we work together as team and I choose to be far more aware of what is happening – inside and outside of my body.

220. “I look in the mirror and I like what I see.” I love this, Vanessa – a simple claiming and accepting of yourself.

221. Putting effort into living a certain way that allows the knowing of being divine to be honoured – this is very telling of the world we live in, a world that mostly seems to keep us from knowing that we are divine.

222. Most of the time I love my life as well and have put in the hard yards to get to this point. Being a student of Universal Medicine has greatly influenced how I live my life. In this last week I had a huge wobble and I felt awful it lasted a few days and there were tears and fights and it was not pleasant. The beautiful thing is that I knew this was not me I was able to have a chat about what was happening and it shifted out of my body as quickly and it swept in. Previously I would have had an ongoing drama for a few weeks laying out. The foundations and how I have been living mean that when I do wobble because I am human and not perfect I don’t fall so far.

223. I am Divine, just like you are. For pretty much all of my life I’ve ignored this. Now I allow myself to slowly and carefully explore the fact that I am Divine. Which means that I allow myself to be with a world of energy that is both in me as around me. That I am supported from all angels by a Hierarchy unseen. I can choose to be one with all these different worlds or not. The Way of The Livingness is a way of living that never judges, but forever offers expansion. As much as I choose. Forever providing possibilities to expand.

224. Learning happens naturally when we are willing to feel our choices and their consequences.

225. When I started to cut myself some slack and stop ‘beating myself up’ for those not so great choices, it gave me the opportunity to be more honest, and more open as to what’s going on. There was nothing ‘bad’ to hide, just an opportunity to learn how I tick and the tricks I get up to to stop me from feeling that amazing much more of the time.

226. What you describe beautifully here is the observing of life and the learning of not judging but feeling what is going on, which then allows for things to unfold.

227. Vaneassa, I love how you do not beat yourself up if you have made an unloving choice, that you simply see it as ‘what is my next way to develop so I am living more my true self in every step, no perfection required.’ Very simple and loving, the beating ourselves up holds us back and keeps us small, the appreciation and love we hold for ourselves is key and supports us to evolve and be more of our true selves.

228. Beating ourselves up serve no purpose, but further instills negativity and misery into the perception we hold life in.

229. With out the teachings of Universal Medicine I wouldn’t have even realised or been honest enough to say that I didn’t think I was worth investing my choices in me. Oh how things have changed. The thing is I always deep down knew that there was something missing in my life which made complete sense because the only way I was dealing with it was by numbing myself with alcohol, recreational drugs, coffee, cigarettes – basically anything that would not let me feel my body or my hurts that I played dumb to having. With the healing modalities that Universal Medicine offer I have been supported to feel who I am, this Divine being with endless Love that I am now choosing to be in my life more and more regularly as this is everything as you say Vanessa. Nothing else beats it hands down, the enormity of it I am only just starting to feel how powerful it really is.

230. I’ve been really inspired by your teeth brushing exercise – it’s amazing what a multi-tasker I am! I already knew this but when I bring that awareness to what I’m doing it becomes really obvious.

231. It does suck when we make a choice that is not in line with what we know and what we usually live. The impact of this is so huge in our bodies. Just a little bit of sugar is enough to keep our hearts pounding and racing for hours when usually we experience a beautiful stillness that provides a solidness throughout our day. It’s great that we can feel the stark difference though, as in the past perhaps we would not have known any other way and would have been too numb to feel it.

     1. Absolutely Rebecca. When we are constantly piling in sugary foods our body will be in a constant state of raciness and exhaustion which then becomes our normal. Its not until we choose to cut something out, and then reintroduce it a few days or even weeks later that we are able to feel the impact of how such foods affect us.

232. “The Way of The Livingness has helped me to find practical day-to-day things that support me to feel amazing.” The first step in this Way as presented by Serge Benhayon is knowing that we are worthy of feeling amazing, in fact it is a God given right to feel so, and any deviation from this has arised due to the way we have chosen to live. And then as you say Vanessa, we are given some very simple tools to find our way back to the natural state of being in our day-to-day lives, so that feeling extra-ordinary becomes our ordinary way of life.

233. This is The Way of The Livingness for me, and what it means to me –EVERYTHING.: Me too Vanessa The Way of The Livingness is at the heart of my very being, it helps me to understand my life, all life and our very existence. To know that there is so much more to life than what I have allowed my self to feel, and returning to this is the joy I now hold in my heart.

234. Vanessa this blog holds a sweetness, delicateness, preciousness and true power in its delivery. Thank you for sharing and reflecting these inner qualities of you in your writing.

235. “Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.”. I so agree Vanessa, having made a big oops yesterday – and experiencing the consequences of that unloving – non-divine – choice.

236. Vanessa these simple and very practical steps you share “Firstly, my breath and choosing to reconnect to it naturally being gentle. Secondly, how I choose to move and keeping my mind on that – not doing or thinking about a thousand chores or a thousand conversations, but what I am doing in that moment, whether I am walking or brushing my teeth etc. ” have also been for me so transforming. It’s like I lived thinking as long as I keep doing a million things I was being productive and was worth something, slowly I am appreciating more and more that is the quality of energy I am in through my commitment to be present and connected in all my movements that is the most valuable thing in the world.

237. I also was very unaware of the true state of my life before Universal Medicine. I was in a terrible state but was unaware of it. I had plenty of work, lots of friends and constant parties and low living costs as we lived on a boat. Although things appeared to be alright, I always knew there was more to life and meeting Serge Benhayon and doing courses and the introduction of The Way of The Livingness literally saved my life.

238. The fact that by association with Universal Medicine you have been able to get to reconnect with your breath, and your naturally gentle ways is extraordinary, because we are given the impression that trying to be liked, looking to be a good person or seen as cool etc no matter why style we choose, then we are always negating what we naturally are, and to accept that with no sense of hanging on to the “trying” is amazing.. applaud applaud.

239. The Way of The Livingness is also teaching me to accept choices that I make that may not be supportive, clock why and bring some understanding. Then simply move onto the the next moment and make a different choice. Every moment offers a learning and a point to move forward from.

240. The science about equal and opposite reactions is a great reflection on how we live our lives. When we drive hard, we know what the effect on our bodies! But what happens when we take responsibility for everything we do? Life becomes amazing and affects all around us.

     1. Taking responsibility for things is bringing activity and intention to a particular thing. It is getting involved in the management of a particular aspect of ourselves or our lives rather than simply allowing that particular thing to be run by an outside force. We get that element into our sights and then consciously direct it in the way that we want it to go. What happens is that over time we slowly gather more and more aspects of ourselves that we have commandeered and therefore have a say over, which results in us eventually governing our lives, rather than our lives being governed for us.

241. “But the great thing is, as I have learned, there is no need to beat myself up for the sugar choice; I just feel it, look for what I was trying to not feel – my tiredness, a lack of sweetness in my interactions, an excessive drive or push in the day – and acknowledge whatever happened and move on to the next moment.”
     I observe that there is a subtle beating up voice sometimes like playing a sound in the background. When I grasp this voice I know I am in reaction and not truly with myself and to understand this immediately the connection happens and the voice has no power anymore as in every moment I can make a new choice to support my flow, I do not need to be stuck in regrets.

242. There are so many precious and priceless gifts from the teachings of “The Way of the Livingness”. One of the key gems for me this week has been to see the game ‘beating myself up” imposes. Not only do I feel the effects of a choice that hasn’t been supportive, but also there is a double whammy of feeling yuk the split moment that judgment is cast on the choice. And this all comes from me. It’s much simpler and straight forward to move on after a miss-directed choice without the double whammy because the actual reason reveals itself much quicker with out more complication.

243. ‘The Way of The Livingness has helped me to find practical day-to-day things that support me to feel amazing’ – it is the truth of all the day to day things that are felt in my body that feeds and nurtures me. I am not trying anymore to make something fit that doesn’t belong. Having been exposed to The Way of the Livingness has and is a blessing and truly appreciated .

244. When you are doing well or better it can be hard to get accurate feedback as it is quite possible to think you are doing well without any underlying truth.

245. There is immense joy and delight in the way you live and talk about the relationship between everything, which allows you to recognise that… “Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING…”

246. To me this is a constant reminder of just how difficult it is to feel free of emotional tension that consumes us in life, and that when we do, how uncomfortable we feel when we are free of its clutches.

247. ‘You can’t unknow what you already know.’ – this is an absolute gem, Vanessa. We spend so much of our lives avoiding what we have deep inside, nestled in our inner heart and it holds the answers to everything we are searching for and so much more!

     1. Yes Alison – looking to everything on the outside is our highest point of distraction away from the fact that everything is already within. We have done very well at creating a world that constantly offers entertaining distractions on the outer.

248. We can definitely live that love and joyfulness every day. Before I found Universal Medicine there is no way I would have believed that I could live each day connected to love and joy like I am now, and experience the harmony I do with people, the stillness I have in my body, the truth and knowing I feel, and the way I love and cherish myself as a woman. It’s truly a miracle what can happen with the support of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon.

249. ‘I am responsible for my choices and have come to the understanding of how those choices impact on how I feel in my life, in my body, and with others. This realisation had allowed a strength and dedication to life that fed the purpose of why I am on this planet’. Vanessa, I love how you share, so joyfully, the inter-connectivity of life, how everything affects everything.

250. Thank you Vanessa for your sharing. The Way of The Livingness changes how I look at life. Through this I have learnt to start to truly Love myself and others. Life takes on a much greater meaning as we open our hearts to all.

251. To look at our choices in this way…”…what is my next way to develop so I am living more my true self in every step, no perfection required.” is to be honest, responsible and gentle with ourselves. It allows space for what is next, for more, rather than the contraction of self-flagellation that implodes on itself… a complete contrast to the gloriousness we come from and is truly who we are.

     1. Paula, I agree. That is an amazing skill to have.

252. Beautiful sharing Vanessa… very real, simple and very inspiring – thank you.

253. I am loving the simplicity of what you are saying here Vanessa: ‘I love my home, my relationships and I am working on myself as things come up, but like with the sugar choice, I just take it back to evolving, as in what is my next way to develop so I am living more my true self in every step, no perfection required. Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING’. There is a love of yourself that is not ‘slack’ nor is it ‘punishing’ – a great platform to evolve from.

254. ‘Science says it, I feel it, and once I felt this at my very first course, I couldn’t go back to thinking otherwise.’ I heard someone say on the radio today once we have felt something it is a known and from what you share here it is confirms this. So maybe all of us need to feel just how divine we are coming from something beautifull and magical and then it will truly be a known and we cannot ignore this any longer.

255. I don’t eat sugar but recently I’ve been eating a lot more fruit than usual. This tells me I’m exhausted and craving sweet things but it does mean that I end up feeling more anxious, which the effect any sugar has on me, which is not a good thing. Once into that kind of behaviour, it breeds on itself and is hard to kick.

256. The Way of The Livingness is indeed everything to me too Vanessa — it is the way and healing salve of life, of humanity back towards soul and divinity … where everyday application is recommended.

257. Beating yourself up is as bad as the choice to eat the sugar in the first place or worse because we get stuck in that rather than, notice where we made a choice that didn’t support us, no matter how big or small and then moving on so as to not dwell or get our feet stuck in the mud. Dwelling, beating ourselves up is just a way of delaying being awesome… because as we become aware of the mess ups, we get closer to living our awesomeness.

258. When our living way reflects the fact that we are divine is there no wonder you now love what you see in your eyes when you look in the mirror?!

259. Yesterday I wanted to distract myself with something and these words came to me – “Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.”

     I was waiting in line at a shop and the thought came to go and look at homewares etc…as opposed to waiting, but your words came to me and I realised I had a choice, I could just be with me, and my divinity, feeling my feet solidly on the ground, connecting with my breath, being with me and with Soul and God, or I could be in the homewares section, looking at stuff I did not really want!

     I chose my divinity – I still got a bit distracted as I stood there as I am working on “the brushing of my teeth” but as you say, I am worth it, and it is worth my dedication and practice to keep choosing me and my divinity.

260. Gorgeous Vanessa. I whole-heartedly agree that nothing in this world compares to living in connection to our love within, our essence, our Soul, the Divinity we are all here to live together. Through The Way of The Livingness we are offered a very tangible and real way to live this quality, through every moment of our day. In embracing our relationship with evolution there is no end to the enrichment we can experience and consistently live in our everyday lives.

261. Anxiety starts to happen when I am not present or with myself and when I am ignoring the most amazing tool I have – my body. But how amazing it is to simply return to myself, connecting and feeling, surrendering to the true me. The Way of The Livingness supports a very natural way of living – and to be ALL that we are.

262. “This realisation (responsibility for my choices) had allowed a strength and dedication to life that fed the purpose of why I am on this planet.” – This makes me really stop and ponder; it is the empowerment that comes from accepting the responsibility and the absolute knowing that we are the masters of our own life.

263. “You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.” – Astonishing how we have mastered to do the impossible: to not be aware of what we know when it serves our interest and ignorance.

264. “I look in the mirror and I like what I see. I didn’t even own a mirror for 7 years of my life, let alone look in one!” That is such an immense shift, from not wanting to even look at your own reflection to now being able to look and adore! Living evidence that The Way of The Livingness enables us to embrace love once more within our selves and within everyone we meet.

265. It is so gorgeous to have the awareness that those amazing moments, the numb checked out ones, or even those moments that feel devastating, are never random. We are not a helpless puppet at the mercy of luck, circumstance or other people. Knowing that there is nothing more powerful than the love within us and that our experience is always the result of the outplay of our choices to live this love or not, is huge in offering empowerment and placing responsibility back in our court.

266. This really shows the absoluteness there is in connecting with divinity, and how it just brings us back. Thanks for sharing Vanessa – especially the point about life not needing to be perfect but rather a series of choices that say yes to evolution.

267. ‘I look in the mirror and I like what I see.’ – When we truly appreciate ourselves, what we are being reflected, when we look in the mirror is not just ourselves, but God and the entire universe.

268. I agree Vanessa absolutely . . .” Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING”. . .and yet sadly we often choose nothing over something so grand until we have built a solid consistency with our connection to our very essence.

269. Thanks, Vanessa, it is so easy to beat ourselves up and that doesn’t help, it just makes us feel worse. Using our ‘mistakes’ as opportunities to learn may sound like an old cliché, but it is true, we do nothing wrong, we simply make choices that have consequences, and each one gives us a message about how we can choose differently.

270. ‘Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.’ I agree, nothing compares to feeling our true nature, it is extremely settling.

271. I love the simplicity of looking at those behaviours we use to avoid feeling something and simply saying ok, what was I avoiding, let’s not avoid it but see it from the essence of who we are, and let it go because it is not who I am.

272. All we need is the truth of what we feel in our body. No judgement or analysis need be applied. Rational critique and problem solving are not required. Our bodies are so often treated like an annoying bratty kid who misbehaves at school and is made to be quiet, when in actual fact they are the wisest philosopher, the greatest orator, the most decisive leader you can get. So let us, at long last, truly let the body speak. Thank you Vanessa for sharing this from your heart.

273. The Way of The Livingness to me is the choice to live your life at its fullest potential for where you are at that point in time and space.

274. Beautiful Vanessa: ‘The Way of The Livingness has helped me to find practical day-to-day things that support me to feel amazing.’ The Way of The Livingness opens us up to the amazingness that is innate within us, this magnificent amazingness, beauty, grace, intelligence, love. And on top of that it gives us the most practical and effective tools to support us to keep choosing to be that way – the life we have created on earth is constantly wanting to undermine the truth of us and we need these tools to crawl out of the mire and back to Heaven. AMAZING.

275. This is awesome Vanessa. It is so easy to see the unpleasant consequences of our choices as a ‘punishment’ and then go on to punish ourselves further with judgments etc. In the example you gave the choice to eat sugar and the resulting anxiousness are seen as an opportunity to appreciate yourself more and bring more awareness and understanding to what was behind the choice without judgment. This feels beautiful and it reminds me that it is never too late to start choosing love.

276. So lovely Vanessa and so true ..”Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.” Having felt this connection, the learning is to hold this while all around us in the world is not. But once we reconnect to this in our bodies, we know who we are and where we truly are from.

277. “You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.” And the thing is that we actually know everything but we have learned that we need to contain what we have learned instead of trusting ourselves and living in a way that allows us to access that what we need in any given moment.

278. I really enjoyed reading this as it’s easy to relate to. I used to regularly bash myself in situations such as eating too much – but your perspective on this is spot on. Yes, it sucks because I know how good it feels to not be overfull. But there’s nothing I can do in that moment other than to make loving choices starting now. Simple.

279. How amazing that you are able to relate your desire for sugar to be a substitute for a lack of sweetness in your life, even in a tiny moment. When you consider the amount of sugar that is consumed by us as a society today, this is a huge reflection of what is lacking in so many of our lives. What a great way to look at our eating habits. If they were addressed in this way the positive consequences could be enormous.

280. Life is rather simple. There is two ways to be in life and that is either to be you, the naturally Divine and tender being we all are inside, not holding that back and sharing that with all. Or it is to be everything that is not Divine and innately from who we are. It’s very very simple and The Way of The Livingness is the only religion that has been founded on such absoluteness and simple love.

281. No judgement – I like that. All too often we are too hard on ourselves for things going wrong. Much better to live, learn, observe, go again…

282. It is really inspiring to hear how your life has been changed, Vanessa, by choosing love again, and again, and again. Once we re-connect to what we have always known and longed for inside, there is no going back to the old loveless and disregarding ways of behaviour.

283. I love here Vanessa how you mention divinity not as an out there somewhere concept but as something that can be felt, connected to and lived on a daily basis in a very simple and practical way.

284. ‘Firstly, my breath and choosing to reconnect to it naturally being gentle. Secondly, how I choose to move and keeping my mind on that – not doing or thinking about a thousand chores or a thousand conversations, but what I am doing in that moment, whether I am walking or brushing my teeth etc. ‘ This is super powerful, to be present in what you are doing in every moment rather than ahead or behind in thoughts.

285. ‘ I have mastered brushing my teeth and feeling my teeth instead of planning a meal, beating myself up for what I hadn’t done etc.’ Cleaning my teeth has changed enormously from the harsh brushing whilst trying to do something else and get out the door to work to a moment where I check in with myself, feel my body and observe how I’m feeling. It’s become a stop moment of my day, that supports me to stay in my body rather than race around in my head.

286. Venessa I love how the way of the livingess means something slightly different in expression for everyone yet at the same time its core, the heart remains consistent about a quality in the way we live and move and not about a dogma or words in a book. This Livingness is what I find I was most inspired by and what inspires those that I meet.

287. ‘Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.’ Beautifully claimed and stated Vanessa. Being open to even to the idea that we come from the divine can support in accessing this connection.

288. “Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.” So true and it is The Way of The Livingness that enables and maintains this connection.

289. The Way of The Livingness is what is says it is on the tin! The way we live every day with everyone else on this planet. We are far from that imposable perfect life, but we are still having a go at it because it just feels true!

290. Very beautifully said and I completely agree –”Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING “. The more we connect to that divinity the less we will want to disconnect from it through lifestyle choices.

291. Slowing beginning to understand that when I pause and be fully present with what I’m doing connects me to God. I can discern a difference in my body when I walk with an inner focus, one step at a time, consciously present. When I get lost in my head, my energy becomes scattered, head races I feel disturbance rather than trees and people passing by. This is akin to an ‘out of body’ experience and sees life racing by and I am not in it.

292. Vanessa your awesome and very inspiring blog made it very clear that we are responsible of the quality of how we are living. So there is no time anymore to blame others or our genes only time to make even more loving choices with dedication and praxis.

293. ‘In an interview situation the other day, I felt not one ounce of anxiousness; I felt totally equal with everyone in the meeting.’ … this was gorgeous to read, Vanessa. It feels very beautiful to be met by someone who holds you as equal, with no judgment, just love.

294. Recently, at a family celebratory dinner, there was very little on the menu that accommodated what I now choose to eat. I could feel myself feeling a bit left out while everyone else thoroughly enjoyed ordering whatever they liked. However, my disappointment was very short lived as I realised it was actually an opportunity for me to deeply appreciate the food choices that I am making and how gorgeous my body feels as a result. The dinner wasn’t about the food, it was about enjoying being with each other.

     1. This has been a biggy for me at times, eating different to my whole family. I find though if I go into a lack of instead of appreciating my choices, within no time I’m eating something that I usually wouldn’t.

295. I watched primary school children sing in a choir this week, and while most of the adults were excited to see their child singing, what I saw was no joy in any of the children in being there or doing what they were doing. We’ve been so conditioned to accept much much less then joy, love, gentleness, connection etc., that we rarely notice the lack of it. I thank The Way of The Livingness and myself for feeling that there is so much more… and that there is no roof no stopper when it comes to the magnificence of who we are.

     1. I agree, Aimee, unlike any other religion, The Way of The Livingness embraces us all in the magnificence of who we already are. There are no demands for us to change in any way, rather, the space is there for us to claim and live our own divinity.

296. “I was avoiding looking into my eyes as I would see how I had been living my life – full of partying, and looking for someone to say you’re a great friend, good fun, nice, friendly, clever etc. The fact was, I was looking for everything outside of myself” – so true Vanessa, i can relate to this very much.. interesting how we can apply makeup to look beautiful, wear beautiful eye makeup, yet totally not see or miss the eyes and what they communicate on every level.

297. Thanks for sharing this Vanessa, understanding that food is medicine is huge for us as a society, that everything we eat has an effect and can be stimulating, dulling, dampening or numbing OR nourishing and sustaining. It isn’t until we develop a close relationship with our bodies, listening to the communications offered through the myriad of subtle and not-so-subtle signs and symptoms, that we get to discover this fact for ourselves.

     1. ‘understanding that food is medicine’ a nugget of wisdom Jenny and one which needs to be shared more widely. As you say the purpose of food is to ‘nourish and sustain’ many have lost this relationship with it and seek instead to be stimulated, comforted, dulled, in order not to feel.

        1. Yes we have completely lost our way when it comes to the truth of food and an understanding of what it is for, beyond supporting us physically. Even current nutritional medicine that might acknowledge the need for ‘healthy food’ and nourishment, is still a long way from encompassing an understanding that we must also provide an appropriate ‘vehicle’ (body) for the Soulful being we are within, and if we don’t, it is not possible to connect with this part of ourselves, let alone learn to live from it’s impulses and senses. Since our ultimate true vitality and wellbeing is dependant on it, it is a crucial aspect of diet and lifestyle we have yet to explore as a society.

298. This is amazing Vanessa, even just the willingness to see that there COULD be more to life than what you were living and looking inside for your sense of what was missing rather than outside into a world of many, many distracting so called ‘answers’.. (Although perhaps part of you was simply just missing a mirror!)

299. It is a beautiful thing to connect to a truth and appreciate it for the gift that it is. And the big part to appreciate here too is the openness that we have had to this truth and our part in embracing it in our lives and putting it into a lived quality.

300. The Way of The Livingness allows us to connect to the many resources within in order to bring ourselves back when we sway away from the truth of who we are, the more we develop this relationship in our quality of our movements the easier is to say no to that which is there to thwart our evolution.

301. It is amazing how our body is truly our best friend. It’s teaching and guiding us all along our lifes. The only – only!!! – thing we are to choose is listening to it. There’re no secrets in life, no written down in doctrines that tell us how to live there’s just a simple choice to surrender to the impulses that come from our body. In order to be able to feel them, we’re to develop a way of living that supports surrendering to our body. This requires deep nurturing and caring for our body, an appreciative way of being with our body.

302. The Way of The Livingness is becoming my in breath and my out breath, it is becoming my every way.

303. Divinity has become my loving choice in all I do and now after giving up sugar over 20 years ago and all sweeteners 6 years ago I feel how much even the simplest of foods that are at all sweet have a detrimental effect on my connection to my divinity.

304. It is never about how perfect we are. In my experience if I “muck up” when I am prepared to be honest about it and look at it, it can contribute to my evolution. If I avoid it and keep going blindly, then things become very involuted.

305. “Because I know I am Divine; that I come from something beautiful and magical. I know this because I feel it”

     I too have been a student of The Way of the Livingness, and why it feels so true to me, is that I feel it as well. In my whole body, right down into my bones. No doubt about it.

     It is like your own science experiment – you are free to attend these Universal Medicine presentations on The Way of the Livingness, and then you are free to choose to live what is presented or not. When I have chosen too, my quality of life has improved greatly, which means I am a much more committed and engaged person in this community. I am ready to be part of it and serve. And it feels so right in my body. That is the litmus test. Not reading a scientific report/paper on it. Feeling it in my body.

306. It feels so supportive and nurturing the way you describe simply observing if you have done or eaten something that doesn’t match the already deliciousness with-in. Funny how we can go looking to find something to give us a what we think we are missing only to realise it’s a trick because we are already everything and anything else actual dulls our gorgeousness.

307. ’You can’t unknow what you already know.’ – A simple but profound statement. Learning to understand the truth of who we truly are is completely life changing.

308. We are masters returning from the physical life and as such we must make our mistakes and learn from them. From there we understand and have patience with others too.

309. Ha Vanessa, that is a gorgeous straight blog about the Way of The Livingness and what it means to you. It is super powerful to read how you experience it, how you feel and see it and what your angle of expression is. And part of that is clear and true communication as shown to us right here. What a beautiful bunch of words making sense – not because they are just said – but because they are lived. Thank you, I , we, can learn a lot from them.. From you, your Living Way.

310. A great blog Vanessa, as you share how the simplicity of connecting to your body with your breath and being aware yourself through your body movements are simple changes that bring heaven to every footstep.

311. I love this statement … “Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING…” The strength and solidness felt in this statement is palpable.

312. If I make a choice that is really unsupportive I have learnt that in order to make that decision I must have in the first instance felt how glorious I am already to make the choice to sabotage myself to that degree. Just as we have become Masters of our own destruction we can become Masters of our return to divinity.

313. Sacred Esoteric Healing reintroduced me to how utterly full, vibrant, warm and content we can all feel in our bodies everyday. Nothing compares to feeling your body ignite in purpose (not drive).

314. There is no better way to live than to talk ourselves up, not beat ourselves down. We all make mistakes and there is nothing to be done in hurting ourselves with harsh words. It is from that basis that we find we don’t need the sugar, or whatever other fix there may be.

     1. So true, Stephen! We talk about the importance of positive reinforcement for children, yet do we offer ourselves the same? I know I have been very hard on myself over the years, but what is truly gained from beating ourselves up? Why focus on what we are not, rather than everything that we already are, which is pretty amazing even when we do make mistakes.

315. I love The Way of The Livingness too. I love the practicality about it, it is not just a mental ideal but something that has to be lived practically an can be applied in everything I do in my day. Only then the beauty of the Livingness is felt.

316. Being a witness of you Vanessa and having the privilege of being your sister and it has been an absolute transformation seeing you develop in a way that is real and no nonsense way. You have inspired me endlessly and seeing you keep going for what is true in your life is incredible. Sharing the way you are living is super inspiring, that our choices create our future and how this is what true relationships are about, connecting and sharing all of us. Keep going strong, we Love it!

317. It is interesting how you list all the ‘small’ things that are better or much more enjoyable. It also means that the big things like health, weight and vitality are in much better shape than for most people at their age!

318. Life is very amazing when we allow ourselves to feel what the way of the livingness truly brings, and when we make choices that are not loving, it is only for us to look at it and observe our way. The way of the livingness is living in connection to our body and being divine.

319. Awesome to appreciate how amazing your life is Vanessa, through your choice to live The Way of The Livingness and making choices to connect to a true way of living. It is never about perfection but about our willingness to learn.

320. It’s very confirming to note those small things that now come naturally with the willingness to stay with ourselves. Who would have thought cleaning our teeth could have so much more to it than keeping our teeth clean?!

     1. I am with you there Rosanna, how lovely it feels doing anything ‘basic’ per say like cleaning our teeth or brushing our hair or cutting our toenails present with ourselves feeling every part. It’s delicious, and I don’t use that word a lot.

321. What I love about your sharing here Vanessa is the realisation of how damaging our reactions to ourselves are. I’ve spent a large proportion of my life in self-deprecation, playing small, being modest and beating myself up and it has not solved nor healed anything but has kept me feeling small, contracted, falsely humble and hurt. Choosing to not react and to not go into these old patterns is truly self-loving and it is only when we bring love into the equation that healing really happens.

322. Brilliant blog what you have expressed is within us all just waiting for us all to reconnect as you have done to the divineness we all come from. We have dulled ourselves so much that we have forgotten who we are. You by the very way you live are a great reminder.

323. Lovely quote you wrote here Vanessa – ‘you can’t unknow what you already know’…. we know far more than we give ourselves credit for and is it really a case of not knowing but are we blocking or limiting our access to the knowing we already have and cannot reverse?

324. Awesome to recognise and celebrate the dedication and practice that it takes to master e.g. brushing your teeth in conscious presence and claim that you are so worth it. It has taken me many months to master this one aspect of my life because of the comfort of disappearing into my mind on a regular basis but now I choose to clock when this happens and say Oops rather than beat myself up and indulge in self flagellation rather than coming back to me and continuing with my day in a purposeful way.

325. Yes indeed, Jane. Being a student of life rather than a victim of circumstance is so much more empowering and enjoyable.

326. A beautiful knowing of the way of the livingness shared here so simply with a reality that I know and feel too . Our whole purpose and why we are here makes sense when learning to live who we really are and your honesty and love of life is a real inspiration.

327. Such simple principles to live by and continue to develop as you say, Vanessa. When my mind is in sync with my body and not racing ahead or dwelling on something that has happened, my day is generally straightforward and spacious.

328. Thank you Vanessa I love how you share The Way you are now living is an onging process back to your glory and is simply based on your everyday choices with absolutely no perfection, only commitment and focus. Truly inspiring as living in this way there are no excuses for putting pressure on ourselves or anyone else.

329. This is so gorgeous Vanessa, really humble and sweet. In your words I can see the resurrection of a person back in to their divinity. It is a great honour to have this journey shared with us, so we all can see what is possible.

330. There’s something so wholesome and fulfilling about the way you describe life – who wouldn’t want to live and explore and cherish life in this way?

     1. Meg your comment supported me to feel that often the people who say that they are ‘living life to the full’ are actually avoiding it like the plague and yet those who many would deem as ‘sedate and doing nothing’ are actually engaged in life in a way that has incredible depth and activity.

     2. Meg, I am paused by the use of your word ‘cherish’. This is so true and so apt and so spot on to how I feel about my life. For many years (about 35 of them) I was in function, just go through the motions – sure, I had ‘fun’ and ‘good times’. I also had lows and very bad times. But no matter what was going on, and no matter what I tried to bring some purpose and juice to my life, there was an emptiness lurking in the back of it all….on the surface, all looked rosy, but underneath there was this ever tension – “is this what it it’s really all about”? But your use of the word ‘cherish’ really hits the nail on the head. Because now, that is how my life is – sure I still have highs and lows and sure it definitely isn’t perfect – but, I do absolutely cherish it and that is an amazing thing to really feel, to really appreciate and to really drink in…so thank you Meg, for putting that word in my path.

331. ‘You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.’ True Vanessa, although we try very hard to avoid and or even reject what we all know inside.

332. Awesome, thank you for sharing this Vanessa. I love the absolute simplicity of The Way of The Livingness.

333. I love how my body feels when I honour it and commit to be gentle with it. When I do this the desire to eat sugar is no longer so strong as I’m less exhausted at the end of the day.

334. Clocking those moments of change are certainly well worth appreciating. I have found that when there are no emotions running through my body it feels very natural to be at one with another and those moments are beautiful opportunities to confirm, to set as markers to remind me what it feels like to be equal with another in situations where once upon a time (in my own creation) emotions would have got the better of me.

335. Thank you Vanessa for communicating so simply and practically The Way of The Livingness so that others may be inspired to explore it for themselves. From personal experience I completely concur with you that it has enabled me to establish a life of true purpose and fulfillment, I know it has for so, so many other people

336. I love this Vanessa, “You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.” So true, yet we sometimes do our utmost to avoid feeling what we know to be true, because with that comes a responsibility to live all that we know we are and this means letting go of what is no longer true in our lives.

337. I too have avoided mirrors in my past – unable to face the reflection of what was being lived that was not of the truth that I know myself – Us All – to be. And I love this line Vanessa: ”You can’t unknow what you already know “, we can only ignore such beauty. We are Heaven’s light made physically manifest when we choose to express the love that we are.

     1. And sometimes Liane we don’t want to accept our reflection in the mirror and how beautiful and amazing we are because the reactions of others to us feeling this way is just too strong. But in understanding this we no longer need to avoid mirrors, and accepting our qualities just becomes that much easier. And when we accept all this we can bring our focus to supporting others to feel that way too.

338. Great point Bryony, focusing on one thing also brings completion which allows one to come to the next task with an objective clarity.

339. I like what you say about feeling totally equal with everyone in the interview and I feel that this is directly related to something you say earlier in your blog about looking at yourself in the mirror. If we have an intimate and transparent relationship with ourselves then we are able to do the same with others. If we are hiding stuff from ourselves then we will be anxious with others (trying to also hide it from them). I like the sense that this makes – this science of life.

340. You are right. Nothing compares to us when we are connected to our divinity. The reason we search and reach for other things is because we are not connected to this. It’s so simple really. We just have to reconnect.

341. A beautifully natural and real expression of the Livingness, one that everyone can access.
     Its totally refreshing to hear about the dedication and understanding you have built for yourself Vanessa and in turn how quickly you can move on to what’s next; rather than dwelling in a stagnant cycle of self bashing and criticism.

342. Vanessa, this is gorgeous to read, ‘I feel this love and joyfulness in my every day, not only at a Universal Medicine course but everywhere. I love my work – like really love it – as I am now open and wanting to know and connect with everyone.’ I feel this love and joy also, I used to only feel it at or just after Universal Medicine courses or after Esoteric Healing sessions, but overtime and with dedication to making the way I am living more loving, I now feel this in in my everyday too, it feels great to be enjoying work and not working just to earn money and for recognition, I love connecting with people and never thought I would love my work so much.

343. “You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple”. So true Vanessa, but we try so hard and put so much effort into pretending and lying to ourselves that we don’t. There have been hundreds if not thousands of times when I have said I don’t know to something yet when I stop and get really honest with myself and feel, I do know but am choosing not to go there because it will reveal the dishonesty of how I have been living. Simple.

344. “The Way of The Livingness has helped me to find practical day-to-day things that support me to feel amazing.” I totally second this, it’s the practicality of what The Way of The Livingness offers that is not only so refreshing but is life changing.

     1. Agreed. Before I knew of words like esoteric or Livingness, I claimed that my life was amazing. But in hindsight, it really wasn’t – it was just me settling for okay and calling it amazing. There is much I’ve worked on to support myself that really have helped to make my life awesome.

345. It is amazing the level of abuse our bodies will take, by our hands, from the choices we make in how we live! And, then we call it normal! There was a time when having a good time was drinking and partying late into the night, and waking up, just feeling a bit rough, was a good night out! To today, when we support all aspects of our life and how we care for our body in everything we do is now the new normal. As you have said, Vanessa, we have lived the other way a long time, and we stumble now and again, but this is also just part of the new way we are choosing to live.

346. I remember those days of partying when the only mirror I owned wasn’t necessarily for looking at and how that life makes me shudder compared to the life I lead now, but also through The Way of The Livingness through the gentleness and tenderness I have allowed in my life I can make mistakes, major ones sometimes but can move on learn and know that I have only just begun my journey home.

347. Thank you Vanessa – this really was a powerful blog to read. My diet is changing a lot recently and sugar is the one thing I am having less of, but sometimes I still reach for it even though I know it does not do me any good, and your blog brought me a deeper understanding of looking at ‘why’? …and that getting to the why starts to deepen the relationship with ourselves rather than just beating myself up for having sugar.

348. “This realisation had allowed a strength and dedication to life that fed the purpose of why I am on this planet.” Life changing to say the least Vanessa, re-connecting to our true purpose and the understanding that how we choose to live each day has an enormous impact on those around us and on our own health and wellbeing too. So many things that we took for granted become exposed, like the effects of sugar, alcohol, coffee and other substances that we consume without truly appreciating how much they devastate our bodies and the qualities of our relationships.

349. The power of The Way of The Livingness is its attention to detail. Transforming the whole is founded on making small, consistent changes. Often the very things we ordinarily overlook are the ones that need our attention and presence. We are called to connect to every ounce of our lives, each equally valued, worthy of love, care and devotion.

     1. Very true Kehinde – key is to not dismiss the details, therein lies the opportunity for true transformation.

350. What I understand from reading this blog Vanessa, is that The Way of The Livingness is our daily medicine to heal all the hurts we have in our bodies from not living this as our natural way for so long.

351. You know Vanessa, one would think that you’ve largely moved out of the stranglehold that self-judgement and condemnation would hold us in, and stepped into appreciating all that you are and the ‘every little thing’ in your daily life that supports if not expands this connection.
     Pretty awesome, I have to say…

352. Beautiful blog Vanessa! And a great reminder to continue to choose conscious presence in the body – the most valuable of platforms to live from. I have to constantly call myself back to this; ‘Square one’, this cornerstone of learning to live as the divinity I am. As you so truly say, nothing compares to feeling one’s divinity. Nothing!

353. It is interesting that we have diverted our gaze outward as a humanity on mass and sought to acquire all manner of ideals and things to live with, in and by yet all the while, the truth of who we are – an ever-abundant consistent joy, love and simplicity is simply a connection to our inner-most truth always.

354. This feels so simple yet so true. I agree concsious presence is a simple tool which brings expansion and more and more connects me with my natural joy and playfulness.

     1. I agree – I remember how hard it was at the beginning, just to be present with what I was doing but it brings a whole new quality to everything in life to simply be there and present when it happens.

355. Absolutely true that there is no substitute for who we truly are – nothing comes close to living the real deal.

     1. Hear hear Deborah I absolutely agree. Hence why we feel so lost when we are not living who we truly are.

356. “You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.” ah but you certainly can pretend that you don’t know and that’s precisely what humanity is doing en masse. How else would the Sons of God be able to desecrate the planet?

357. Gorgeous Vanessa. ‘When I felt this love and connection, I wanted to feel it again, and again, and again’ – I couldn’t agree with you more. If it was my choice to feel that love and connection, and not someone giving it to me or by accident, why not keep choosing. Very simple.

358. Beating ourselves up for something is like taking a second swing at ourselves having only just got up from the first punch.

359. The Way of The Livingness is a way of living that takes an active stand against the forces of evil. These insidious forces ooze out of every orifice of life and unless we make an active choice to choose to align to an energetic way of being that is true, then they rush in like the sea into a blow hole.

360. Super post Vanessa, love the way you observed the sugar intake and how it made you feel, though did not take in the usual typical self-judgment or loathing that can often be there to incite more of the same behaviour. Observe it. Move on with understanding. Understanding being the basis of The Way of The Livingness.

361. Gorgeous Vanessa, I love the clarity with how you present your choice to have sugar and how you just feel it and understand what you didn’t want to feel and that’s it. You remind me that things can happen quickly and often those choices are not about big things anymore, just another feeling to be felt. And I love the settlement I can feel in you, with yourself, your life and how you are in it. Very very inspiring, thank you.

     1. and Monica you have reminded me that it is us that make everything into a drama. We take a situation and chew it over and over, we dwell on it, we speak to umpteen people about it, we allow it to dig itself deep into our bodies like a tape worm. We allow ourselves to get so tangled up in what we deem as issues that we completely lose sight of which way is up and which way is down. Having just got lost in a situation myself, I really realised that my connection to myself was severed, each and every time I got lost in my drama. The antidote was to keep coming back to my connection with my body and to the best of my ability to practice surrendering. A welcome feeling of space has gradually come back in.

362. Thanks Vanessa, Put all of the choices, unpacking old patterns and becoming a student of your own living way, the statement that stands out for me is “I’m worth it” – indeed we all are

363. I love how you share that life isn’t about perfection, it’s about living in connection with our divinity, to the best of our ability. Everyone makes mistakes, as we deepen our relationship with our self, what was acceptable in one moment, isn’t in the next as we expand and feel a deeper level of love to express. To berate ourselves only keeps us in separation for it is not possible to feel anything but love from our inner heart, if we are, we know we have dis-connected.

364. ” .. I am responsible for my choices and have come to the understanding of how those choices impact on how I feel in my life, in my body, and with others.” Life is a choice – it is based on purpose from moment to moment choices that make up your life – “taking responsibility for my choices could allow me to connect so deeply”.

365. What a very beautiful blog, Vanessa, the absolute joy you feel from living in connection with your divinity is deeply felt, a choice that is open to each and every one of us.

366. ‘You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.’ So so true! Once you feel something so truthful, it’s almost impossible to pretend you don’t, try as we might. I find I’m quite punishing of myself when I go against what I know because I always end up paying the consequences. But as you’ve shared here Vanessa, it’s not worth it and more than that, it’s not the point. It’s practice and commitment to making loving choices for yourself that you know support you, and when there is a slip up, it’s no big deal, but rather a confirmation of how much we actually do know.

367. The choice is ours, if I want to truly feel good, not a fleeting sometimes good sustained only by certain remarks or foods etc, but an endless feeling good bubbling up from deep inside myself, it is up to me to invite that out.

368. Amazing blog Vanessa, and couldn’t agree more that you can’t unknow what you already know. I use the feeling in my body as the marker of truth, as evidence if you like, that we come from something “beautiful and magical” and Divine.

369. What is available to us is amazing and you are noticing all of the many changes since you have become more aware of the choices you are making Vanessa. Many of us take for granted the fact that if our lives are great then enjoy it and hope we don’t get hit with something unexpected to change that and few of us choose to take responsibility for the smallest of details about how we live so the quality we bring is all that it can be. It’s all about the choices we make, the quality of those choices and living with energetic responsibility and energetic integrity. As you have so beautifully articulated – it’s not about the sugar or giving yourself a hard time, it is about noticing the effect the sugar had on the body and the choices that were made prior to having the sugar. Great blog offering an opportunity to dig much deeper into how we have been living.

370. Beautifully presented Vanessa! Since connecting to The Way of The Livingness my life has changed so much including my understanding of why we are here as Humanity, the fact of the equality of all and the Brotherhood we all aspire to. Like many I have come home.

371. Focusing on being present for one thing every day may seem a relatively insignificant thing, but it’s simplicity belies it’s power. Almost without realising this presence spreads into other moments throughout the day, bringing with it a steadiness that is magnificent to feel.

372. A very beautiful and well expressed example of The Livingness.

373. Vansessa, you write with such authority and with such joy, that all I could do was feel that and enjoy another human being’s divine expression of their divinity. Loved it, thank you.

     1. Authority is a great word to describe this writing. What Vanessa is expressing is clearly a lived experience rather than just the words. This is huge for humanity and what we all so crave. We are fed so much white noise, so much glamour and illusion and fluff – so when someone stands up like Vanessa has and speaks with this kind of authority (and humility and transparency) it offers an enormously powerful healing and opportunity for evolution for anyone who reads her wise words. Expressing like this, we are world teachers and can inspire all of humanity back to their truth. I have immense admiration and appreciation of Vanessa for this blog.

374. I have found the greatest way to learn when I make choices that are not supportive for my body is to observe, seek understanding as to why and what lead me to that point. Beating myself up doesn’t open up the opportunity to explore and learn instead it creates self-loathing and feeling of not good enough.

375. “You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.” – This is so true, but what we have learned to do is to cover it up and layer it under many things and then we pretend to not know!

     1. And to expand on that Henrietta, as we are returning to who we naturally are we, in fact, do already know where we are returning to, but as you say we are conveniently trying to cover this and pretend to not know. Sounds like a lot of effort and not that simple.

     2. Yes, we are masters of cover up a day it suits our agenda to make our pictures fit.

376. Vanessa – thank you – it is so beautiful for us to stop and take stock and appreciate how far we have come and the beauty that we have connected to in life.

377. Interesting how we can be feeling amazing and supporting ourselves with our food choices and then very quickly change to eating things like sugar, which means that we drop away from that feeling of connection, strength and just feeling very solid. But we have dropped before we make that choice, otherwise we would not. I know now that these substances are not the harmless substances that I used to think they were – in moderation anyway.

378. Beautiful what you share are about The Way of The Livingness, its simple and practical, just taking each step at a time, no perfection, living from the love and connection.

379. The Way of The Livingness is my way, it has supported me so much and my life is the most vital and joyful it has ever been. I work now more than ever, but I love everything I do. My days are full of purpose and my interactions with people alive. My health is great, I look and feel great. My relationships are deepening and I am more loving with people than I have ever been. This way works for me, the evidence is right here in my body.

380. Loved it Vanessa, you have beautifully taken the complication out of how to walk with love, making it accessible for all to choose. When all thoughts are towards evolution, all movements follow the same route. There is no perfection, only a commitment to walking the truth of who we all are.

381. From an experience yesterday when I let the worrying thoughts run the show, the anxiousness came straight into my body and it felt really awful as it tried to control. After a couple of hours observing how I was feeling I realised I’d forgotten to choose that no matter what I am divine, a son of god, and no information from outside of this truth can lessen how wonderful I truly am and feel unless I allow it. Connection to divinity rocks, and once felt, I don’t want to un-feel it any more.

382. A very light article on The Way of The Livingness, easily described and lived after all, “You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.” Where to from here do I judge or way up whether this is true or do I sit back and let what has been said sink in a little bit. This is one person’s view of how life is for them now and how it can be for others, in fact all of us. If you are caught by life then it’s possible you won’t see what is said, if you are asking questions of life then it’s possible you will see part, if you have seen what life is then the article will confirm all you know and then where to next? Where ever you feel to step, knowing that the more you step with yourself the more of the world you open up.

383. Beautiful Vanessa – The Way of The Livingness is simply learning to live who we truly are and never is it about perfection.

384. I totally agree with you Vanessa when you say
     “Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.”
     To feel the divinity in our bodies there is no room for anger, depression, lack of self worth not good enough all of that melts away and we are left in the purity we always were.

385. I love how you write, Vanessa, with such honesty, simplicity and a real sense of having lived something, constantly learning (sometimes the hard way!) along the way.

386. Such a great blog that you can stand up and say how much you love life and how different life is for you since your very first Universal Medicine healing course. There are not many people who can genuinely say they love their job; we only have to read the reports that come out absenteeism in the workplace. So we could say that you are bucking the trend on how to truly live a full life.

387. Why building conscious presence? – because we love to feel the love that we are – and miss it when we don’t feel it. We’re guided by our Soul to re-turn to live who we truly are, and all along let go of everything that we’re not. Inspiring sharing Vanessa. Thank you. I love the appreciation of yourself in the process.

388. Oh how I love this Vanessa, I am with you 100%. Once you feel something you cannot unfeel it. The expansiveness that comes from a connection with your breath, with the stillness that is always waiting below the anxiousness is something worth dedicating ourselves to reconnecting with. It is the most wonderful internal marker as well. When I am not in connection with that stillness I feel a tension – no question – and not wanting to feel that tension usually leads me to a coping mechnism such as food. As you say – no perfection but knowing our connection to stillness and that expansiveness is there, waiting patiently, is a great incentive to be dedicated to finding a way of living that puts that connection as a no.1 priority.

389. Love this: “You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.” It is true, and it is why we feel there is something not quite right most of the time in our lives because we know there is another way. No amount of sweets, distractions or evidence based research can change the fact that we know what life is truly about.

390. Hear hear ‘Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.’
     Divinity lived from our connection is everything when felt and supports every facet of our lives and being to be in it fullness in day to day life, for us and for the all.

391. A super blog Vanessa. Thank you for writing this. One line that really popped out to me is, ‘You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple’. Beautiful and oh so very true. This line resonates the truth of why when we reconnect with our deep love, our essence that 1) it is so easy and 2) it is so powerful and tangible – then becoming something that feels so strong always pulling us for more of that true love in our lives.

392. I agree, nothing compares to living with a connection to your divinity. Not TV, not sugar, not caffeine, not alcohol, not sex, not shopping, and not money. For many people living with divinity will be a concept, and what I love about Universal Medicine is through some simple changes including connection to the body with the Gentle Breath Meditation divinity becomes a known experience rather than a concept.

393. I love the love you treat yourself with. From how you look to why did I eat the sugar and what is there to learn from. Nothing is ever a condemnation of oneself but an opportunity to return to love and be the love that we are. The harm of being harsh on ourselves is more acidic than what we inflict on ourselves and can create a vicious cycle. But with one instant choice we, I can come back to love.

394. When we build up our loving choices into a way of life it makes giving ourselves a hard time or focusing on the issues in life much less tempting in the short term buzz it gives. I also feel that I am worth far more than taking up my life with focusing on what are small issues or simply lessons to learn from.

395. It is easy to go through life thinking there is nothing more, because you have ticked the boxes of a ‘good’ life. Then there is the realisation that the world is far from okay, often followed by withdrawing from society and seeking out spiritual ways of finding a different reality. I fluctuated between these two most of my life, until Universal Medicine and The Way of The Livingness.

     What a gift to find that it is all so simple, knowing there is so much more and I am an integral part of this ‘more’. Also understanding that there is no need to withdraw from life and hope of something, and instead being supported to find practical day-to-day ways of building and deepening the amazingness is a gorgeous gift.

396. I always take it as a good sign if I feel racy after a sugar because it indicates to me that I have been taking care of myself up until the sugar. What gets me down is when I I eat some sugar and I feel “fine”. Its not that my body likes the sugar or that it is okay to eat it but more because the raciness that I have already been running for so long as become the normal to my system, the sugar does not stand out, simply jumps in the pot with the rest of the anxiousness is cooking in .Your down to earth style is really beautiful to read, it says to the world, just say it how it is, no need for fluffing about! Love it.

397. I love the simplicity in that you write, and in this simplicity lays the all. There is so much to be aware of when we allow ourselves to simply be.

398. “Nothing compares to you in your connection to Divinity. NOTHING.” I love this Vanessa, absolutely agree, it’s having the consistency to hold this connection to our Divinity. I too have felt the amazingness you speak about in this blog and I can relate to your sugar oops, just observing your choice is a beautiful testament to The Way of the Livingness.

399. It would be easy to say “so what, you ate sugar?” an amazing sharin Vanessa. A,aazing how you can share you live 90% of the time feeling wonderful, steady, consistent – which would not be easy for a lot of people to say, and the thing is when we live with so much attunement to ourselves and enjoying the lightness this brings, then even one hit of sugar is felt as a massive missile.

400. There is so much to learn through observing our behaviours, what we do and why we do it. The more we understand about ourselves naturally the more understanding we are towards others (and visa versa).

401. Feeling what food does to my body goes back a long way with sugar, gluten and dairy being noticed for how they all in their various ways effected me. Body intelligence, was only shared recently by Serge Benhayon, and this has made perfect sense seeing it was me listening to my body and what those food groups were doing to me was simple to detect.

402. I love your approach to being responsible for your choices and bringing it back to evolution here – as in not bashing yourself for something that you’ve done but being willing to connect with what you were avoiding and moving on from there, no perfection sought just a commitment to keep coming back to being truly honest with yourself and acting on that.

     1. I agree Fiona, the willingness, dedication and lack of perfection that Vanessa speaks of makes life feel so much lighter and more purposeful.

403. The Way as you have described is very, very practical and actually a lot of fun. One of the aspects I love is the understanding that everything matters and thus a huge business deal is no more or less important than the laundry – it is bringing myself to everything and living one life – love it!

404. The Way of The Livingness has totally transformed every aspect of my life. The two biggest things for me were discovering there is a Way to live (and it really works and makes sense of EVERYTHING) and then connecting to Purpose and how that Way is for and available to all equally and about the all – thus it is a Universal Way.

     1. A very good point, Nicola – none of us are unique in being able to connect to this way of living/loving, it is available to all at any time of the day. And thus, it is never too late to start.

405. Yep. The Way of The Livingness is a living Way that supports me in every aspect of my life. Nothing is left untouched because nothing is less than the other. Love, joy and harmony are the pillars, the key reference points of this Way and of my own life now. And the more responsibility I choose to take, the more love, the more magic is that encompasses my whole life.

406. If it hadn’t been for Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon, I wouldn’t have discovered the truth of who I am and I wouldn’t love my life the way that I do. It’s that simple and my gratitude for, and appreciation of Serge Benhayon, is that gigantic. Like you Vanessa, my life was “going fine” so why change? Because he showed me and supported me in feeling something that changed the game entirely. After that, there was no going back…except for a little bit of sugar!!

407. This is a very special and transparent piece of writing. The other day I was walking with one of my dearest friends. I was right in the middle of an incredibly intense and challenging time in my life and the question came up between us “Do we love our lives”. The immediate response that my mind came to was ‘no’ – and that answer would have been fully justified considering what was going on. But that thought disappeared almost immediately as I felt the question. I was initially amazed to feel that the answer was in fact ‘yes’ and then, when considered more deeply, not at all surprised. Because, like every word in this blog, there is no other way that I would want to be living, no other way that I would want to be feeling and as you so beautifully express; you can’t unknown what you know…and I know. And I love my life for that. I love me for that and I love everything around me that supports that. It is not always easy and I often find it challenging; but I can say with all of who I am that no matter what is happening, I love my life.

408. The Way of The Livingness is a living way that is different for each and every body, whilst at the same time having key components that are common to all. When lived, it will eventually deliver us all back to the place that we all know as Home.

409. Vanessa what I loved about your open sharing is that I really got to feel you through it. There is an ease and a simplicity to what you have shared that enables others to feel that true transformation is not only possible but also totally achievable by following the steps that you have laid out so clearly for others to follow.

410. The absoluteness of how you live and see life Vanessa is clearly felt. It is a simplicity that most avoid but yet seek at the same time because underneath it all we know that the craziness of human life as it currently is for many is not true and in the end not sustainable

411. A powerful blog because you come from a place of true knowing. Beating ourselves up over our choices never works nor does regret how we truly move forward is as you have shared to deeply love ourselves to the core and make a new choice from this space .. something I am still continually learning. Yesterday I had a very busy day that was non stop and today I have woken up feeling like I have a hangover .. I realise this is from the doing, pushing and not being connected with me. When we make it about what we have to do, got to do, needs doing, pushing, drive this is very harming not only for ourselves but for others as well.

412. Like you Vanessa, and many hundreds of others, The Way of The Livingness is the way I live, and it is a way unlike any I found on my very long search to figure out who I am. This Way makes sense, it has no doctrines, it has no do’s and don’ts and there is nothing to physically sign up to; it is simply a way of living in connection with yourself and with others with the knowing that your life is your responsibility in every single moment.

413. I have attended Universal Healing Courses too Vanessa and felt the same way, that when my hands are on clients, they let go, their body surrenders and their breathing changes. When they sit up from the session their whole demeanour is different. I have felt this in my sessions too, my body lets go of all the tension I have been holding and I feel a tenderness in my body.

414. This is amazing Vanessa, and even this sentence alone, ‘I love my work – like really love it’ totally breaks through what’s currently ‘normal’ and must be super inspiring for everyone you work with every day.

415. What an amazing blog Vanessa, and it brings up a big question. What does The Way of The Livingness mean to me? I could make it all up and say things like “it’s so difficult”, “I can’t do it”, etc. etc. but in truth, and deep down, I know that it’s just a beautiful path to getting to know myself, the real, real me.

416. ‘You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple.’ Such a good point, when you know something you know it and that’s that.

417. Wow Vanessa, this was very inspiring to read. And the fact that you live most of your days feeling great and love your home, relationships and your job – well you don’t hear many people talk like that. I love the simple way you have talked about why and how you have made the changes that have resulted in you having a life you love.

418. Vanessa, I felt a series of joyful yes moments as I read your blog as I recognise all of what you share. There is nothing greater than living from that love and connection that is precious beyond words.

419. The Way of The Livingness gives me the practical tools to connect to the fact that I am divine and the choice to live with that knowing every day. When I choose something that does not support me I no longer have to go into beating myself up but, as you say, can just clock it and make a different choice in the next moment.

420. With The Way of The Livingness our painful choices are opportunities to learn and evolve from. B y perceiving them in that way they become just part of life, just something to be dealt with without emotional drama. A greater ease comes to life as it becomes less stressful, more fun.

421. I can also attest to the changes, The Way of The Livingness has done for many others and me. I no longer wander in my self-made darkness for the light in me exposes what I have refused to see and feel in the past.

422. Choosing to be loving with ourselves is a great place to get to in life. So many of us it seems have learned to be self-deprecating – if not self-abusive – but in truth this just perpetuates the energy of feeling that we are lesser than the amazing beings that we are. One of the ways I have learned/am learning to master this is to choose to appreciate all that I am, the truth of my being – and with that the truth of our beingness, because at heart we are all the same. As Vanessa shares here, ‘I know I am Divine’ – and I equally know, we are all Divine.

     1. Great point, Richard. Self appreciation is an incredibly powerful tool and an antidote to so many things that can circle in the mind. It also offers us a step towards self love and ultimately what Vanessa talks about in her article.

423. It starts with self-love.

424. “I feel an expansiveness in me that lets me feel the truth that we are all connected. Science says it, I feel it, and once I felt this at my very first course, I couldn’t go back to thinking otherwise.” So true and it is a deep inner knowing that is brought to our conscious awareness in every single course and presentation delivered by Universal Medicine and the more we connect, the more we naturally and joyfully express it in our normal everyday lives. Thank you Vanessa for confirming the simplicity of The Way of The Livingness and the immense love that we manifest as a consequence of these deeply empowering teachings.

425. Awesome and simple – The Way of The Livingness as everyone’s birthright and way back to divinity, practical, simple and step by step.

426. Gorgeous blog Vanessa, “Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.” Absolutely but in this stupendous grandness that we feel we sometimes choose to dull these moments with sugar. I did this on Monday and I could feel the knock on affect this had for a few days not only in myself but how I was with everybody it is as if it dulled everything around me, everything was a bit more effort rather than the flow of the day…..this time I didn’t beat myself up but I could feel the affect it had and why would I want to dull something so beautiful, Still a learning but the more I feel my connection with Divinity the less I want my sugary reward….it is always a choice.

427. Vanessa, what a gem your blog is – the quality of the sweetness, connection, divinity, responsibility and love that you are, is felt in every word written here. Thank you for bringing attention to the truth stated here –
     “You can’t unknow what you already know. Simple”.

428. ‘The Way of The Livingness has helped me to find practical day-to-day things that support me to feel amazing’ Your examples, Vanessa brought a smile, very relatable. I’ve just mastered brushing my teeth consciously, but not taking a shower. I became aware recently of what happens when I step into shower – my mind races to the pace and pressure of the shower spray, not a good place to be. I’m learning to stay with me and not get lost in my head. Still a work in progress, but I’m on to it.

     1. I agree Kehinde – there is simplicity that Vanessa talks about which is available for us all, and it is about fine-tuning it…how am I currently typing this comment, how am I sitting here, how do I shower, brush my teeth etc etc. Life is but a large playground if we make it such, and perhaps our purpose is to remind everyone else that they too can do like wise – bring that sense of deep knowing that we all hold within to come out and express in all that we do through the day.

     2. Love these examples, it’s so important to look back and appreciate the loving changes we’ve made and continue to make.

429. Beautiful Vanessa, I love what you’ve shared here.

430. Vanessa, this is beautiful, ‘Nothing compares to you in your connection with Divinity. NOTHING.’I agree. After a couple of days feeling wobbly and a little emotional, yesterday I chose to be present with myself. I felt my feet as I was walking and enjoyed the movement of my body, this felt really simple and divine and was great being out of my head and all of the complication that comes with this. I felt that this choice – to choose presence and feeling my loveliness meant everything, my connections with others felt beautiful and I enjoyed myself and my day and all of the things I had been worrying about previously seemed insignificant compared to how gorgeous I was feeling.

431. The Way of The Livingness is teaching me that I have a choice to be aware of all that I feel and when I feel who I truly am it is Divine.

432. We can even choose something like sugar to try and not feel how amazing we are, a form of self-sabotage, how crazy is that.

433. I too am learning to master what it means to be present with my body. There are some moments in my day when I am totally focused on what I am doing connected to my body but what I realise and appreciate from reading Vanessa’s blog is that I have not claimed these moments and truly appreciated me making the choice to be with me regardless how small I may think it is. Recently I have also become more aware of those moments when I am not present but in my head on a tangent which has got me to stop and lovingly ask myself ‘is it really worth disconnecting from my body to chit-chat about something that is so meaningless?’

434. There’s a quality to your writing Vanessa that confirms your inner space and connectedness to the divine. It is light, unequivocal, joyous, loving. Pure gold.

     1. Indeed Kehinde, Vanessa’s ability to express the divine with an everyday normality is what makes the Livingness so simple and true.

435. “You can’t unknow what you already know”: This is so true and I have felt the same since my first experience with The Way of The Livingness and you can’t deny the truth when it is felt so strongly to be true.

     1. Yeah I love this too – the more you work on yourself and the greater awareness you have, the more you know. So there is a responsibility that we’re taking in knowing more. That can be tough and/or exposing for some, but that’s what it’s all about.

436. Vanessa a great blog thank you for sharing, I love the fact of just how much your life has changed, how thanks to your choices and inspiration from through The Way of The Livingness it’s now the little things that really get in the way but in the scheme of things your life has transformed.

437. I love how you describe your sugar mishap – but key is the not blaming or giving yourself a hard time. If we bash ourselves for mistakes we just compound the error. Learning from our failures and mishaps supports us to make fewer mistakes in the future – ‘acknowledge what happened and move on to the next moment,’ as you say Vanessa. No perfection required.

438. So true, we learn every step of the way even the steps we think are wrong.

     1. An openness to learn is a way support us to evolve.

     2. True Matts, sometimes the biggest lessons we learn are the smallest things that attempt to trip us up!

     3. Absolutely. There is no ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ outside of the self-imposed consciousness we have subscribed to – only a love that is lived or is not.

     4. We are educated in a way that marks is down for being wrong – and so much comes on the back of that. But you’re right, ‘wrong’ is just a learning that equally can help us to learn and evolve.

439. Staying present with what we are doing takes commitment, practice and consistency – but is so worth it. It opens up space and time expands – amazing!

440. It all starts with accepting the beauty we feel when connecting with divine qualities that are innate in us all. Once we accept what we feel and are able to appreciate its immensity in full, there is no turn back. We have then connected to The Way to walk in life that confirms and deepens this connection and makes it our everything. The Way of The Livingness then becomes a movement carried by a body that over time learns to be increasingly obedient to those divine qualities.

441. I love how you make it so clear Vanessa that The Way of The Livingness is not about perfection at all. In fact there is nowhere for us to get to, just lessons to read, understand and evolve from. This way of looking at the world tends to remove all the seriousness and drama I find. That in itself is to me, an incredible thing. The Way of The Livingness? Yes please, count me in.

442. It is really very simple, life is for us to feel it all. To feel and allow that feeling to sink in with every single big or small choice that we make, and to make choices based on how we feel, repeat the cycle until we truly get it.

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